Conference moira::parenting

    
    I have exactly the same problem with Rasika (4 yrs).  She takes a while
    to really "wake up" in the morning and a while to fall asleep at
    night.  I always wish it was the other way around.  It makes both
    morning and night sooooo difficult. 
    
    As Kate says in .0, How can I help her while maintaining my sanity?
    Desperate for suggestions ....... 
    
    Pam

    Please also reference:
    
    246		Resists Going to Daycare
    122		Toddlers Reaction to Daycare
    
    L
    

                 <<< Note 289.2 by TNPUBS::STEINHART "Laura" >>>
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>>    Please also reference:
>>    
>>    246		Resists Going to Daycare
>>    122		Toddlers Reaction to Daycare
>>    
>>    L
    
    The two notes above seem to reference kids who dawdle/throw tantrums/get 
    sick etc. because they do NOT wish to go where they are to go.  
    
    I am not sure if that is what Kate (.0) is asking, but in my case the issue
    is DAWDLE .. period.  Rasika likes where she has to go; she just does
    NOT WANT TO MOVE in the morning. All thro' summer vacation, the kids 
    have had in-home care.  Rasika gets up around 9 a.m. and will not 
    brush-her-teeth, eat breakfast, change etc. until around 11 am or so unless
    nagged rather relentlessly :-) A couple times, I did not tell her
    anything  and ... she didn't do any part of the routine until 12;30 in 
    the afternoon !! What she does is to play with her 2-yr old sister 
    (who wakes up at 7am and lets us do her routine without any fuss at all.) 
    
    Now that pre-school begins and Rasika is going to be dropped off at 8 am,
    I am dreading the dawdling and the constant "nagging" her to get going.
    She will say, "5 mins and then I will do....", when I remind her in
    5 mins, she gets upset and whines rather loudly. If I get firm with
    her at this point, she will get even more upset and angry and stomp off
    to wherever she has to do the task-on-hand. (E.g, to the bathroom if
    she has to brush her teeth.) Then she will dawdle at teeth-brushing :-)
    
    It takes more than 1 hr of me being constantly with her to get her to
    do very few things - brush her teeth, eat breakfast, change clothes,
    go to the bathroom and leave. 
    
    How can I help to speed her up? Any suggestions parents ???? 
    
    Thanks. 
    
    Pam 

    I didn't mean to imply that either child dawdles because he/she doesn't
    want to go to daycare of school.  Just that it MIGHT be a factor, and
    if so, here's where there's related information.
    
    If it's not a factor, I quote Rosanne Roseannadanna, "Never mind."
    
    L
    

That should be Emily Litella.

On weekdays, Evan (age 4) is not allowed downstairs (where the food and TV are)
until he is dressed.  

Getting him to eat was never much of a problem, but getting him dressed was.  
A couple of times, he went to daycare in his pj's (from a suggestion in this
file) because he wouldn't get dressed. He didn't like it when I threatened him
with it, and I never was the one to have to do this, so it worked well for me. 

(and what's all this fuss about "violins on television?!"
Chevy: "Uh, that's *violence* on television."
Emily: "oh."  (sweet smile) "Nevermind."

     Carol

I think I entered this earlier so there must be a note on it SOMEWHERE :-)

Markus was the same when he started Jardin d'enfants (3 yrs) and this is what
my au pair did.  First she use an egg timer with a loud bell.  Each thing
he had to do was timed and she made a game out of it.  He liked to watch the
timer and wait till the last minute and see if he could beat it.

She also made cute clock faces on large sheets of paper with the hands 
showing the time certain tasks had to be done by.  The tasks were written in
simple French and also shown graphically so he got a French lesson at the
same time.  We got a large clock with big hands so he could compare the 
actual time to the clock faces on the pictures.

After he got into proper school I didn't have this problem any more because
the shame associated with showing up late for school is greater than the 
desire for dawdling.  Occassionally, both boys will try to use the excuse
that they are too late for school to eat breakfast.

By the way, Markus is now the BEST one in the house at getting himself off
for school.  He is there long before school starts so he can play ping-pong!

Cheryl

    RE:  .5
    
    Oh, nevermind.
    
    L