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| 225.1 | How About It Dude? | EXIT26::SAARINEN | | Thu Apr 21 1988 12:22 | 8 |
| Well since she is going to be here for only one more week....
Just have her go up to the guy and tell him that, "I am only going
to here only one more week and I didn't want to miss out on a
great opportunity to meet you and possibly go out to lunch?"
So I gave it a try in asking you, How about it Dude? :-)
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| 225.2 | GO FOR IT....... | FSTVAX::PLAMONDON | | Thu Apr 21 1988 13:35 | 5 |
| If she doesn't get the nerve to ask him she will never know,
it may be the man of her dreams...
As sociaty has been telling us " These are the 80's ".
GO FOR IT.
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| 225.3 | See note 180 | QUARK::LIONEL | We all live in a yellow subroutine | Thu Apr 21 1988 13:52 | 4 |
| The discussion in note 180 in this conference may be of interest.
I am not sure why the base note was deleted, undoubtedly by the
author.
Steve
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| 225.4 | ME!? make sense? NAWHHH | SALEM::AMARTIN | Jam City Production JAMS!! | Thu Apr 21 1988 23:58 | 7 |
| You will never know rejection unless you get rejected. Hey, if
he says no, his loss. Give it a shot. Some people *never* feel
rejection, (announcer voice) YES, you toooo may be one of the fewww!
A little "tongue -n- cheek but you get the message.
GO FOR IT!
Babbling again, al
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| 225.5 | Update | EXIT26::SAARINEN | | Fri Apr 22 1988 10:40 | 8 |
| RE:--> Note 225
Are we going to get an update as to whether your friend actually
got up the courage and asked this guy out or not?
-"Curious Arthur"
...and they lived Happily ever after. ;-)
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| 225.6 | find a friend | MSDOA2::CUNNINGHAM | | Fri Apr 22 1988 11:52 | 14 |
| I don't know if this is still relevant, but for some practicle
advise, I would have a mutual friend (if your both working in the
same place) feel him out and introduce you two to actually talking
to each other. A shared cup of coffee can give the spark a chance,
and if it doesn't break into a fire he may be holding out for an
unknown reason (such as a girlfriend somewhere) and it probably
won't happen.
I don't think the fact that you only have a week left should
deter you at all. Many people don't even want to date someone who
works in the same office, though this is often the best place to
meet someone. You find your in the perfect situation.
DRC
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| 225.8 | I could ...But I won't | SALEM::AMARTIN | Jam City Production JAMS!! | Tue Apr 26 1988 02:20 | 3 |
| Sorry mike. I DO know who Sheryl is but there is a small detail
that you have seemed to miss. I work third and I am married. (VERY
happily I might add) I thought it was for another person?
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| 225.9 | Update, please... | FSLENG::HEFFERN | | Tue Apr 26 1988 06:31 | 4 |
| So, has anything happened yet?
cj
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| 225.10 | IT'S ME | SALEM::HANLON | | Tue Apr 26 1988 13:35 | 17 |
| Hi! I am that certain individual. My contract here has been
extended for 3 months which (thank God) allows me a little slack
time. I appreciate everybodies input. It has all helped, but as
of this time, nothing has happened. I have met someone who will,
hopefully, be able to help the situation along. Although, I must
admit, I am growing impatient waiting for something to happen.
I would like to be able to make things happen in a more direct manner,
rather than going through a third person, but I do not have the
nerve, even though I agree with everything everyone has said. This
is the 80's, but "just the thought" of asking him out directly is
enough to give me an ulcer. I am not used to doing the persuing.
But....(and this is a big BUT) if something doesn't happen soon,
I just may do it.
I will keep you all updated.
Thanks for everything!
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| 225.12 | Do It! | EXIT26::SAARINEN | | Wed Apr 27 1988 16:53 | 28 |
| I remember after getting divorced after 13 years of marriage
to my "High School Sweet Heart" and not being in the dating game
for more than a decade, what it was like to get the *Nerve UP*
and ask this really nice women out on a date that I had met at work.
I fussed and squirmed and debated, and actually looked in the mirror
rehersing all these suave opening lines that I wanted to use to
ask this special women out on this date. It had been a L O N G time.
Well, I sweated bullets for about 2 weeks, and then one day, I got
the Nerve Up, 13 years of being out of the dating game, o.k. here
goes, I am going to ask, yeah, I am, I am going ask her..........
I DID! I asked her out and she, she she said she was busy that
weekend..............................( I Died)
So the following week I asked her out again and I am in a very happy
relationship that has lasted now over 2 years.
ASK Him out!
Don't Wait!
Not trying to be Pushy, Just Enthused over your prospects!
-Arthur
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| 225.13 | well?...ahhhh...you know how it is , mike. | SALEM::AMARTIN | Jam City Production JAMS!! | Wed Apr 27 1988 23:37 | 1 |
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| 225.14 | A little subterfuge here, I think! | LAMHRA::WHORLOW | I Came,I Saw,I concurred | Thu Apr 28 1988 03:28 | 10 |
| G'day,
Why not take out a couple of provisional bookings to a concert/ball
game/whatever.. Tell him "hey I've go these tickets to.... given
to me by a friend how'd you like to go with me..." If he says no
then cancel the tickets - if yes then buy' em. He need never know!
You have to scheme a little you know :-)
Derek
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| 225.15 | More subterfuge! | LAMHRA::WHORLOW | I Came,I Saw,I concurred | Thu Apr 28 1988 03:31 | 14 |
| G'day again..
Jus' a thought as I pressedthe enter note..\
Why not arrange to show him the base note and get his opinion. If
he says 'go for it' you're in, If he says 'Don't agree' ask him
if he'd like to discuss it over a sandwich in the park at lunch...
If he say's 'like that but I'm married' then you can back off and
no harms done!
Derek
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| 225.16 | I did it! | SALEM::HANLON | | Tue May 03 1988 16:36 | 6 |
| Hi. Well, I just wanted to thank everyone for your advice. After
several conversations with this person. I finally asked him to
go out for a drink after work today. It wasn't so painful after
all.
Thanks a bunch!
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| 225.17 | | EXIT26::SAARINEN | | Wed May 04 1988 13:16 | 9 |
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.....AMEN :-)
-Arthur
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| 225.18 | Inquiring minds want to know.... | AXEL::FOLEY | Rebel without a Clue | Thu May 05 1988 01:30 | 7 |
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Soooooo, don't go leaving us in suspenders! How'd it work out?
:-)
mike
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| 225.19 | THE RESULTS ARE IN...... | SALEM::HANLON | | Fri May 06 1988 15:30 | 2 |
| Do I read like the "kiss and tell" type! C'mon guys!
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| 225.20 | GOTCHA!!!! | SALEM::HANLON | | Fri May 06 1988 15:38 | 10 |
| Just kidding. I couldn't do that after all of the advice I've
recieved. It went very well. We went out for drinks at a local
pub and talked for two hours. I had the feeling that we could sit
there all night, but unfortunately I had previous plans. He is
a great conversationalist. I enjoyed myself immensely, and I'm
looking forward to spending more time getting to know one-another
better. He appears to be a kind, decent, compassionate person.
I'm glad I took the chance and asked him.
Thank you all again!
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