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| 1004.1 | | HPSTEK::XIA | In my beginning is my end. | Mon May 14 1990 13:14 | 9 |
| Re: 0
I see your point and I know the feeling. I suggest that you find
something you are interested in--Read a good book for example. When
in college, you were forced to do a lot of things that you may not
necessarily enjoy doing. Now it is time to start. You might even
want to take a course that you really wanted to when in college, but
couldn't then. By the way, where do you work? Fitchberg is kinda way
west in the never never land, am I right?
Eugene
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| 1004.2 | | CGVAX2::CONNELL | Trepanation, I need it like a hole in the head | Mon May 14 1990 13:36 | 11 |
| Read, take a long walk, get into exercise, start a hobby, join a social
organization, get into camping, fishing, or hiking. Take up a sport.
The list is endless. I spend 90% of my time outside of work in my room
reading and have never been bored. Somewhere else in this file I have
described myself as a "Permanent Reclusive Celebate". That's almost
true. Not quite 100% reclusive yet, about 95%. I still don't get bored.
GET OUT AND DO SOMETHING OR STAY IN AND DO SOMETHING. JUST DO
SOMETHING.
Phil
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| 1004.3 | | BSS::D_WOLBACH | | Mon May 14 1990 13:37 | 28 |
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Gee, can I fly my kid out to stay with you for a few weeks :-)...
What interests do you have that would be applicable to volunteer
work? Kids? Try Scouting, Big Brothers or Sisters. Animals? How
about your local Humane Society, wild animal rescue and rehab, Green-
peace or similar organization. Senior citizens? Is there a Silver
Key or similar project in your area?
How about recreation? Join a bowling league, your local Y, a health
club, shooting club, archery league, softball...does your local park
and rec offer classes or teams or leagues?
What do you do at home in your leisure time? Gardening, painting,
any type of art or craft interests? Bike riding, skating, any sort
of physical activity will benefit you mentally and physically.
Do you have a pet? Dogs can provide lots of opportunities-I enjoyed
showing my dog, and earning an obedience title. And we go for walks
or hikes when the weather is nice. Fish are a good hobby too...
Well, you get the idea...
Deb
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| 1004.4 | its the TOWN not YOU :-) | SHARE::ROBINSON | | Mon May 14 1990 14:12 | 12 |
| Hi,
This may not help.. but being from Fitchburg myself.. just this
week-end, my girlfriend and I went out "on the TOWN" :-), everyplace
was DEAD at 9:30 on a Saturday night... we couldn't beleive it. I mean
Fitchburg/Leominster are pretty big in size, and you would think that
they would offer MORE to life then what they do... we made the most of
it till 11:00, hit Wendy's and went home :-) and to think I couldn't
wait till I reached the legal drinking age :-). I had more fun in high
school then I do now that I'm 27 :-).
Kelly
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| 1004.5 | I could go on... | LYRIC::BOBBITT | we washed our hearts with laughter | Mon May 14 1990 14:43 | 20 |
| Boy, last time there was a lull in my life I just threw myself into
four or five new hobbies (some physical, some mental, some just plain
recreational). There are places to work out, dances to learn, games to
play (even roleplaying ones if you're into it, or bridge if you like
that, or pool, or bowling), books to read (you could join reading
groups who read and then discuss), poetry to write, music to listen to,
clubs to visit, community theatre to join, youngsters to help, shelters
to volunteer at, old people to spend time with, miniature railroads to
build, pinball games to play, pets to skritch behind the ears, plants
to transplant, charities to give time to, kites to fly, cars to learn
to repair, palms to read, streets to stroll down, patterns to sew,
candles to dip, recipes to try, socks to darn, people to hang out with
(are you in touch with any old college friends?), malls to cruise,
movies to see, photographs to take, shuffleboard to play, classical
music to sway to, jazz to bop to, Boston to visit, Newbury Street to
stroll, local museums to patronize ;), new languages to learn, the
Quabbin Reservoir to hike around, lilacs to sniff, sunsets to watch....
-Jody
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| 1004.6 | Couldn't help but laugh | HENRYY::HASLAM_BA | Creativity Unlimited | Mon May 14 1990 15:17 | 10 |
| Re: .4
That reminds me of a postcard I saw recently...
It was totally black with the words "Salt Lake City at night" across
the top.
We now return to the main topic...
Barb
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| 1004.7 | | MEMORY::FRECHETTE | Use your imagination... | Mon May 14 1990 16:25 | 10 |
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Every Spring I find myself in that situation. I'm an avid skier and
when the snow melts I get depressed. Sometimes I just don't want to
do anything. But I'm trying to get myself out of that. I'm going to
learn to sail and golf this year. I think it is important that you
pick something where there will be other people. Save reading, and
the other 'alone' things for the days you don't have an activity
planned.
/mjf
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| 1004.8 | | IAMOK::MITCHELL | It's all in the balancing, my dear | Mon May 14 1990 16:50 | 11 |
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re. 0
Go to Cogshall Park and feed the ducks.
:-)
kits
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| 1004.9 | Thank you! | ROLL::PERKINS | | Mon May 14 1990 17:54 | 5 |
| Thanks for all of the suggestions, but where can I actually go and find
things to do? I checked with a few volunteer agencies. They said
they'll get back to me. What about softball teams? Does anyone know of
any? Also where are these reading clubs, etc.. that were mentioned?
Thanks again for all your help. Being bored is really depressing!
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| 1004.10 | The local paper is a good bet | CADSYS::RICHARDSON | | Mon May 14 1990 18:02 | 13 |
| The best bet is to subscribe to a local newspaper. They are usually
full of organizations advertising their activities. You may find an
amateur theater group that needs people to help make sets, a square
dancing group, orienteering lessons, groups needing volunteers,
interesting lectures, etc. And most of them will be local, and cheap
or free. You might also call up the local high schools and colleges
and see if they offer evening courses you might be interested in - I'm
too busy to take any of their classes these days, but our local high
school offers everything from portrait photography to car repair.
If you're affiliated with a religious institution of any sort, there
are normally a long list of committees and work groups there that could
really use your assistance.
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| 1004.11 | | CGVAX2::CONNELL | Trepanation, I need it like a hole in the head | Mon May 14 1990 18:14 | 23 |
| I don't know of any reading clubs. I have heard of book discussion
groups where everyone reads the same book and they all discuss its
merits, symbolism, etc. Sometimes an author comes and speaks. They are
usually refered to(at leaset in my experience)as literary groups or
literary socieities. Your local library could probably tell about some
in your area. You might think about getting out of Fitchburg and
enjoying some activities in larger cities. Nashua, Lowell, and
especially Boston are extremely culturally rich areas with no end to
what you can do. Perhaps if you let us know your interests, we could
help.
Also, you might look into the EASYNOTES listings. There is an
Employee's Interest section that can give you ideas on hobbies. Your
fellow employees often take part in these files and often lively
discussions take place around the varied topics. To read just type VTX
Easynotes at the $ prompt and follow the instructions from there. It's
updated pretty much weekly.
Hey it's almost Summer. Think about going to the beach, and getting
that tan while you read a book. Just loaf in the sun and invite your
soul.
Phil
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| 1004.12 | other places to look | WMOIS::B_REINKE | treasures....most of them dreams | Mon May 14 1990 22:42 | 4 |
| try the local library and the bulletin boards at your local
supermarket.
bj
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| 1004.13 | easy as another day | COMET::POSHUSTA | Solar Cat | Mon May 14 1990 23:36 | 16 |
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Reply/basenoter:
I'm asked somtimes, why I'm involved certian things. My response
is that, everyone NEEDS to contribute to the commitunity.
Activity in community well-being is putting another first;
while serving selfish reasons. It's a win-win solution to
being; benifit the community AND benifit yourself.
All I can say is; trust yourself, believe in your comminuity
and put forth the energy to make a differnce within yourself!!
Kelly
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| 1004.14 | busy work...... | HITPS::SIGEL | My dog ate my briefcase | Tue May 15 1990 09:41 | 11 |
| Do you have a hobby of some sort? Do you collect anything or like to do
artistic/or crafts? That type of busy work works wonders for the mind,
not to mention relieve stress. That is what I enjoy doing and beleive
me it does work. Also activties around town are worth looking into. I
am a community video producer in my town for their cable station and I
met so many people and had a lot of fun in the process creating my own
films.
Good Luck
Lynne
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| 1004.15 | This is NOT an All American City | SHARE::ROBINSON | | Tue May 15 1990 12:24 | 13 |
| re: .8
Even Cogshall Park is closed down this year! Looks like the ducks
have to go else where :-) We are talking FITCHBURG. This is a city
that doesn't plan their 4th of July celebration until June 20th (of the
same year)... in other words, this city doesn't offer much for anyone
alot of people in the city are just starting to take notice to that.
I think that with Cogshall Park being closed (due to lack of money),
that was like the first match being lit for alot of residence in Fitch.
Kelly
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| 1004.16 | | OBSESS::FALLO | | Tue May 15 1990 13:28 | 14 |
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re. -1
I may not be right- but I think that Coggshall may be
opening this year after all. I drove past there last night,
and the barriers were finally taken away from the gate. But
who knows if they'll keep it open. But I agree, there
definately isn't much to do in the Leominster/Fitchburg area!
Dina
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| 1004.17 | PAINT YOURSELF A NEW PICTURE | SKID::DROGER | | Tue May 15 1990 13:30 | 35 |
| All of the responses you've received are very good. But my suggestion
is a little different. You said in your first note that you just left
college and how busy you were when you were in college. We often
identify who we are based on what we are involved in. In your case you
were a student and therefore you put all of your energy and time into
'being' a student. Now you are no longer a student. Perhaps you are
having difficulty identifying who you are now. You suddenly find you
have all this spare time and are looking for ways to fill it. You could
receive thousands of suggestions on how to fill that time, ie; hobbies,
community volunteering, joining sports leagues, reading .. this list
could be endless. But unless you know who you are and what your true
interests are, you really won't know which activity to go after.
You once had a picture of you, the 'student'! Now it may be time to sit
down and redesign your picture of yourself. Its difficult to see
ourselves differently when the people/places/activities we were so used
to go away. Its like a person who loses are partner, through divorce,
death or whatever. You identify yourself being with that person and
when suddenly that person is no longer a part of your your life your
picture/idea of who you are can get confusing and uncertain. Now that
you are out of college (divorced from college so to speak) you are
confused as to who you are now that your former picture/identity is
gone. It may take some soul searching to figure out who you are now.
You have to accept the fact that you are no longer a student and get
ready to paint a new, wonderful picture of yourself. In that
picture are many colors and sceneries. Once you paint your new picture
you'll be ready to tackle something new and interesting and will
suddenly have all this energy to do go after them. You may start
wondering where all your spare time went and fondly remember how you
are feeling today.
Enjoy rediscovering yourself....you'll love who you find!
Donna
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| 1004.18 | Send mail..... | JAIMES::BARRL | Like a bird without a song | Tue May 15 1990 13:48 | 5 |
| You said that you're interested in softball. Send me mail and I'll
tell you how to get in touch with one of the umpires. He may be able
to help you.
Lori B. (SOCIAL::BARRL)
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| 1004.19 | | IAMOK::MITCHELL | It's all in the balancing, my dear | Tue May 15 1990 13:52 | 7 |
|
Cogshall Park is open.
kits
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| 1004.20 | Little League, etc. | AKOFIN::SHAW | Over 70,000 served each week | Tue May 15 1990 13:59 | 12 |
| If you're interested in baseball or softball you should be able to find
something to do. I am very involved in Little League in neighboring
Ashby. It is difficult to find umpires for the baseball and softball
games. I would think that the same is true in Fitchburg. Call the local
Little League and ask how you can help. The same is true for local
youth soccer organizations in the area. It is very difficult to find
coaches. Even if you aren't interested in coaching or umpiring, maybe
you could help with administration and/or field maintenance. Local
groups always need help, there is no reason why you need to be bored.
Rick
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| 1004.21 | FUN in Leon/Fitch | ROYALT::CORLISS | | Tue May 15 1990 14:26 | 45 |
| Yes, Coggshall is open. I have lived in Leominster all my life
(except for 4 years at UMass in Amherst) and NEVER run out of
things to do. I don't know what your interests are but if you get
the Sentinel/Enterprise (Leom/Fitch paper) there are PLENTY of
events listed. I think it's the Friday edition that has a two-page
spread each week. Have you ever been to Slattery's on a Friday night
or on a sporting event night????? The place is packed and there's
plenty of opportunity to meet people. Also there's a new place called
Club Boston that has bands each weekend as well as the Wine Cellar
in downtown Fitch. where you can sit outside and sip cocktails! In
Leominster there's Chappy's downtown and that place has a restaurant
with a socializing kind of bar upstairs and then a HUGE bar downstairs
with a big-screen TV and 5 small TV's for sporting event nights, plus a
CD juke box and sometimes DJ's on the weekend. Not to mention dining
out at any one of the many restaurants in the area...Marrone's,
Monty's, Michaels, Cornerstones, El Camino, Antonio's, the Weathervane,
etc......
If you're not into the bar scene, you can always go to Whalom Park for
the rides or just walk around and look at all the weirdos or you can
play arcade games or miniature-golf. There's the Tri-town drive-in
right in the Whalom District where you can see relatively recent movies
for much less than Loew's at Searstown.
Mt. Wachusett is just up the road and has all kinds of things happening
in the summer such as festivals and fairs with live music and there's
a minimal entrance fee, if any. Not to mention the sky-ride which is
pretty fun and you'd be amazed at the view. You can also drive or bike
to the top and enjoy the sights. If you bike there are plenty of
beautiful rides, like into Princeton or Sterling or Lunenburg. A great
work-out with great scenery.
This is the time of year for church fairs/bazarre's and those are
pretty fun. No cost to enter and usually tons of ethnic foods, games,
gambling, etc. These are always advertised in the paper.
You can go swimming at Shady Point at Lake Shirley, the Leominster or
Fitchburg State pools, or Willard Brook.
You could join Orchard Hills and take advantage of their extensive
facilities, or a either the Leominster or Fitchburg YMCA's or Gold' Gym
or the Iron Body Gym or the Fitchburg Weightlifting Club or Bodyworks.
I don't think there's a lack of excitement in the area...to me
is sounds like you just need to get yourself out and do stuff!
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| 1004.22 | Leaving college is a kind of rite of passage | BEING::DUNNE | | Tue May 15 1990 14:29 | 15 |
| All the replies make a lot of sense. I would just add that getting out
of college is a rite of passage, and what you are experiencing is for
me the norm for your age group. I think the reply about having to
redefine yourself is on target. I was lost when I got out of college
and it took me a long time to create the right kind of world for
myself. In college everything I needed was all there: intellectual
stimulation, rich culture, and lots of people my own age. After
college I had to find those things for myself. But they're all
there, it's just that they don't come to you they way they do in
college.
So hang in there. I was dreading life after college, but I think
now that post-college life is actually better.
Eileen
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| 1004.23 | start being bored with some punk friends. | MILKWY::JLUDGATE | Die Rainbow Die | Tue May 15 1990 20:05 | 27 |
| do you like fantasy? i'm sure there is a bunch of people that
get together for role playing games in your area...one easy way
to find out is to get onto ERIS::FRP. funny how a group agrees
to stop at 10:00, and at the next reality break it is 1:30am.
how about some nightclubbing? i don't know about leominster/fitchburg,
but in wooster there are several clubs that have live bands that you
could go to with friends and stuff. and if you don't have any friends
that would frequent such places, drop me a line and i will go with you.
(oh, sorry, this is H_R, not FRIENDS, i take that back....)
;^) ;^) ;^)
you just got out of school, but were there any courses that you think
you might have been interested in but just didn't have the time? you
could check out local schools and maybe learn about painting or some
hobby like that. or (heaven forbid) learn something practical like
how to fix your car (not me, though. totally helpless.)
hmmm....but most classes are not friday night, are they?
if i am not doing much else, i usually read a book. of course, i have
only finished one book in the past three months, so that shows how
much reading time i usually have. unless you count comic books. then
i have been reading tons and tons.
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| 1004.24 | | MSD36::RON | | Tue May 15 1990 21:35 | 23 |
|
Maybe a little digression will prove useful here. I am reminded of a
story (whose name I forget) by Theodore Herzl (the same guy who
wrote 'State of the Jews', that foretold Israel).
In the story, a young man comes to a physician for advice. The
young man has it all. He is very rich, very healthy, very handsome.
He is talented in all sorts of ways: extremely well educated ,very
accomplished in many arts and sports (but he lost his team a hockey
game after a ball got lodged in his jaws as he was yawning during a
game). In short, the young man has everything his heart could
conceivably desire.
He has one problem, though. He is bored with his life.
The physician has the young man sign a letter of consent. He then
takes him into surgery and amputates one of his legs.
To make a long story short, this surgical procedure solves the young
man's problem.
-- Ron
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| 1004.25 | Explore -- Don't be Bored! | GRANPA::TTAYLOR | I do not want what I haven't got | Wed May 16 1990 10:42 | 48 |
| I was born and raised in Lancaster, MA. So I can relate to the issue
that "there's nothing to do in Fitchburg/Leominster". Except there's
really a *lot* t do, you just have to figure out what interests you.
First, my friends and I used to go to the Hubbardston Flea Market on
Saturdays/Sundays. It was a lot of fun, you got good bargains, and
took up most of the day.
Mt. Wachusett isn't too far away. A drive up to the mountain is not
only beautiful, but hiking around there is good for you, too!
Rt. 2 is right there! Take it either way, North brings you on a
"mystery trip" to New Hampshire. Explore. South brings you to Boston,
Lexington, Concord, and all these great little towns along the way that
you can explore. Take a "road trip" into Boston. Stop at Bolton
Orchards, or the Fruitlands in Bolton, Walden Pond in Concord
(gorgeous).
OK, those are good day trips. But why limit yourself to the
"nightlife" in your area? I used to party in Boston all the time.
Just make sure there is a designated driver at all times. There's
millions of clubs and people to meet. Also, did you ever think about
going bowling at night? It's lots of fun! And there's a place in
Acton, called "Bobby's Ranch", where you can rent horses for the
weekend and go horseback riding for a reasonable rate. What about a
roadtrip to Rye Beach or Hampston Beach.
Life is what you make of it. I'm from an even smaller town than you.
Alcoholism and drug abuse runs rampant in the small towns near where I
grew up. I noticed most of the "townies" limited their entertainment
to the bars in Clinton and surrounding areas, rather than exploring the
beautiful State and surrounding States. Broaden your horizons a bit.
If you get desperate, there's always something going on at the Centrum.
And Worcester is only 1/2 hour away. There's lots to see and do in
Worcester, as well. Like the art museum, or hanging out in Pippin's or
Pickwick's. Go dancing at "The Club" or what used to be "Metro",
there's also an oldies club on Main Street (I forget the name of it).
Then take Highland Ave to the Acapulco. It's an open-all-night Mexican
restaurant that you can BYOB. People watching there after the clubs
close is funny! Everyone's acting crazy. And the food is cheap and
*great*. I recommend the Mexican Pizza.
Anyway, get out a map and explore your surroundings!
Tammi (who's been away for 2 years so the club info. might be "dated")
GRANPA::TTAYLOR
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| 1004.26 | NIT alert! | MILKWY::BUSHEE | From the depths of shattered dreams! | Wed May 16 1990 11:30 | 7 |
|
RE: .25
Just a slight nit Tammi, Rt. 2 doesn't go North-South, it's
East-West. ;^)
G_B
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| 1004.27 | Go North, young man, Go North! | NRADM::PARENT | IT'S NOT PMS-THIS IS HOW I REALLY AM | Wed May 16 1990 12:29 | 7 |
| Re .26
Aha! But perhaps it was really intended as a diversion...by the time
the base noter was totally absorbed by trying to get to New Hampshire
on Route 2 North - s/he wouldn't be bored anymore!
ep
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| 1004.28 | BARBERSHOP STYLE | FSTVAX::BEAN | Attila the Hun was a LIBERAL! | Wed May 16 1990 13:09 | 12 |
| are you male? do you enjoy singing? then come to visit the Sounds of
Concord Barbershop Chorus on Thursdays, 8PM at Fenn School (on Monument
Blvd.) in Concord, MA.
We meet every Thurs. for about 2-1/2 hours and are very active in
performances and contests.
If you are female, and you enjoy singing, try the Sweet Adelines.
There is a group (I think) in Leominster.
tony
(member) S.P.E.B.S.Q.S.A.
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| 1004.29 | Well, it's worked for me. | SELECT::GALLUP | Headamorphisis... | Wed May 16 1990 13:47 | 23 |
|
I can't believe this hasn't been mentioned.
Note.
Spend some time noting in some of the "fun" files. It's amazing how
many fun people are in Digital..with all sorts of interests! Since
the large majority of them are from NewEngland, you'll find your
calendar full in no time.
I can't even begin to believe how many friends I've made thru Notes....
not to mention all the "outside" friends I've made thru those people.
A couple minutes a day in the files that interest you, and soon you
won't have time to read Notes at all.
:-)
kath
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| 1004.30 | Ok! | GRANPA::TTAYLOR | I do not want what I haven't got | Wed May 16 1990 15:32 | 7 |
| re: .26 & .27
Ok, ok! I realized that and was too lazy to edit it!
I've been gone for 2 years, whadda you expect!
Tammi (who now runs amock in Washington, DC and its' environs)
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| 1004.31 | | RAINBW::DROSSEL | | Mon May 21 1990 20:14 | 12 |
|
Bungie_Jumping........
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......?
Steve
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| 1004.32 | | WAHOO::LEVESQUE | Gateway to a new understanding | Tue May 22 1990 10:07 | 4 |
| Steve- how about...
Fly fishing... :-)
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| 1004.33 | | RAINBW::DROSSEL | | Tue May 22 1990 14:29 | 8 |
|
Definitely Doc..........
re: .0
You have to *GET MOVING*...no matter What you decide to do.
Action breeds action and fulfillment, whatever you do.
Steve
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| 1004.34 | | ARRODS::CARTER | Pyurdedbrilyant! | Fri Jun 01 1990 07:21 | 46 |
| I think I can really relate to this bored state. About 4 months ago now my
ex-fiance moved out, and although we hadn't been "going out" for about a year
I had constant companionship, always someone to go to the movies with or to
have a meal with...
All of a sudden I looked around and realised just how dependant on his presence
I had been especially at weekends...
When I started the bored, bored, bored routine people came up with loads of good
suggestions (as in this file) but the problem with boredom is it breeds... and
I know what your probably thinking about all these suggestions... sort of "yeh,
great, but...". I could always find a "but"...
Well, I took in some lodgers, for financial reasons, but also because I needed
company. All of my lodgers are in similar situations, two with recent broken
romanaces and one whos just moved to the area.
Andrea, one of them, is a member of several clubs, plays badminton two nights
a week and squash two other nights... she's never in... she admits sometimes
she thinks "whats the point", but the thing is if you don't do SOMETHING you
do nothing.
I went along to one of the clubs, the IVC - which is a social club for young
professionals, they publish a brochure every month and there are two/three
activities each day, ranging from walks, pub visits, parties, sports... anything
the member organise the activities.
Now sometimes I go and I think, God! What a bunch of wimps, but sometimes
there's a good crowd... and you have to take the good with the bad.
Andrea and I are now trying to get a "local" branch of IVC going, and we reckon
that as we are more outgoing than the current members we'll attract more of the
same.
Notes is a good place to meet people to...
But why not just advertise in the local press for people to form a social group
- there are probably far more people in the same situation than you'd imagine.
The key thing is to get up and do SOMETHING, even if you think it will be boring
- very soon you'll be crying out for spare time!
Xtine
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| 1004.35 | | BIGRED::GALE | Texas? yep, I'm here | Sun Jul 22 1990 22:42 | 16 |
| On another side of this topic...
I have recently moved to Texas, with an 11, 13 and almost 16 year old.
I am REALLY concerned about the girls.... they seem to not be adapting
at all... Its the middle of summer, and I am immersed in my job, so
I can't do much with them except for at night...
What can one do to make one very shy girl meet people - she goes to a
pool, with a group and a half of kids, and is so shy she doesn't meet
anyone...
I know with school, she'll meet loads, but that is a full 5 weeks
away... Even at church today, she sat in tears... I'm worried...
Gale
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| 1004.36 | Where is she now? | TOPDOC::DROWNS | this has been a recording | Mon Jul 23 1990 16:18 | 8 |
|
Just a gentle reminder that it's a Sunday - and you're logged on
to the notesfile. Maybe you could go to the pool with her and
coax her along to meet new people. You might even make some
new friends too!
Bonnie
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| 1004.37 | | QUARK::LIONEL | Free advice is worth every cent | Mon Jul 23 1990 17:44 | 14 |
| Re: .35
Gale, honestly, what else did you expect? This is the usual reaction of
children when yanked away from familiar surroundings, especially when they
are plopped into one in which they are instantly branded as "outsiders",
and you as parent are unavailable to them. Yes, maybe things will improve
over time, but you can't expect them to become instantly comfortable,
especially when the move was not under their control. The feeling of
helplessness is frightening and powerful.
I agree with Bonnie - take some time off work and spend it with your
daughters. It can only help.
Steve
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