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| Title: | Parenting |
| Notice: | READ 1.27 BEFORE WRITING |
| Moderator: | CSC32::DUBOIS |
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| Created: | Wed May 30 1990 |
| Last Modified: | Tue May 27 1997 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 1364 |
| Total number of notes: | 23848 |
792.0. "Bratty behavior in toddler" by ELMAGO::PHUNTLEY () Fri Mar 22 1991 14:31
I am having problems with my 21 month old son and am looking for
advice, suggestions, clues as to why he is acting this way, etc.
Basically, this is the story: Joshua has always been a very good
natured, happy, though active little boy but over the last week
or so he has really turned into a monster who can't be pleased.
He has major temper tantrums, crying, disobeying, and in general
just very hard to get along with. He replies no to every word that
is spoken to him, fights eating, sleeping, getting dressed, etc.
He doesn't seem to be doing this at daycare, however they say that
he has started with the "no's and mine" to a small degree, but think
his behavior is well within the limits for his age. I can see some
contributing factors to his behavior at home but don't know what
to do to help him and myself to deal with all of this. Time-outs
aren't working, ignoring the behavior doesn't work, loving him and
holding him don't seem to work. Some of the causes may be that
his dad and I are seperated and have been for 6 weeks. I am living
at my parents' home and attending counseling with my husband and
really hope to work things out. Josh sees his dad at least 2 or
3 days a week and spends the night with him at least once a week.
Is there any kinds of therapy that can benefit kids this young?
Also Josh may be getting in some molars--not sure--he won't allow
me in his mouth to look or feel.
Do I get firm and strict with him or do I love him and hold him
until he gets through this? Is this the terrible twos?
Any help, suggestions, insight is welcome. I am also open to mail
replies (Elmago::Phuntley).
Regards,
Pam
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| 792.1 | Hugs and time | JAWS::WOOLNER | Photographer is fuzzy, underdeveloped and dense | Tue Mar 26 1991 12:46 | 10 |
| Oh, gee. So sorry to hear about the separation. I'd be almost
positive he's reacting to that upheaval (and I don't mean you should
feel guilty about it); after all, consider what a tremendous change it
feels like to *you*. Not only has an important person in your lives
been largely removed, but it sounds as though you've relocated too (to
your parents' house). Big changes for you, never mind for a little
guy. I vote for lots of hugs (for both of you) and as much patience
as you can muster.
Leslie
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| 792.2 | Partly the age, partly the situation | NRADM::TRIPPL | | Thu Apr 11 1991 16:16 | 20 |
| My first reaction is that he's just sliding, quite normally into the
"terrible two's"...have lots of patience with that one. It seems that
lots of people notice changes, bigtime at about 21 or so months. They
seem do discover they're little people, no longer babies, and want so
desperately to be independant.
Secondly, yes he probably is reacting to the upheavil in his life, he
no longer living in the environment he's been in since birth (I
presume), and your personal life is turned upside down. Things you may
have ignored during a good relationship are now major crisises, and
it's probably true that every little thing just seems to get to you.
But you seem to have gotten a handle on it by seeking counceling. If
that works to get you two back together I'd be delighted, but if it
isn't meant to happen the allow the councelor to help you work through
this very major change in both yours and your son's life.
And yes, there are professionals who can help children of this age.
Contact me off line I'll let you know my recommendations.
Lyn
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| 792.3 | 2.5 yr - Raspberries everyone | NEWPRT::WAHL_RO | | Mon Sep 16 1991 13:13 | 11 |
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I'm entering this note for a friend. She has a 2.5 year old son who
makes "raspberry" noises at everyone. A common reaction from adults is
to laugh at him. She and her husband have had several talks with him
about being polite, etc...
The talks don't seem to be working. Any other suggestions?
Thanks,
Rochelle
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| 792.4 | ALl kids have done it | JUPITR::MAHONEY | | Mon Sep 16 1991 13:42 | 10 |
| My neice does this also, she is also 2.5 yrs old. It doesn't bother us
because we are family and we are used to it. But when she walks up
to a stranger in a store or something and does it, she is repremanded.
Also, if this is something new to him, he will more than likely forget
about it soon enough. At 2.5 yrs old I don't really consider it rude.
Unless she does it purposely to people she doesn't know.
My 2 cents
Sandy
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