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Title:Meower Power - Where Differing Opinions are Respected
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Moderator:JULIET::CORDES_JA
Created:Wed Nov 13 1991
Last Modified:Fri Jun 06 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1079
Total number of notes:28858

677.0. "Goodbye with love" by NRSTA2::BACHELDER () Thu Dec 09 1993 15:27

	I lost the most precious gift I've ever been given.  My cat Mister
	Boobin.  Actually he was introduced in note 14.86 as Boo Boo Kitty, 
	but my 'pet' name for him was Mister Boobin.

	I'm still angry over the whole ordeal and still feel responsible.
	I feel I was given this beautiful little gift from God and it was
	taken away from me all too quickly.

	He left me a month ago today, and a day hasn't gone by that I
	haven't wept for him.  It's so hard for me to explain just how 
	much he meant to me, but let's just say he meant the world to me.

	Mister Boobin came into my life when he was approximately 6 weeks
	old, weighing only .75 of a pound.  He was abandoned in a car.  I
	took him in and vowed to love him and take care of him forever.
	Well, he would have been 3 in February....not quite forever enough
	for me.

	I had Ebony at the time.  She was six months old and hated Boo Boo.
	She terrorized him for 4 months, until finally they became the best
	of friends.  She has definitely felt the loss.  For 2 days after his
	death she threw up and other unpleasant things.  She's better now,
	but still misses her friend.

	Boobin was that one special cat the took over my heart.  I don't 
	think I'll ever have another Boobin.  When he was little, Ebony was
	so jealous that she would never let him get too close to me, so 
	instead he became my shadow.  He never did turn into the lap cat
	he always wanted to be (Ebony never would have allowed it).  He 
	followed me everywhere always looking for attention (which he got 
	tons of).

	Boobin was definitely my cat.  He trusted noone but me.  There are
	people in my family who didn't believe I had two cats, because 
	anytime they came around, he would run and hide.

	I didn't realize that I needed him as much as he needed me.  It was
	nice to have something to nurture.

	I really miss that little furball.  I miss his big, bright yellow
	eyes, I miss sharing spaghetti with him, I miss his nightly ritual
	of suckling my arm before he fell asleep at my side, I miss not 
	seeing him in *his* chair, and I especially miss his love.

	I think the thing that bothers me the most about his death, was that
	it was so violent.  He was such a gentle soul that he didn't deserve
	to go in pain.  You see, my little Boobin was killed by a dog.  

	Mister Boobin *loved* to be outside, but he was an indoor-only cat, 
	with the exception of a supervised jaunt outside on a harness and a 
	leash.  Except.... having done this for over two years and never 
	seeing any dogs, I began to feel it was safe to leave him unsupervised
	.....wrong.  It was a fluke, an accident that never should have 
	happened, but it did.

	I saw it and it was horrible.  My precious little Boobin hanging out
	of that dogs mouth.  Talk about hysterical.  I don't remember much of
	that day.  When we got back from the vet the !@#$*% dog was still in
	the yard.  My fiance Stephen, God bless him, caught the dog and brought
	him to the vets.  The vet knew whose dog it was.  The woman ended up
	calling me and was sincerely sorry, but I could not give her 
	forgiveness.

	My heart still aches for him and a day doesn't go by that I don't cry 
	over the loss and the emptiness it left behind.  I don't know what I'm 
	going to do without that little ray of sunshine in my life.

	Sorry this is so long, but I'm hoping that by getting it out it will
	help me heal.  Stephen has been SUPER.  He's wept his tears too, but
	he's found a way to let go.  I have not.

	Good-bye my forever friend, my shadow.  I love you with all my heart
	and soul.

    				Boo Boo Kitty
    			February 1991 - Nov. 11 1993
    
	- Mom

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677.1PARITY::DENISEAnd may the traffic be with youThu Dec 09 1993 16:018
    How unspeakably terrible!  I am so sorry to read your story.  Poor
    baby! I offer my deepest condolences.  I will tell my guys when I
    get home.  I have 10 cats right now, a couple of which want me to
    let them out, but I'm so scared to.  Dogs are so unpredictable.
    I hope your story helps someone else, maybe prevent another very
    very sad story.
    Thank you for sharing your sorrow.
    Denise
677.2JUPITR::KAGNOFri Dec 10 1993 06:1010
    I am very sorry to hear of Boobin's passing.  He was loved right up
    until the very end so please don't admonish yourself... there is no
    blame to bear.  This was a very unfortunate incident.  If anyone is to
    blame, it is the woman who let her dog roam unleashed and unsupervised.
    
    You have been through a terrible ordeal, but time does help the bad
    feelings to pass.
    
    -Roberta
    
677.3Deepest sympathiesFRSBEE::DREYERJingle my bells!Fri Dec 10 1993 06:1124
What a heart wrenching story.  My deepest sympathies are with you.  I love to
see my cats romping outside, but have changed my mind after losing two cats as
 a result of being run over by cars, Sabrina being viciously attacked by two 
Shephards (she pulled through though),  Sabrina eating some sort of poison 
outside (she pulled through again after several weekes of force feeding), and 
Buki's latest cat fight about 3 months ago (he came back all cut up and 
developed an infection and very high temperature the next day, but is fine 
today after the proper care and medication).  My latest addition, Gypsy also
showed signs of violent fights from outside, one ear had two punctures clear
through, and one food had a slice of skin missing.  I don't know about the rest
of his body, since I have't been able to feel him!

My cats are all indoor cats now.  Buki hollered constantly for 2 1/2 months, but
seems to have accepted it now.  Sabrina hardly ever went out anymore anyway, 
after the incident with the dogs she preferred staying in on her own.

I also blamed myself for my Tiki's death and Mushi's death, which makes it
harder. Please try to tell yourself that it was an accident, it was not your
fault.  You would never had intentionally let any harm come to him.  It's a
really hard way to learn a very painful lesson, and I really feel your pain
having been through it.

Hugs,
Laura
677.4I'm so sorry for your losePNEUMA::AIKEYFri Dec 10 1993 06:1315
    
    I would like to send my condolences too.  Not only did you lose your
    baby, but to have to see it happen.  I can not imagine what I would
    have done.
    
    I know that this may not help, but I would like to say that Boo Boo
    kittie knew that you loved him very very much.  In the short time that
    he spent with you he knew so much love.
    
    
    Please take care in knowing that Boo Boo is with all of the other
    furfaces in heaven....
    
    *joyce  
    
677.5I'm so very sorry.....STUDIO::COLAIANNII have PMS and a handgun ;-)Fri Dec 10 1993 06:1910
    
    I'm so sorry about your horrible ordeal! Please give yourself and Ebony
    hugs from me and my crew. That was a lovely tribute to your boy.
    
    Mister Boobins aka Boo Boo Kitty will be added to the Silver Lining
    Memorial.
    
    Love,
     
     Yonee
677.6In sympathy...WECARE::FALLONFri Dec 10 1993 06:3012
    Thank you for sharing your story with us.  I offer you my sympathy and 
    hope that in time you won't blame yourself so much for this
    unfortunate accident.  It was not your fault.  I had a little puppy
    once that eventually lived to 13 years.  Anyway, she was hit by a car
    following a bigger dog.  Anyway, I felt responsible.  She had a lot
    of damage to her rear hip.  THe man that hit her stopped and said he
    was sorry.  A week later he came over to see how she was and gave
    me a plant.  I thought it was a nice gesture.
    
    Poor BooBoo, poor mom.
    Sincerely,
    Karen
677.7NETWKS::GASKELLFri Dec 10 1993 07:0218
    Boy, this is close to home.  I lost two, possibly three cats to a
    neighbors dog.  When we almost lost a fourth I got a gun license and
    was prepared to shoot the dog if it came in my yard again.  I am angry
    to say that the owners didn't give a dam about what their dogs were
    doing.  I too felt responsible, the signs were there if I had taken the
    time to read them: dog paw prints around the cat window, the cats were
    reluctant to go out and were nervous.  I will never be as blind again.  
    
    No, there will never be another Mister Boobin, but there will be other
    cats that catch onto your heart.  I thought there would never be
    another Miss Moffet and for two years there wasn't.  No I have a 
    little scrap of black female cathood called Ninja who is fast becoming 
    to mean as much to me, only in a different way.
    
    I sympathize with what you are going through.  Just hang on to the
    thought that while he was alive you gave him the best life any kitty
    could wish for.  He was loved and loved back, and is still being loved
    even though he's gone.  
677.8Sympathies...SALEM::SHAWFri Dec 10 1993 07:026
    
    
        I hope that the sweet memories will over shadow the horrible 
        ending. My deepeset sympathies.
    
        Shaw
677.9I'm So SorryCSLALL::MHOLMESFri Dec 10 1993 08:106
    I am sitting here in tears.  Please know how very sorry I am for your
    loss.  I know what it's like to lose a pet you love, though I have
    never had an experience even close to yours.  Our thoughts and
    sympathies are with you.  
    
    Marilyn, Alan, and Tigger
677.10LJSRV2::FEHSKENSPlease note change of NODEFri Dec 10 1993 08:2214
    
    What a terrible thing to witness.  It's hard enough to lose a cat even
    when you know it's coming (e.g., old age), but the losses that hurt
    most are of innocents to senseless violence.  Our hearts go out to you,
    and may your memories of your little friend be of his happiness with
    you and not his last moments.
    
    What little condolence it might be - when animals are preyed on, they
    go into shock almost immediately and are unaware of what's happening
    to them.  And you are not responsible for someone else's negligence
    in controlling their own animal.
    
    len.
      
677.11what an awful thingRHETT::LACORTIFri Dec 10 1993 10:587
    That would be my worse nightmare. Mine goes outside, but I worry
    everyday.  He loves it too much for me to convert him, but my
    next one will be indoors. Today it is raining and he is indoors
    and safe.  This morning he wanted out so by he grabbed me by the
    teeth and tried to pull me out of bed, like "heh mom, let me out!"
    	I cant really begin to imagine how you feel. I would not have
    forgiven the dog owner.
677.12MAYES::MERRITTKitty CityTue Dec 14 1993 05:1910
        I'm so sorry for your loss of Boo Boo kitty.   Even though
        his life was cut short...you gave him a wonderful happy 3    
        years.  If he hadn't found you...his life probably would have
        been only 6 - 7 weeks so please remember the quality of life
        you gave each other!
    
    
        Cherish those beautiful memories...
    
        Sandy
677.13Thanks...NRSTA2::BACHELDERWed Dec 15 1993 14:268
    Thank you all for your nice words.  It's so nice to have this forum of
    caring individuals who understand how much one can love a pet. 
    
    The guilt is the hardest thing to get over.  And the image of the
    tragedy is still there, burned into my brain.  I'm hoping that with 
    time I'll be able to shake both, and remember the happy memories.
    
    - Lauri
677.14I"M SO SORRYAIMHI::OFFENWed Jan 12 1994 14:5112
    I'm so sorry you lost your *soul-mate*, especially the way you did.  I
    know how horrible the scene was because I encountered it also, except
    my baby was mauled by 3 dogs, not 1.  He survived.
    
    My Thunder is my *soul-mate* and I don't know what I will do when her
    time comes.  I have such special feelings for her even though I have 5
    other cats.  
    
    My heart goes out to you.
    
    Sandi, Mom to 6 wonderful babies