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Conference moira::parenting_v3

Title:Parenting
Notice:READ 1.27 BEFORE WRITING
Moderator:CSC32::DUBOIS
Created:Wed May 30 1990
Last Modified:Tue May 27 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1364
Total number of notes:23848

895.0. "In-home summer sitter - any ideas?" by CGHUB::JANEB (See it happen => Make it happen) Mon May 13 1991 12:28

We just made arrangements for a teen sitter for our two kids (age 3 and 5), in
our house, for July and August and I'm very excited about it.  

Anyone out there have ideas or suggestions to help make this a good experience
all around?

I have experience with school-type daycare and their-home sitters and learned
alot along the way about how to make that work for us.  This one is new to me.

Here's the scoop: The sitter is 17, with her own car.  Sally (5) will be taking
swimming lesssons for some of the time at the town pool, within walking
distance.  I look forward to them attending plays, etc, that require limited
driving and I'm a carseat fanatic, so that will have to be arranged.  A 
neighbor across the street has kids in the same age range and will usually,
but not always, be around.

Here are some questions for those of you who have done this or have some ideas:

What can I do about emergency medical releases if the sitter is a minor?  My
neighbor has a release on hand, but what about when she's not around?  
Hopefully this will never be an issue, but I want to be ready with the right
things in place.

How have you handled "field trips"?  Do you know exactly where they are at all
times?  I expect that they will be outside most of the time and I'd like them
to be somewhat spontaneous, but I guess I want to know when they drive 
somewhere.

What part did you play in arranging activities?  I plan on collecting info 
about local things going on for kids and setting up our art/craft supplies 
in an easy to use and cleanup way.  Much of this will be worked out with our
sitter, but I'd like to hear what worked for you.

What did you learn along the way?  Were there any rules or guidelines that you
developed based on your experience - any things we should spell out up front?
What else should I be thinking of?

Thanks in advance for sharing your ideas.

Jane
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895.1Permission slip is necessaryNRADM::TRIPPLMon May 13 1991 12:5534
    Sorry I can't answer from a personal standpoint here.  From experience
    as far as your concern with "permission to treat" should a medical
    emergency occur.  Leave a note, say under a magnet on the fridge,
    saying I,(yourname) give (sitter's name) authority to act in my behalf
    in the case of a medical emergency.  I further give emergency personnel
    permission to treat my child(ren), (the children's names and ages
    should be listed), until I can be contacted.
    
    You should also put on this card  the name of another responsible
    adult relative in the area, say a grandparent, aunt etc.  with their
    phone number, in case you can't be reached immediately.  Also include
    any known medication allergies, medical conditions (asthma, ear tubes
    etc.) and the name and policy number for your health insurance.  You
    ought to include your pediatrician's name and phone number, and the
    name of the hospital he/she prefers their patients be admitted to.
    
    This format was given me by my son's godmother, when I watched her
    girls a couple summers ago.  She is a nurse and said that from her
    experience this is what the hospitals like to see come in with the
    kids.
    
    Oh yes, borrowing from her experience. She had a problem with wet
    bathing suits on her brand new couch, the girls and the sitter didn't
    think the wetness would penetrate through the towels.  She finally had
    to forbid wet suits in the livingroom.  Although she did rave about
    this teen, including "nature walks" and bike riding for the three of
    them.  When I watched her girls we used to go to a local beach that had
    swings, slides and such, and occationally we'd bring the "whatwith" to
    do a barbq for lunch.  (Hot dogs and such on a "disposable" grill),
    maybe not such a good idea for a teenager though with the grill,
    perhaps you could just pack a picnic in the morning for lunch at a
    park.
    
    Lyn
895.2In home Daycare has lots of plus's for meMATT::DAVISThu May 16 1991 13:3925
Hi, I agree with reply 1. That a permission slip for emergency use should 
available. I myself have a sitter come to my home 3 1/2 day a week- I work 
Part-time. I find it to be very convienent, as well comfortable for my child. 
I have gone through the daycare route previous to this and speaking from 
my own experience this works out best for my child as well for me.  Another
thing you may want to consider is a note with all important information, 
contacts, and Dr.ph#.  I have a 3yr old son and there arn't many young 
kids around in my area so I opted for hiring another *MOM* who has a child
of her own close in age- so that my son has a playmate.  I have to say this
works out very well and her little boy and my son play very well together and
look forward to seeing each other.  She arranges a lot of activities for them
They go to Swimming lessons on Monday-and Story Hour at the library on Tuesdays,  

They also go to the play ground and nature walks.  She alway's let's me know 
if she's planning on taking them somewhere during the day with the exception of the
planned swimming day and library day's.  She makes them Breakfast and Lunch
and picks up after them.  I find that I like to come home to home that was as
clean as I left it - Toys are picked up at the end of the day.:) even though
they don't stay that way for long.  I guess to it really depends on who's 
watching your child.....I myself trust my sitter to call me when she has any
question regarding my son and that gives me good peace of mind.


Good Luck,
Dianne
895.3College Person as Home SitterCECV03::PONDMon May 20 1991 10:0637
    I have a 20 year old (who is taking some time off from college) sitting
    my girls, ages 1 (Laura) and almost 4 (Elizabeth).  
    
    I have a variety of "house rules":
    	o In terms of tidiness, return the place to Ground Zero.  I don't
    	  expect her to clean our family mess, but any mess generated
          by daytime activities she and Elizabeth should address.  This
    	  seems to work well - Elizabeth learns that cleaning up is a
          necessary part of an activity and I don't find the house in
          shambles.
	o Short car trips are OK; highway trips I'd like to know about
          before time.  The sitter drives Elizabeth to pre-school two 
          days a week.  If it's a nice day they might go to lunch afterward
    	  or bring a picnic lunch to a local park.  These car trips are 
          fine.  If she'd like to take the girls into Boston or to the 
          Acton Children's Museum (a serious field trip), I'd like to
          know up front.  This has also worked well.
        o I have the local paper available for the sitter.  It has a 
          section on children's events.  Sometimes I suggest something
          particularly noteworthy, but it's really up to the sitter to make
          the decision.
    
    Before I hired Annie, I stressed the importance of providing some
    "activities" for Elizabeth.  I leave the choice up to her and so far
    this has worked reasonably well.  (And I got a lovely "book" for
    Mothers' Day that the two of them worked on while Laura was napping.)
    
    I also keep a pretty well stocked backyard.  We have the usual sandbox,
    baby pool, baby swing, lawn sprinkler, etc.  They all make use of the
    stuff back there.  
    
    I think it will be easier for your sitter with your 3 and 5 year old
    girls.  Kathleen and Sally should be able to do more things together.  
    
    Good luck,
    Lois