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Created:Mon Apr 23 1990
Last Modified:Thu Jun 05 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:651
Total number of notes:9490

149.0. "Bachelor Party" by CARTUN::LEWIS () Sun Jul 15 1990 12:28

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149.1Roast the groom-to-be?ISLNDS::LINIHANMon Jul 16 1990 09:3012
149.2What does *he* like to do?NETMAN::HUTCHINSDid someone say ICE CREAM?Mon Jul 16 1990 09:5415
149.3Appeal to his interests...NRPUR::TURICKMon Jul 16 1990 09:5712
149.4Second-time grooms can't have fun?HPSTEK::RITCHIEElaine Kokernak RitchieMon Jul 16 1990 10:0519
149.5DELNI::S_CLARKSandy loc:LKG2-1/AA6 ms:LKG1-2/C13 226-5660Mon Jul 16 1990 10:309
149.6check firstSUPER::WTHOMASWed Aug 29 1990 10:2516
149.7Bachelorette Party!THOTH::MCNEILTue Sep 11 1990 09:5834
149.8I had a ball!NRCP1::TURICKFri Sep 14 1990 14:5323
149.9Don't Embarass Anybody11518::LANDINGHAMMrs. KipMon Sep 24 1990 13:5216
149.10make that "sweaty-nude man"DELNI::S_CLARKSandy loc:LKG2-1/AA6 ms:LKG1-2/C13 226-5660Mon Sep 24 1990 14:406
149.11Yup, same impression11518::LANDINGHAMMrs. KipTue Sep 25 1990 12:5714
149.12Over-ruled I guessTHOTH::CUNNINGHAMWed Sep 26 1990 08:3019
149.13I had fun, I just don't sound like it...DELNI::S_CLARKSandy loc:LKG2-1/AA6 ms:LKG1-2/C13 226-5660Wed Sep 26 1990 09:3615
149.14Dancers and Dancing..DELNI::LEVENSALERThu Sep 27 1990 14:2925
149.15To Each Her Own!11518::LANDINGHAMMrs. KipFri Sep 28 1990 13:107
149.36Bachelor PartyUSCTR1::BNORRISIt's me, from beyond!Fri Apr 05 1991 16:4527
149.37SWAM2::DERY_CHFri Apr 05 1991 17:1229
149.38QUARK::LIONELFree advice is worth every centMon Apr 08 1991 15:0312
149.39Have fun yourself that night..GUESS::SCALATue Apr 09 1991 15:3610
149.40Comedy clubMR4DEC::CRZESZUTKOThu Apr 11 1991 12:187
149.41When are they held?WHEEL::FULLERFri Apr 12 1991 13:0611
149.42MRED::ST_JOHNFri Apr 12 1991 13:4511
149.43QUARK::LIONELFree advice is worth every centFri Apr 12 1991 15:1620
149.44Stop by for a drink, then go out with "the girls"AKQJ10::CLARKSandy 226-5660 Ms:LKG1-2/C13 Loc:LKG2-1/AA6Fri Apr 12 1991 15:2715
149.45Preciate the helpUSCTR1::BNORRISWed Apr 17 1991 11:3915
149.46Have funIAMOK::GERRITSThu Apr 18 1991 18:2018
149.47Bach parties...SMURF::BECKERThu Apr 25 1991 12:4713
149.48Been to a couple, in my day.PCOJCT::LABUDDEMr. MalcontentTue Apr 30 1991 16:1917
149.49Surprises can backfire!DIZZY::CLARKSandy 226-5660 Ms:LKG1-2/C13 Loc:LKG2-1/AA6Wed May 01 1991 10:3721
149.50Didn't catch Cheer's episodeUSCTR1::BNORRISWed May 01 1991 12:003
149.51a short synopsisDIZZY::CLARKSandy 226-5660 Ms:LKG1-2/C13 Loc:LKG2-1/AA6Wed May 01 1991 13:0217
149.52Well, I tried.USCTR1::BNORRISThu May 02 1991 14:367
149.53We BOTH went out!THOTH::CUNNINGHAMMon May 13 1991 13:4025
149.54Belly-Dancing...ISLNDS::ROBERTSFri May 24 1991 13:1110
149.55I wanna see this!USCTR1::BNORRISTue May 28 1991 10:586
149.16Bach Party Question.....SMURF::BECKERMon Aug 12 1991 15:2923
149.17exKINDLE::CLARKSandy Clark PendakMon Aug 12 1991 15:455
149.18SHALOT::LAMPSONBIt's all in the attitudeMon Aug 12 1991 16:008
149.19Ditto...BRAT::MORINMon Aug 12 1991 16:1615
149.20RUSTIE::NALEEat, Bike and be MerryMon Aug 12 1991 16:2411
149.21SMURF::BECKERMon Aug 12 1991 16:3316
149.22CSSE32::GRAEMEOnly elephants should wear ivoryMon Aug 12 1991 23:393
149.23Surprise! For the groom at least...NQOPS::SANTINELLIWAIT! I found her!Thu Aug 22 1991 10:0611
149.24exactly!SMURF::BECKERThu Aug 22 1991 10:1417
149.25Problem Solved!SMURF::BECKERThu Aug 29 1991 14:469
149.26HANNAH::BOUCHERJimitations are hollow...Thu Mar 12 1992 09:1521
149.27CIVIC::FAHELAmalthea Celebras/Silver UnicornThu Mar 12 1992 09:4020
149.28SX4GTO::WELLINGThu Mar 12 1992 12:1228
149.29HANNAH::BOUCHERJimitations are hollow...Thu Mar 12 1992 13:1314
149.30You said it...for a "last fling"CIVIC::FAHELAmalthea Celebras/Silver UnicornThu Mar 12 1992 14:4713
149.31GUCCI::SMILLERThu Mar 12 1992 14:4810
149.32SX4GTO::WELLINGThu Mar 12 1992 15:598
149.33RTOEU::JGIBBONSFri Mar 13 1992 03:274
149.34CUPMK::T_THEOHelp, HELP, I'm being repressedMon Jun 29 1992 15:3121
149.35CIVIC::FAHELAmalthea Celebras/Silver UnicornMon Jun 29 1992 17:433
149.56Bachelor Party - Who gets invited?POWDML::FLEURENTWed Aug 17 1994 11:3324
149.57well, imo....AKOCOA::FARLEYRenegades,rebels & roguesWed Aug 17 1994 13:2626
149.58Ok, now I understandPOWDML::FLEURENTWed Aug 17 1994 14:4714
149.59Don't know where to go...EVMS::BMANTue Apr 15 1997 17:0618
Ok, I hope there are some people still reading this notesfile that can give   
me some advice.

I am the Best Man of my friend's wedding, which leaves me with the 
resposibility of setting up the bachelor party.  I asked him to give me the
names of all of his friends.  He responded with about 12 names.  I know four
of them and the others are his co-workers (all engineers of one type or 
another).  Now, I don't know what I should do.  I am having a hard time
figuring out how to entertain 12 people most of whom I don't know.  I don't 
want to bore them or offend them.  I am thinking in terms of a strip club 
(since that's what I understand most bachelor parties go), but I don't know 
if they do anything special for a bachelor party.

Basically I am looking for ideas or information about what I should be doing
at this point.

Thanks for any advice,
Brian
149.60don't forget the ball&chain for his ankleABACUS::WENSINGWed Apr 16 1997 09:3116
    Hi Brian.
    
    The past few bachelor parties I've been to have started out with dinner
    at a restaurant and then moved onto the local strip joint, some guy
    named Matthew or something like that 8^)      
    
    You could always call some of his coworkers and see what they are up
    for, perhaps present your idea and see what they all think.  They may
    have other helpful suggestions from things the bachelor may have told
    them at work. 
    
    Also, his fiancee may be able to help.  She should know what he would
    or wouldn't like.  
    
    	good luck. hope it all goes well.
    	helge wensing (23 days left myself of bachelorism)
149.61A couple of points to consider...STAR::DIPIRROWed Apr 16 1997 11:3815
    	Plus, Brian, you know the guy and know his likes and dislikes. A
    bachelor party is what you make of it. Do what you feel is appropriate
    for the groom. Don't necessarily follow tradition or conventions. Think
    about how you think he'd like to celebrate his last days of
    bachelorhood with his closest friends. Some guys prefer a quieter
    evening and are more introspective. Others like a wild party with
    strippers, drinking, and heavy barfing.
    	Something else to consider is how the bride might feel about some
    of these plans. If she's going to be extremely upset with him (and you)
    over this, it's something to consider. When I got married last summer,
    I made sure my friends knew not to plan anything with strippers because
    my wife would have been very upset. It's just one of those things that
    really bothers her.
    	So I say plan an evening that you feel is how he'd like to
    celebrate.
149.62FoxwoodsPOWDML::WHEELERChickens have no bumsWed Apr 16 1997 16:066
	The last 2 I heard about, the future groom was taken to 
	Atlantic City for the weekend, and the other one, they all
	went to Foxwoods - Dinner/Show/gambling all night...

	So, there is more to do than just strip joints...
149.63Great, now when should it be?EVMS::BMANFri May 02 1997 14:5711
Ok, thanks for the opinions about the bachelor party.  So the
next questions I have is _when_?  I mean how soon before the
wedding should this event be?  Someone I asked told me to try
to do it the day and night before the wedding (ie. keep him up
24+ hours).  It seems awfully cruel and isn't the rehersal
the day before?  Any suggestions for when?  The wedding is going
to be on August 10th.  A Sunday, if it matters.
Sorry if this question seems stupid.

Thanks,
Brian
149.643 or 4 weeksPOWDML::WHEELERChickens have no bumsSun May 04 1997 20:245

	In my family the are done around the same time as the bridal
	shower, or the bachlorette party...  (3 - 4 weeks BEFORE
	the wedding)
149.65the weekend before perhapsBRAT::WENSINGMon May 05 1997 09:293
    I don't think the night before is a good idea, personally.  If the
    groom goes to the wedding hungover, he probably won't enjoy himself
    very much, neither will his bride, nor the families...    
149.66JUMP4::JOYPerception is realityThu May 15 1997 13:516
    My husband's bachelor party was on the Wed. night before the wedding
    (Sat.). But he also had a very tame party (most of his friends are
    female so there wasn't a lot of the raunchy stuff).
    
    Debbie