| Title: | Topics of Interest to Women |
| Notice: | V3 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open. |
| Moderator: | REGENT::BROOMHEAD |
| Created: | Thu Jan 30 1986 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 30 1995 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 1078 |
| Total number of notes: | 52352 |
This is in relation to the hug note... but not exactly.
Moderators, please move this if it is really a sub topic.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------
Clytemnestra said something really interesting to Agamemnon upon
seeing that the concubine Cassandra had come home with him. The
quote goes something like...
"I see you have brought your winter's warmth with you."
That attitude, for me, made her, one of the coolest women I
had to deal with from Greek literature. (Some of you may think
it was Sappho, but.. to each their own...)
I formed the theory, at that time, that the primary purpose
for men, in the event that women were capable of taking
care of themselves, was being winter's warmth.
I developed the warm hug theory.
Most everything else could be provided for me by me. So... if we
had stress or strain, the one think he could give me that I could
not give myself was a warm hug.
Such is the evaluation....
Compare everything negative that is done by your mate with the
comfort, warmth, and joy they grant you when they give you a full hug.
If the negatives begin to outweigh the warm hug level...
it is time to chuck the mate.
Cindy
| T.R | Title | User | Personal Name | Date | Lines |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1009.1 | I saw him this weekend!! | RDGENG::LIBRARY | unconventional conventionalist | Thu Aug 29 1991 14:41 | 23 |
I agree. A primary - and good - reason for a mate is for
comfort/warmth. My Garrick is the only person who knows me well enough
for his hug to be truly meaningful in every area of my life. And being
the type of all-round partner that he is, his hug can mean many things:
- comfort when I'm worried or sad
- encouragement when I'm anxious
- peace when I'm upset
- support, so that I know that in everything I decide to do - no
matter whether he agrees with it or not - he's behind me all the
way
- love - whenever!
- pleasure (he hugs me when he's proud of me, or when we're
amazingly happy about something)
Close friends may intend - or even convey - the same meanings too, but
his is all-encompassing, and his come the closest, because only with
him do I have no barriers.
Alice T.
(can you tell I love him?)
| |||||
| 1009.2 | GNUVAX::BOBBITT | Valley Women | Thu Aug 29 1991 14:43 | 12 | |
I wouldn't say that's ALL I got from the men I have had relationships
with, but I would definitely say that is what I missed *most* after the
end of my most recent relationship. I was able to transfer all my
needs to other friends, except.
1. the need to look into his eyes
2. the need for those strong arms around me, making the world
go away when I needed it to
-Jody
| |||||