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Conference misery::feline_v1

Title:Meower Power is Valuing Differences
Notice:FELINE_V1 is moving 1/11/94 5pm PST to MISERY
Moderator:MISERY::VANZUYLEN_RO
Created:Sun Feb 09 1986
Last Modified:Tue Jan 11 1994
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:5089
Total number of notes:60366

1893.0. "Getting neighbors to spay a cat" by TOKLAS::FELDMAN (PDS, our next success) Wed Oct 19 1988 10:53

    For the second time since we moved (mid-July), one of our neighbors has
    a sign out for free kittens.  I'd like advice on whether or not it's
    appropriate to approach this neighbor concerning spaying, and if so,
    how.
    
    What complicates matters is that their house is, quite frankly, a
    shack.  The land is most certainly worth more than the building. Now
    for all I know, this could be where the Kennedy's go when they're tired
    of the Cape, but I think not.  I'd like to find a polite way of
    offering to pay for the spay, without sounding condescending, and
    without being judgmental.  I don't really know whether they've kept
    their cat whole because they can't afford the cost of the spay or
    they just don't believe in spaying.
    
    I've thought about offering to post an ad for them "on our computerized
    bulletin board at work", to try to place the kittens.  While I'm at it,
    I might just mention that we "have a fund" available to help people
    with the cost of spaying, without mentioning the source of the funds
    (in this case, me).  If they really don't believe in spaying, I
    would let the matter drop, much as I disagree.  Does this seem reasonable?
    
       Gary 
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1893.1That's better than donations!!CURIE::SADLER_TEMPWed Oct 19 1988 13:3817
    Gary,
    
    Sounds like you have thought up a discreet way of being a true SPCA
    devotee.  Influencing others to spay is quite a valuable PROACTIVE
    approach.  Anyone who advocates prevention of litters without homes
    deserves a big THANK YOU and is a role model for us all.
    
    Hopefully, your neighbor can be persuaded to take you up on the
    spaying deal.  Invoke them to OFFER reasons why they let their cat
    procreate aimlessly (don't pry, just prod).  Maybe tell them that
    tons of animals are destroyed, etc.  Quite possibly, they just don't
    understand the diversity of the problem--educate them.
    
    Best of luck,
    
    Cathy
    
1893.2AgreementSTAR::BARTHWed Oct 19 1988 13:476
    I agree, that this sounds like an excellent approach.  If you were
    to come on too strong they might just get mad and not take your
    advice to spay.
    
    Good luck,
    Karen, Tristan and Tenzing.
1893.3Anonymous HintsCURIE::SADLER_TEMPWed Oct 19 1988 13:4915
    Oh, I forgot.  Another approach is to mail them some literature
    on spaying, neutering, and the problems that result from the lack
    thereof.  Hopefully they can take a HINT!
    
    This is a good way to remain anonymous.  Local shelters usually
    have lots of literature like this.  They might even mail it for
    you if you can't pick it up (send the shelter a pre-addressed stamped
    envelope and a request note).  
    
    If anyone else knows of a similar situation, I urge you to do the
    same.
    
    Thanks in advance,
    
    Cathy
1893.4I think Rose Kennedy is allergic to cats?ZEKE::HUTCHINSFeathered Obsessions AviaryWed Oct 19 1988 13:5033
    I used to work at the Humane Society and saw more than my share
    unwanted homeless cats and kittens.  The very most horrible part
    was finding a pregnant cat being released to us..."Please find her
    a home, she's pregnant and we dont want the kittens"...Well, my
    nasty reply was usually something like, "You mean if she was spayed
    rather than 'La*d', you would have kept her?"  Then to add to the
    insult to the poor cat, for every 100 cats needing a home, there
    may have been only 5 homes available...that's a heart wrenching
    fact.  Plus we had a chart stating that if one cat had one litter
    a year, and 2 were females, and then those female kittens had a
    litter a year, 2 of them being females, after about 3 years, that
    original momma cat would have produced almost 3,800 kittens.
    
    So now, by all means offer to spay the cat for the neighbors, or
    you can try this...Contact Margie Rondeau at the Nashua Shelter.
    She can send you some information about spaying and the ginger way
    of educating people around you...It is a sin, and I agree with you
    that this little 'ol cat is allowed to have kittens all the time.
    
    If you really wanted to get "nasty" you could contact the state
    veterinarian in Concord...Every pet that is sold or given away from
    a home or a store is required to have health certificate.  If the
    state wanted to push it, they could be fined.  In the same thinking,
    it would be much cheaper to spay than get health certificates and
    shots for every kitten in a litter.  BTW:  the state will not mention
    you to the neighbor.  That's kind of a rough road to take, but it
    is an avenue.
                                                     
    Let us know what you decide, I know if any of us can help you, we
    will.
    
    jean
    
1893.5I'd talk to them directlyTALLIS::ROBBINSThu Oct 20 1988 10:3014
  If you're friendly with your neighbors, I think your original
 idea about offering to place the kittens through the "electronic
 bulletin board" and offering our "fund" for the spaying is
 an excellent one.

 I think that having a friendly chat with them (assuming you speak to
 them occasionally for other reasons) will have a more positive
 effect on them than an anonymous mailing, simply because receiving
 something anonymously could create a "somebody's watching me"
 kind of feeling.Talking with them directly isn't too much
 different from offering the type of advice neighbors often offer
 each other.

 Good luck. It's wonderful of you to be so concerned!
1893.6INDEBT::TAUBENFELDIlza EgkThu Oct 20 1988 15:135
    
    How about giving them one of those Friends of the Animals spay
    certificate as a gift?