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Conference turris::womannotes-v3

Title:Topics of Interest to Women
Notice:V3 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open.
Moderator:REGENT::BROOMHEAD
Created:Thu Jan 30 1986
Last Modified:Fri Jun 30 1995
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1078
Total number of notes:52352

130.0. "Welfare - a very unfair system" by JAIMES::BARRL (Like a bird without a song) Wed May 16 1990 15:16

    Moderators - I did a dir/title=welfare and didn't come up with
    anything so I started a new topic.  Please move this if necessary.
    
    
    
    I'm really angry at the way the welfare system in this country works. 
    I'm a single, working women that's due in July with my first child. 
    Because I am a contract worker, and the premiums are so expensive, I do
    not have any medical coverage.  I have called several state and federal
    run agencies and can get absolutely no help because of the fact that I
    make too much money.  It really bothers me to know that I have been
    busting butt for the past 13 years and paying into taxes and can't
    receive any help at all.  What really kills me is that if I quit my job
    and had no income, I'd be eligible.  I don't want to stop working
    (although I'll be taking about 4 - 6 weeks off to have the baby) and go
    on welfare.  I don't think I should have to do that.  Welfare is not
    going pay my rent, my car payment and all the other bills that I have. 
    I'm not asking for any hefty hand outs, I would just like some
    assistance with medical coverage so if, God forbid, my baby is born
    with any problems and has to stay in the hospital for longer than the
    alloted time, I don't have to worry about hospital bills.  I plan on
    looking for a permanent job after the baby is born, but that's not
    going to help me now.  I called the welfare office a couple of weeks
    ago and spoke to a gentleman there and told him my situation.  I
    explained that I was employed but would be unemployed during the time I
    would be having the baby.  I told him that the baby's father did in
    fact live with me (his employer does not supply medical coverage
    either, he's also looking for other employement at this time).  Because
    of the fact that the baby's father is living with me, regardless of
    what his income is, I am not eligible to receive any compensation.  So
    what they're saying is, quit my job, throw the baby's father out, and
    go on welfare.  The system really s*cks!!!  They make it so easy for
    these young girls to go out and have a bunch of kids from a bunch of
    different men.
    
    I was talking to this women, that my sister knows, the other day.  She
    had two adorable little girls.  She noticed my swollen belly and asked 
    me when I was due.  I told her that I had a couple more months to go.  
    She said that she was also pregnant and had 4 more months to go.  I
    said, "I bet you're hoping it's a boy this time".  She said, "The
    doctor says it's another girl, but I already have 4 girls and two boys,
    so it doesn't matter".  I asked her where her other children were and
    she said that they had been taken away from her.
    
    It really bothered me to know that four of her children had been taken
    away because she couldn't take care of them, yet she was pregnant with
    another.  Sure she was on welfare.  Sure she lived in a big house.  And
    who do you think was paying for this?  You and I.  The people that make
    an honest weeks pay and get nothing when we really need it.
    
    Sorry to go on for so long, but I really needed to get this off my
    chest.  If any one knows of anyone that I can talk or write to about
    this, please let me know.
    
    Thanks in advance,
    Lori B.
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130.1E.A.P.?POLAR::PENNYFind me in my field of grassWed May 16 1990 16:047
    Lori,
        Have you tried the Digital EAP? I don't know much about it myself,
    I've been w/ DEC 10 years (in Canada) and never even knew about it
    until reading about in _wn_ last year. Being on contract, I don't know
    if you can make use of it or not. There must be _someplace_ in DEC that
    can provide assistance or direction. (I hope)!
    Hang in there, something good has got to break for you.     dep
130.2Thoughts..ACESMK::CONNERYWed May 16 1990 16:4218
    My daughter has a friend who finds herself without insurance in
    the last month of her pregnancy.  She is married to a young man
    in the service who is being discharged on June 18 and their baby
    is due on July 9!  They have insurance until June 18, but have
    been informed that it is up to them after that!  We were very
    surprised and needless-to-say so were they.  
    
    They have been stationed in Germany and she's back here waiting 
    now for him.  Debbie (wife) has been investigating all the 
    possibilities and found only one.  They will be eligible for
    medi-care once her husband is discharged under the following
    conditions only:  Neither of them can be employed and they can
    have NO other form of insurance.  I can't think of anything else
    that might be of assistance to you and that option is not a good
    one, but maybe there would be some way it might be helpful to you.
    
    It's so unfortunate to take away from a time that should be special
    for all of  you.  
130.3Isn't that Medicaid rather than Medicare?SANDS::SMITHPassionate committment/reasoned faithWed May 16 1990 17:311
    
130.4FDCV07::HSCOTTLynn Hanley-ScottThu May 17 1990 11:0110
    re basenote
    
    Are you in Massachusetts?  Near Boston?  I happened to see an ad on a
    Boston television station the other night regarding folks with no
    insurance and they suggested calling the Mayor's Health Line -- perhaps
    you could start there -- 
    
    P.S. I didn't write the number down, but you could start with Mayor Ray
    Flynn's office in Boston.
    
130.5PROXY::SCHMIDTThinking globally, acting locally!Thu May 17 1990 11:314
  Based on her node name, Lori appears to be in the GMA (Greater
  Maynard Area).

                                   Atlant
130.6Another .02 worthAUNTB::DILLONThu May 17 1990 17:4940
    Ten years ago when my son was born I had no insurance and a job that
    paid minimum wage ($3/something an hour).  I tried to get pre-natal
    care at the local health department and was told that I made too much
    money.  The social worker said that I could get full benefits if I had
    no job but no benefits based on the salary I was making.  I would not
    have been eligible for AFDC until after the baby was born.  I had to
    leave my job about 4 weeks before my son was born and my employer gave
    me a bonus ($200); that was the extent of the money that I had and of
    course, rent was due.
    My hospital bill was about $2500 (I had a C-section and we were there
    for 5 days).  That sounds cheap now, but then it seemed like an
    enormous amount of money.  I was summoned to the hospital cashier the
    day that we were discharged and we set up a payment plan ($30./month)
    until the bill was paid.  (Actually they were very nice about the whole
    thing).  I left the hospital broke, scared, feeling alone because there
    was no "daddy" around, and with a new baby to care for.  Three days later I
     read in the paper that the company I had worked for was bankrupt; 
    no job to go back to.
    
    I stayed out with my son for six weeks and luckily my family was very
    supportive during this period of time.  I went back to work as a temp
    as soon as I was able to leave him and before long had a permanent job.
    
    The point is this...we made it.  I eventually paid the ob/gyn, surgeon,
    and hospital off, although it took time.  I got by without having to
    rely on assistance from the state.  The main reason I didn't want to
    was the hassle and the fact that once you're dependent on a government
    agency they can really get into your life--I didn't want that.
    
    I came to work for DEC when Matt was 2 years old and have been here 9
    years.  It has not been easy and we certainly don't live a life of
    luxury but we get by better than some couples I know that haven't been
    so lucky with employment.
    
    I think it's very sad that there has to be a welfare system at all but
    understand its necessity; I believe that it is a self-perpetuating
    system and know of literally generations of a family that have lived
    the welfare way of life.  But I think that if you make up your mind you
    can do it on your own and will be a stronger person for it.  I know I
    am.  I certainly wish Lori the very best.  
130.7There are other fundsEDIT::JAMESMon Jun 11 1990 16:5611
    A woman I know recently gave birth to her baby gratis at Burbank
    Hospital in Fitchburg. Evidently there are certain (private?) funds
    available for people who cannot pay a hospital bill. I know that, for
    example, if you are eligible for welfare (and being unemployed that
    would certainly apply to you), all medical bills from the hospital are
    paid, at least at Burbank. Perhaps you can check with local hospitals
    to see what they have in place for similar situations. 
    
    Good luck, and congratulations on the baby.
    
    Estelle