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    yup.
    
    {{hugs}} joyce.
    This too shall pass.
    
    Inner kids stuff sometimes.
    
    Dolores

    
    
    Joyce
    
    Boy, I sure have had those feelings and still continue to have them.
    I find lately I seem to be moving on to a new place in my life- a new
    struggle and stress-
    
    It is truely amazing how a hug or just being held can be so comforting-
    even from a stranger- so don't you ever stop hugging!!!!
    
    There was/is a movie with William Baldwin and cindy Crawford (I think)
    and she is this really stong character in the movie and at one point
    she even beats him up!!! I saw myself in her shoes hitting and
    screaming at all the men in mylife that added to my burden- so anyways
    at one point inthe movie she weakens and starts to loose her mind and
    starts to cry and say that she can not go on anymore and wants to give
    up- William Baldwin's character reaches out to her and pulls her into
    him, and their faces touch and that's all and says " It will be
    alright- you'll see"- just that alone gave her the energy and strength
    to carry on- I know it was just a movie but, If men could learn to
    know when to say that and hug us that way it would be truely amazing!!
    
    That part in the movie made a big impression on me.
    I'm looking forward to meeting you again, I had fun at the brewery in
    Lowell that time-
    
    Well I've rambled enough ....
    
    carol
    
    
    
    
    

    
    	Thanks for the comments - keep 'em coming.
    
    joyce-with-the-queue-waiting :-(

    Joyce, you are far from the only one with these feelings (myuself as
    well).  I know I get this way, particularly around this time of the season when
    there is a long stretch between holidays and spring time.  You feel
    like you could not show up to work and fall off the face of the earth
    and wonder who would notice....

    well, well joycee-with-the-queue-waiting,
    I almost didn't recognize you!!!
    
    That queue-waiting is very becoming.
    
    I'm getting those Friday sillies.
    
    Dolores

    
    	While intellectually - we all know that what we go through in life
    or what we feel is not unique - emotionally - that doesn't always
    register...
    
    joyce

         Belated {{{{{{{{JOYCE}}}}}}}}
    
         Even though I'm in a relationship I still get those feelings..
    There's no feeling worse than the emptiness of being alone when you
    don't want to be. Much like you I like to have my space but by the same
    token there're times I just want to be held. 
    
         One of the reasons I like going to Schat activities and noting in
    here is that many of you have become surrogate sisters and brothers..
    Granted we can't all be there all of the time for each other but it
    helps.
    
            hugs all,
    
    bob

Any my belated response...

>    	Been in this weird emotional space.  Feeling very alone, not
>    lonely, alone.  Like if I died tomorrow, people would notice, but no
>    one would mourn.  I know bizarre explanation...

Yes, been there, felt that!  Last summer and fall were really bad for me in that
respect.  My twist on it was wondering how long it would be before anyone no-
ticed I was gone.  There was no one in my life that I was in contact with on a
daily basis so the thought was a day or two could go by with no one knowing 
otherwise.  Course I spose now there isn't anyone I'm in contact with on a daily
basis but I'm in a much better place so it isn't as apparent to me.  

Now!  Even though I know you know this ( ;-) ) I'll say it anyway - *I* would
mourn - a lot!

>    	Found myself with this intense longing, just to be held, the last
>    couple nights (maybe that's why I haven't been sleeping).  As in - I've
>    had some really *rough* days here on the 800 line and I just want to
>    curl up in someone's lap and feel safe.  Not I want or need someone 
>    there to fix things, or take care of me.  Guess its more like - I'd

Physical contact is a very integral part of human nature!  Hugging friends helps
a lot but, I know, sometimes it just doesn't cut it.  One of the hardest things,
I think, about not being in a relationship...And it's hard to fill that need
outside of a relationship in a healthy manner.  

Many hugs my friend!!  Yes, I've been there too!

B

    Yes Joyce.  I know exactly what you're talking about.
    
    Hugs,
    Gail

    
    	Got a healthy dose of hugs this week-end - should hold me till the
    next adventure :-)
    
    	Thanks Barb, your friendship is one that I treasure...  I figure my
    dogs would put up such a racket that my neighbors would be forced to
    come over and investigate - but you do wonder how long you'd lie
    there...
    
    	Gail nice to see you write!  Bravo!
    
    	Bob, sometimes this does feel like an extended family - especially
    when we're out on an adventure and being playful...
    
    	Thanks everyone.
    
    joyce