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| 877.1 | | LEDS::BATES | | Fri Sep 30 1988 14:29 | 26 |
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There is a roughly analogous situation in my life.
Twelve years ago, I met a man for whom I felt an instant and
inexplicable attraction - although attraction is much too weak a
word. He in turn reciprocated my feelings. We began a relationship
that transcended many barriers and differences : distance (he lives in
Italy), culture, beliefs, temperaments. Yet as time passed, we
both recognised that something kept us together, linked in a way
that both of us described as being 'not of this world'. Oh, yes.
He is thirty years older than I.
When I first asked about us from a friend who does readings, she
did a quick astrological scan, While admittedly superficial,
it revealed even in its general form some surprising correlations,
with a final message that there was much balance between us. What
his chart 'lacked', as it were, mine supplied. And vice versa.
Moreover, it was clear that we had many other links between us,
astrologically speaking, and that we were and would be teacher and
student for the other.
We were apart for seven years, and last year reconnected. I'm now
convinced that there are many lessons forthcoming from/for both
of us, and that it would be valuable to learn in greater detail,
astrologically, how our lives mesh.
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| 877.2 | Synastry | NATASH::BUTCHART | | Fri Sep 30 1988 15:00 | 66 |
| There are almost always significant astrological links existing
between people who, no matter what, keep ending up together. My
own husband and I have a lot of astrological connections. We were
born on opposite sides of the globe from each other (Washington
D.C. and American Samoa), met in Hawaii while much too young (14),
dated in high school, went to college in separate places, kept getting
back together, married when college finished and have been here
ever since.
Synastry (the astrological study of relationships) is enormously
complex. Here are main factors I analyze when looking at a
relationship:
1) 7th Houses. What sign is on the cusp of each person's 7th House?
What planets are in each person's 7th House? Does the partner
somehow have those energies in his/her chart? Example: I have
Jupiter in Pisces in my 7th House; my husband is a Pisces Sun
with Sagittarius (Jupiter's sign) rising. He has Uranus in
Cancer in his 7th House; I have Aquarius (Uranus' sign) on my
own 7th House cusp.
2) Affinities. The main compatibility factors, I now feel, are
indicated primarily by what are called "affinities" between
charts. These show up similar character traits. Examples:
.0's says that both she and her SO have their Suns in their
3rd Houses. Or: I have Saturn in my 2nd House; my husband
has Capricorn (Saturn's sign) on the cusp of his 2nd House.
3) Interaspects. The aspects between one person's set of planets
and the other's planets shows the type of attraction and inter-
action that exists between two people. It becomes clear from
studying the interplay between interaspects and affinities that
some people are tremendously attracted to each other, but are
not at all "compatible", or similar. The most frequently
occurring aspect often indicates the type of attraction. Con-
junctions are especially potent, as they indicate a union with
one part of a person's soul with another's.
Lunar node interaspects are also important, and, yes, I feel
they indicate relationships where the partners have come together
to learn lessons. Example: my husband's Jupiter (his chart
ruler, since he has Sag rising) is conjunct my own North Node.
One really potent kind of interaspect is when two people's
planets form an aspect configuration, such as a shared Grand
Trine, or T-Square, or Yod, or Grand Square, etc. This is
often the mark of a relationship that makes the two people
feel "complete". Example: my husband and I have T-Squares
that lock together, forming a Grand Square. We each have
planets in the "holes" of the other's chart.
4) "In each other's house." Where do the other person's planets
fall in the houses of your own chart (and vice versa)? This
shows what areas of your life are affected by them, and, to
a certain extent, how.
5) The composite chart. This shows the relationship as an entity
in its own right. When analyzing the composite chart, I now
analyze interaspects between each person's planets and the
composite planets; it shows how each one feels about the
*relationship*, as opposed to only how they feel about each
other. Example: our composite Moon falls in the area of my
own chart to form a Grand Square out my natal T-Square. Potent
stuff indeed...
Marcia
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| 877.3 | am | SEINE::RAINVILLE | Bright as a small appliance bulb! | Sat Oct 01 1988 04:09 | 20 |
| When I was 25, my Libra wife threw a surprise keg party for my
'quarter-century' birthday. During the ensuing 24-hour bash, we
discovered that all my close male friends were born in November.
Not surprisingly, an annual 'Scorpio party' became part of that
mountain society's ritual. Moving several times in the ensuing
decacades, changing towns, occupations, companions, it has
happened again and again that I discover a year or two after
'finding' men I seem to be able to laugh with, that we are all
born in November. Many of her family and close friends are
October people. We're given to understand that, to some degree,
opposites attaract, for those who are naturally intimate.
As a Scorpio, I'm overly sure of what to do or decide, long before
I've thought about alternatives. She cannot make a decision without
considering all alternatives (endlessly it seems to me ;-) ), and
the impact of her decisions on everyone affected. I have a 'Damn
the torpedos' attitude...We seem to complement each other well,
I cannot imagine life without her. But at work, I seem to fall
in with people more like myself, menatlly and astrologically...MWR
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| 877.4 | Replies | LEDS::CARDILLO | | Mon Oct 03 1988 10:45 | 31 |
| .1 Thanks for sharing. After hearing about your 30 year age
difference, eighteen doesn't seem soooo bad. I'd be interested in
knowing how you progress. I feel that we, too, are in a
teacher/student relationship, but we shift roles. He has never
had a serious relationship, and I have had many, so I am able to
be the teacher there. He, on the other hand, has a unique lifestyle
andway of dlooking atthings that inspires me to let go of some of
my "old baggage." Without calling himself a spiritual person, he
has a positive attitude towards life and draws to himself good fortune
and good people. Right now, its a growing relationship.
.2 Thanks for all the detailed information. I had a synestry chart
done with the first incorrect birthtime, so it is more or less
inaccurate. In trying to compare our charts now, I still have a
question that the books I've read haven't made clear. Do you line
up the charts according to sign or house?
.3 Since I've been separated (April), every man (except for my
b.f.) was either a Scorpio or had a Moon in Scorpio. I had never
really come across any Scorpios before. I think it may have had something
to do with my level of intensity during this time, attracting other
intense people. My b.f. "only" has Neptune in Scorpio which is
square with his Leo Sun. I was told that this accounted for his
heavy involvement with drugs when he was a teenager. I also have
my Gemini square with Neptune in Libra.
The more I learn about Astrology, the more I realize I have to learn.
synestry, it d
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| 877.5 | | WILLEE::FRETTS | Love our Mother Earth | Mon Oct 03 1988 10:51 | 10 |
| RE: .4
> The more I learn about Astrology, the more I realize I have to learn.
Isn't *that* the truth!
Carole
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