Conference moira::parenting_v3

    "What To Expect When You're Expecting"
    Written by 	Arlene Eisneberg, Heidi Eisenberg, and Sandee Eisenberf
    		Hathaway, R.N.  
    Copyright:	1984, 1988
    Publisher: 	Workman Publishing, New York
    ISBN: 	0-89480-769-2
    
    This book helped to  explain some of the questions I had about pregancy.  
    It starts with signs of pregancy and ends with planning another one.  So,
    as you can see, there is a wide range of topics covered here.  The
    feature I like is it takes each month and explains what you may be
    feeling, what to expect, and what you may be concerned about.  It also
    doesn't haven't have a 'scary' tone about it meaning it doens't have
    all sorts of WARNINGS :- o.  Don't do this, you must do that, etc.  It 
    also has alot of answers to *stupid* questions in it, questions that I 
    felt were to dumb to ask the doctor.  And it even has a special chapter in
    it for fathers-to-be.
    
    Hope this helps,
    (expecting 1st in Dec.)
    Heike    

    Guess this means I'd better backtrack and sign in at the previous note!
    
    I picked up a book called "Toddler Taming" at K-mart in Webster last
    year.  It is still being carried, I say it the other night.  Since I
    don't have it with me I can't give the author, publisher etc.  It's a
    yellow soft covered book, with the cutest blond curly toddler on the
    cover.  It retails somewhere under $9.95. 
    
    As I read it I swear it was written specifically for me and my
    situations, it has helped me tremendously with some of those situations
    where you're left kind of stumbling around for an answer.
    
    If it is difficult to find, and people want it I'd be glad to be the 
    "gofer".   I'll get a price and other particulars over the weekend and
    put that info in next week.
    
    Enjoying the conference!!
    Lyn Tripp (they call me DECTAG)
    ...or AJ's mom!
    

    Here's the details as promised,
    
    Toddler Taming, 
    A survival guide for parents.
    
    by Dr. Christopher Green, a child development specialist from Sydney
    Austrailia's Royal Alexandria Hospital for Children, Published by 
    Fawcett Columbine.  
    
    Cost is 5.95, and I got mine at K-mart in Webster.
    

   Here's a book that could be helpful for those people who have
   little time for shopping - like parents ... :-)
   
   "The Mail Order Shopper For Parents"
   Subtitled "Where to get the very best for your children - from
   infants to teens"
   
   Author: Hal Morgan           Copyright: 1990     
   Publisher: Doubleday         ISBN: 0-385-26389-9 
   
   This is actually a reference book of places that do mail order.
   It's a little over 200 pages, with a writeup for each place
   referenced - this includes a description of goods/services offered,
   address, phone, cost (if any) of catalog, etc.  It is organized by
   category - everything from art supplies to gardening to parents
   magazines to teddy bears and toys.  Its got a nice index and is
   fairly well cross referenced.
   
   - Tom
   

    I've read the following books which I got helpful hints on
    childrearing and sibling rivalry:
    
    Effective Parenting-Joan Bech
    He Hit Me First-Louise Bates Ames
    Winning with Kids-Teresa Warschaw
    Raising Positive Kids in a Negative World-Zig Zigler
    Principles of Parenting ABC (forgot author) Great book!
    Your Two Year Old-Trouble and Tender-Louise Bates Ames
    
    Other books I have yet to read!:
    
    How To Talk So Kids Will Listen-Elaine Mazlish/Adele Faber
    How To Disciple With Love-Dr. Fitzhugh Dodson
    The Time Out Method-Clark
    Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems-Dr. Ferber
    Parent Effectiveness Training-Dr. Thomas Gorden
    Parenting Isn't For Cowards-Dr. James Dobson
    The Magic Years-Selma H. Fraiberg
    Magical Child-Joseph Chelton Pierce
    Your Baby and Child Thru Age 5-Penelope Leach
    Hide & Seek-Dr. Dobson
    Children:  The Challenge-Rudolf Dreikurs
    How To Get Your Children To Do What You Want Them To Do-Wood & Schwartz
    Back In Control-Bodenhamer
    Making Your Child Mind and Not Losing Control-Kevin Lehman
    Kids Can Cooperate-Elizabeth Crary
    Window To Our Children-?
    Your Second Child-?
    Parents On The Run-Beecher, Willard, & Beecher
    Raising a Responsible Child-Dinkmeyer & McKary
    The Challenge of Parenthood-Duell, Sloan, & Pearce
    A Parent's Guide To Child Discipline, Dreikurs & Grey
    Discipline Without Tyranny-Grey, Loren
    Between Parent & Child-Ginott, Haim
    The Parents' Guide To Everyday Problems of Boys & Girls-Gruenberg,
       Sidonie
    Fun & Games-Margaret Mulac
    Brothers & Sisters-Edith Neisser
    People Making-Virginia Satir
    
                                

    I had the title wrong on the one called Princple of Parenting.  It
    should be "The Practice Parent ABCs of Child Discpline"-Raymond
    Corsini.

    "Nighttime Parenting"
    
    William Sears, M.D.
    New American Library, 1985
    ISBN 0-452-26407-3
    
    Subtitled "how to Get Your Baby and Child to Sleep", the book covers
    child sleep patterns, several different sleeping arrangements, why
    children wake up during the night, sleep disorders and general family
    issues that come up around sleeping arrangements.  I found it sensitive
    to a family making their personal choices to make sleep happen happily
    for everyone.

    "The Family Bed"
    
    Tine Thevenin
    Avery Publishing Group, 1987
    ISBN 0-89529-357-9
    
    Goes into the historical and cultural aspects of the family bed. 
    Includes practical tips for arranging the sleeping room and discusees
    how children generally wean themselves to a separate room.  The author
    strongly recommends the family bed as beneficial for the child's
    physical and mental health.  Covers the questions adults might have
    about privacy and intimacy.

    The 1st 12 months of life
    The 2nd 12 months of live
       on up to age 6
    
    Your Childs Self Esteem
    
    Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T)
    
    My bibles - all great.
    
    

    A brain teaser for Monday morning.............
    
    In the book Green Eggs and Ham by Dr. Seuss does anyone know if
    the character that does not like green eggs and ham have a name?
    
    If he does, what is it?
    
    I don't think he does but would like to know if he does!
    
    
    Thanks,
    
    Kathy

    re: .10
    
    I believe his name is Sam.
    
    I am Sam
    Sam I am
    I do not like Green Eggs & Ham
    
    
    Lori B.

	Nope.  Sam I am is the one who OFFERS the green eggs and ham.  

	I don't think the guy has a name.  I'll try to remember and check 
tonight.

Tracey

I do not like Green Eggs and Ham
I will not eat them Sam I am.

    I don't think he has a name, but I'll check tonight ... Paul Winchell 
    does the voice - same one who does Tigger (listen to him do the Tigger
    'laugh' right after he tastes the Eggs and Ham.)

The character who doesn't like Green Eggs and Ham is not named in the book.

		Steve

    re: .14
    
    I'll second that.  I went home last night, got the book out and
    read it, every word, and he was not named.
    
    Lori B.

    
    	RE: he doesn't have a name
    
    	But he must be a "Who" and live in "Whoville" right?! (;
    
    	/Kim

    A quick question on books.  AJ just turned 4, and I am aware that
    daycare is using a cassette tape/book combination for the children.
    
    My questions:
    	
    How does this method work?
    We don't own a working cassette recorder, suggestions please on makes
    and models appropriate to a 4 year old.
    Are popular titles available?
    
    Off-line responses are welcome (CSGDEC::TRIPP)
    
    Thanks!
    Lyn
    

Well, it's no substitute for mommy and/or daddy reading, but our kids enjoyed 
it a lot.  The books all have a "when you hear this tone, turn the page" 
<beep>.  There are a LOT of books available. 

While you can use any cassette recorder, I recommend one that is specifically 
designed for kids.  We used the Fisher Price, which is durable and easy to 
use, but somewhat expensive.  I'm not sure whether the F-P has a jack for 
headphones.  That's a nice feature to have on long car trips.

Clay

    We have two (one for each kid, of course) of the Radio Shack tape
    recorders for kids.  They've been dropped, thrown, stomped on, pulled
    apart, put back together, and the only one I ever heard of dying was
    when our neice threw hers in the bathtub.  They're also very easy to
    open if you happen to have an electronics wizzard in the house.
    
    There is a jack for an adaptor (which didn't prove real sturdy), and I
    think there's a plug for earphones too.  That plus a built-in
    microphone.  The kids think it's a RIOT to hear themselves on tape.
    
    DEFINITE necessity! (-:
    

    
    New book ... a bit of parenting on the light side, but at the same
    time provocative enough to make you step back and look at what we
    are doing to our kids today rather than just let them be kids.
    
    "Quantity Time"
        (subtitled "Words of Comfort for Imperfect Parents")
        by Roy McGregor
        Published by McLelland & Stewart
    
        CDN$14.95
    
    
    Roy McGregor is a feature columnist for the Ottawa Citizen newspaper
    and has authored several books, including co-authoring "Home Game" with
    retired hockey goaltender Ken Dryden.
    
    Roy is a father of 4 kids, and in fact just lives around the corner
    from me and we have a 9 year old daughter in the same class at school.
    
    The book is a light hearted look at what parenting has become. 
    

    
    Has anyone read a book called "The Difficult Child"?  I am trying to
    find out the name of the author.  It's supposed to be a good book
    for parents of twos and threes.  All I know is that the waiting list
    for it at our local library is 3 to 4 months!
                                                Thanks, Marlene
    
    

I read it and put a review in the ASABET::LEARNING_DISABILITIES notes 
conference (KP7 or SELECT to select).

I thought it was an excellent book with a lot of practical information to deal
with children who have no diagnosed behavioral or learning problem but are
difficult to deal with.  The author (can't remember his name here) is a child
psychiatrist who had his own "difficult" child after two easy ones.  Also of
interest was the list of famous people he can reference who were themselves
considered "difficult".

There is another book called "The Misunderstood Child" which deals with
learning disabilities and explains the various thought processes that can work
incorrectly and how to help your children overcome them.  I thought the two
books were very complementary since mild learning disabilities can show up as
frustration which makes the child difficult to handle.  Reading both books
helps to put your child's behavior in perspective.

ccb

    The Difficult Child is written by Stanley Turecki,MD in conjunction
    with Leslie Tonner and yes, it is a good book with good, practical
    suggestions for dealing with hard to manage children

    I would like to know if anyone has read any good books on explaining to
    a child (5.5) the pregnancy process.  I'm pregnant with my second and
    she is asking a lot of questions, like how big is the baby now?, when will
    the baby be born?, when will you tummy get big?.  Any suggestions would
    be greatly appreciated.
    
    Thanks

    I wanted to mention a really good book that I have been reading about
    discipline.  The book is called "Positive Discipline" by Jane Nelson, 
    copywrite 1987.
    
    The book was written for parents of all ages and for teachers to use
    methods in classrooms.  The main theme of the book is that children
    are people too, and when treated with respect and care will act
    responsibly.  It reviews many types of misbehavior and different ways
    how parents or teachers react to the misbehavior.  
    
    It may be a little idealistic but it has given me some goals to strive
    for.  I seem to have more patience than I normally do, since I have a
    discipline plan rather than floundering like I usually do.
    
    I recommend it for anyone teaching or dealing with children everyday.
    
    Karin

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    This is a very special note and I hope the moderator(s) will keep it
    separate from the recommended book list...
    
    My husband and I were getting frustrated trying to get pregnant.  The
    following book was suggested to me (and I had seen excerpts). 
    Needless-to-say, I get pregnant the month after I got the book!  It has
    a 20-point list that we VERY religiously followed (including no
    alcohol!!), and voila!!!
    
    The name is: Getting Pregnant - What Couples Need to Know Right Now.
    
    By Niels H. Lauersen MD, Phd and Colette Bouchez, Rawson Asssoc. Publ.
    New York, 1991.
    
    I can't tell you how great it is!  It has everything from the
    Roubuttusin trick to special diets, etc.

    
    
    	Looking for some books before I get pregnant.  Like
    	what vitamins to take and what excercise to do..
    	
    	Does any one have any favorites.
    
    	I asked my doctor and he didn't have any suggestions.
    
    thanks
    Donna

Check your local Walden Books or library.  There is certainly an abundance
of books on the subject of pregnancy and childbirth.  Your doctor
(OB) can tell you what to do and not do in the way of exercise, and will
most likely prescribe prenatal vits for you.  I don't think you need to
worry about diet as long as you normally eat healthy balanced meals - just
continue to do so.  You'll need to add some extra calories (500-1000) per
day, but your own hunger will often be the guide in that respect too!

For the most part, barring special circumstances, pregnant women are told
to carry on their normal level of activity, but NOT to BEGIN an exercise
regimen after they become pregnant.  So if you run, jog, or walk for
exercise now, you would most likely be able to continue to do so thru most
of you pregnancy (although I have to say I've never seen an 8-monther
jogging down the street - gets cumbersome!).  My sister-in-law was always
very active and continued running/walking throughout her pregnancy.

Swimming is one great exercise, though, regardless of your level of
activity before hand, as the weightlessness and water pressure aid in
circulation, especially toward the end of the pregnancy.

I do have a list of titles at home by La Leche League (not only about
nursing!) and will post them on Monday.

Good luck!

I would recommend very highly Tracy Hotchner's _Pregnancy and Childbirth_,
which is the book that we studied when we first started thinking about
children.  It's comprehensive and well-balanced.  (I think it's out in 
a second edition now.)

	-Neil

    There's a great book that I received after I got pregnant, but it is
    also good for before. It is called "What to expect when expecting".
    I forget the authors name, but if you ask for it in the book store
    they will know what you are talking about. Great book and they also
    have a follow up book called "What to expect in the 1st year!". I
    give it to everyone I know who is pregnant for the first time. It
    is very helpful and answers alot of questions.
    
    -Sheila
    

    
    The book "What to Expect When you are Expecting" is HIGHLY
    recommended; I have a few others, but this seems to be the MOST 
    COMPLETE I have found. I see new things in it everytime I pick
    it up -- through both pregnancies. Many of my friends also have 
    copies and think its the best one (and less expensive than some of
    the glossy ones). Also by the same authors: "What to Eat When you
    Are Expecting" and "What to Expect During the First Year".
    
    Monica

    On the lighter side, I suggest getting a copy of Dave Barry's "Babies
    and Other Hazards of Sex", (subtitled: "Or how to build your own child
    using tools you probably have around the house") Guaranteed to give you 
    quite a few laughs.
    
    Freddie

    On the Humourous side.....  I gave this to a "confirmed bachlorette"
    friend for Christmas.  How to Bear Children.  Subtitled, how to put up
    with Other peoples children!  Designed to warn the childless person
    what to expect, from a variety of situations, when you maintain a
    friendship with a new, or about to new parent.  It's very thin +/-100
    pages, quick reading and hilarious!
    
    It lists for $6.95, I paid under $1.00 at the Christmas tree Shop.
    
    Lyn
    

    Another light-side book I'm very fond of is Miss Manners' Guide to
    raising practically perfect children (don't remember the exact
    title) . . . 
    
    It has lots of great put-downs for those situations when somebody
    comes up to you at the meat counter while you're trying to decide
    between the chicken and the hamburger and asks you, "Are you sure
    your child is all right?  My granddaughter was pale like that and
    she died of leukemia."  
    
    But it's got a lot of serious good advice for the hows and whys of
    discipline, especially for older children (and their parents :) )
    
    I'd offer to loan my copy, but I already loaned it and never got
    it back. 
    
    --bonnie

    Can anyone tell me the name of the author and publisher (and ISBN, if
    poss) of "Your Second Child"?
    
    Thanks
    
    Janet

    Author:  Joan Solomon Weiss
    Publisher: Summit Books, New York
    ISBN:  0-671-25618-1
           0-671-25619X(pbk)