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855.1 | Dealing with it. | PBSVAX::COOPER | Topher Cooper | Mon Sep 12 1988 17:45 | 39 |
| I think that it is irrelevant to you whether "it" is "real" or
"imaginary". Don't worry about a meaningless distinction. Whatever
its nature, it is upsetting you -- *that* is the problem.
Whatever the nature of such manifestations, it is very, very rare
for any damage to occur *except* that caused by the fear of the
"living" residents (poltergeist phenomena is different; but even
then the actual damage is relatively slight, usually it is just
prankish, this is more in the nature of a haunting). Nothing you
have described indicates any sinister intent. I would suspect that
your negative feelings are due to a fear of the unknown and an
interpretation of the manifestation as an unwanted (and thus
potentially dangerous) intruder.
Actually, the presence belongs there (in whatever sense the presence
is "there") as much as you do. He (I assume masculinity on the
basis of several characteristics you describe) is not an intruder
in any meaningful sense, any more than you are.
It is, of course, easy for me to say "Come to terms with your fear"
but it is far from a easy thing to do. All I can say is to try.
The next time it happens, examine your feelings. Ask yourself,
"OK, he is here, but *why* am I afraid?".
If you are unable to resolve your fear (for whatever reason) you
can simply ask him to leave. Whatever these manifestations are
this works a good number of times. The next time it occurs after
you decide that he is to leave, simply say out loud (however, silly
you feel) something to the effect of "I'm sorry, I don't know what
you want, but this is my apartment, and you are scaring me. Please
leave." Alternately, you might suggest a compromise -- conditions
under which he *is* welcome to manifest -- if he "plays by the rules"
to a reasonable extent than you can assume a reasonable degree of
non-malevolence and you may feel quite a bit safer. Believe me,
this really does work frequently.
Hope this helps. Let us know how it turns out.
Topher
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855.2 | | DECWET::MITCHELL | The Cosmic Anchovy | Tue Sep 13 1988 05:41 | 8 |
| RE: .0
Great. Just the kind of story I want to read before going to bed.
:-)
Seems to me something that wanted to scare you wouldn't say "Hi."
John m.
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855.3 | Be strong not stricken | UBOHUB::HOOD_S | | Tue Sep 13 1988 06:04 | 46 |
|
Mrs. T,
I really feel very sorry for you - not because of any harm the "entity"
might bring to you or your house as I certainly agree with Topher
that is is virtually unheard of for any thing of this sort to cause
a great degree of trouble - but because it must be absolutely
PETRIFYING for you.
I can really only say, as Topher does, try to rationalise BEFORE
the man makes himself known to you - where does he come from, what
does he want, who is he and is there anything perhaps you can do
to help him. I know it might sound silly but from reading your
note my first impression was that he is lonely and is drawn to you
because you are a woman. Has your husband experienced anything
in connection with this "entity"? It sounds more as if the man
is attached to you and perhaps follows you about the house at times
(protective towards you? attracted to you? you remind him of a loved
one?)
Obviously you must take care dabbling in things of a psychic nature
as we all do, but maybe you (with someone with you for support)
could sit in the room/area of the house you think in which his presence
is most often felt and ask - out loud - some questions as above
(i.e., who is he?) and see if you get any response.
You mention the antique bed - any chance of looking up it's history
who it belonged to, is it a family heirloom of some kind which this
man may be attached to? How old is the house and is there anyone
who could help you with the history of the building and it's families?
What about the agent (or whoever) you bought it from - any clues
there I wonder?
I wish you the best of luck in getting peace of mind as it must
be very worrying for you. But, please, try not to be afraid - so
far every indication has been that he does not mean any harm to
you at all and the incident with the "hi" in your ear and the "balloon"
do not conjur up any images of someone 'bad' or 'nasty' in any way.
Keep us all informed (are there any DEJAVUERS who live near enough
to you to keep you company while you are alone some evenings or
weekends while you are coming to terms with "him")?
Sandy.
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855.4 | "T" could stand for lots of things... | WRO8A::WARDFR | Going HOME--as an Adventurer | Tue Sep 13 1988 13:24 | 13 |
| re: .0 and former .4
Oops! I didn't read it carefully enough...and got Linda (whom
I don't know) confused with Tami (whom I do.) Sorry about that.
Anyway, I don't usually get involved with these events since
I have no expertise here, although I will stand by saying that there
is an emotional issue here that is very important to deal with.
Based on what so many others have reported, Topher's advice is
probably worth utilizing. And I still think that you should be
optimistic.
Frederick
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855.5 | have a yard sale | SHRFAC::ADAMSM | | Tue Sep 13 1988 13:43 | 8 |
|
Topher's advice does not seem appropriate in this instance. It's
like asking a claustrophobic to man an elevator. This person
obviously is in great fear and should, in my opinion, opt for
a more rational approach like selling the old bed or at least
putting it in storage. From her message, I detect this to be the
cause or it wouldn't have been mentioned. The subconcience often
"knows and tells" the origin of these events.
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855.6 | I hope it's Memorex... | JULIET::THOMPSON_LI | I'm Mrs.T, don't mess with me | Tue Sep 13 1988 14:29 | 43 |
| .1, Topher:
Thanks, but if I KNEW it was imaginary, I think I would feel much
better about it. Anyway, I've gotten the same advise from some
other people I know so it must be good advise. I don't know if
I could actually confront this "whatever" - the Catholic church
is very against anyone messing around with this sort of thing....it
makes me think there must be a reason for their concern :-{
It has often frustrated me because I would like to know more about
whatever this is...when it happens, but I'm always to scared at
that time to say or do anything.
When I came home from work yesterday, my husband had the antique
bed taken apart and in storage. We're going to see if it makes
a difference.
.1 John:
I agree. I have thought of that before. If this "whatever" said
"hi" and not "I'm going to rip your lips off" I really don't feel
I'm in any immediate danger.....it's just the *not knowing* or even
*not understanding* that scares me the most I suppose.
.2 Sandy:
I do intend on checking into the history of the bed. My husbands
sister got it from a friend who stored it in her garage for a long
time & then told her to keep it - he didn't have use for it. I
believe however, it was purchased at an antique store in San Fran
where she worked some time ago. I'll let you all know what I find
out - if anything.
The apartment building isn't *that* old. My guess would be 20-25
years...I'm not sure. I don't think anyone currently living there
has been there long enough to have any knowledge of its history.
.4 Frederick:
One more strike and youre out, my dear! It's Lisa, not Linda! Thanks
for your support though! (WHO/WHAT is Fred-the-goblin-stuffer?)
Mrs. T.
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855.7 | Dealing. | PBSVAX::COOPER | Topher Cooper | Tue Sep 13 1988 16:19 | 34 |
| RE: .6
If you are Catholic you may want to talk to a priest about this
-- probably *not* your "regular" parish priest.
I certainly am no authority on Catholic theology (not even close)
but I suspect that while there might be some serious questions about
the deal making I spoke of, that there would be no problem at all
with a direct request for the "spirit" to depart, with no further
interaction. This really does seem to work a large amount of the
time in cases such as this.
I wish I could tell you that it is definitely imaginary, but I simply
don't know that or what its nature is if it is not. What I do know
is that manifestations following roughly this pattern rarely or
never cause direct physical harm, nor is it common for it to lead
to any noticible spiritual harm (though sometimes it leads people
to be curious about the occult, leading to experimentation that
the Catholic church would find questionable). Psychological harm
which does occur at times is due to fear of the phenomenon rather
than the phenomenon itself, or to the social consequences which
occasionally take place.
So, relax. Attempt to confront your fear at least (fear of the
unknown is not the same as a phobia -- direct confrontation and
rational evaluation is frequently effective and not terribly
traumatic -- I am not advising you to seek out the fearful stimuli,
only to deal with it when/if it comes again). Or if getting rid
of the bed works, great (but watch out for developing a cumpulsive
pattern of associating your fear with one object after another and
avoiding them -- that is the path to agoraphobia). Anything that
works for you.
Topher
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855.8 | | JACOB::STANLEY | You can't let go, you can't hold on... | Tue Sep 13 1988 16:44 | 4 |
| Have you tried talking out loud to whoever/whatever it is when you hear the
sounds? You might ask what he wants and to please leave you alone.
Dave
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855.9 | The Church's point of view... | AKO546::JODOIN | | Tue Sep 13 1988 17:34 | 39 |
|
The Roman Catholic church does not deny that spiritual encounters
exist. After all a great majority of its faith is built upon it.
One common occurance of their admitting to this is their belief
in the "calling", as so many Catholics claim to have experienced.
For further clarification, a "calling" is when God asks for service
from and individual either through speaking to them directly or
sending a messanger.
Catholosism also takes into account the devils calling as well
as any spirit at unrest. These are usually refered to as possessions.
There are two types of sins in the eyes of the church. There are
menial sins and mortal sins. When a person dies and has commited
a mortal sin, there is no forgiveness in the eyes of the Lord, and
the persons soul will go to hell. If the person has commited menial
sins, the Lord shows mercy at judgement day and will send the soul
to purgatory to make "right" for the sins he has commited. If the
person attains absolution and is sincerely sorry for his sins, then
the Lord will send his soul to Heaven.
The encounter that is related here, can be either a "gaurdian"
sent to comfort and protect you in your husbands absense, or an
evil "spirit" sent to beguile and trick you. The first thing to
do (from a Catholic point of view) is to call your priest, and invite
him into your home and ask him to bless it. Feed him, and
make him comfortable (as Jesus says we should do with all our brothers
and sisters of this world). Also place a BLESSED crucifix on the
wall above the headboard of your bed, as well as in every other
room of your house. If the spirit is sent from the Devil, he will
leave. If he does not leave, he is a gaurdian angel sent to guide
and assist you, or he will state his intentions. Your faith is
your guide. Many times when God appeared to his prophets, they
were terified also, so do not rule out this one's possible goodness.
God also does not always send out clear messages. He will send
signs which should be interpreted with your heart.
David J.
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855.10 | Exorcism | ATSE::WAJENBERG | Make each day a bit surreal. | Tue Sep 13 1988 18:06 | 10 |
| I'm with .7, .8, etc.. Ask it to leave. If it doesn't leave when
you ask politely, go on to a formal exorcism -- that is, command
it to leave in the name of Jesus Christ.
Re .9
I thought that was "venial" rather than "menial." If Mrs. T's guest
is a guardian, it seems a remarkably incompetent one.
Earl Wajenberg
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855.11 | It was just another point of view? | AKO546::JODOIN | | Wed Sep 14 1988 09:46 | 8 |
|
Re .10 Your right it is venial. It has been a while since I studied
theology, which of course is no excuse.
Incompetent? Just because their dead doesn't make them
smart. (I stole that line from I don't know where.)
Dave
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855.12 | "What are you doing tonight, honey?" | MARKER::KALLIS | Anger's no replacement for reason | Wed Sep 14 1988 09:48 | 11 |
| Re .10 (Earl):
I'd agree. Ask it to leave, or have it exorcised.
>I thought that was "venial" rather than "menial." If Mrs. T's guest
>is a guardian, it seems a remarkably incompetent one.
Anyone who creeps up unseen to your bed and says, Hi!" is hardly
what I'd call a guardian. Sounds more like a shy incubus.
Steve Kallis, Jr.
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855.13 | WOOOOOOOOOO wait a minute! | AKO546::JODOIN | | Wed Sep 14 1988 09:59 | 12 |
|
Wait! I never claimed to state what it was. I just gave what
I remember the Catholic church's opinion on the subject to be.
After all, it is difficult to try and comprehend how a Catholic
would view the subject, considering their belief structure is based
on views that may be (and often are) entirely different from your
own. I took a couple of courses in theology (Roman Catholic) and
thought I could "ADD" something. Thats all.
David
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855.14 | | JULIET::THOMPSON_LI | I'm Mrs.T, don't mess with me | Wed Sep 14 1988 13:07 | 19 |
| .12 Steve:
Well, SHY or NOT, I looked up Mr. Webster's definition of "incubus"
and I don't feel any better about this whole situation.
It's been two days since we put the bed in storage and nothing has
happened so far. My husband will be gone about a week in October
and I'm sure (knowing the Navy) at least a few nights between now
& then - so we'll see...
My husband does remember that the bed is French - so he thinks the
possibility of finding out anything about it's history is slim.
I must question the concept of it being some type of Guardian -
From what I've read/heard, if it was a guardian, wouldn't I get
a more "settled" or possibly "protected/safe" feeling rather than
an anxious/nervous/scared feeling???
Mrs.T
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855.15 | Voulez-vous couchez avec les enfants terribles? | WRO8A::WARDFR | Going HOME--as an Adventurer | Wed Sep 14 1988 13:24 | 9 |
| re: .-1
Lisa, would you like to get rid of the bed? I may have a home
for it (if it's a nice one.) My girlfriend's older daughter needs
one and she's half French...and knowing her, any spirit the bed
might have will have a dickens of a time with her. :-)
Frederick
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855.16 | Military intelligence? | PBSVAX::COOPER | Topher Cooper | Wed Sep 14 1988 14:11 | 26 |
| RE: .14 (Mrs. T)
I'm pretty sure that Steve was joking. If there is any truth at
all in the medievil Catholic demonological classifications than
a "shy incubus" is an oxymoron (a self contradiction in terms,
like "peaceful war"). Incubii are the personfications of aggressive
sexuality. Their "personality" is too direct and unsubtle for
even a ploy of shyness -- seduction is not their game, rape or
near-rape is.
Once again -- this is a pretty classic case of a "haunting". I
have read many fictional or n'th hand accounts of aggressive and/or
sexually oriented haunts. I have *never* encountered a first-hand
report of a haunt where there was any explicit aggressive (occasionally
a hint of accusation or mischief) activity or where sexual content
went beyond a slight flirting like one might encounter at a (tame)
cocktail party. (There is phenomena which may be aggressive:
demonological or poltergeist activity -- but this generally starts
aggressive or actively mischievious and continues so or grows more
so).
If you have religious scruples about dealing with non-corporeal
spirits, that is fine. I think though, that it is very unlikely
that you are in the slightest non-spiritual danger.
Topher
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855.17 | Good!! | JULIET::THOMPSON_LI | I'm Mrs.T, don't mess with me | Wed Sep 14 1988 14:35 | 17 |
| .15 Freddie:
My husband seems a little too attached to the bed to get rid of
it just now.....I think we're going to have to prove BEYOND a shadow
of a doubt that this "whatever" is related to the bed before he
parts with it....thanks for the offer though - I'll let you know
if we plan on it in the future.
.16 Topher:
THANKS! I needed to hear that. I don't know enough about this
stuff to know when someone is having fun or is serious.....
STEVE: From now on, please write (ha ha ha ) after your funnies,
for the benefit of us "non-spook" oriented people. :-)
Mrs. T
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855.18 | "Don't go away mad ..." | MARKER::KALLIS | Anger's no replacement for reason | Wed Sep 14 1988 14:54 | 46 |
| Re .14 (Mrs. T):
>Well, SHY or NOT, I looked up Mr. Webster's definition of "incubus"
>and I don't feel any better about this whole situation.
It it were a classic incubus, it wouldn't be attracted to the bed,
but to the person. I thought the tone of my reply would convey
that; apparently not, for which I apologize.
>I must question the concept of it being some type of Guardian -
I, too. The behavior is not "guardianistic," to coin a phrase.
Re .17 (Topher):
>I'm pretty sure that Steve was joking. If there is any truth at
>all in the medieval Catholic demonological classifications than
>a "shy incubus" is an oxymoron. ...
Well, nittily, an incubus might be a demonoid, but it was not diabolic.
These were more on the order of nature spirits and thus closer to
elementals than to devils (makes sense from the standpoint of being
archtypes, even as elementals were material archtypes). Merlin
the Magician was supposed to have had an incubus as a father (hence
the tale of Merlin and Vortegin -- Merlin was a child without a
human father who the usurper king could have slaughtered to quiet
the earth at the site of his castle) though he was saved because
his mother had him baptized immediately. Incubi _could_ be aggressive,
but didn't have to be. However, in seriousness, this really does
not sound like an incubus situation: they wouldn't frighten their
intendeds, either.
>............................. I have *never* encountered a first-hand
>report of a haunt where there was any explicit aggressive (occasionally
>a hint of accusation or mischief) activity or where sexual content
>went beyond a slight flirting like one might encounter at a (tame)
>cocktail party.
Nor I.
However, it it reappears, asking it to leave, or having it exorcised,
seems a proper procedure.
Steve Kallis, Jr.
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855.19 | | BIGSUR::GRAFTON_JI | | Wed Sep 14 1988 15:56 | 19 |
| re 16: Topher
> (There is phenomena which may be aggressive:
> demonological or poltergeist activity -- but this generally starts
> aggressive or actively mischievious and continues so or grows more
> so).
This kind of applies to the other note I started on protection;
is there such a thing as demonological activity? How is it defined?
Where does it come from? (I guess the devil, right? ;-) )
> I think though, that it is very unlikely
> that you are in the slightest non-spiritual danger.
This is interesting. Do you think, however, that she might be in
spiritual danger? How? Why or why not?
Jill
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855.20 | ...Someone's following me... | JULIET::THOMPSON_LI | I'm Mrs.T, don't mess with me | Wed Sep 14 1988 17:23 | 8 |
| Steve/Topher.....
I read in another note (824) about ghosts following people to new
homes when they move - have you ever heard of such a thing? Would
this be a case of the spirit being "attached" to a particular piece
of furniture or something?
Lisa T.
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855.21 | | GENRAL::DANIEL | still here | Wed Sep 14 1988 17:26 | 9 |
| My first reaction keeps coming back to me; the first reaction to reading your
basenote.
I think this is an obnoxious spirit who gets off on your fear of him. I'd move
out if I were you. I don't think it's the bed. I think it's the house.
Just my psychic vibes; take what you want and leave the rest.
Meredith
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855.22 | move deliberately but slowly | ERASER::KALLIS | Anger's no replacement for reason | Wed Sep 14 1988 17:47 | 28 |
| Re .20 (Lisa):
>I read in another note (824) about ghosts following people to new
>homes when they move - have you ever heard of such a thing?
I've read occasional reports to that effect, but generally, ghosts
are reported to haunt locations.
Re .20 (Meredith):
>I think this is an obnoxious spirit who gets off on your fear of him. I'd move
>out if I were you. I don't think it's the bed. I think it's the house.
I think I'd attempt to have the spirit move, first. It _may be_
the house; if it's a haunting, that's usual (especially if the spirit
moves some distance from the bed). However, if the spirit is really
a ghost, according to theory, it's there because of some trauma,
and with proper "guidance," it can rest; if it's a nonghost spirit
(i.e., other type of noncorporeal entity), then proper measures
can be taken so that it won't bother Lisa further. A priest is a
good idea, or a competent occultist. But why go to the expense
and bother of changing locations, just so that _someone else_ will
be stuck with the same problem?
Also, activities seem to have stopped since the bed has been removed.
Let's see what might happen before doing Drastic Measures.
Steve Kallis, Jr.
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855.23 | My apologies | BIGSUR::GRAFTON_JI | | Wed Sep 14 1988 18:14 | 19 |
| Lisa, this one's for you.
As I reread my entry (.19), I became aware that I may have introduced
some unpleasant possibilities regarding your situation. I certainly did
not intend to do so and hope that my questions for Topher did not cause
you any additional worries and concerns.
My heart goes out to you and hope that you find peace soon in your
home. It must be difficult enough with your husband travelling
as much as he does. You certainly don't need to have an unseen
guest in your house.
Again, my apologies and may you find your house a warm, safe, and
healthy place in which to grow and prosper. My thoughts are with
you.
Jill
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855.24 | In three words -- no and no. | PBSVAX::COOPER | Topher Cooper | Wed Sep 14 1988 18:26 | 80 |
| RE: .19 (Jill)
> is there such a thing as demonological activity?
There is activity which some people interpret as being caused by
demons -- but I do not. Some of that activity is clearly caused
by more or less known physical, psychological or neurological
phenomena. In other cases, where it is not clearly so, there isn't
really any good reason to believe otherwise.
There remain a core set of cases which are very hard to explain
in terms of known mechanisms. At least some of these are never
the less due to such mechanisms operating in a particularly subtle
or unusual manner. If we eliminate those we have what we might
call the Apparently Real Demonological Manifestations (ARDMs -- a
term which I just made up).
If you take as a matter of faith that there is nothing significant
to our everyday existence which is outside the domain of current
scientific theories (as some people who improperly label themselves
skeptics do) then you believe that all the core cases are ultimately
explainable and that there are no ARDMs.
Now in parapsychology there is a phenomenon called a poltergeist.
In a full fledged poltergeist case things fly through the air, or
fall, things get turned on or off, there are odd, startling noises
etc. Most parapsychologists interpret poltergeist phenomena as
the result of suppressed subconscious hostility making itself known
by various pranks both produced fraudulently (perhaps in a
disassociative state -- i.e., the person who did it blocked from
their consciousness awareness of doing it) as well as through
PK (psychokinesis the ability to move things with the mind).
Since poltergeist phenomena is a result of subconscious need to
express hostility combined with a need to disavow the expressions,
we would expect that in a traditional religious environment that
it would take the form expected of demonic attack, e.g., with
blasphemous elements such as bibles being shredded. This would
be a way for the subconscious source of the phenomenon to say
"See, it couldn't be me doing it, it's clearly a demon".
This is what I believe ARDMs are -- I don't personally believe
in demons.
I cannot truthfully say, however, that I know there are no demons,
since I don't know what PK really is it would be presumptious to
say that I can be absolutely sure that demons are not at least
occasionally involved in ARDMs. All I can say is that it seems
unlikely to me, and I don't know of any good reason for me to
question it. If you believe in demons, to start with, however,
e.g., for religious reasons, you may come to another conclusion.
I described the phenomena as demonological *or poltergeist* activity
because my conclusion -- that the agressive manifestations were
distinct -- did not depend on my belief that all ARDMs are actually
the expression of subconscious human hostility. If you believe
that some ARDMs really are due to demons, then this is *still*
not that class of phenomena and thus not likely to turn overtly
hostile.
Was that clear or did I ramble on to much.
> Do you think, ... that she might be in spiritual danger?
No. I do not personally believe in damnation of the soul and therefore
I do not believe that there is such a thing as "spiritual danger".
But that is a religious belief, and I am only qualified to advise
with authority on such matters to members of my religion (i.e.,
only myself). Others have other beliefs, and it seems clear that
some believe that association with non-corporeal entities is
spiritually dangerous -- e.g., can or will lead to damnation. I
therefore cannot speak as to the spritual danger or lack of it.
I can speak with some authority on the non-spiritual dangers: the
psychological or physical. And it is my judgement that they are
minimal in this case as long as the negative effects of fear *or*
(contrarily) obsession are avoided. Obsession seemed unlikely in
this case -- fear was the danger, and one of the points I was trying
to make was that the fear was groundless.
Topher
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855.25 | Looking for Patterns | PLEXUS::V5REGISTRAR | | Wed Sep 14 1988 21:47 | 31 |
|
I read your note with mixed feelings and have been thinking about
it for awhile. Somehow, I'm inclined to go back to a reply you
wrote (827.9) and wonder if there isn't some connection. I know
it's been a year or so since that situation and I'd like to ask
if you have had any other experiences that you can relate to over
this period of time. I'm also wondering if you've researched and
worked at meditation or something since the writing and receiving
of information from the noters. This is just to look at a
progression of events that could have influence over your ability
to feel/hear this presence.
The only common denominator I see is that your husband is away
during these times, but I wonder if there is more. Often people
send vibrations to others without knowing it and in ways that would
frighten the other. You might keep a record of these happenings
and try to contact your husband as soon as possible and try to de-
termine what his frame of mind was at the time and what he was doing.
This is just another thought that might shed some light and if his
projection turned out to be the intruder, then maybe working with
it could bring you close even when he's far away.
If you are really concerned about the presence do go to your parish
and ask the priest to bless your new home. This is done all the
time and without reason other than it being a new home. I'm sure
he'll be glad to do it.
Joanne
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855.26 | keeping it cool ... | MARKER::KALLIS | Anger's no replacement for reason | Thu Sep 15 1988 09:26 | 29 |
| Re .24 (Topher):
>RE: .19 (Jill)
>
> > is there such a thing as demonological activity?
>
> There is activity which some people interpret as being caused by
> demons -- but I do not.
> ...
>This is what I believe ARDMs are -- I don't personally believe
>in demons.
The poltergeist mechanism is certainly one potential explanation.
I, however, suspect very strongly that demons _do_ exist, though
the only way to "prove" it would be to engage in certain activities
I have no desire nor intention of performing.
However, the "demonic" question is a near-rathole. If we posit
the existence of discarnate entities with the ability to influence
events in the material world, then these can be of more than one
type.
There seems to be no overt _menace_; however whatever it is is
disturbing Lisa. A blessing/exorcism is thus in order if "it" will
not depart upon request.
Anyway, my best wishes to Lisa.
Steve Kallis, Jr.
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855.27 | My 2 cents | SA1794::CLAYR | | Thu Sep 15 1988 12:14 | 38 |
|
Just to add my 2 cents, from my own research, experience, etc.
communicating with *ghosts* is different than what one would call
ordinary communication. From what has been described in the base
note it seems to me that what Lisa has is a typical case of a haun-
ting. Probably the very best way to react is to shout something
like "LEAVE ME ALONE, YOU'RE SCARING ME, I DON'T LIKE IT!!!". This
is guaranteed to work. Direct, emotional confrontation may be the
only way that we here on the earthplane have of really communicating
with unseen, earthbound spirits. Most of us do not the capability
of carrying on a conversation with these spirits because I don't
think that they can hear us on a "mental" level--only on forceful
lower emotional levels, as far as I know. In my own personal experience
this has worked.
Also, one shouldn't assume that a *haunting* is in any way
evil in nature unless this evil or some such strong sense of negativity
can be felt. Most hauntings are probably no more than people who
have lived and died in a certain place and are, for whatever reason,
just not yet ready to move on beyond the immediate earthplane. They
can remain that way for hundreds of years. It is almost as though
they were existing in some small subset of their earthly experience,
because they tend to engage in the same petty types of behaviours
over and over again. Beacuse they are *living* spirits in most cases,
I think they really should be treated with a great deal of compassion,
since they may feel that the place is still their home and that
they have nowhere else to go.
Using a ouija board or something similar (whatever that might
be), one could carry on a dialogue with these spirits and understand
at least what their lives were like, and perhaps more, but that
may involve crossing into the *danger zone* so to speak. Also I
do believe that there are malevolent entities, demons or whatever
that exist but that these cases are pretty rare. So that's really
all I wanted to say; I might be inaccurate in some areas of my under-
standing of these types on things, but this is the gist of my insight.
Roy
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855.28 | Interesting concept... | JULIET::THOMPSON_LI | I'm Mrs.T, don't mess with me | Thu Sep 15 1988 12:36 | 32 |
| .25 Joanne:
Interesting thought...my girlfriend asked if I thought there was
some relation to my experience (from #827) but I didn't think there
was. I was only looking at it however, that maybe the same "thing"
caused that first incident to happen - I didn't think so. But,
I don't see why it could not have *somehow* made me more receptive
to things of this nature. Nothing has happened (other than the
current goings-on) since that "electrifying" ( :-) ) night.
Nothing that I can remember anyway - or that struck me as super
strange. As for it being my husband's "projection"....I don't know
- I just dont think so.
.26 Steve:
A priest blessing our home isn't such a bad idea...I think I'll
look into it (although the parish we are in now...always seemed
strange to me & I've been wanting to asked someone there about it)...but
this church has no Holy Water at any of the entrances or exits.
Isn't that a little strange? I have been in many churches & have
never NOT seen Holy Water. Anyway...what do you think of Joanne's
thoughts about a connection between the two incidents?
.27 Ray:
Thanks for your input - although I have no desire (curiosity maybe..)
to get involved with any ouija boards...or the like. I have already
tried the "GET OUT YOURE BUGGING ME" thing. Like I said, nothing
has happened since we took the bed down...but then again, Jim has
been home too.
Lisa
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855.29 | | GENRAL::DANIEL | still here | Thu Sep 15 1988 12:53 | 10 |
| re; Steve
> I think I'd attempt to have the spirit move, first.
> But why go to the expense
> and bother of changing locations, just so that _someone else_ will
> be stuck with the same problem?
good point. I'm not in a headspace where I feel like I could take care of the
situation. If such a thing should happen, I'd have to call in the Spirit
Relief crew.
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855.30 | Juliet of the Spirits | SCOMAN::RUDMAN | Amateur Hour goes on and on... | Thu Sep 15 1988 18:27 | 14 |
| I think what also might work is to convince Lisa the "entity" is gone.
It's a shame to have a nice antique like that (the bed, I mean)
and be unable to use it.
Too bad it only happens when you aloner. I'm sure there are a lot
of Dej notersd who'd like to spend the evening with you. (No comments,
please.)
Anyway Lisa, good luck.
Don
P.S. It is Lisa, right? I'd hate to wind up on The List. ;-)
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855.31 | priorities... | MARKER::KALLIS | Anger's no replacement for reason | Mon Sep 19 1988 08:26 | 18 |
| Re .28 (Lisa):
>this church has no Holy Water at any of the entrances or exits.
>Isn't that a little strange? ...
Not being a Roman Catholic, I can only say it _sounds_ strange,
but that's all. I particularly suggested a priest because of your
faith -- does the priest doing the blessing have to be of the same
parish?
>................................. Anyway...what do you think of Joanne's
>thoughts about a connection between the two incidents?
Possible, though precisely how that would solve the situation
is problematical. First, put out the fire; then look for signs
of arson. :-)
Steve Kallis, Jr.
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855.32 | My 2 cents! | WFOV12::MROCZEK | | Mon Sep 19 1988 18:21 | 12 |
| Hi Lisa,
It may be that "whatever" did not want the bed in that room or
location. If you put the bed back up, try putting it in a different
location in the room.
If you have gained some strength from people here, you may be
communicating it mentally to the entity.
I hope it is gone for good.
Sue
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855.33 | All is well...I think.. | JULIET::THOMPSON_LI | I'm Mrs.T, don't mess with me | Tue Sep 20 1988 18:57 | 15 |
| Hi everyone!
Well, my husband was gone very late one evening (till almost 12:30)
and everything appears to be fine now that the bed is in storage
(whether that be the problem or not). I, needless to say, felt
uneasy being at home alone, but then I expect that for awhile with
what happened. It wasn't the same uncomfortable feeling I *was*
getting though...this was much different - more normal.
So who's to know....was it a man.....or memorex????? I will post
again in October when Jim is scheduled to be gone for several days.
Thanks again.
Mrs. T
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