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| 443.1 | | NODEX::STINSON | "Linda Saisi Stinson...DTN 296-5796" | Tue Feb 09 1993 10:45 | 8 |
| I think that any time that you are willing to spend with the kids
you should. I don't see how you would make it more difficult for
them, unless the parents get jealous of your involvement. I have
heard people who grew up in really bad family situations say
that one person treating them decently or taking an interest in them,
a teacher, a relative, a neighbor, allowed them to survive with some
self-esteem intact.
Linda
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| 443.2 | Spend as much time as you can, sounds like they need it. | EMDS::CUNNINGHAM | | Tue Feb 09 1993 10:54 | 13 |
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and maybe with you taking them as often as you could, may stir up
with the parents a little jealousy, to which they may start to try
a little harder to be more nurturing,interested and caring to the
needs of their children *themselves* if they see that the children
are happy with you...
Good Luck,
The children are lucky to have such a caring/concerned extended
family as yourselves...
Chris
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| 443.3 | | ASABET::TRUMPOLT | Liz Trumpolt - 223-7195, MSO2-2/F3 | Tue Feb 09 1993 11:33 | 30 |
| JR, your situation sounds similar to the one my oldest brother went
through with his xwife. Except his ex had the 3 kids (2 girls & 1 boy)
lived in Arkansa with 3 Mexican brothers (who sexualy molesested all
three children and my sister in law knew but didn't really care. DSS
was called and the kids were taken away from their mother and sent to
Mass to live with my brother. Know there lives are happy and my
brother has a very nice girlfriend who lives with him and the kids and
helps him out. DSS and his social worker are very proud of the
progress that his kids have made. There is only one problem the oldest
(girl) is living with her legal guardians (she is not my brothers
natural child) and their marrage is in shambels and my neice went and
got herself pregnant from what the social worker told my brother. They
are trying to get her life strightend out and get her into a dorm for
College next year.
Is DSS involved in your neices situation at all? If so they might ask
you and your wife if you would like to become foster parents and take
in the girls. This way they will have a stabel home life and this will
also give their father time to strighten out his life so he can give
the girls a better place to live.
I wish you all the best and anytime that you and your family can spend
with these girls will do them a world of good. I know it helped my
brothers kids when my husband and I took them places for the weekend.
all the best.
Liz
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| 443.4 | Biased opinion | NASZKO::DISMUKE | Romans 12:2 | Tue Feb 09 1993 13:07 | 18 |
| If DSS is involved (which I don't think they are by the counds of your
story) then work with them. However, if they are not DON'T START
something that may mushroom into something hard to get rid/out of.
I would continue to be the wonderful aunt and uncle you are and show
them love caring happiness and hope for the best with the parents.
Maybe down the road you can handle doing more for the kids, but unless
you are ready to take on three more kids in your home, I suggest
working with them from where you are.
My girlfriend has her sister's daughter living with them. It is hard
because of the different lifestyles. You can get used to it and make
it work, but that's one kid - you are looking at three!
Good luck and be there for them!
-sandy
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