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| 756.1 | | GEEWIZ::BOURQUARD | Deb | Thu Jun 09 1994 15:40 | 11 |
| I always assume it's regressive behavior rather than laziness with
my 22-month old. And I figure if she needs to be babied, then I'll baby her.
Noelle has gone in and out of stages of wanting me to feed her and/or
wanting me to carry her (particularly upstairs). Using utensils seems to be
harder for her than eating with her fingers. If you notice this with
your daughter, maybe providing your daughter with predominantly finger food for
a while might help?
Can you explain more about why you don't want to feed her? Are you concerned
that you're reinforcing dependent behavior? Or are you worried about the
logistics of trying to wolf down your food in between feeding her?
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| 756.2 | this too shall pass | DELNI::DISMUKE | | Thu Jun 09 1994 15:51 | 7 |
| I would feed her. She is just wanting to "be the baby again".
Personally, I've had those days, too.
8^)
-sandy
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| 756.3 | just a phase | ASIC::MYERS | | Thu Jun 09 1994 16:03 | 7 |
| Happens every now and then to my daughter (25 mos). Just this morning
she wrapped her blanket tightly around herself and asked me to carry
her "like a baby." So, I picked her up, rocked her a bit and sang her a
lullaby. It was my pleasure to do it because she's growing up much too
quickly and I miss that completely dependent baby every now and then.
Susan
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| 756.4 | normal in my house | CNTROL::GEARY | | Thu Jun 09 1994 16:25 | 16 |
| My daughter, 20 months does the same thing. Misery loves company?
We have been sitting our daughter inbetween my husband and I and
each feeding her a bite here and there and she does one bite
occasionally inbetween. Once we started offering help she tends
to want to do it more herself but still enjoys a bite here and
there from Mom and Dad. We are looking at it as an advantage to
us now as we can stretch out the amount of time she is willing
to sit in her booster chair at the table before wanting down. I
have also noticed other things that she likes help with now, that
she use to want to do herself, like being carried up and down the
stairs. The sitter hasn't noticed this during the days.
my 2 cents,
lori
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| 756.5 | | TUXEDO::COZZENS | | Thu Jun 09 1994 16:38 | 5 |
| Answer to .1, I don't really want to encourage my feeding her, fearing
that she won't do it on her own and get dependent upon me. (Also, I'd
like to eat while the food is hot :). )
Lisa
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| 756.6 | | DELNI::DISMUKE | | Fri Jun 10 1994 09:01 | 6 |
| Little suggestion...set the food down for her, eat your own meal, then
assist her...even make a game of it. One day she will surprise you and
want to be independent again...it's almost a natural occurance.
-sjd
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| 756.7 | | POWDML::PIMENTEL | | Fri Jun 10 1994 15:47 | 9 |
| Listen to .6 they grow so fast. She won't want you to feed her when
she's 21 so it's okay to feed her now! When they regress it's to look
for some sort of attention or they may have something bothering them
(yes they have feelings too.)
It's okay. She's ok and you're ok. Enjoy her being a baby. My oldest
just got her license!! They do grow before you blink your eyes!!
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| 756.8 | | CSC32::M_EVANS | stepford specialist | Fri Jun 10 1994 16:03 | 9 |
| Also,
I have noticed that kids seem to regress just before making a major
developmental milestone. Seems like the frustration of learning a new
skill causes some regression. I know it seems like they will never
grow out of their dependence on you, but having one who has made it to
20 has taught me they really do grow up.
meg
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| 756.9 | spoonfeeding our 42 mths old ;-) | UTROP1::BEL_M | Michel Bel@UTO - Telecommie | Mon Jun 13 1994 03:18 | 8 |
| And also children regress when they are confused, very tired, or ill.
Ties in with .8 also, as confusion and tiredness may well accompany the
next jump. My 3.5 year old daughter loves to be spoonfed currently
(last few spoons of her meal only luckily). Or telling us "I am a baby.
We'll humour her a bit until it starts to annoy us too much.
It is all part of the heavy job AND funny game of growing up.
Enjoy while it lasts.
Michel
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| 756.10 | Shell' be fine | STOWOA::CAPPEL | | Wed Jun 22 1994 16:43 | 15 |
| If your fear is that she'll become too dependent keep this thought in mind.
It came from Penelope Leach (sp?) regarding toilet training, but I feel
it applies to a lot of things children learn.
She asked How many adults in the audience weren't toilet trained.
Her point was that eventually everyone learns the skills. Go to feeding her
either before or after you eat so that you can enjoy a hot meal. She'll
regain her independence before you know it.
Good luck,
Pam
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| 756.11 | | LJSRV1::LEGER | | Wed Jun 22 1994 17:01 | 15 |
| My babysitter is experiencing this..
She just recetly started watching my son (who is 5 months). Her
daughter is almost 2.
After Shannon (babysitter) gets done feeding Nicholas, Amy (her
daughter) also wants to be fed...and she wants the fruit and cereal
just like Nicholas.
We have talked about it, and I told her it was just a phase. She is a
little jealous becasue he is getting some of the attention, however she
also wants to help her (Shannon) feed him, because she wants to be a
"Big Girl"
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