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| 29.1 | here's a few thoughts ... | MIZZOU::SHERMAN | socialism doesn't work ... | Mon Sep 19 1988 01:34 | 54 |
| As the counselor in the Bishopric in our Ward in charge of our Singles
programs, I've learned a few things that seem to be helpful:
o The Singles are a very dynamic group whose needs change rapidly.
The result is that no one program will provide a permanent solution.
It will be necessary to incorporate various Church programs into
a Ward as needs arise. Also, it is necessary to keep in weekly
contact with Single leaders.
o The Single leaders must communicate with each other. If this
communication breaks down, intervention is required. It is amazing
how fast a good situation can deteriorate due to misunderstandings.
o A good leader has to listen. Sometimes, that's all that a Single
wants - someone who cares that can listen and who is willing to take
appropriate actions as necessary.
o Don't force the full Church program on a Ward's Singles unless
the situation warrants it. For example, if you have 30 Young Singles
and 1 Special Interest, don't force the one Special Interest to
do activities alone. It would probably be much better to have the
Special Interest meet with the Young Singles or with another family.
Let the Spirit guide as to what Church programs to implement that
will best address the needs of the Singles.
o Make Family Home Evening the focus of Single activities. It is
for many of them the closest thing they will have to a family while
single or separated from their own families.
o Communication between Stake and Ward Singles leaders needs to
be frequent and comprehensive when there are Stake activities going
on. I think the failure of Stake activities can usually be attributed
to information that was too little or too late.
o Encourage missionary participation with Single functions. However,
avoid any activities that pull the missionaries away from their
work too often or which keep them out late at night. Avoid any
situation that could be interpreted as some kind of 'dating' going
on between Singles and missionaries.
o Make sure that Singles are extended callings and asked to serve
just like anybody else in the Ward. Too often, there is a tendency
to avoid calling Singles to teach or to be of other service because
they have children, school or other responsibilities. However,
be aware of the needs that may be unique to Singles and respond
as appropriate. For example, if a single Sister is called to be
the Ward Chorister and she has several children, arrange to have
someone care for her children while she conducts music. It is often
harder to find someone who can conduct music than it is to find
someone who can tend to her children.
That's all I can think of right now off the top of my head ...
Steve
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| 29.2 | SINGLES ACTIVITIES | LAGUNA::WILLIS_LO | | Mon Nov 07 1988 15:24 | 42 |
| Ken,
Although I am not a 31 or over single, our Singles ward includes
that age group. (The age group in our ward is 18 and over. Some
of our members are 45 +). I don't know how well that goes over
with you, but we have a lot of fun together and there is definitely
a spirit of unity within our ward.
Being the Family Home Evening Coordinator and a member of our
activities committee, I've found that the main thing that creates
that "spirit of unity" within the Young Single Adults and Single
Adults is enthusiasm and A LOT (emphasize A LOT!) of FUN activities.
You will find a lot of "duds" in the group who don't want to cooperate
or join in, this is why you need a lot of enthusiasm being the leader
of the Singles. If you don't have a Single's ward, don't you have
a "Singles" activity committee in your stake? This is where you
have to gather all your ideas and put them together.
We have Family Home Evening of course every Monday night. The leader
before me was quite stressed with the responsibility, which I am
quite aware of now. She had to ask to be released because of many
other things going on in her life and the number of people attending
had decreased to about 5-8 people. Sensing that the morale or
activity participation had gone down in the ward, I sent out flyers,
announced every Sunday in Sacrament meeting and at every other activity
that they should come out to Family Home Evening. The enthusiasm
caught on and we now have a regular attendance of 30-40 people every
Monday night. We had to switch locations from my house to a bigger
house because it seems that every Monday there are more people!
It's been GREAT and VERY WORTHWHILE!!!!
Some of our activities have included a luau, miniature golfing,
waterskiing trip, camping trip, Young Adult conference in the
mountains, ice-cream social, game nights, movie nights, etc. If
you need Family Home Evening ideas in detail, let me know and I'll
share with you what we've done in the past.
Well, I think that's about it. Just as a side note, our California
Singles ward started about a year ago and since that time there have
been 12 marriages as a result of "getting to know you" activities.
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| 29.3 | please note | NORGE::CHAD | Ich glaube Ich t�te Ich h�tte | Tue Nov 08 1988 10:00 | 10 |
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Falling in the singles group, I feel the need to say something.
If you are planning singles activities, and some of your singles are
living at home, please don't have your singles FHE on Monday night!!
Singles often have other families besides the singles family. Also,
not having it on Monday allows singles to be a part of friendly ward families
on a more personal basis.
Chad
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| 29.4 | a coupla more thoughts ... | MIZZOU::SHERMAN | Love is a decision ... | Wed Nov 09 1988 00:56 | 19 |
| One thing proving successful in our Singles group is to have a regular
activity night that is separate from the FHE on Monday night. They
usually open up the building and play basketball and maybe watch
a video. We are even making the wide-screen TV available to them.
(They must, of course, ask permission of the video rental distributor
before showing such videos and the people running the equipment
need to be trained for it.) This helps our Singles to feel a bit
closer and have fun together without detracting from FHE.
Also, we are finding that regular communication between Singles
leaders and the Singles is very critical. It seems obvious, but
many Singles don't participate simply because they are not informed
about upcoming events. A simple announcement in Sacrament meeting
is usually NOT sufficient. What is needed are phone calls, flyers
in the mail and occasional meetings of all the Singles in addition
to Sacrament meeting announcements.
Steve
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| 29.5 | Co. Springs, Singles | GENRAL::WOOLF | Ken Woolf | Thu Nov 10 1988 19:03 | 38 |
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I appreciate all the responses about the singles group and want
to reply to some of the ideas. We have tried to have a FHE night
for singles 31 and over but my feeling is that I and they need to
be home with their children. I believe the FHE is needed for those
who who have no children or who are not living at home. When you
are 31 and over chances are pertty great that you have children
at home. Since I was expected to have FHE when I was married I don`t
see the need to have it provided for me now that I am single.
We do not have a singles ward in this area so we are all in
seperate wards. For the most part since I have been in the singles
program it has been one battle after another with the High councilmen
and counselors who either don`t understand the needs or are narrow
minded about it`s purpose and it`s scope. Things are finally running
a lot smoother but we still have problems getting people to come
out and to have rep`s called in the respective wards. If someone
is called it is a token calling to be filled after other positions
in the wards have been filled. After all it is a family ward. :-}
If you can feel some frustration you have it correct.
Yes communication is the key and we have found that personal
phone calls have made the difference. That is about all we can rely
on. Our newsletter was discontinued because of cost and information
is put in ward bulletins only if they have room after other activities
are announced. We do have a stake newspaper and are now in a battle
with the editor and other people that are involved as to what kind
of information can be published. Oh the joy of being single in a
married church!!!!!
Not all is on the down side though, we have had some very
successful activities and a few people have been married and one
rebaptism. We are planning some temple trips, rafting, a singles
conferance,dances, etc.
I`m not a stranger to all this. I was a counselor in the bishopric
of a singles ward for three years and we dealt with frustrations
then. I appreciate your ideas and I feel that some of them can be
applied. If you have any other suggestions please let me know. In
the meantime I will continue in the work and look toward the successes.
--Ken--
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| 29.6 | SINGLES CONFERENCES YOU MIGHT ENJOY !!! | BOSOX::MWEBSTER | | Thu May 30 1991 14:16 | 54 |
| SINGLES CONFERENCES !!!
I just thought I would add some conference information for singles
in this note ...I hope some people will look at it and even if you
are not single, let the signles in your ward know about it ...!
I am not a singles coordinator, but I sometimes receive information
about up coming conferences - You may call me if you need more
infos ... or wish to give me some, as I know that I am not aware
of all conferences...! it would be nice if people from the "west"
would also participate, as I wouldn't mind maybe going to Utah or
elsewhere to join in a conference that might be of interest to me.
June 14,15,16 "WHAT TO BE IS UP TO ME"
Regional Singles conference - Hosted by the Single
Adults of the Boston region -
Will take place at CAMP CHILD in Plymouth ("the"
Historical one !!!) Mass
LDS norms in dress and behavior are expected (as usual)
It is a "self-improvement" theme, but it promises to be fun, with great
speakers including but not limited to : Elder Lynn A. Sorensen,
Brenton Yorgason, Byron Ray ...
Workshops : Institude Scripture workshop, a single parent panel
discusion, "Stress Management", "developping the child
within", "success without marriage", "Understanding
Loneliness" etc etc etc ...
Activities : Bonfires, dancing, hiking, boating ,volleyball etc ...
Location : Camp Child is used by the Hingham Stake for Girl's camp -
there will be bunks with mattresses, in wall tents (2 to
a tent) on platforms - in the woods but...with flushing
toilets and showers (that's luxury !!!!)
to register : send a check or money order to Janet Regan
229 Forest Park
Weymouth Ma 02190
home ph # (617) 337-0250
If you cannot find a registration form in the ward, send in your name
address etc with the check otherwise use the registration form.
All monies have to be in NO LATER than June 11th - NO LATE
registrations will be accepted nor "at the door" registrations
If you have questions just mail me : CSLALL::MWEBSTER dtn 275-3648
Have a nice day !
Mathilde
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| 29.7 | SINGLES CONFERENCE - HILL CUMORAH PAGEANT | BOSOX::MWEBSTER | | Thu May 30 1991 14:29 | 33 |
| SINGLES CONFERENCE:
JULY 19,20,21 CUMORAH CONFERENCE FOR SINGLE ADULTS
" and when you shall receive these things ..." Moroni 10:4
Sponsored by the Rocherster N.Y. Stake & Rochester NY & Palmyra Stake
WHERE : Keuka College , Keuka Park, NY -
This is where the sleeping accomodations will be -
Very nice accomodations I was told !
There are several options for the conference, one includes the
Hill Cumorah Pageant - we would be bused there - The choice is
yours
This can bring strength to your testimony, as the pageant itself is
a very uplifting event -
I can mail you the registration form or you can get it by calling
the organizers : John Williams - 116 North St, Batavia N.Y.
tel : (716) 343-4859
or Bonnie Lowe - 197 Hillside Ave - Rochester N.Y.
tel : (716) 461-1882
Call me if you need more infos ; CSLALL::MWEBSTER dtn 275-3648
Have a nice day !
Mathilde
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| 29.8 | | CACHE::LEIGH | Let your light shine | Fri Aug 09 1991 08:00 | 16 |
| Church seeks comments from single members
(Church News, July 20, 1991, p. 12)
The Church is interested in hearing from and learning about personal feelings
and experiences of single adult members of the Church.
The Research Information Division of the Church, under the sponsorship of the
Priesthood Executive Committee, is launching a study of single-adult members,
those who are not currently married.
The study includes those who have never married, or are divorced or widowed.
Address letters to: Singles Study, Research Information Division; 18th floor,
Church Office Building; 50 E. North temple St.; Salt Lake City, Utah 84150.
Responses will remain confidential and will not be published.
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