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996.1 | | CIRCUS::KOLLING | Karen, Sweetie, Holly; in Calif. | Tue Dec 29 1987 21:57 | 15 |
| See note 908 and it's replies. Your new cat sounds just like what
my Pussycat was like when I first got him (and he turned out great
-- and my scars have faded :-)). However, I didn't have another
cat in the house to worry about. It does sound like she definitely
wants to be an indoor cat, though. If your other cat can stand
it, letting her stay indoors will calm things a little (she might
be paniced that putting her outside means she's about to be deprived
of warmth, food, shelter, all that stuff.) Try a more thorough
physical at the vet to be sure she isn't in discomfort from some
physical problem (my guys use their box twice in 24 hours, each.)
It sounds like you are really hanging in there. Perhaps as she
comes to feel more secure (it took Pussycat a few months) and if
you keep heaping love on both of them things will work out. Please
let us know.
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996.2 | give her some time - it will work | PBA::DALEY | | Wed Dec 30 1987 10:26 | 23 |
| Yes, it will probably take awhile for the new cat to "find her place"
in your household. I had taken in a stray who seemed just fine
until one of my other cats came into view - example, the new cat
would be sitting on my bed and one of the others would just be walking
down the hallway- and the new one would charge the older one(s),
flipping them and even to flying fur. When I mentioned my
predicament to another person who had gone through the same type
of situation, she told me that the new one was just trying to
find where she fit in the scheme of things in the house.
And yes - after a time (in this case it was a month or so, but
the time period can vary with different cats from an immediate fit
to a couple months) she stopped her unfavorable behavior and is VERY
sweet and passive with the others (BTW - there are 6 others). The
others were initially afraid of her because of her "temper" but now
they will even sleep together.
I would give her some time, and not expect a great deal from her
so soon. When she knows she is there to stay, and that she doesn't have
to fight for food, she will more than likely make a turn-around.
Pat
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996.3 | | NAC::LACOUR | | Wed Dec 30 1987 11:01 | 19 |
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I don't think your cat is schizo. She just needs some love and
understanding. I got Barney and Gonezo as kittens and six months
later I got Ben from a woman who was going to put him to sleep.
He was approximately 6-8 months old and I was already his third
owner. Anyway, it took a while, but finally all three cats got
along. Yes, a lot of fur flew. However, it wasn't till about 2
years later I realize what a change there was in Ben. Since the
change was so gradual, I never noticed that I could pick him up
at anytime I felt like it without getting bitten or clawed, and
I could scratch his tummy (a Gonezo favorite) without worrying about
being scarred for life. Ben still has his moments, but now I know
when to leave him alone. I'm real glad I kept him. He's turned
out to be a most wonderful, joyous, and affectionate cat. It just
took a lot of time, patience, and lots of love.
Mary
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996.4 | | CIRCUS::KOLLING | Karen, Sweetie, Holly; in Calif. | Wed Dec 30 1987 16:11 | 3 |
| Just in case you missed it, read 2.141, a new intro note. One
of the cats in it sounds just like Fuzzball.
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996.5 | All will be fine | SALES::RFI86 | Eat Drink and See Jerry | Wed Dec 30 1987 16:32 | 22 |
| When we first got Tiptoe he was the same way. He adopted us about
a year and a half ago. All summer he hung around the house just
being around our other kitties but we couldn't get anywhere near
him. Then when it became late fall and was starting to get cold
I put out a dish of food for him and after I went inside he gobbled
it all up. This went on for about a month and then one night it
got really really cold, colder than last night, and around 8 at
night we heard this scratching on the door. it was Tiptoe begging
to come in. We let him in and he ran upstairs and hid until morning
and then it wazs right back out again. Anyway, for the first three
months after that first night there was definitely fur flying and
scratches abounded. He did finally settle down a bit. He still hates
to be picked up but really loves to be petted especially on the
tummy. So don't worry everything will work out all right.
Geoff
P.S. He is still kind of strange. Whenever ther is a rain storm
he begs to go out and he sits on the front porch withhis face pointed
straight up at the rain. We should have called him stormwatch.
G.
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