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Conference misery::feline_v1

Title:Meower Power is Valuing Differences
Notice:FELINE_V1 is moving 1/11/94 5pm PST to MISERY
Moderator:MISERY::VANZUYLEN_RO
Created:Sun Feb 09 1986
Last Modified:Tue Jan 11 1994
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:5089
Total number of notes:60366

4522.0. "GoodNight To My Baby Brad" by XCUSME::JENNISON (Its Been A Long Cold Winter) Wed Apr 03 1991 16:56

    
    
    Hi Everyone,
    
    I havent been in here for a long time. I have to say goodbye to
    my cat Lord Bradford. Brad past away in November. This has taken
    quite a long time to do this. I havent been in this notes file 
    because of his death. I got Lord Bradford and Sir Alexander 6
    years ago. They are brothers and best friends. They had a birthday
    on March 17th. I had a fire in November in my apartment. Luckily
    I woke in time to leave and call the fire department. I went back
    in to get my cats ! Thats all I WANTED! I couldnt see or breath!!
    I knew I had to get out. The firefighters got there in about 1000
    years  is what it seemed. All I could say was MY CATS-GET MY CATS!
    They managed to find Alex but they didnt get to Brad in time. I have
    a couple of notes in here on Brad's personality-he was very shy and 
    a Mamas boy. He would only come to me and sit on me only. I knew that
    he must have been really hidden good. I miss him so much, I often dream
    of him. I know that he comes and visits me in my dreams. These two guys
    were the first pets that I ever had in my life and I had them for 6 
    years of it. I still cant let Brad go. To top things off, the night 
    before the fire, my fiance' left for Saudi Arabia. So, he wasnt here
    to help through it. He hasnt had time to greive for Brad either. I 
    know that we will greive it again but together. Vinnie is due to arrive
    home somtimes within the next two weeks(hopefully) Its been so long. I
    have been pretty strong through this whole thing. I know I will go to 
    pieces when I see him. I want him and I to pick out a kitten together 
    that looks like Brad. He was beige with long hair, 3 quarters Himylayan
    Persian and 1 quarter Maine Coon. I cannot let him go. I cry still a
    lot, like right now. I knew I could place this note in here because of
    the love and understanding that all of you have for kittys. I thank you
    for listening to me. 
    
    Brad, I Love and Miss you So much!!!!
    God Bless my Baby.
    We all miss you My Baby Brad-Sue, Vinnie & Alex...
    
    Ps
    Alex suffered minor burns on all four paws and he had to be shaved 
    because of the singed hair. This was and is the Two worst years of
    my entire life. 1990 and 1991 will never be forgotten.
    	
    Thanks All Again.
    
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4522.1Our condolences......BOOVX2::MANDILEWed Apr 03 1991 17:026
    Sorry to hear about Brad.....our thoughts are with you!
    
    Feel free to call if you need to unload....
    
    Lynne (dtn 281-5770 or E-mail)
    
4522.2TENAYA::KOLLINGKaren/Sweetie/Holly/Little Bit Ca.Wed Apr 03 1991 17:034
    I'm so sorry about Brad.
    
    Karen
    
4522.3DON'T let go..why SHOULD you??DELNI::JMCDONOUGHWed Apr 03 1991 17:0912
      I know exactly how you feel...it is always a terrible trauma to lose
    a much-loved friend. 
    
      I also understand how you cannot let him go...but WHY SHOULD YOU???
    He IS yours, but now he simply stays with you on another level...
    
    
      I'm going to take the liberty to send you something off-line...
    I think at first you will have some tears, but then I think you will
    agree that this is a beautiful tribute...
    
       John Mc
4522.4XCUSME::JENNISONIts Been A Long Cold WinterWed Apr 03 1991 17:387
    Thank You JM... It was tearful and beautiful.
    
    I know I cant let go and I wont! I still have pictures everywhere
    and a beautiful statue that my mom had made especially for Brad & 
    Alex. Thank God some things made it.
    
    Sue
4522.5SANFAN::FOSSATJUWed Apr 03 1991 19:349
    I am so sorry for your loss.  Don't let go, keep him in your heart and
    remember all the good times that you shared.  You are lucky to still
    have another kitty and Brad will open the way for another.  
    
    Lots of hugs and prayers 
    
          from
    
    Giudi + Pippin, Gino & StItCh
4522.6XNOGOV::LISAGive quiche a chanceThu Apr 04 1991 04:3810
    I am so sorry.
    
    I know just how you feel - Percy died a year ago and it still feels
    like yesterday. I still cry for him.
    
    
    Hugs from the UK,
    
    Lisa plus Pookie, Rolf and Florence.
    
4522.7So sorryWILLEE::MERRITTThu Apr 04 1991 09:1813
    sniff sniff...So sorry to hear about Brad.   Don't ever feel you
    have to let go....that is not true...memories are beautiful and
    should be cherished forever..
    
    All fingers are crossed as well as paws (and we have many of those)
    for a wonderful rest of the year for you!  So happy your fiance will
    be comming home soon.
    
    Goodnight Brad.
    
    Sandy (Tamba, Poco, Barkley, Dewey, Anges, Chloe, and Abby)
    
    
4522.8Very sorry...SHIPS::FARROW_SPercy, Who's Queen...Thu Apr 04 1991 12:235
    My thoughts are with you... it is so sad to lose a much loved friend.
    
    Best regards
    
    Sandra, Charlie, Rosie and Floyd
4522.9PROSE::GOGOLINThu Apr 04 1991 12:4316
    I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Sometimes it takes a long time to
    be able to accept the death of a loved one, whether it's a human or an 
    animal friend. The traumatic circumstances under which it happened must 
    make it even harder for you. I've grieved long for all my deceased feline 
    friends but the losses I found hardest to accept were my two cats who 
    died of feline leukemia. It just seemed so unfair for them to die so 
    young.

    It is so fortunate that YOU and Sir Alexander escaped the fire! I also
    think it's wonderful that the firefighters cared enough to try to rescue 
    the cats, possibly risking their own lives. 

    Good luck to you and your fiance', and may you find another furface to
    love when you're ready.

    Linda, Misty, Cubby, Tweetie, Toby, Peanut and foster kitty Sunny 
4522.10Words don't express......AIMHI::OFFENThu Apr 04 1991 13:1015
    I can't begin to say how sorry I am for you...........  I have often
    thought about what would happen if I had a fire and I wasn't home.  I
    have 3 indoor kittys and 1 inside/outside kitty.  I also have a dog
    but she spends the day outside.  I know Thunder and Patches would go
    to strangers, but Lightning will only come to me and my daughter and
    DejaVu is too afraid of strangers.
    
    I am so glad that you managed to at least save Alex.  I know getting
    a new kitten won't replace Brad but it will help to ease the pain.
    
    My thoughts are definitely with both you and Alex..........
    
    Sandi and the Storm Troopers
    
    
4522.11NEWPRT::SZAFIRSKI_LOThu Apr 04 1991 14:1712
    Keep all your wonderful memories and love for Brad close to your heart
    and he will never be far away from you.  I'm glad that you and Alex
    made it out okay and my heart aches for you having to suffer such a
    tragedy in your home.  I know that the next furface you bring into your
    life will be a very lucky kitty, for you sound like a wonderful person
    with alot of love to give.  I hope Alex is recovering from his wounds
    and is feeling okay.
    
    Hugs, Prayers & Purrs
    
    Lori...Sausha...Misty Rae...Freeway
                                       
4522.12Brad is with you....BUFFER::WESTONThu Apr 04 1991 14:4325
    
    As stated.......Never let go, you couldn't cause Braford won't let you. 
    I had to put down, 4 years ago my first and only dog of two years old. 
    It took over a year for me to stop crying.  I can smile and talk of him
    now and on occasion, maybe something on TV, tears will come to my eyes
    and I will ache for him once again.  I have a place of pictures on my
    wall in my living room of him and will stay there.
    
    I know when your alone, a pet is someone there, just for you.  My
    husband had two hear-attacks 3 1/2 years ago and I had wished Smokey
    was with me then.
    
    I have recently lost my Dad and my cat Scruffy has been my comfort too.
    
    Give yourself plenty of time ------------ share your loss with your
    fiance' when he comes home and if it's right for you, get a new buddy
    for ALex.  It won't replace Brad it will be a new life to share.
    
    Warm Fuzzy hugs from
       
    		Scruffy and the Dudley Road Gang
    
    Carol
    
    
4522.13Atlanta Cat FanaticODIXIE::BANTEKASThu Apr 04 1991 15:2714
    Much sympathy about Brad...Yesterday I added a note to #2 introducing
    my present cats and talking about the one I lost to diabetes...We had
    to ask the vet to end her suffering...she had already suffered brain
    damage and he could not give us any hope that she would last more than
    a few months.  In hindsight, I wonder if I could have spotted the
    symptoms sooner and treatment could have saved her..He assured me it
    was the most rapid advancement he had encountered.  But...I still hear
    her talking to me at night..six months later..but lately rather than
    bothering me it's been reassuring.  I would have rather had her for my
    cat for the 6 years I had her than not to have had her at all....(BTW
    she was a stray we rescued)  Over Easter we adopted (or he adopted us)
    another black stray kitten...He won't replace her but maybe he'll fill
    the void she left....and hopefully you will be able to accept the loss
    and go on to give your love to another cat or kitten..
4522.14POWDML::TAYLORMake me purrr ...Fri Apr 05 1991 13:5917
    I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  It's been such a tragic few years
    for you!  I understand what you mean by two certain years being the
    worst of your life!  1988 and 1989 were for me.  Between the death of
    my fiance and my brother.  But during all of that time, I had my
    felines to help me through it.
    
    Keep a hold of the other baby!  Keep him close to you and tell him how
    much you miss Brad.  I'm sure that he misses him just as much!  And get
    him a new friend to play with, run with, and make many more memories
    with.  No, this is not a replacement, but a new life to make that many
    more memories with.
    
    Take care.
    
    Holly, Silver, Pita, Tabitha, Sweetie, Lila, Honey, and Marni
    
    
4522.15our condolencesPARITY::DENISEAnd may the traffic be with youFri Apr 05 1991 17:2420
      The mere mention of the word FIRE is enough to conjure up all kinds
    of nightmares in any cat owner.  Something as swiftly and totally
    destructive that can take the lives of those you love, and you don't
    have any control over it sometimes.  This is a terrible story,  I feel
    awful for you.  And the added stress of your fiance's deployment and
    I'm sure you were worried about him too.
      I lost 3 cats to FELV, having to watch each of them wither away. I
    know how awful it is.  And sometimes you can't even tell other people
    because they don't understand.  They say, "oh for heavens sake, it was
    just a cat".  Apparently they've never lost a best friend.  I still
    constantly think of my 3.  In fact, I was just out putting flowers on
    the graves this week.  This all happened back in '88,  which was a real
    bad year for me.  Luckily, I have 11 cats to help.  They are always
    so supportive.  I always have at least 1 or more cats with me at any given 
    time to talk to no matter what room I'm in.
      Any time you want to talk, you can reach me offline if you wish. You
    are right in saying you can get support here.  We are definately a
    devoted group of cat lovers.
    
                             Bless you, Denise 
4522.16CRUISE::NDCPutiput Scottish Folds DTN:297-2313Mon Apr 08 1991 08:5021
    Sometimes I wonder if part of the reason I have so many cats is
    to try and insulate myself from the pain of losing that love.  I
    think it is very different to put an old friend out of her pain
    or to lose a young friend quickly and unexpectedly.  
    
    We put our dog to sleep after 16 years and tho I still miss her its
    very different from what I feel when I think about losing Kathryn who
    was hit by a car just prior to her 2nd birthday.  
    
    I am very sorry to hear of the lost of Brad.  I have added his name
    to the Silver Lining Memorial list for this quarter and he will be
    comemmorated when we make our donation in July. 
    
    In the meantime, I know of a nice Himmy, just spayed, who is looking
    for a home.  I believe the price is $100.  She's at the Pat Brody
    Memorial Animal Shelter and you can contact Kim Trainque at HYEND::
    KTRAINQUE if you are intersted.
    
    I'll never let go of Kathryn - I don't think I could if I wanted -
    she lives right here in my heart and Brad will live in yours.
      Nancy DC
4522.17Bless You All,,,XCUSME::JENNISONMore Than WordsMon Apr 08 1991 10:344
    
    Thanks so much. Really- I love all of you!  
    
    SueJ-Alex & Brad~
4522.18Coming Home!XCUSME::JENNISONMore Than WordsThu Apr 11 1991 14:2312
    Just to let you know....
    
    Vinnie is finally in NORTH CAROLINA! He flew in yesterday morning
    at 4am...I spoke with him at 5am 8^)
    
    If all goes well-he should be flying into Manchester on Wednesday!
    Alex is excited! He cant wait to see his Dad! 
    
    SueJ & Alex & Angel Brad~
    
    Who IS a burst of Anxiety!  ;^)
    Thanks All.
4522.19I just never know what to say....MCIS2::HUSSIANBut my cats *ARE* my kids!!Thu Apr 11 1991 14:5817
    OH! How wonderful for you! Finally!!
    
    I'm so sorry about Brad, I've often thought of how I'd feel if I came
    home to find out we had a fire. My poor girls would have nowhere to go.
    I've never lost a pet, so I can't say, "I know how you feel..." but the
    thought alone brings tears to my eyes, as did the stories lately of all
    of the kitties who've met their end. I know NOTHING can prepare me for
    the inevitable day that I'll have to say goodbye to my babies, so I try
    not to think about it. I just hope that when the day comes, I have
    feline loving friends like you all to share my grief with!
    
    I'm sure the comfort of having your husband & kitties will soothe your
    pain, but know you'll always have your memories & that Brad will never 
    *REALLY* be gone!
    
    Hugs,
    Bonnie
4522.20CRUISE::NDCPutiput Scottish Folds DTN:297-2313Thu Apr 11 1991 16:171
    re: .18 - finally some GOOD news.  :^)
4522.21Coming Home!XCUSME::JENNISONMore Than WordsMon Apr 15 1991 08:5915
    Hi!
    
    	Even better news! Vinnie is coming home tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!
    
    	AGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!
    
    	SueJ-Alex & Angel Brad
    
    	Alex knows something wierd is with me! He has been strange
    	for the past couple days! Its been ever since I found out too!
    	Spoke with Vinnie this morning and told how Alex was acting.
    	He said he knows your acting different! 
    
    	
    
4522.22Alex probably knows Daddys on his way!! :*)MCIS2::HUSSIANBut my cats *ARE* my kids!!Mon Apr 15 1991 19:136
    Oh, ya! they surely can tell how you're feeling. I think I helped my
    girl,TAbitha get better from a fever by staying w/ her w/ water & stuff
    the whole time she was sick. It was quite a bonding time. I think she
    knows how I feel ALL the time.
    
    BOnnie
4522.23CSCOA1::MCFARLAND_Dbo knows windows 3.0...?Wed Apr 24 1991 14:1811
    sue...
    
    so sorry to hear about brad and the circumstances of his passing.  but
    since you were able to put it down in writing, and share it with us,
    the first part of the healing process has taken place.
    
    glad to hear of your fiance's safe return.  hopefully, you will find a
    new kitty to be new best friend to alex.  take care...
    
    diane, stella & stanley