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| 988.1 | | NOATAK::BLAZEK | bells ring, maypoles spin | Thu Aug 22 1991 15:21 | 15 |
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That they've been divorced for 25 years would cause me to feel
relatively calm about it. And sometimes in a foreign country,
you accept what hospitality is available. If they've moved to
a realm where they can be friends, and celebrate the link they
shared almost 3 decades ago by acknowledging their friendship
now, I think that's admirable.
And it's only for 2 weeks.
Hope you find your peace surrounding this situation. I don't
know whether it's normal, but it doesn't sound alarming.
Carla
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| 988.2 | | TNPUBS::C_MILLER | | Thu Aug 22 1991 17:22 | 6 |
| Don't forget, she has your son there (I'm assumming he is a teenager)
who will not only report everything back to you but will act as their
chaperone.
However, *I* too would feel weird about such an arrangement. I think it
is normal to let your imagination run wild.
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| 988.3 | My manager sez | MR4DEC::HAROUTIAN | | Thu Aug 22 1991 17:43 | 6 |
| FWIW, my manager, who normally works in Munich, tells me it's
commonplace for friends of the opposite sex to stay together when,
f'r'instance, one is travelling to an area where the other lives, and
no one thinks anything of it.
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| 988.4 | | WRKSYS::STHILAIRE | Food, Shelter & Diamonds | Fri Aug 23 1991 09:53 | 10 |
| Well, I've been roommates with my ex for almost 2 yrs. now so I know
from personal experience that a person can get along with an ex as
friends, without there being anything sexual going on.
So, I don't think it's a given that just because somebody stays with a
person they once had a sexual relationship with, that it will always be
sexual. Sometimes people are able to move on and still be friends.
Lorna
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| 988.5 | Thanks for input, more if you like | VAXRT::WILLIAMS | | Fri Aug 23 1991 10:25 | 21 |
| Thanks for your input. I'm emotionally frazzled from some other things
and this was "just another thing to think about" that I didn't need.
Intellectually it's not a problem:
1. It's extremely unlikely that they'd "do anything"
2. If they did, it probably wouldn't be anything that they hadn't done
in the past
3. (egotistically speaking) I don't consider him much of a rival.
But emotionally (probably male reptilian brain originated) I found the
whole thing troublesome.
Your input has been helpful, in giving me a more rational perspective
to apply.
["Reports" from my son, probably not, he's 12 and will likely report on
the entire trip with 3 words "It was OK". Maybe I could hire some
recently cashiered KGB agents to get the real story ;^)) ]
/s/ Jim Williams
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| 988.6 | | SRATGA::SCARBERRY_CI | | Mon Aug 26 1991 14:48 | 6 |
| I'd probably hate the whole entire situation, but would give my
spouse the benefit of the doubt. But, I'd definetly let him know
that I didn't feel so great about it. She did tell you! so that's
some cause to have faith! She sounds honest and you've been married
quite a long time. If I were her, and upon letting you know, you
didn't feel a little apprensive, I'd feel wierd about you!
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| 988.7 | Would'nt worry ...... | SOLVIT::KAUFMAN | | Thu Aug 29 1991 12:43 | 9 |
| I would'nt worry about it; there are many different kinds of love /
friendship. I'm still friends with my ex and in many ways I still
love him -- he's a good person -- but I'm not "in love" or sexually
attracted to him any longer.
Relax, life is too short!
Romy
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