Conference moira::parenting_v3

	First some "technical" details about Parenting.

	This conference is a very active one.  In order to keep topics easy to
find, to cut down on duplications, to limit the work imposed on the moderators
and the frustration experienced by all noters:

	1) Please use these notes:


Note number 		Topic                       	Marked with Keyword

# 2			Daycare Wanted			Daycare
# 3			Babysitting Wanted		Babysitting
# 4			Want Ads			Want_Ads
# 5			For Sale			For_sale
# 6			Doctors Needed			Doctors
# 7			Related Notefiles               Related_notefiles

                        
	2) *Read and abide* by the rules in reply .0 of these notes.  

	3) Keep separate subjects in separate notes.  I.e. don't open a note 
with questions about both 'finger foods' and 'diaper rash'.

	4) Use meaningful titles.  I.e. a title of HELP!!!! will not help 
anyone find your note about you child climbing out of the crib.

	5) PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE!  Check to make sure that there is not
already a note on the topic before you open up a new topic on it. The next
reply will tell you all about keywords and dir/title="whatever" to help you
find what you're looking for.  (If you open up a note on a subject that already 
exists, the moderators reserve the right to move your note.  But we'd rather 
you put it in the right place to begin with.)
 
        6) If you have a long article (say over 100 lines) that you'll be 
posting, please put a base note in telling us that the next reply will be a
long article or reply.  (The Decwindows interface to notes is unkind to those
who use it when you try to read a long note.  These people would like the
opportunity to skip over your article and come back to it later.)

	Through our experience with noting in general and in PARENTING in 
particular, we've come up with these policies that seem to make sense.

	First of all, be aware and try to remember while you read this file,
everyone here is participating because they want to be a better parent.  When
you read someone's note, read it with that in mind.  It'll go a long way toward
minimizing misunderstandings and hurt feelings when we get involved in 
controversial topics.

	Please be aware that people have differing needs when they put a note 
in this file.  Sometimes people just want to vent.  If someone asks for a 
"shoulder to cry on" or says they want to "vent", please just lend support.  
If their note raises an issue that you'd like to discuss and it's not
supportive, look for an existing note on the subject or if one doesn't exist,
start one. On the other hand, if you start a note and put in phrases like "I
need a  different perspective" or "am I wrong?"  Don't be surprised if someone
tells you that you ARE wrong.  If you ask for people's opinions, you'll get'em.
(Phrased tactfully, we hope... :-) ) 

	Also be aware that communication by notes is not the same as a spoken
conversation.  We do not have the subtle (and not so subtle) cues of body 
language, facial expression, and tone of voice to tell us whether or not someone
is joking.  (We do have other things to help us there which will be covered in
the next reply.)  We have lag time between entries that can compound 
misunderstanding.  That is, A mis-types something.  B jumps on A about it.  C
says "Yeah! What B said!" and it snowballs until the point that A reads notes
again and says "Oops!  I left out the 'not' in 'not all X's are slime.'" 
making the whole thing a moot point.   These points are particularly important
when participating in controversial notes.

	Speaking of controversial notes,  there are a few topics which pop up
with amazing regularity which are guaranteed to raise people's blood pressure.
Some of these are "to spank or not to spank", "in home or center based daycare"
and the ever popular "Should Moms/Dads stay home with Jr."  While these are
valid topics to be discussed here, the moderators beg you to 1) keep your cool
and remember to respect the other noters even if you don't agree with them and 
2) Please confine discussion of these topics to the notes intended for it. 
Please don't take every note down a rathole on one of these subjects. Failure
to comply will result in moderator action.

	So what kind of things will the moderators do?  Most of the time, we'll
just drop a gentle hint to calm down or keep to the subject.  Occasionally
we'll move a note to a better place.  (There are some all purpose notes for
things like Daycare Needed, Things for sale, and so on.)  If a note or reply
is controversial to the point that we think it would endanger the continued
existence of the  notefile we will set it hidden or remove it.  (Notes that 
would require this action are threats, racial slurs, notes that might involve 
us in legal action and so on. As we all are reasonable people here, we won't 
need to worry about that, right?)

	When requested, the moderators will (under certain circumstances) post 
anonymous notes for Parenting participants.  You might wish to post this way
if, for instance, your child  had been molested and you wished for advice or 
support but did not wish to give up your privacy.

	Otherwise, authors are responsible for the notes that they write in the
PARENTING conference.  Each note in the conference must be written by an
identifiable individual.  If you must enter a note from an anonymous or group
account (SYSTEM, FIELD, OPER, GUEST, etc.), please sign your name at the end of
the  note, or otherwise make your identity clear.

	You may appeal any moderator action *by mail* to the moderators.  If
you and the involved moderator cannot come to a satisfactory agreement, the
action recommended by majority of the moderators will be taken.  

	So who are these infamous moderators anyway?  PARENTING has several 
moderators.  To see the current moderators, use the show moderator command.
(For those using Decwindows, use the "Members..." option of the "Conference"
menu.)  To send mail to the moderators, use the send/moderators command.   

                     ****  NOTE NOTE NOTE NOTE NOTE ****

	In response to some clarification of existing DEC policies and in
recognition of the fact that this type of information tends to be of limited
use  geographically speaking and that that it becomes dated very quickly,  we
are asking that you no longer advertise/make recommendations  concerning
services available.  Requests for information may be posted (there are note
reserved for such requests).  Please respond to these people off-line (e-mail
or phone) if you have information to share with them.  Old requests for
information will be cleaned out on a regular basis.  See reply .0 of these 
notes for a complete explanation.

	Until we receive further clarification, we are taking the position that
you may still make product reccomendations here as long as you are  careful
with your wording.  Positive reviews are not generally a problem. Negative
reviews should be clearly stated as your opinion/experience and not 
over-generalized.  That is, rather than saying that XYZ brand of playpen is
unsafe, say that your child managed to tip it over on her head every time she
sat in it.
                     ****  NOTE NOTE NOTE NOTE NOTE ****


Thanks very much!  

Enjoy the file.

The Parenting Co-Moderators

        New noters are faced with two issues: the technical aspects of 
"Getting around" in a notefile and the etiquette of noting.  This note is a
brief guide to some principles and commands to help you as you gain experience
with the notes utility.

        
                                Notes Etiquette  

         The notes utility has been around in some form for 10 years.  
Many noters have been noting for 6 or 7 years.  Over time, we've found that 
noting is different than many other forms of communication either written or 
oral.  Over time, some problems have been discovered and conventions have 
arisen to deal with these trouble spots.  While you are certainly not required 
to follow any of these guidelines, they are considered part of polite behavior 
for the well-mannered noter and without them you may ruffle some feathers.

1. ALL UPPERCASE LETTERS - This is a no-no for two reasons.  Uppercase is more 
fatiguing to the eyes than mixed case.  More importantly, uppercase is the 
notes equivalent of SHOUTING.  While it makes sense to emphasize an occasional
word, generally, you would not want to shout at your listeners for the entire 
length of your note.

2. Body Language - Since we cannot see the author's facial expression or hear
his/her tone of voice, it is easy to miss when a statement is a joke or irony.
To assist, certain symbols are often used to give you some emotional context.
The most common is :-)  To understand this symbol, tilt your head to the left. 
Aha! A smiling face.  In general, when you see a bunch of cryptic symbols, 
look at them sideways and they'll resolve into a face that is :-) happy, 
:-( sad, :-} wry, :-| non-comittal, :-o surprised, ;-) winking, and so on.  In
addition, the author will often give emphasis to a word either by UPPERCASING
it, *asterisking* it, or _underlining_ it.  One symbol we'd rather not see 
is ~/~ . This stands for stirring the "excretory substance".  This is a
friendly notefile and notes entered *for the sole purpose* of ruffling feathers
are not welcome.   

3. Be careful with sarcasm and irony - All the smiley faces in the world
will not ensure that that everyone will "get it" when you employ these subtle
devices.   

4.  Make sure you make a distinction between fact and opinion - Remember that 
written words carry more force that spoken ones.  (IMO - "In My Opinion" or 
IMHO - "In My Humble Opinion" are often used as shorthand by the author to let
the reader know that the author recognizes the difference without having to
type a lot. ;-) ) 

5. Please sign your name - (or have it in your Notes Personal Name) this just
makes it easier to get to know one another and be friendly. 

6. Spelling and grammar DO count - (to a certain degree at any rate) Nobody is 
grading you, but people do tend to lend more credence to notes that are not so
misspelled that they are incoherent.  The technical section below has some
hints to help with this.

7. Read before jumping in - This goes for individual notes and for the
conference as a whole.  When you first start reading a new conference, it
is a good idea to read the whole file before replying or writing. But if the 
size of the file makes this impractical, observing for a day or two will give
you a feel for what is an appropriate topic for discussion, who are the members
of the noting community and what the "tone" of the file is. When replying
to a note, make sure to read all the replies first.  One of them may already
contain the information that you will be writing or may have a clarification
upon the original point.


                                Technical hints

        This is not intended to be a complete tutorial in notes.  (If you are a 
novice notes user, we *strongly* urge you to add 0::notes$sample to your
notebook, open it and it will step you through a notes tutorial.)  But here
are a few things that commonly trip up new users.  

1.  Write vs. Reply - A notes conference is a series of concurrent
conversations.  Each conversation is called a topic.  It is started is a note
often called the base note or .0 . The conversation continues in replies to
that note.  To continue an existing topic use the "reply" command.  To start a
new topic use the "Write" command.

2.  New entries *will* be seen no matter where you enter them - Notes keeps
track of which notes you have read and which ones you haven't.  People who
follow notes on a regular basis, use the "seen" mechanism to navigate the
file.  Thus if you see a note written back in 1987 on teething and you have a
teething question, PLEASE reply to this note.  The seen mechanism will take us
to your note.  Don't open a new note "to make sure that people will see it".  
The moderators will just move your note when they see it to cut down on
duplications of questions/answers.

3.  Correct spelling makes your note much more readable, use the spelling
checker -  When you are finished writing a note, before you give the go ahead
to enter it, press the "do" key or PF4.  The Command prompt will show up on
the bottom of your screen.  Type Spell here.  If the spelling checker is
installed on your system, notes will run it against the note you are about to
enter and let you make changes before you actually enter it.

4.  How to correct a just entered note - Sometimes, no matter how many times
you check it, a horrendous typographical or grammatical error slips by without
being seen until the note has been entered.  If you see the error right away,
it's not too late to change it.  You can  DELETE the note and then
REPLY/LAST (which will use the text of the last note you wrote as a starting
point for your entry).  If you notice the error later and it's a big enough
error that you would like to correct it, you can EXTRACT the note to a file,
DELETE the old note, and REPLY with the the file as input.  For example:

        NOTES>EXT 13.3 oops.txt
        NOTES>DEL 13.3
        NOTES>REPLY oops.txt
         Make any changes you need and enter the note.


        Once again, the tutorial in NOTES$SAMPLE is essential for new noters
especially if you do not have a notes manual.  If you have a notes question, 
try the HELP command.  If HELP and/or the manual don't help you, you can ask 
the moderators for help.  We'll help if we can.  Bear in mind however, that 
moderating is an "Extra-curricular activity" and we will not always have time
to give full explanations (and sometimes won't have time to respond at all).

Happy noting!

Parenting Co-mods 

From time to time new topics are entered which essentially,  "I know that 
there is already a topic on this subject, but I want to reactivate the issue", 
or "get the most current information", or words to that effect.

Entering a reply to an existing topic essentially reactivates the topic, and 
almost all noters who open PARENTING will see the note, even topic had been 
dormant for some time.

Parenting is one of the most active of all notesfiles.  In less than six 
months since the current version was started, over 500 new topics have been 
started.  If we don't take steps to minimize the number of topics, the 
notesfile quickly becomes unmanageable.  It is already difficult for us to 
find and maintain a home for it.

If you do not have a notebook and/or don't use "next unseen" as your default, 
use the Notes "Help" function to learn how.

Clay Satow
co-moderator

	I just wanted to remind everyone to take it easy with one another.

	There is a lot of pressure on right now.  The winter holidays in 
addition to being fun, can also be incredibly stressful.  

	Add to that the state of the economy, good friends being put in 
"transition" and so on ... 

	If I may make a suggestion to everyone, if you MUST discuss one of 
THOSE topics right now, (you know the ones I mean, spanking, staying at home to 
take care of the baby, in home care versus daycare, whether or not unheated 
formula causes brain damage :-) ), please take special care to not provoke 
one another.  Don't tell someone who works that they are "abandoning their 
child".  Don't tell someone who believes in spanking that they are "abusing 
their child".   Try to use "I" language.  Rather than saying "what you did 
was wrong" (which is so easy to read as "you are a bad person") try to say
that "I feel uncomfortable with the idea of ..." of something similar.  It 
makes it SOOOO much easier to discuss the *subject* and not each other's 
characters.

	Finally, an apology in advance.  I am incredibly snowed under at work, 
my husband was layed off the day before Thanksgiving, every known relative in 
the universe is coming to visit this Chirstmas, and several of the other 
moderators are already or will be soon on vacation.  (So you're stuck with me.)
If I have to take any moderator action, I'm quite likely to stomp pretty hard 
unintentionally.  I'll try very hard to practice what I preach.  Please forgive 
me if I slip up.

	Happy Chanukah!  Merry Christmas!  Joyful Solstice!

Tracey 
Parenting co-mod and host

There have been many requests for a place in PARENTING where people can
announce the availability of daycare, as well as requesting it.  As an
experiment, we have now designated topic 12 the "Daycare and Babysitting 
Available" topic.  

There is one significant restriction on the use of this topic.  Corporate
policy prohibits the use of the network for personal gain.  As we interpret
this policy, it means that you may not post a note about daycare or
babysitting services that are provided by you or your spouse.

Please be sure to mention your location (town and state) in the title of
your notes.  

The moderators will probably take a pass through occasionally and remove 
old notes.

	-Neil Faiman

    When entering notifications of services available (such as daycare)
    please include YOUR DTN in the message.
    
    All Digital policies apply.
    
    Thank you.
    Laura 

The moderators would like to thank Bonnie Randall for all her work moderating
PARENTING.  Bonnie is resigning as moderator, effective today.  We will
miss her calming and informative style very much.

The good news is that Carol Stolicny has accepted our invitation to become
PARENTING's latest co-moderator!  Let's all show her a warm welcome!

As always, the list of current moderators can be obtained by doing 
SHOW MOD
at the NOTES> prompt.

     Carol duBois, PARENTING co-moderator

	This file has been keyworded as of today.

  Q.	What does that mean?

  A.	You can now do searches of the file based on keywords.  The
	moderators have read ALL the entries and applied relevant
	keywords.    You no longer need to guess what string to use
	in performing a "DIR/TITLE='xxxx'".  The keyword search is
	more efficient and will most likely find your information.

  Q.	How do I use the keywords to search?

  A.	At the notes prompt, type "SHO KEY" to see all the keywords.
	You can also use wildcards, such as "SHO KEY D*".
	You may want to search on several keywords to get a complete
	list.  They have been applied as well as possible, to find 
	your information in the fewest searches.

  Q.	Why should I use this function?

  A.	If you search on keywords BEFORE writing a new note, you will
  	probably find a previous discussion on the same topic.  You
	should then use the "REPLY" verb rather than "WRITE" to continue
	the earlier discussion.

  Q.	Will people see my reply if it is located in a very old note?

  A.    Yes.  And you can see new replies to old notes, by doing this:
	Type "SET SEEN" at the notes prompt.  Now, every time you reopen
	the Parenting notes file, you will see the next new reply or
	note.  Type "N U" (next unseen) to see the next one.  Continue
	typing "N U" to see all the new replies and notes.

  Q.	This seems like a lot of trouble.  Why should I bother?

  A.	You are helping other noters, and the moderators, by replying
	(continuing the discussion) in older notes.  If there are less
	new notes, searches (both by key and by title string) go faster.
	You will save the moderators lots of time by doing this yourself.
	Otherwise, they will search the file, move your note, and notify
	you by mail.

                         THANK YOU !!!!!!
  

	Now that we're all good "doobies" and using the keywords to search, 
	here is the way they are selected.  More than one keyword may be
	applied to a given note.   I recommend that you print this and
	keep it handy as a reference to PARENTING.

	Please don't apply keywords yourself.  We moderators will try to
	keep up with this task ourselves, to reduce any confusion.

	You can use all caps or all lowercase when referencing keywords.

	The following notes explain how the keywords were applied.
	This list is not comprehensive, but should be helpful.
	Understanding this will help you use them for searches:

    (If you want to know what gifts to buy for kids or Moms-to-be, please
    use the keyword GIFTS.)
    
  1.	If the topic directly relates to a child of a certain age, ONE of
	the following keywords is used: 

	BABIES		From birth to 12 months old
	TODDLERS	From 1 to 2 years 12 months old
	PRESCHOOLERS	From 3 to 4 years 12 months old
	SCHOOLCHILDREN	From 5 to 12 years old
	TEENAGERS	From 13 to 19 years old
	ADULT_CHILDREN	From 19 years and up

	These classes are approximate.  You may want to search on two
	if your child's age is close to the limit.

  2.	ONE of the following keywords is used for each pregnancy 
	and childbirth note:

	 PREGNANCY_COMPLIC.	Complications minor and major
	 pregnancy_symptoms	Various symptoms and annoyances
	 pregnancy_tests	Including ultra-sound, amnio, etc.
	 PREGNANCY_MISC.	Everything else
	 LABOR_AND_CHILDBIRTH	
	 C-SECTION
	 POSTPARTUM		Anything after birth 

	Please note that new children are referenced under BIRTH_ANNOUNCEMENTS.

   3.	To find new noters or new children, use REGISTRY.
	To find goodbyes, use GOODBYES.  Please try to consolidate these, too.

   4.   Many notes are concerned with medical problems and health questions.
	The following keys have been applied.

	allergies
	cardiovascular
	conception
	DISABILITIES
	DOCTOR_&_HOSP_VISITS
	DOCTOR_CHOOSING		Selecting a doctor.
	ears
	eyes
	FEET
	GASTROINTESTINAL
	GENITALS
	growth
	hair
	heat
	illnesses_misc.		The miscellaneous catch-all
	IMMUNOSYSTEM
	infertility
	INSECTS_AND_KIDS
	MEDICATION_QUESTIONS
	MISCARR_STILLBIRTH
	NOSE
	NUTRITION
	RELAXATION
	RESPIRATORY
	SKIN
	SUN_EXPOSURE
	SLEEPING
	TEETHING
	TEETH_MISC.		Non-teething dental questions.
	URINARY
	VISION

  5.	Growth and development are handled as follows:

	BATHING			Getting 'em clean.
	BEHAVIOR_PROBLEMS	From baby punches to teen sex.
	BOTTLEFEEDING     
	BREASTFEEDING
	DEVELOPMENT_MISC.	The catch-all.
	DISCIPLINE	
	EATING
	FEARS	
	GROWTH			This is about physical growth only.
	HAZARDS
	NAPS
	NUTRITION
	potty_training
	READING
	SEX_AND_KIDS
	SIBLINGS			 
	SLEEPING
	SOCIALIZATION
	SPEECH
	swimming
	teething
	walking
	weaning
	writing
	
 6.	Many issues affect us as families.  These are the keywords:

	adoption
	CRIME_AND_KIDS
	DEATH_AND_KIDS
	CAMPING			As a family.
	CLEANING_AND_LAUNDRY
	DIVORCE
	DCRA
	FAMILIES		This is the catch all.
	FATHERING
	GRANDPARENTS
	GUNS_AND_KIDS
	HOUSING
	HUMOR
	INSURANCE
	LAW_AND_FAMILIES
	MATERNITY_LEAVE
	MONEY
	MOVING_AND_KIDS
	NATURAL_DISASTERS
	PATS_ON_THE_BACK
	QUOTATIONS
	RECIPES
	RELIGION_AND_KIDS
	RELAXATION
	TRAVEL
	travel_without_kids
	twins
	WORKING_PARENTS_WOES	This one's REALLY important.
			
 7.	The following notes relate to education and daycare.

	BOOKS_AND_MAGAZINEs			
	CAMPS
	DAYCARE_PROBLEMS
	DAYCARE_QUESTIONS
	DCRA
	DEVELOPMENT_MISC.	Developmental problems/issues.
	DISABILITIES
	EDUCATION_AND_CLASSES
	MUSIC
	PLAYGROUPS
	READING	
	SCHOOL_ISSUES
	SCHOOL_SELECTION	Picking the right schools.
	SCOUTING
	SPEECH
	SWIMMING				
 	
 8.	The following notes relate to fun stuff.

	ARTS_AND_CRAFTS
	BICYCLES
	CHRISTMAs
	EASTEr
	EVENTS
	games
	halloween
	OUTINGS			Neat stuff to do
	PARTIES
	PETS
	SESAME_STREET
	TELEVISION_&_MOVIES
	TOYS
	
 9.	The following notes relate to useful stuff to buy or make.

	BEDDING
	carseats
	catalogs
	CLOTHING_AND_SHOES
	DECORATING
	DIAPERS
	EQUIPMENT
	for_sale
	furniture
	GADGETS_AND_UTENSILS
	PHOTOGRAPHY
	SAFETY_IDEAS
	want_ads								


                           

    Under topic 13, you will find current listings of commonly-applied
    keywords, with the notes to which they have been applied.
    
    Looking at this is much faster than doing a DIR/KEY=whatever.
    
    Continue to do a DIR/KEY=whatever if you cannot find the information
    you seek in topic 13. 
    
    Laura

The system that currently hosts this conference is having resource
problems. Please do your personal noting during non-work hours so we can
better serve work-related conferences. 
    

                  I N T E R O F F I C E   M E M O R A N D U M

                                        Date:     30-Jan-1992
                                        From:     John Sims
                                                  SIMS.JOHN AT A1 at CORA @ CORE

                                        Dept:     Strategic Resources
                                        Tel No:   223-7243

TO:  Employee Interest Notes File Participants


Subject:  A message to employee interest notes file users

           A MESSAGE TO EMPLOYEE INTEREST NOTES FILE USERS


    Over the last few months I have received a number of complaints
    from employees, and individuals outside of the company about
    material communicated in electronic mail systems and posted in
    various employee interest notes files.  After reading some of this
    material it is clear that a reminder about appropriate comment and
    behavior in these systems is necessary.

    First, and most critically; the electronic mail systems and notes
    files are company facilities subject to normal workplace rules of
    conduct.   As such, the same rules that govern conduct and comment
    in any other Digital workplace apply with equal weight in these
    systems.  Stated simply, if you wouldn't say something in a
    Digital business meeting, you shouldn't say it in electronic mail
    or notes. PERIOD.

    Statements that attribute improper, illegal or immoral motives or
    actions to others; statements that cast aspersions on the
    character or integrity of others or that amount to libel or
    slander are not permitted. PERIOD.  In this regard, it does not
    matter whether the individuals subject to the comment are elected
    public officials or directors of organizations disfavored by the
    author.   There is no "Public Figure" exception in these systems.

    Comments of a sexual nature are not acceptable whether they are
    about the author or directed at others.  Similarly, comments that
    degrade, devalue or discriminate against others are also
    prohibited.

    Neither the notes conferences nor electronic mail should be used
    to solicit other employees.  This prohibition covers efforts to
    solicit employees for personal or political gain, to sell or
    market goods or services (except authorized marketplace or
    discount conferences) and efforts to solicit employees to take
    action, sign petitions or support particular causes or candidates.

    Finally, employees should remember that it is never appropriate to
    spend working time in employee interest notes for non-work
    purposes.  Personal or entertainment activities in these notes
    files should be limited to assigned break times, lunch time and
    before or after business hours.

    Employee interest notes files and conferences provide an
    electronic forum to share ideas and opinions about matters of
    common interest.  In supporting these conferences, the company
    understood that there would be occasions where employees would
    disagree on issues being discussed, but we believed and continue
    to believe it is possible to disagree without being disagreeable.
    Personnel Policy 6.54, Proper Use of Digital Computers, Systems
    and Networks provides further information about appropriate
    conduct and comment in these systems.  Employees who fail to meet
    these expectations, or who use company computer systems in ways
    that are contrary to the letter or spirit of that policy are
    subject to Corrective Action and Discipline up to and including
    the termination of their employment.

    The moderators of these conferences, along with your system
    managers, personnel representatives and the Personnel Policy
    Manager are all available to answer any question you might have
    about appropriate use of these systems.

    Please feel free to forward this memo to other Digital notes
    files and conferences.

Distribution:  Selected conference moderators
        [Original list deleted]

    Before using WRITE to create new notes, please search the file to see
    if an existing note provides the information you seek.  Please continue
    existing notes when possible, by using REPLY rather than WRITE.

    Most users will see your reply via NEXT UNSEEN.

    The replies to note 13 provide current listings of common keywords.  If
    you do not find your topic in note 13, you can do a title search
    (DIR/TITLE=nnn) or a keyword search (DIR/KEY=nnn).  Type SHO KEY to see
    the keywords.  All basenotes have one or more keywords, applied by the
    moderators.

    ************************ Some "Generic" Notes ***************************

    2      Daycare Wanted*
    3      Babysitting Needed*
    4      Want Ads*
    5      For sale* 
    6      Doctor needed*
    14     Introduce yourself
    15     Your kids
    16     Birth/adoption announcements
    17     Books
    19     Recipes
    26     First Baby - Shower gift ideas
    50     POTTY-TRAINING
    135    Sleep problems in infant/toddler
    273    "I have the funniest kids..."
    282    Bedwetting
    665    Humorous quotations
    675	   Beyond Pattiecake (games)
    726    Dependent Care Reimbursement Account
    1035   Serious/thoughtful quotes
    1076   Recalls
    1232   Generic song note
    1241   Where can I find this toy?

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A request for help:

PARENTING is a wonderfully active file, and this is good, except that this
makes PARENTING a very *large* file.  The NOTED cluster system manager
has asked us to start a new version of PARENTING very quickly, and to 
close this one.  There is also not enough room on NOTED to store our 
last version of PARENTING (PARENTING_V2).

Does anyone have a system where we could store PARENTING_V2?  We may also
need a place for this version of PARENTING.

PARENTING_V2 (write-locked) stands at 70,506 blocks.

PARENTING (current) now has 137,118 blocks.

The advantage to having the previous version online is that there is
a *wealth* of helpful information here that can then be accessed by people
in need.

Can *your* system be utilized?  Please let us know as soon as possible (by
mail).  We would like to start the new file within the week, and we *have*
to close this version by April 9.

Thank you,

        The PARENTING moderators

Tomorrow (Wednesday) the new version of PARENTING will open and this version
will be write-locked and archived.  When you OPEN PARENTING you will
automatically be in the new file.  All of the notes in that file will be dated
on or since April 9, 1992, so when you enter that file you will want to do a:

	NOTES>SET SEEN/BEFORE=09-APR-1992

This allows you to see all of the new notes in the file, which otherwise
would be marked "seen".  When this volume of the file has been moved, we 
will notify you of its new location.  This will allow you to still reference
(though not write to) old notes.

If you would like to continue discussion on a topic from this volume, feel
free to start the conversation again in the new file.  Be sure to read the
new welcome and announcement notes, as a few things have changed.

     Thank you.  We hope you enjoy the new volume

         The PARENTING Moderators