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Conference lgp30::christian-perspective

Title:Discussions from a Christian Perspective
Notice:Prostitutes and tax collectors welcome!
Moderator:CSC32::J_CHRISTIE
Created:Mon Sep 17 1990
Last Modified:Fri Jun 06 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1362
Total number of notes:61362

243.0. "Spiritual Director" by CSC32::J_CHRISTIE (Proud Sponsor FAWoL) Mon May 27 1991 18:53

Some traditions have, or have had in the past, a role termed "Spiritual
Director" or "Mentor."  Why would you want or not want to have a Spiritual
Director?  What are the benefits or disadvantages of having a Spiritual
Director?

This topic for discussing the concept of Spiritual Directors.

Peace,
Richard
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243.1Some things we'd never know unless we were told, I believe in GodSWAM1::DOTHARD_STPLAYTOEFri May 31 1991 15:4122
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    I would say that Spiritual "Director" is too much, but "mentor" is
    about right.  I don't think any person should submit their mind, thus
    their life, totally to another, as "Director" denotes to me.  
    
    However, I would say that every one requires a "mentor" at some time in
    their lives.  I think the scriptures NT says something about "being
    under teachers and governors" for awhile.  
    
    The reason and benefit of having a mentor, teacher, etc. is the reason
    seeds need a planter.  No seed is technically "self planted", even
    falling from the tree, or an exploding pod, requires wind and other
    factors to get the seed in a place where it may grow, but such are wild
    plants, like the "wild olive tree".  The good olive tree, is planted by
    someone and watered and nurtured til it bears fruit.  Anyway, what I'm
    trying to say is sometimes it takes another to introduce thoughts and
    perceptions that we would never have come to on our own.  As it is
    written, "How can they believe in whom they have not heard, and how can
    they hear without preacher."
    
    Playtoe
243.2Wherever 2 or more are gatheredCSC32::J_CHRISTIEHumanFri May 31 1991 21:3215
Playtoe,

	You know, last night I nearly deleted this note since it drew no
interest.

	I believe a Spiritual Director or Mentor, as you prefer, can be
an enormous benefit.  Such a person may not necessarily tell you what you
need to do or where you need to be spiritually, but such a person can ask
probing and stimulating questions which may facilitate in discovering for
yourself what you need to do and where you need to be spiritually.

	A solid rapport and mutual trust are essential.

Peace,
Richard
243.3I never thought rapport and trust...I needed to grow!SWAM1::DOTHARD_STPLAYTOEMon Jun 03 1991 19:5017
    RE: 2
    
    Yes, I agree, having a Mentor can be an enormous benefit.
    
    I'm stilling thinking about whether a "solid rapport and mutual trust"
    are essential.  In my experience with mentors, it was only necessary
    that they have the knowledge I needed and be willing to share it.  I
    think a rapport developed once I began to find the growth and
    development I hoped for, but trust was something that I didn't totally
    have (never that comfort zone), but more than this I began to feel a
    great admiration and honor for the person, because they were able to
    help me grow and develop.  But to say "rapport and trust", doesn't
    quite capture the unconditional nature of mentorship.  
    
    I don't know, maybe I'm being argumentative on this...
    
    Playtoe