Conference moira::parenting

    
    Why don't you use the Digital Referrel service - they will 
    provide you with agencies.
    

I have used Digital's referral service.  What they do is give you a list of 
agencies, their fees, etc.  They don't provide any "value added" to tell you
who might have a better/worse reputation than others.

Thanks anyway

    The current (June) issue of Working Mother has an article about finding
    in-home child care.  It includes a list of questions that you can ask
    placement agencies to find out if you'ld want to sign up with them.

    I'm looking for a nanny to come to our house(a live-in will also be
    considered) in Marlboro MASS 4-5 days a week to look after an infant and 
    a 2 year old. The two year old will go to school 3 mornings a week so the 
    nanny will also need to pick up the boy from school.
    
    Timeframe is sometime in June 1993. If you know of anyone reliable,
    please write to me at ISLNDS::WOLF. Thanks.
    
    Linda                           

    I'm considering having someone come to my home in Leominster to take
    care of my child.  
    
    The timeframe would be in July'93 and it would be to take care of a
    3 month old from approx 7:30 to 4:30 (Mon-Fri).
    
    If anyone knows of someone who may be interested, please write me
    at USCTR1::SPACY
    
    Thanks
    
    Sue 

    Hello,
    	My wife and I are looking for a livein Nanny. The position
    	is in Pelham NH. Position requires supervision of two older 
    	children, Housekeeping and and evening meal prep. The Nanny
    	will have a full apartment for herself. May work parttime.
    
    	If you know of anyone that may be interested contact us
    	at 603 635-8600
    	
    	steve and roseann

My sitter informed me that she will no longer be taking care of my children
when I come back from maternity leave this fall.  This comes as no surprise
since both children are in school fulltime. I think she feels worse about 
this than I do a moment. I'm sure I'll be in panic city come this fall, 
since I trust her implic with the well being of my children.

We are now researching the possiblity of an au pair or someone coming to
our home during the day this coming September. My sister and brother-in-law
are in their second year of this type of arrangement. My sister will be 
providing me information on the agency she uses out of Washington, D.C.

We are looking for information on other Au Pair agencies, their fees and 
rules as well as any comments.

In addition, on other alternatives that would allow us to keep our 
children in our home during the day.  We will have a 6 year old in first 
grade, 2 1/2 year and a four 1/2 month old this coming September.

We live in Milford, Ma. The hours would be 8:15 am  to 4:30 - 4:45 pm, 
5 days a week.

Thanks,

Pat Koczwara

SELLIT::KOCZWARA or Pat Koczwara @MRO

    Has anyone dealt with Nannies PLUS in Manchester, NH?  (Please reply by
    EMail only, not in PARENTING, thanks.)  
    
    Thanks,
    Laura
    

	My sister and her 5 yr. old son are moving to the Boston
area (Lexington, Newton, Brookline).  She is a single mother and her 
job requires some travel.  She is hoping to find a live-in, possibly 
a graduate student, who would be available to take care of her son 
when she needs to travel.

	She would provide room and board and an agreed upon weekly
payment in exchange for care for her son on an "as needed basis".  
If you know of agencies or other resources that she could use to find 
someone, it would be much appreciated - please send me a note with 
any information.

Thanks

Jon Mysel
LIKERT::MYSEL

    I am looking for a potential live-in for my three Children.  I 
    travel on average one day a week, or have meetings that get me
    home after 6, so I need someone who either would be here at 3
    when they get home and/or could stay over when I travel, or who
    would live in all the time.
    
    I saw one note that suggested a name of someone who would be available
    and will call that person tomorrow.  However, I would be
    interested in either mail, or a reply here from people with
    either friends or relatives in this business that have experience,
    have CPR training, have transportation and like to swim(in the summer)
    ...I have a pool.�We do not smoke or drink in my
    home.  My children are 7,10, 13.
    
    I have investigated and have the list of Nanny agencies that were
    referenced above.  I am considering going that route if I find
    no other connections through this notes file, church connections
    or from some of the local colleges.  It seems, however, that there
    is a lot of competition for this type of service particularly from
    the two breadwinner families that tend to skew the salaries on the
    high end, so I wonder what the sense is from people in this notes
    file that are focused on helping each other.
    
    Jim

   My brother is looking for a Nanny to care for his children in
    Acton.  He has been very happy with the nanny he has had for the past
    year, but she is going back to school.
    
    The details are as follows:
    
    	- Beautiful home in Acton, would prefer a live-in.
    	- The past nanny lived in Acton with the family,
    		access to a car is provided.
    	- Four adorable children (2 are elementary school aged)
    	- The family is lots of fun and very supportive.
    
    If you know of a nanny looking for a warm family to care for, in a
    beautiful town and home environment, please contact:
    
    	John Morris at (508) 897-6634  
    	or send E-mail to:	"[email protected] @decwrl @vmsmail"
    
    
    

  We're currently expecting our first child, and really like the idea of
live-in childcare. We'd very much appreicate any information on au pair
agencies, and experiences good or bad with them. Please send mail to
PASTA::SCOTT

  Thanks in advance!

							Rob

    
    
    Anyone know what the "average" cost of an au pair is?  What is the
    difference between an au pair and a live in nanny?  I'd like to get
    some more information on this topic, if someone can point me in the
    right direction, I'd really appreciate it.
    
    Thanks,
    Stacey
    SCAVAX::WEBSTER
    DTN 223-7240  

   I'm looking for a Nanny to care for my 5-month old daughter.
   We live in Tyngsboro Mass, on the Westford line.
   
   Would prefer live-in as we have plenty of room ;^)

   For more information, please send me e-mail
   at TLE::HAMNETT.

   Lucy

    I am looking for a full time nanny to my Acton home Monday to Frieday,
    7:45 to 6:00, to watch my two children ages 2 years old and 6 months
    old.  I am looking for a non-smoker, and must have reliable
    transportation.  The starting date is the second week of September.
    
    Please reply by MAIL.
    
    Alice Lin   
    wmois::lin_a
    

    LOOKING FOR AU PAIR/NANNY TO LIVE IN MY HOME AND TAKE CARE OF TWO
    GIRLS; AGES 3 1/2 AND 4 MOS..  SOMEONE WITH EXPERIENCE AND DEDICATED
    TO TAKING CARE OF CHILDREN.  I AM LOOKING AT AGENCIES, BUT THEY WANT
    $3,900.  I NEED SOMEONE NO LATER THAN NOVEMBER TO START.  THE TOWN
    IS BERLIN, MASS.  ANY LEADS... PLEASE CALL ME AT DTN 244-7115.  I DON'T
    GET INTO NOTES AT ALL.. I'M JUST TAKING A CHANCE THIS TIME.
    
    THANKS
    
    JUDY SHEA
    

The following is being posted for a member of the PARENTING notesfile
community who prefers to remain anonymous at this time.  If you wish
to contact the author by mail, please send your message to me and I will
forward it to the anonymous noter.  Your message will be forwarded with
your name attached unless you request otherwise.
   
    Carol duBois, PARENTING co-moderator

********************************************

Over the last month, my life went from a hum-drum, 'nothing ever
happens to me' lifestyle to one filled with constant changes
and struggles.    I am asking the parenting community for any
recommendations or help to alleviate my stress level.

It all began Sept 9th.  My husband was told by Corp (non Digital)
that he was being sent to several field jobs across the country
beginning immediately.  Being a N.E. boy, and not wanting the hassle
of traveling and being away from his wife, daughter or mother 
(let alone his well manicured lawn) for
what promised to be months,  he began job interviewing outside his
firm.   He's well connected so finding a job should not have been
a difficult thing, so we thought.   

Sept 14th, his mother had a heart attack and passed away within 36 hours.
(She was 80 and could run circles round me, but she did have an
ongoing heart condition, and was being monitored routinely).
We are dealing with this as well as can be expected.

Because of schedule constraints,  Corp at last forced a decision 
on my husband and he left last week for geographies TBD later.  
He'll be coming home for turkey and Santa and then not
until late spring.  I miss him already. 

Bottom line, my dilemma is I am now acting as a single parent, working a 
new job frequently after hours work (ie 7 pm).
In addition, I must complete a major project  (requiring many 
meetings and planning amongst several functions) by May.  
I also must sell our current home (on the  market now) while 
attempting to  cleaning MIL's house so we can move in.  
Furnishings of both houses will have to be consolidated under one
roof (major crisis!!).  And do we have furniture...     

i am considering asking a college student  who can serve many
functions similar to a live in nanny.  I would need this
person late afternoons, evenings especially and at least 1 weekend
day, possibly all w/e from Jan-May.  Roles are specifically,

   - Begin dinner and clean up afterwards
   - Light housekeeping  
   - Bathe and put daughter to bed
   - Available all weekends from Jan-May while I work
   - Pick up at daycare (Harvard area) 2-3 times per week

No care during week days would be needed unless day care closed
due to holidays or school cancellations, or daughter is sick and can't
go to school (occasional cold...).

I would consider either having a student live in free of charge
or pay that person if they did not live in, as long as responsbilities
are met.   Locale is Burlington/Lexington area.

My daughter and I are now our only nearby family - others are elderly
or far away.  Friends could help, but asking for help like this
daily would tax friendships or neighbors.

Can anyone recommend  solutions I haven't considered or offer 
names of interested parties.  I will try nanny agencies as well 
so I can get ball rolling.

Many thanks - 
'Hanging in there'!  

    I did exactly this kind of work when I was in college. I don't recall
    the type of agency I went though to get these positions (I had 2 homes
    in 3 years) but they were an agency that would post ads on college
    bulletin boards. The deal was free room and board in exchange for child
    care and light household chores. In one family I did the shopping and
    made the meals, I had a car made available to me to do the shopping and
    bring the children places (3 young boys). My commitment extended to
    ever other weekend. Your plan sounds very workable based on what I'd
    done. 

    I suppose the families that I lived with paid some sort of placement
    fee, I paid nothing, but saved 5K year with the free board, a much
    more valuable commodity to me than a token pay check. As it was I also
    worked 20 hours outside the home for a pay check. I suppose you could
    attempt to post adds yourself, but it may be a lot of work to achieve
    the coverage an agency has. 

    If the yellow pages are of no help in locating such an agency, try some
    college career center/job placement offices for colleges in your area.
    I happened to have gone to Bentley in Waltham, and Waltham is commutable
    to Burlington. 
    
    Good luck,
    
    Gail

	Tufts had a listing of such jobs in it's career center, too, and
	is commuting distance to Burlington.

	Perhaps a few phone calls to area colleges would help!

	Karen

Digital contracts with FamilyWorks to help employees find day care options
that are right for them. The cost is free (though I suppose Digital pays).
I am using them now and find the information very useful. Call personnel and
ask for their number (I don't have it with me at the moment.) Good luck!

-Jeff

    We're looking for a live-in or live-out nanny to look after our 3 month
    old daughter, Monday through Friday.
    
    We live in Dunstable, MA (just south of Nashua, NH).
    
    If you know of anyone, please contact me at CSCMA::WONG.
    
    Thanks,
    Maureen
    
    

                Experienced Live-out Nanny Needed
    
    I just got word that my nanny is moving onto other careers.  So now I
    need to replace her.  
    
    Please if anyone has any names...I am looking for:
    
    *  Experience required
    *  Non-smoker
    *  Must provide her own transporation
    *  Healthy
    *  References required
    
    
    Benefits are provided.  2-week paid vacation.
    
    Please call or send mail
    
    Peg Donovan
    DTN 264-4129
    (outside)  603-884-4129
    MKOTS3::DONOVAN
    
    (home)  603-483-2401
    

    Have you considered an aupair??

    Have you contacted any of the Aupair agencies. I have used EF Aupair
    with outstanding results. 1-800-333-6056. 7exit
    

    I had 8 au pairs in just over 3 years..and some months had no au pairs.
    
    be careful. My experience with 2 different agencies is that you can
    luck out and have a happy child (2 of mine stayed the full year) and
    you can be very unlucky. The girls don't always know what they are
    getting themselves into, don't always take house rules seriously, and
    often think that if it doesn't work out they can just change families.
    Unfortunately, becasue of supply and demand issues, agencies do
    reassign au pairs and keep trying rather than send them home.
    
    As I said, I had 2 good experiences and would be happy to have either
    of those girls back again...and, even, one of the others who decided to
    go home after a month..

    I am looking for a nanny to take care of my 2 children in
    Shrewsbury, starting at the end of this month or early 
    September.
    My current nanny is going back to school.
    My boys are 4.5 and 8 month old. The older one will be
    in kindergarden next year.
                             
    Amal Kassatly  
    DTN: 841-3851
    E-mail: mpgs::kassatly

We are looking for a live-out nanny for our 4-month-old daughter. Here are some of the particulars: 

	- Monday-Thursday, 8-6; must be available an occasional Friday

	- Non-smoker

	- Infant and nanny experience required

	- Must have reliable transportation

	- Paid vacation and holidays

If you have any recommendations, please mail them to me. 

Thanks,

Kate Thompson
xirtlu::katet
381-2753