| Title: | Parenting |
| Notice: | Previous PARENTING version at MOIRA::PARENTING_V3 |
| Moderator: | GEMEVN::FAIMAN Y |
| Created: | Thu Apr 09 1992 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 1292 |
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I have a 1 year old boy.
I realize the way I bring him up is not common for noters from the
U.S.,for instance. But here in Brasil it's not unusual to have nannys -
actually they're called nurses - to sleep with the baby(very
important), take care of his clothes, meals, etc. You don't have to be
rich to have one working in your place from Sunday night until
Saturday morning. My baby's nurse has been with him since the 2 of us
arrived from the hospital.
Needless to say they are very much attached to each other.
However, now that he is already 1 year old I ask myself if it wouldn't
be better for him to spend at least the mornings at a daycare - so
that he would not have her exclusive love/care during that period of
time but would be among other children his age and adults to properly
stimulate him.
My son does go out with his nurse in the mornings and after his nap in
the afternoons and meet other children. But now that the weather is
getting rainny I feel so bad for him staying the whole day in an
apartment and being so full of energy ... He gets crancy ...
His pediatrian says that if we can wait, the best age to start "school"
is 2 so that he wouldn't be so susceptible to viruses ...
Am I getting too much of a guilty working mother?
I would appreciate your opinions.
L�cia
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| 723.1 | CSC32::M_EVANS | stepford specialist | Wed Apr 13 1994 17:06 | 16 | |
Lucia,
I think guilt and working motherhood go together. I can sort of
identify with some of what you go through here, but I went through it
at 1 year when Carrie was in daycare, and I really thought she would be
happier and healthier if I could have her at home. (Massive numbers of
ear infectins, strep and other kid diseases. Finances prevented
either one of us from being able to stay home with her.
this year with Atlehi, I am going through different mother guilt.
Frank has been at home with her, and now she goes to him and not to me
when she is hurt or unhappy. My traditional self feels hurt that papa
is the more important person in her life, even though the rational part
of me says that she is doing what comes naturally to babies.
Meg
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