| Title: | Meower Power is Valuing Differences |
| Notice: | FELINE_V1 is moving 1/11/94 5pm PST to MISERY |
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| Created: | Sun Feb 09 1986 |
| Last Modified: | Tue Jan 11 1994 |
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I have a problem I was hoping someone might have some suggestions for!
A little background.....I got my cat Bonnie when she was a kitten 2+
years ago. I lived with a friend of mine who also had a cat. The two
cats got along like brother and sister! I only lived there for about
a year and a half. Whne I moved Bonnie seemed depressed (as I would
expect). Since then My friend and I have "cat sitted" each others cats
for days at a time in both houses. This has not been a problem for
either cat expect maybe the car ride. Last week my friend and I went
on a trip together for a week, and left both cats at his house with
his roommate. When I got home and picked up Bonnie she was glad to
see me but not happy to be back at my place. She has been very unhappy
and lonely since I have been back.
My problem is that I am taking a leave of absence in Sept for two
months to go to Seattle where my finance' will be living. I had planed
on leaving Bonnie with my friend for the two months I was gone. My mind
tells me that I should give her to my friend as she seems to be much
happier there with her buddie Puddie. I hate to let her go but I dont
want her to be unhappy. The other thing is that I will probably b
moving to Seattle next year and had planned on flying her out there
with me.
Should I give her to my friend knowing that she will be wll taken care
of and happy and possibly more stable? Or should I just keep her and go
on with my plan of letting him take her for the two months then move
her out there with me when I move?
I would miss her terribly!
Lee + Bonnie alias Boppin'
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| 4759.1 | BOOVX2::MANDILE | Her Royal Highness | Mon Jul 01 1991 10:24 | 3 | |
How about getting Bonnie some permanent company?
Lynne
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| 4759.2 | keep her | TYGON::WILDE | why am I not yet a dragon? | Mon Jul 01 1991 15:41 | 0 |
| 4759.3 | I didn't want to say it, cuz I wouldn't wanna DO it! | MCIS2::HUSSIAN | But my cats *ARE* my kids!! | Mon Jul 01 1991 15:45 | 13 |
Well, I wasn't going to reply, because I couldn't think of a nice way
to say this. I figured that someone would get the point across w/o
being as blunt as I'm going to sound, but I guess I just have to say
it.
Honestly? What would I do? I'd give the sweetie to my friend where
she's happiest. I say that now, but come time to give her up, I'd
be a mess...I'd still do it tho. Then I'd get myself another feline
companion when I'm settled out west.
This is just MY opinion, please do what YOU feel is best for YOU.
Bonnie
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| 4759.4 | MADRE::KOLLING | Karen/Sweetie/Holly/Little Bit Ca. | Mon Jul 01 1991 16:43 | 3 | |
I'd get both babies friends, so they each have company.
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| 4759.5 | my experiences | PARITY::DENISE | And may the traffic be with you | Mon Jul 01 1991 17:39 | 21 |
This situation has happened twice during my many years of rescuing and
providing home for kitties. In the dozens of cats I've had since I was
just a teenager, twice is enough though!
I just realize that the cat's feelings and happiness is much more
important than mine. Sure, I may love that cat and want it to be with
me, but if that cat really isn't happy, then why should I force it to
stay where it isn't happy?
Both cats were placed and both are much, much happier, and give their
new people much joy and love. Just like people, there are different
personalities, and we certainly can't expect to be able to live with
certain people. Sometimes, it just isn't right.
In both my cases the cat just couldn't hack living with a ton of other
kitties. They both live in (and rule) single cat homes now.
It's terribly difficult to decide something like this, but if you
really feel your friend would be happier with his best buddy, it's
something to think about. I think in your case though, where it isn't
a desperate situation like I had, I might try to get a buddy and see
if that works. Maybe he can establish a new close relationship with
another kitty. It's tough, though, I know what you're feeling.
Denise and the gang of 10
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| 4759.6 | COASTL::NDC | Putiput Scottish Folds DTN:297-2313 | Tue Jul 16 1991 08:56 | 2 | |
I also think you should try another buddy.
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