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752.1 | | MILKWY::SLABOUNTY | Got into a war with reality ... | Thu Mar 07 1991 15:17 | 7 |
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You mean all the ones you like so much?
8^)
GTI
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752.2 | | BINKLY::MINARDI | Spam acid | Fri Mar 08 1991 11:12 | 2 |
| Yeah Buck, no kidding. What about Mark Slaughter?!
He talks like Mike Tyson, and sings like Mariah Carey at 78 rpm.
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752.3 | | VCSESU::MOSHER::COOK | Caught in a mosh! | Fri Mar 08 1991 11:19 | 2 |
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He's way too whiney for my tastes.
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752.13 | C'mon folks... | GOES11::G_HOUSE | Red light, Green light, TNT | Fri Mar 08 1991 13:43 | 9 |
| This note could actually have some interesting discussion if people
would stay in the spirit of it. I see it as being very similar to the
"I Just Don't Get It" note in MUSIC.
We will clean out unrelated replies in this note and see if people can
stay on the topic, then if that's not the case it'll have to be
removed.
Greg (wearing his Moderator shoes)
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752.14 | Help me out here? | COMET::FRISBYA | Wake me when it's over | Tue Oct 08 1991 15:16 | 14 |
| WTF is with Rob Halford and his shaved head and parralel tattoos?
WTF is with the Scorpians where hats all the time?
Are they ashamed of being bald?
WTF-is it with this new VAnilla Ice movie! ACK...YUCK!!!!!!
"Cool As Ice"? Movies are going downhill.....
WTF is with line "Cool ranch dressing" in that one G&R song?
WTF is with Ozzy's "NO MORE TEARS"? The lyrics don't say anything
about abortion....Except the talking.
Frizkid
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752.15 | | DPDMAI::THRELFALL | BloodSugarSexMagik | Tue Oct 08 1991 15:25 | 8 |
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}} WTF is with Ozzy's "NO MORE TEARS"? The lyrics don't say anything
}} about abortion....Except the talking.
Abortion? WTF? Is THAT what this song is about??
'pril (forever-confoozed...)
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752.16 | IT SHOULDN'T END IN ABORTION,ABORTION,ABORTION... | COMET::FRISBYA | Wake me when it's over | Tue Oct 08 1991 15:28 | 7 |
| RE-1
It's suppose to be.....
But I just don't get it?!?
Frizkid
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752.17 | smells like comet too! | HAMER::KRON | IAMNOTANNUMBERIAMAFREEMAN | Tue Oct 08 1991 17:53 | 2 |
| re: .14 .......in these parts cool ranch dressing is a way of
describing a certain male-oriented excretion.......
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752.18 | | CSC32::J_HERNANDEZ | Tired of it. | Tue Oct 08 1991 18:56 | 1 |
| Come again?
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752.19 | Thanks! | GOES11::G_HOUSE | I wanna be sedated! | Tue Oct 08 1991 19:06 | 1 |
| I'd love to!
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752.20 | probably $$$ | LACV01::BUCHANAN | Greetings from the Suncrime State | Mon Jan 06 1992 14:47 | 7 |
| WTF is it with POWER BALLADS?
Ever since Peter Criss first warbled the words 'Beth I hear you
calling' back in the dawn of the 70's it seems metal has been making
ballads. Lately it seems like its obligatory! WTF?
Does it seem like it's only the posers or is everybody doing it? Why?
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752.21 | | VCSESU::MOSHER::COOK | Back for more! | Mon Jan 06 1992 14:53 | 3 |
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I know, even Metallica has done it. Although I will admit, Mystic
Powers has one power ballad.
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752.22 | | LACV01::BUCHANAN | Greetings from the Suncrime State | Mon Jan 06 1992 15:04 | 5 |
| Don't get me wrong, I like them (IF they're done right), but I could never
understand why a musical style based on bone-crunching rhythms (don't
we love it) would want to do ballads.
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752.23 | serves them right! | FREEBE::REAUME | KH/REXX SnoB | Mon Jan 06 1992 15:13 | 8 |
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UFO was another of the earliest bands to do the Heavy Ballads.
Check out "Love to Love", if it's not on "Lights Out" then it's
on "Obsession".
Now you got people buying Extreme and Warrant CD's expecting all
the songs to be like "More than Words" or "I Saw Red" - Fooled Them!
-B()()M-
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752.24 | | CAVLRY::BUCK | Re-build the Cyclone Racer | Mon Jan 06 1992 15:29 | 2 |
| Even Greg House...admitted HM Ballad hater, knows the words to
"I Saw Red"!!
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752.25 | There is NO such thing as POSERS! | COMET::FRISBYA | Sweet Cheater | Mon Jan 06 1992 15:45 | 9 |
| The reason:
Because H_M people do some of the best damn ballads!!
It also shows a sense of humanity among the fur flying. 8)
Frizkid
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752.26 | You want girl groupies?Write a balled. | WMOIS::MAZURKA | Son of the Dawn | Mon Jan 06 1992 15:46 | 6 |
| It's a must for any band that wants to get on the radio.
Alice Cooper and AeroSmith stick aleast one on every one of their
albums.They all do,except for true Death Metellers...Right Lei?
I think it doesn't hurt and album,if it's done right.
Crazy_To_many_Posuer_groups_over_do_it_Al
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752.27 | Does woman fan=groupie....I don't think so. | COMET::FRISBYA | Sweet Cheater | Mon Jan 06 1992 15:55 | 10 |
| A ballad shows a sense of versatality.
There is no such thing as poser...There is no such thing as a
poser. You will wake up when I snap my fingers and relieze:
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A POSER.
Frizkid.
p.s. We had plenty of girl fans before we even played a ballad.
I don't think that your giving the girl fans much credit here.
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752.28 | MAJOR BRRRRRRR! | GOES11::G_HOUSE | Tommy The Cat | Mon Jan 06 1992 18:04 | 15 |
| re: Buck
> Even Greg House...admitted HM Ballad hater, knows the words to
> "I Saw Red"!!
AAAAAAAAGGGGHHHH!!!! AAAAAGHH! AAAAGGH!! {in my best Sam Kinnison
voice}
re: Boom
"Love To Love" was definately on the Lights Out album. An outstanding
song! I never thought of it as a "power ballad" though. That term
just makes my skin crawl...
gh
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752.29 | | SALEM::SCALZO | The Sky is Crying | Tue Jan 07 1992 07:36 | 4 |
| I can't picture Priest doing a ballad.....Although a few of the early
releases can be considered....maybe...
jeff
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752.30 | | POWDML::GOLDBERG | I'd give you hell if I could | Tue Jan 07 1992 08:37 | 7 |
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They've done plenty of ballads! You got to listen to their OLD OLD
stuff.. its great!
Goddess F.
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752.31 | | METALX::SWANSON | Ghost in the ruins | Tue Jan 07 1992 09:18 | 8 |
| Yeah, there's a great one on Hell Bent For Leather, but the name
escapes me right now....
"It's been a lifetime, since I found someone, since I found someone who
would stay..."
|KS|
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752.32 | | BUSY::SLABOUNTY | HereComesTrouble&ItLooksLikeFun | Tue Jan 07 1992 12:34 | 7 |
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"Beth" wasn't a power ballad ... it was just a ballad.
And Judas Priest did "When the Night Comes Down" on "Defenders
ofthe Faith", which was definitely a power ballad.
GTI
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752.33 | wtf? | VLNVAX::CESCOBAR | TiedUp,TiedDown,UpAgainstTheWall... | Tue Jan 07 1992 12:50 | 5 |
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Testaments "The Ballad" is cool.
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752.34 | Lick my love pump - that's a ballad | ARRODS::OHAGANB | Are you with me Doctor Wu? | Wed Jan 08 1992 08:08 | 9 |
| re .31
There is a ballad on "Killing Machine" (name was changed to "Hell Bent
For Leather" in the U.S.) called "Before the Dawn". It's appalling.
I thought all this ballad-phobia lark died out years ago. I fondly
remember this usually being practised by novice headbangers with rampant
hormones and no girlfriends.
Barry.
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752.35 | What's wrong with rampant hormones??? | METALX::SWANSON | Ghost in the ruins | Wed Jan 08 1992 11:14 | 10 |
| re: -1
Pardon my ignorance, but what does lack of girlfriends have to do with
ballads at all??
And if you call "ballad-phobia" lark, doesn't that mean you like
ballads?
|KS|
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752.36 | | VLNVAX::CESCOBAR | Really A Nice Person...Really | Wed Jan 08 1992 11:26 | 6 |
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I happen to like a lot of ballads...I wouldn't exactly call myself
girlfriendless.
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752.37 | I'm harly a 'novice' too | COMET::FRISBYA | Sweet Cheater | Wed Jan 08 1992 11:42 | 7 |
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I happen to like a great number of ballads too and I'm far from
lonely.
But I do have crazed hormones though. 8)
Frizkid
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752.38 | Ooops! Look what I've done! | ARRODS::OHAGANB | Are you with me Doctor Wu? | Wed Jan 08 1992 12:47 | 17 |
| Take it easy chaps! No personal offence was intended and certainly no
criticism of ballads was made in my note. Basically I was referring to
the state of play a few years back when it was considered, by some,
wimpish or girlish for a band to produce ballads and affected their
judgement of bands that did. The comment about hormones and girlfriends
was just a wry dig at those (usually) younger headbangers who demanded
nothing but heads down, no nonsense, 100mph songs about death, Satan,
more death, Satan etc and could'nt handle anything else. The bit about
girlfriends was, shall we say, a light-hearted observation. Next time
I'll remember the smileys.
:^) yours
Barry.
p.s. Anyway, I'm a UFO fan so I'm bound to like ballads are'nt I?
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752.39 | | METALX::SWANSON | Ghost in the ruins | Wed Jan 08 1992 13:05 | 4 |
| re: Barry,
Oh, sorry. I thought you were calling the song "Before the Dawn"
appalling!
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752.40 | | MRVAX::CESCOBAR | Really A Nice Person...Really | Wed Jan 08 1992 13:07 | 4 |
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Re: barry
Oh sorry..I was just writin' somethin' or other... :-)
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752.41 | like chill dudes :*) | BRAT::MATTHEWS | DEAth Star | Wed Jan 08 1992 15:17 | 10 |
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WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wendy o'
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752.42 | | SUBURB::COOKS | Lie,Cheat,Steal | Thu Jan 09 1992 13:10 | 5 |
| Ballads make me puke,cuz only wimps like them.
Joe Strummer (Aged 13 and a half).
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752.43 | | SEAVU::SLABOUNTY | HereComesTrouble&ItLooksLikeFun | Thu Jan 09 1992 16:21 | 9 |
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RE: .42
Are you that old?
8^)
GTI
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752.44 | | HYEND::C_DENOPOULOS | o -|- \/ -) [- ^_ <\|/> | Thu Jan 09 1992 16:32 | 3 |
| Is that in dog years??? :^)
Chris D.
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752.45 | Greg, I stand ready to be deleted. | LACV01::BUCHANAN | Is VAX9000 Hal's cousin? | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:08 | 16 |
| Okay, this is ENTIRELY metal related, but all the conversation in the
Nirvana note got me to wondering about this (filing is sooo boring, the
mind wanders....)
According to the few men's magazines I've glanced through, males are
supposed to consider pictures of two women doing each other a turn-on.
However, as apparant from the Nirvana note, men kissing each other
(never mind the stuff the women in Gallery et. al do to each other), is
considered extremely gross by both men and women.
So WTF? What's the attraction? Or are the men's magazine publishers
of the world perpetrating a falsehood regarding the males of America?
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752.46 | hahahah Set Mode/type=Karen :-) | KIDVAX::CESCOBAR | Rape My Mind And Destroy My Feelings | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:13 | 9 |
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I'm not turned on by either....Put me in bewteen the two.........
women...yeah i would be...put me inbetween the two men...I'd
be sick...just the way I am............./c
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752.52 | have we not come that far? | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:15 | 8 |
| What's wrong with Miz Bald O'Connor?!? 8^)
I just think Sethypooh's reaction was just a *tad* extreme. Sick?
Really... I thought the 90s society was over sensationalism like
that...guess not?!
Buck, who remembers a lesbian love scene as part of Prince's Lovesexy
live show, and how it made a few people squirm (but not many)
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752.47 | Careful... | GOES11::G_HOUSE | I think I'm gonna hurl! -G. Bush | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:15 | 7 |
| Umm.. Speaking as a Moderator here, we'd be treading on a *real* touchy
area if we get into this discussion in here, so *please* keep it nice
and Value Differences and all or I will be forced to shut the
discussion down to avoid all sorts of trouble. Ok?
Thanks,
Greg
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752.48 | I am openminded...I just have opinions... | KIDVAX::CESCOBAR | Rape My Mind And Destroy My Feelings | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:18 | 2 |
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I was waiting for you, greg... ;')
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752.53 | I can't help how it makes me feel. | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:19 | 10 |
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Buck, *I* think that two guys kissing (more than a little peck)
is sick.. I can not help how I feel. I am not saying that they
are sick. They can do what they want, but to *me* it makes
me squimish. That is just how *I* feel about it.
-Seth
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752.49 | | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:21 | 11 |
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> -< I am openminded...I just have opinions... >-
Me too... What are you opinions Chris...
(remember be careful how you put it.)
-Seth
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752.50 | my .02 on the subject | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:27 | 31 |
| RE: BJ
*I* think it's the whole "male bonding" thing. It's still a major
issue this society needs to work out. It's *ok* for male sports
athletes to slap each other in the butt, or hug/kiss each other, but
it's not ok for male non-athletes to do any of the above. A dbl std
fer sure ... go figure?!
I remember when a close friend of mine went thru a 12 step program to
get himself off drugs. Part of the rehab was expressing your emotions,
which often included big 'bear hugs' for emotional support, etc. I
remember myself being very uncomfortable when my friend would do this
spontaneously in public...for fear that other people would think we
were gay, or whatever. Then I thought 'This is stupid...f___ what
other people think, what's more important is trying to help my friend
through his ordeal'. Having put it into perspective, I didn't feel so
bad about this guy hugging me in public. Granted, it felt a tad odd,
but moreso it was because I had this paradigm about society's views on
such a act, as opposed to the act itself.
Some right wing/religious groups are always trying to surpress any
headway made into this 'male bonding' issue. Just recently some
groups were trying to boycott several major TV networks for presenting
male conding in such a positive light...as these people felt that was
not the message they felt should be going out to soceity at large.
*I* think such exposure is great...I'm always supportive of breaking
down such social barriers. Some people just want to live life in such
a restrictive manner...I think it's unhealthy (see ACOA/incest survivor's
issues for reference).
B.
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752.51 | | KIDVAX::CESCOBAR | Rape My Mind And Destroy My Feelings | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:28 | 13 |
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Well I'm turned off by homosexuality. There is nothing wrong with it,
and it isn't bad. I'm just not a homosexual and never will be. And
I have no desire to be one. If advances are made toward me, I will
simply say, I'm not intersted. No big deal.
To quothe my favorite musical lyricist...
Life Is My Own To Live My Own Way
Chris
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752.54 | Ask yourself why? | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:32 | 7 |
| -1
See my reply in the WTF topic.
*I* just don't see why it is such a big deal. Gawd, the media has
ads with pet owners kissing their <insert fav animal here>...people
don't have a problem with that. How come?
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752.55 | another fine example of a social paradigm | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:35 | 8 |
| -1
I don't think that two men kissing each other necessarily denotes
'homosexuality'...do you? Again, referencing BJ's note...when two
women kiss, which is quite often, people don't immediately think
'homosexuality'. Why then is that term denoted when men are involved?
Buck, wearing his "VoD" hat
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752.56 | I dunno... | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:40 | 19 |
| > *I* just don't see why it is such a big deal. Gawd, the media has
> ads with pet owners kissing their <insert fav animal here>...people
> don't have a problem with that. How come?
FWIW I think that people kissing pets is sick too. It makes me squimish
also. So <above> doesn't wash with me.
BTW you said something about sensationalism was over in the 80's, BUT
I am just beining to be an adult, so I am just starting to air my opinions.
So, now is my sensationalism period I guess. 8) x 1000000000
I also don't agree with what you said about sports. I have never (except
once) seen any two guys kissing in sports. and I watch a *lot* of sports.
Hugging is cool with me (ex. you and your friend). Patting on the butt,
I have *never* understood (in sports that is) and I have never done it in
the sports I have played.
-Seth
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752.57 | Hope I didn't start anything | LACV01::BUCHANAN | Is VAX9000 Hal's cousin? | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:42 | 16 |
| re: Buck
That was really my question. Why is the reaction to men-kissing-men so
violent, even if the context is not necessarily homosexual, but women-
kissing-women is not reacted to in that way, even when it IS explicitly
homosexual?
Part two was : do men really find depicts of lesbian behavior
attractive and if so, why? Most women do not find depictions of men in
a same sex context attractive (to my knowledge.)
Actually, I think Greg's right. Maybe we best just take this whole
thing off-line.
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752.58 | | KIDVAX::CESCOBAR | Rape My Mind And Destroy My Feelings | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:44 | 11 |
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Re: Buck
I'm not saying any kind of expression implies homosexuality, that's
just what I was expressing views on. My view on the expressions...well
I don't think I would enjoy a man kissing me, but I always grab guys
and bear hug'em...we usually end up wrestling or something, but
nonetheless.
Chris
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752.59 | My view | GOES11::G_HOUSE | I think I'm gonna hurl! -G. Bush | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:46 | 30 |
| re: .55 (Buck)
> I don't think that two men kissing each other necessarily denotes
> 'homosexuality'...do you?
No, of course not. And FWIW I did not think that the guys in Nirvana
kissing was a sexual thing, just didn't have that feel to it to me.
Also FWIW, I don't have a problem with men touching (in a nonsexual
way) or hugging, I do this fairly often myself. I am not a homosexual,
it has nothing to do with sex. Someone can think what they will, but
if they know me, then they know how I feel about things.
It's like Buck said about people kissing animals (formerly in the
Nirvana note until I moved it here), I think the difference is that
people don't perceive that as a sexual thing.
The funny thing is that I've had many female friends who would greet
you with a kiss. It wasn't a sexual thing, just a friendly thing.
Nobody thought anything of it. But if two males do that, then they're
branded as being homosexuals...doesn't seem fair.
Then again, in the animal world it's generally the males that are the
more brightly colored of a given species. Except for male humans, who
are expected to dress more sedately then the females. Why is it ok for
females to wear lots of color and decorate themselves that way when
it's not for men? Why are we backwards from the rest of the creatures
that populate this planet?
gh
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752.60 | | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:49 | 12 |
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The animal thing still doesn't wash with me. I think is it sick
as well.
Re: Greg
Why ask Why? 8)x 10000000
-Seth
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752.61 | | GOES11::G_HOUSE | I think I'm gonna hurl! -G. Bush | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:55 | 9 |
| I don't especially care for people kissing their pets because I don't
think it's sanitary. Has nothing to do with whether it's a sexual
thing or not...
Sounds like you think of a kiss as some sort of a sexual expression
regardless of the context, Seth. I guess that's the difference in our
definations of what that particular act means.
gh
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752.62 | challenge yourself to difference | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:55 | 29 |
| Bj,
Hon, methinks you opened Pandora's Box! ];^>
RE: Pooh
But you see, when a million + people see "Joe football star" hug and
kiss his fellow teammate who just scored a killer field goal, it's
accepted by the general populus of America. You don't have a million
men running to shut the TV off because they are so disgusted, they
can't stand to watch anymore, etc. Likewise, put on a documentary film
like Longtime Companion, which shows little or no same sex scenes, but
the idea is there, and you have all of America in a b*tch about it even
being aired on TV!!
I think in urban cities, where there is a greater mix of people from
all walks of life, reaction to differences (of any kind) is not so
vast. But in rural areas, people's view of society is so pigeon-holed,
people do not know how to react to difference. Since they don't
understand difference, they react with fear/hatred. This is why in
very rural areas of the south/southwest, you have all these bible
thumpers, skinheads, and white supremist groups all trying to gear
their subdivision of society THEIR way (since their way is the only
way, of course).
This subject is kind of a pet peeve with me, and why I'm involved with
DEC's VoD program...to try and tune people in to the concept of
difference.
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752.63 | 8^) | GOES11::G_HOUSE | I think I'm gonna hurl! -G. Bush | Mon Jan 13 1992 16:57 | 6 |
| > Hon, methinks you opened Pandora's Box! ];^>
As long as what spills out in this notesfile follows corporate
guidelines it's ok, else it's outta here.
gh
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752.64 | | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 17:01 | 26 |
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re: Greg
No, I don't think that people kissing their pets is sexual.
That is a ridiculous comment. I think it is sick, probably
because it is unclean as you say.
Guys kissing is a different story. I don't like this because,
who knows, maybe I see kissing (I mean kissing as I said, not
a peck, but a real kiss on the lips) to mean something sexual
yes. I assume most people do.
re: Buck
As I said I watch *TONS* of sports and I have *NEVER* (Except
once involving Magic and Isiah T.) seen two guys kiss. NEVER!
EVER!!! I don't see guys kissing in sports. I don't know what
sports you have been watching.
As I said hugging is okay in my book. But real kisses are not.
-Seth
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752.65 | | GOES11::G_HOUSE | I think I'm gonna hurl! -G. Bush | Mon Jan 13 1992 17:09 | 5 |
| > I don't know what sports you have been watching.
As I recall he's big on Sumo Wrestling...
;^)
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752.66 | | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 17:15 | 10 |
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re: -1
That could be, coz I mostly watch Hockey, football, baseball, and
a bit of basketball..
-Seth
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752.67 | | CSC32::J_HERNANDEZ | People who use straws suck. | Mon Jan 13 1992 17:30 | 11 |
| I for one don't enjoy watching two women have sex with each other, no
matter what type of media it is presented in.
I also watch a lot of sports and have only seen the Magic/Isiah peck. I
didn't see any big deal there. In some countries it is customary to
greet with a kiss, (peck on the cheek). Personally it doesn't bother me.
Hell, a peck on the lips wouldn't bug me. A full blown (pardon the
expression) french kiss between two members of the same sex would
bother me to the point where I'd simply look away.
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752.68 | That is what I have been trying to say...RE: -1 | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 17:45 | 14 |
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re: -1
Yeah, what he said.....
I agree with you completely.
Bother me enought to look away, right, I get a weird feeling
so I look away..
-Seth
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752.69 | BTW 69 dudes... | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 17:46 | 8 |
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I am not telling other what to do, but it is just how *I* feel..
-Seth
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752.70 | fyi | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Mon Jan 13 1992 20:17 | 3 |
| RE: Seth and Sports...
I've seen it often in Basketball, Rugby, and Soccer.
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752.71 | valuing difference comes in many forms | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Mon Jan 13 1992 20:27 | 11 |
| > Bother me enought to look away, right, I get a weird feeling
> so I look away..
Ok Seth, off the men kissing subject. What about, say, if you went to
a class at DEC, and had to sit next to an employee that had a physical
or cosmetic abnormality...say like someone who lost half of their face
to cancer...would you feel uncomfortable about sitting next to them?
What about engaging in a conversation with them? How comfortable
would you feel? And, how would you say you judge your own level of
comfortability in the situation on your ability to accept their
difference?
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752.72 | | MRSVAX::CESCOBAR | I Rule The Midnight Air! | Mon Jan 13 1992 23:09 | 14 |
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Re: .71
*I* would feel uncomfortable yes. Why? Because of pity and remorse.
I feel bad for the person, and I would have no idea what to say. What
they look like is of no concern. If it was just that they were ugly
through natural causes, I wouldn't be uncomfortable. If it was to a
disease or accident, I would be a little, yes.
I'm trying to be honest. I mean I have friends that are both homosexual
and 'deformed'...and I treat them the way I treat all my friends. It's
no big deal. But when it comes to strangers, I must admit I feel a
little uncomfortable.
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752.73 | | MPGS::HOWES | Shadows form scary visions. | Mon Jan 13 1992 23:23 | 15 |
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re: Buck
Well I just read what you said. I feel the same way that Chris
does on this subject. I would and have felt very bad for the
person while talking to them, and this makes me feel uncomfortable.
I know a lot of deformed/handicapped people say 'don't feel bad
for me', but I can not help it. I automatically feel bad for them.
It is something I can't control, and that makes me uncomfortable.
I am just being honest too...
-Seth
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752.74 | | GAMGEE::ROBR | It's man against machine... | Tue Jan 14 1992 00:32 | 8 |
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oh what a topic!!
:')
ps, i fall right into bj's catagory :').
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752.75 | btw what's up with pfloyd | DUCK::PERKINSP | MISSION IMPOSSIBLE 830-2333 | Tue Jan 14 1992 05:13 | 6 |
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What's bj's catagory?
8^)
Flip
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752.76 | | POWDML::GOLDBERG | bone crackin' fever | Tue Jan 14 1992 08:02 | 15 |
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When I was about 8 I lived next door to a teenager who was disfigured.
I saw him alot, he would be over the house etc. I think I was scared
the first time I saw him, then got used to it.. so that kind of sh(t
doesn't bother me now..
Alot of men think of woman being together sexually as a turn-on. Alot
of men think of men being together sexually as a turn-off. Seeing as
its still a mans world, then thats what the rest of the woman
population is stuck with.
Goddess F.
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752.77 | | MRVAX::CESCOBAR | South Of Heaven | Tue Jan 14 1992 10:15 | 8 |
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I for one don't find two women together as a turn on. If I was in the
middle, yes, to be honest I would be turned on.
As for the deformities....it really doesn't bother me unless It's a
person I just met...it takes me a wee bit...then It doesn't bother
abit.
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752.78 | Interesting FYI | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Wed Jan 15 1992 14:00 | 109 |
| I saw this on the network and thought it was well worth sharing.
The following article appeared in December's issue of Life Magazine.
Sexual Bigotry
by Roger Rosenblatt
The reason people are having so much trouble identifying sexual
harassment these days is that the offense has less to do with sex than
gender. Ever since Professor Anita Hill accused Supreme Court nominee
Judge Clarence Thomas of lewd and overbearing conduct toward her, the
country has been trying to determine the difference between innocent
fun and genuine pain.
But the pain felt by a woman who suffers indignities from men in a
place of work rarely has anything to do with the men's sexual desires.
The pain is experienced because women are made to feel inferior --
inferior intellectually, emotionally, professionally -- in a situation
where they have every right to feel equal. They are not so much sex
objects as targets of bigotry.
Now, bigotry between sexes, unlike bigotry between races, is fraught
with a lot of biological tension that can make it seem something other
than it is. And sex often does involve the deliberate exertion of
leverage or power.
But when some guy calls a female colleague "honey" and does nothing
else suggestive, I think it's a stretch to assume that "honey" is a
sign of his wanting to roll in the hay. When the word is dropped
into, say, a professional disagreement, or a competition of views,
however, it has the edge of an attack.
"That's all well and good, honey, but if you had as much experience
with these things as I..."
In that sort of case, which is far more common than a man's making a
pass, the term of endearment is actually a term of derision, of
purposeful belittling. Not very subtly, the male in the office wants
to tell the female: "O.K. You've got a big, responsible job now. But
this is still a man's world, HONEY, and I'm going to try and make you
feel as uncomfort- able in it as I possibly can."
The movie "Tootsie" brought out this kind of sexual bigotry as well as
anything. Dustin Hoffman, passing as a woman, and playing an actress
in a soap opera, chews out "her" director, played by Dabney Coleman
(America's favorite male chauvinist pig), when Coleman uses the
supposedly affectionate nickname of Tootsie. Coleman isn't interested
in squeezing Tootsie's body but in squeezing her mind. He wants to
make her feel she does not belong, or that she exists at his
sufferance.
That, I think, is the real and brutal motive behind most sexual
harassment -- to keep a woman in her "place" whenever she emerges into
a "man's place."
These recent years have been kind of hard on the old boys' network. (I
know, I'm an old boy myself.) In the 1990s men are finally beginning
to realize that the women's movement has moved; it has happened. With
the economy requiring two wage earners in a family, and the general
enlightenment that follows a right idea, nothing is going to make it
UN-happen.
Some men take the news well, some grudgingly, some angrily. Some take
it angrily who only appear to take it well.
There are the ones you often find leering like Red Riding Hood's wolf
over the watercooler or reaching out to make a pinch. They don't want
sex, they want dominance. They want to set back the office clock to
when those desks and nameplates were all theirs.
We have seen this type of bigotry before, of course, but it was in the
South before the 1960s, at swimming pools and lunch counters, when
American blacks were told they were not Americans.
And we saw it at the start of the century, when American Irish, Slavs,
Jews, Italians and others were told they were not Americans either:
"Irish need not apply." American Hispanics are told the same thing
today, as are American Asians and American Indians, and American
homosexuals and the American handicapped.
With civil rights laws in place, bigots have nowhere to turn except
toward lesser forms of tyranny. The matter often lies in intention.
Most male bigots intend to bring women down, all right -- not in the
bed, in the whole society. They hope to injure a woman's self-esteem
by bringing her low. It is one sure way such men can think better of
themselves.
Like conventional bigots, too, they will treat the targets of their
bigotry as inferior because of fear. Usually men who behave badly
toward women coworkers are afraid of them, afraid that women will show
them up as less capable or that the women will band together in a
sorority as clannish and exclusionary as men's clubs. You wouldn't
want THAT.
Many observers feel that the gray area in the harassment issue lies
where a woman misinterprets a man's intentions. I think that is so.
Many men, myself sorrowfully included, are bumblers when it comes to
knowing what's cute and what's rude or worse.
But I also think that the misinterpretation of intentions is far more
likely when it comes to sexual desires than when it comes to bigotry.
No law can prove it, but the heart knows when it is being assaulted as
something less, not worthy, not human. The man who does anything --
anything at all -- to intentionally make a woman feel not human is no
different from the coward Klansman hiding his hatred under a sheet.
He's not making love, he's making war.
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752.79 | | DYMNDZ::JUDY | must be the devil in disguise | Wed Jan 15 1992 14:29 | 8 |
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This is making quite the rounds. I read it in Womannotes
this morning and forwarded it along to my boss. It's a
great article!
JJ
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752.80 | | HYEND::C_DENOPOULOS | Real men use Duct tape! | Wed Jan 15 1992 14:36 | 11 |
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It is a great article. Women are needed, important, neccesary. I
think every man should own one!
:^)
Chris D.
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752.81 | | CSC32::J_HERNANDEZ | People who use straws suck. | Wed Jan 15 1992 14:36 | 5 |
| I think the whole damn world is just too sensitive sometimes. I joke
around the same with everyone. I made a little joke with a GOOD friend
of mine whose hubby is a soccer teammate and drinking buddy of mine. A
co-worker overheard it and WAY overreacted cuz of what she TOUGHT I
meant. It's a shame!
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752.82 | the worlds goin to H8LL and you're letting it!!!! | BRAT::MATTHEWS | DEAth Star | Fri Jan 17 1992 11:01 | 9 |
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well i think people are way too dishonest these days!!!!
people dont respect other peoples relationships, they is no sense of
commitment. blah blah blah,...
wendy o'
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752.83 | | DUCK::PERKINSP | MISSION IMPOSSIBLE 830-2333 | Fri Jan 17 1992 11:03 | 4 |
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WOAH! That was a bit deep, Wendy!
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752.84 | and now, to contemplate the meaning of life, we have WENDY*O | CAVLRY::BUCK | REXX & Roll | Fri Jan 17 1992 11:09 | 1 |
| Too deep for HM!
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752.85 | sothere! | BRAT::MATTHEWS | DEAth Star | Fri Jan 17 1992 11:22 | 11 |
| WWWWWWWWWWHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
TTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTHHHHHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
F>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
:*)
wendy o'
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752.86 | Growing-up | BSS::K_LAFFIN | | Wed Mar 04 1992 18:52 | 10 |
| There IS a sense of commitment in this world.
See..... I was gone for a long long time but I came back. That's
commitment!
Mature adults have a serious sense of commitment. That how you know if
you're dealing with one or not. Its just that there are so few real
adults in the world.
kat
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752.87 | Adult? | GOES11::G_HOUSE | Now I'm down in it | Wed Mar 04 1992 20:12 | 6 |
| > See..... I was gone for a long long time but I came back. That's
> commitment!
Gone from where?
gh
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752.88 | in the navy you can sail the 7 seas... | GAMGEE::ROBR | I'm too sexy for this conference... | Wed Mar 04 1992 21:48 | 4 |
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this isn't katrina is it?? i dont recall another kat...
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752.89 | | PEKING::PERKINSP | I'm a negative creep | Thu Mar 05 1992 04:12 | 4 |
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NO WAY! IF it is you Katrina, thank god you're back!
flip
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752.90 | | PEKING::PERKINSP | I'm a negative creep | Thu Mar 05 1992 04:18 | 5 |
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Other than being Ms Vaccelli (sp?) it could be Ms Gallup....
Either way, it's good having some REAL people back in here.
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752.91 | | GAMGEE::ROBR | I'm too sexy for this conference... | Thu Mar 05 1992 04:24 | 7 |
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oh yeah, your idea is more likely...
forgot about the other kat. i thought there was one but i couldnt
recall who is was...
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752.92 | busted | CAVLRY::BUCK | Let's do the Scooby Doo ending! | Thu Mar 05 1992 08:06 | 2 |
| Since Katrina was in CO, and Kathy gallup sill in Boston, and BSS
being a cluster cased out of the CXO3 bldg, I say it's KATRINA!
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752.93 | | MSBCS::MCBRIDE | Hello me... It's me again. | Thu Nov 19 1992 14:33 | 3 |
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WTFIIWTFNCTPA?
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752.94 | | CSC32::J_HERNANDEZ | Se�orita I'm in trouble again... | Thu Nov 19 1992 14:54 | 1 |
| WTF ever happened to the Crunchberry I video?
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752.95 | :-) | MSBCS::MCBRIDE | Hello me... It's me again. | Thu Nov 19 1992 14:56 | 5 |
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Re: .-2
WTF did I write?
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752.96 | serious soapbox... | MSBCS::MCBRIDE | Hello me... It's me again. | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:04 | 18 |
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WTF is it with these idiots with guns who think they're hunters
who go into the woods, shoot a person and then say "Duh, I thought
it was a deer!"
Not only are these people a menace to themselves and society, but
they are a pox on the gene pool. Stupid people should be locked up
and not allowed to breed. They're giving us real hunters a real
bad name.
IF YOU ARE NOT 100% ABSOFACKINGLUTELY SURE, YOU DO NOT PULL THE
FACKING TRIGGER!!! AAARRRGGGHHH!!! IT DOESN'T TAKE TOO MUCH
SMARTS TO REALIZE THIS!!!
Sorry. I just had to get that off my chest.
--
Kevin
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752.97 | | CAVLRY::BUCK | The cowboy's life is the life for me | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:26 | 6 |
| Esp. bummin for people like me who just like to hang out in the woods
cuz they're cool ... now we have to be dodging bullets from
trigger-happy bambi killers!
If you find me dead, face down in a creek with a bullet through my
head, don't say I didn't tell you...
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752.98 | | USOPS::GALLANT | Be colorblind; don't be so shallow | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:27 | 12 |
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RE: Kev
Funny you should mention that. My father was just reading
from the paper a few days ago about some guy up in Maine,
I think, who shot a jogger and some other guy who shot a
dog with an orange collar...
HELLO!?! ANYONE HOME?!
tigg~~~~
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752.99 | ;') | MR4DEC::JWHITMAN | | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:34 | 26 |
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Taken outta a favorite cartoon:
BANG!
"huhhahhhuhuh.. I got one! I got one!"
"Hey George! did you get one?!"
"YA! and it's got antlers like this!" (putting thumbs to each side of
head and opening hands)
BANG!
>thud<
I just love that cartoon!!
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752.100 | 100! | CAVLRY::BUCK | The cowboy's life is the life for me | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:34 | 1 |
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752.101 | | MSBCS::MCBRIDE | Hello me... It's me again. | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:34 | 9 |
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Re: .97
"Uh, well, It *looked* like a Buck!"
:-)
--
Kevin
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752.102 | in case of accidents | FRETZ::HEISER | I jam, therefore I am | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:35 | 1 |
| Just make sure you put clean underwear on first.
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752.103 | | MSBCS::MCBRIDE | Hello me... It's me again. | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:36 | 3 |
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Why? It won't be clean after somebody has taken a shot at you.
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752.104 | listen to your Mother, Kevin | FRETZ::HEISER | I jam, therefore I am | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:39 | 1 |
| that's exactly what I told my Mom.
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752.105 | | CAVLRY::BUCK | The cowboy's life is the life for me | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:47 | 1 |
| WHo wears underwear?
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752.106 | | XCUSME::JENNISON | Leave Your Body At The Door | Thu Nov 19 1992 15:49 | 1 |
| You dont... 8)
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752.107 | :-) | MSBCS::MCBRIDE | Hello me... It's me again. | Thu Nov 19 1992 16:05 | 3 |
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And just how would you know, Ms. Jennison??? Hmmmmm?????
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752.108 | | XCUSME::JENNISON | Leave Your Body At The Door | Thu Nov 19 1992 16:09 | 5 |
| ooopsss.... BUSTED! hahahahahahahahah
We have little Muffinettes together... 8P
SueMuffyJ
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752.109 | | MSBCS::MCBRIDE | Hello me... It's me again. | Thu Nov 19 1992 16:14 | 7 |
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Oh.
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752.110 | | KDX200::COOPER | I even use TONE soap !! | Fri Nov 20 1992 17:41 | 3 |
| Jesse - I've got a copy of the Crunchberry I vid...
jc
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