| Title: | Discussions from a Christian Perspective |
| Notice: | Prostitutes and tax collectors welcome! |
| Moderator: | CSC32::J_CHRISTIE |
| Created: | Mon Sep 17 1990 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 1362 |
| Total number of notes: | 61362 |
Honesty dictates that we provide a place for those who have a less than satisfactory relationship with their mother or father. It may be that some feel a little hypocritical about celebrating Mother's Day or Father's Day. Some may have had toxic parents. Some may not be the parents they hoped to be for their own children. Since this is a public forum, I don't anticipate anyone coming forward with the issues they're dealing with concerning their parents. However, I do wish to acknowledge and affirm such persons. When I had children of my own, I quickly figured out that my parents didn't have a clue. They made plenty of mistakes, as I can see so clearly now that I've has a chance to make a few mistakes as a parent. I have forgiven my parents for being human and fallible and I've repeatedly asked my children for their forgiveness for my shortcomings and imperfections. Shalom, Richard
| T.R | Title | User | Personal Name | Date | Lines |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 916.1 | JULIET::MORALES_NA | Sweet Spirit's Gentle Breeze | Mon May 09 1994 00:40 | 1 | |
Interesting topic considering the note I put in CHRISTIAN yesterday. | |||||
| 916.2 | JUPITR::HILDEBRANT | I'm the NRA | Mon May 09 1994 10:26 | 9 | |
I have very difficult feelings about my parents. Even though my father
is long gone....his memories and the way he shaped my life continues.
By the way, I'm trying to remove most of the way he shaped my life.
Even though I remember the mistakes he made with me, I find myself
repeating those same mistakes with my children. That fact makes me more
upset than anything else.
Marc H.
| |||||
| 916.3 | AKOCOA::FLANAGAN | Resident Alien | Mon May 09 1994 12:05 | 11 | |
I participated in a course at Emmanuel titled "Images of God".
One of the scary things about the course the acknowledgement that our
image of God is formed during the time from 6month prenatal to about 1
year of age based on the quality of the parenting from our primary
caregiver.
This really points out why children from abusive homes can have real
difficulties with their spirituality.
Patricia
| |||||
| 916.4 | Mom's Touch | CSC32::J_CHRISTIE | Copernicus 3:16 | Mon May 09 1994 12:45 | 19 |
"We have the notion that our parents were born as adults. Frequently, people believe their parents were in charge of themselves when they had children, they knew what they were doing and however they acted toward their children, they did so intentionally. If you're a mother, you had an idea of how you thought your offspring ought to have turned out. All parents do. If your children fail to live up to your image, you may blame them. You may also blame yourself, believing you were inept or inadequate as a parent. As a son or daughter, you may have felt thousands of different emotions about your mom through the years. Whatever emotions you have about your mother today, it is important to resolve negative, resentful or angry emotions you may harbor, even if your mother is dead. If you don't, you will find those emotions seeping into your intimate romantic relationships. They will inhibit your ability to trust and love." from the Denver Post Magazine, May 9, 1993 (yes, last year) | |||||
| 916.5 | CSC32::J_CHRISTIE | Copernicus 3:16 | Wed May 11 1994 19:35 | 45 | |
From Nathaniel Brandon's "If You Could Hear What I Cannot Say." o You often gave me the feeling that I... o When you touched or held me I felt... o You gave me the sense that my body was... o You gave me the sense that sex was... o You gave me the view that men are... o You gave me the view that women are... o You gave me the view that love is... o What it was like for me growing up was... o Some of the ways I'm still trying to win your approval are... o You speak through my voice when I tell myself... o One of the way I have of getting back at you is... o What pleases you about the way I turned out? o What do you like about me? o What do you love about me? o When I contemplate your influence on my life and development... o One of the things I'd like you to know about me is... o One of the things I'd like to be valued and appreciated for is... o Some of the ways I'm like you are... o What I admire and respect you for is... o The ways I'd like our relationship to change are... | |||||