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Conference turris::womannotes-v2

Title:ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 2 --ARCHIVE
Notice:V2 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open.
Moderator:REGENT::BROOMHEAD
Created:Thu Jan 30 1986
Last Modified:Fri Jun 30 1995
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1105
Total number of notes:36379

972.0. "Creating sexism: an example of the process in action" by MOSAIC::TARBET () Fri Feb 02 1990 12:26

    This should perhaps go into the Sexism string, but I think there's
    something more here than just a quick hit of nastiness.

    In the past 20 years, the US cultural picture of women has changed,
    at least on the surface, for the better.  Because of that, it's hard
    to illuminate all the remaining sexist assumptions that are still
    _built_right_into_ the fabric of our society.  Precisely because
    they are so pervasive, they are just too hard to make visible to
    someone whose life hasn't been messed about by them.

    The situation in Europe for women particularly is different to ours,
    in some ways better but in most ways, I think, worse.  But because
    it is different, we don't have the "but that's normal" reaction that
    we do for our own cultural insanity.   Here is, greatly summarised,
    an article from the current issue of Bild am Sonntag, a very popular
    german tabloid.  I found it *very* instructional to see "how it
    works".

    The article is a virtually full-page spread in a regular section
    called "Extra for the Woman".  Apart from this article, there is
    about 9 column-inches of Household Tips at the bottom of the page.

    -------------------------------------------------------------------

    Headline:  "Are women the worse colleagues?"  

    There's a large (4 column) photo at the top of the page of what
    looks like an executive office.  There are two women posed back to
    back with all kinds of body language signaling irritation and upset. 
    I can't tell whether one of them is meant to be the occupant of the
    office:  they're both dressed quite casually.  The caption says
    (again:  despite my use of quotes, these are meant to be summaries
    for sense and flavor, not proper translations or quotations.  I
    welcome corrections, if needed):  

    "A simple misunderstanding and everything stops.  Women don't know
    how to disagree productively.  In this case at least, women should
    behave more like men."


    A sidebar in the right-hand column in street-interview style: "Do
    you prefer to work with men or women?"  Gudrun M�ller, 42,
    Bookkeeper:  "Men.  It's just better.  Where I work now it's mostly
    women and they've always got some little plot going on."   Julia
    G�rtz, 39, Traveling Saleswoman:  "When I was sick, my colleague
    took over my territory, not to help me out but to get my job.  Women
    are always envious."  Ingrid Franke, 36, Secretary: "With women in a
    common work area?  You may as well shoot yourself.  I'd rather work
    in mixed teams.  Men are the better colleagues."  Antje Randow, 29,
    Freelance Journalist:  "I've learned from bad experiences with women. 
    Now when they start spinning their intrigues I just confront them. 
    Openness is the only way."

    The body of the article:

    "Who says women can't work with other women?  Women, naturally! 
    Here are six reasons why this is so, and [we've asked] industrial
    psychologists to explain them for us.

    1. Appearance.  Sandra, 33, Advertising Saleswoman:  "When a woman
    colleague looks good and dresses sexily, they make it tougher on
    her!"  Industrial Psychologist Rainer Egdorf, 33:  "Women value
    appearance and clothing very highly.  When a woman is better
    dressed she generates envy, a basic human emotion".

    2. Female Wiles.  Erika, 45, Sales Associate:  "I find the women
    unbearable who play on sexuality to cover up their professional
    inadequacy."  Industrial Psychologist Claus Peter M�ller-Thurau
    explains this:  "Nobody wants to be just a number, and women
    especially not.  They want to know who the [male] boss finds most
    attractive.  As long as men have the say, women will behave this
    way."

    3. Self-Confidence.  Isabelle, 26, Hairdresser:  "Women managers are
    too weak.  They try to deal with their co-workers in a friendly way
    and are often too shy to give clear directions.  With men a person
    always knows where she stands."  Psychologist Egdorf:  "Women are
    more cooperative.  Girls are better in school and so they think this
    will carry over to the job, but they've never learned to be
    competitive and they give up."

    4. Achievement.  Anja, 33, Civil Servant:  "In my experience, women
    don't deal with one another fairly.  There's too much secret anger
    and backstabbing, nothing is straightforward."  Rainer Egdorf: 
    "Achievement and good nature don't go together.  When a woman
    accomplishes something, she doesn't behave well toward other women."

    5. Roleplay.  Ilona, 40, Saleswoman:  "When my boss retired, a woman
    replaced him and the atmosphere immediately became colder.  She only
    had work on her mind.  My old boss was charming and would even flirt
    with us."  Psychologist M�ller-Thurau:  "The tried and true methods
    for pleasing a male boss don't work with women...and a woman boss is
    unwittingly blamed for that."

    6. Eagerness to Criticise.  Britta, 28, Secretary:  "Once my
    colleague got her promotion, she completely changed.  She no longer
    says one private word to me or trusts me to help.  She always wants
    to do everything herself.  It's so frustrating."  Psychologist
    Egdorf:  "Often it's the woman who's higher up who can't behave
    herself.  She can't motivate her subordinates and thinks worse of
    their mistakes than they deserve."

    A small comfort for the woman manager from Rainer Egdorf:  "Women who
    can't accept a woman boss also have problems with men promotees.

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    Okay, there it is.  What gets *you* about the article?  Does it
    strike an unpleasantly-familiar bell with anyone else as it does
    with me?

    						=maggie
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972.1WAHOO::LEVESQUEI spit at you apathy, and seducer deceitFri Feb 02 1990 12:564
 It seems unbalanced. Why are there no opposing views? Surely not every woman
feels that way. 

 The Doctah
972.2LEZAH::BOBBITTinvictus maneoFri Feb 02 1990 13:256
    These are trained psychologists saying this?
    
    Yak!
    
    -Jody
    
972.3well, gag a maggot!YGREN::JOHNSTONou krineis, me krinestheFri Feb 02 1990 15:2011
DEVA VU!!

It's scary the way this stuff recycles and recycles.

Why ask about 'women' or 'men' as collegues at all.  Why not ask about desirable
and undesirable traits, behaviour patterns, etc.?  

We create and perpetuate sexism by talking about 'men and women' in these
contexts instead of 'people.'

  Ann
972.4ASABET::STRIFEFri Feb 02 1990 16:382
    I'm with Jody -- I find the "interpretations" by the industrial 
    psychologists as or more disturbing than the original comments.
972.5HANDY::MALLETTBarking Spider IndustriesFri Feb 02 1990 17:3524
    re: .2 (Jody)
    
    � These are trained psychologists saying this?
    
    I can't tell if they're trained or not, but I'm assuming 
    they've received some sort of training.  But I wonder if 
    female industrial psychologists would have made the same 
    conclusions.  Come to think of it, I wonder if there *are*
    any female industrial psychologists in Germany.
    
    And I agree with Mark that the sample sounds skewed - like, 
    let's just talk about the responses made by some women who 
    didn't like working with/for women.  In my time in Personnel, 
    I've heard similar things, to be sure.  But I've heard far 
    more women expressing satisfaction than unhappiness.  
    
    And finally, I'm uncertain of the cultural context.  Having 
    lived in Germany for a year and half, I'm at least aware that 
    many Germans have a somewhat different view of "proper" work
    roles.
    
    Or, to put my reaction more simply. . .  Bleah!
    
    Steve
972.6My blood is boiling!WEDOTP::FARINAFri Feb 02 1990 18:3516
    What gets me about this?  Every line!!!!!!!!!!!!
    
    I can't tell you how many times I've heard this cr*p.  But you've heard
    it, too.  Let me tell you this:  I work for a woman, and she works for
    a woman, and she works for a woman, and this is the best management
    I've had at Digital!  By far!  But will I turn around and say, "I'm
    sorry, but I'll only work for a woman"?  Of course not!  I do say, "I
    will only work for someone I can respect!"
    
    I've worked with men who are just like the women described in that
    article.  Do I refuse to work with men?  Of course not!
    
    Let me tell you, this got my blood pressure going.  I guess it will
    keep me warm on the commute home.
    
    Susan
972.7a ploy to increase circulation?2CRAZY::FLATHERSSat Feb 03 1990 17:3210
    
    I believe the article is crap!!!  It's adding fuel to the fire of
    sexism.   
    
        This just puts more pressure on women have to prove themselves,
    again,and again....that they are as capable as men.
    
       
      Jack
     
972.8MOSAIC::TARBETTue Feb 06 1990 12:1451
    Well, I posted it not so much for its shock value (tho Goddess knows it
    has plenty of that!) but rather because of what I saw as its
    instructional value.  I get the feeling that from what Ann wrote she
    also recognised the pattern:  we used to see this kind of thing
    regularly here in the states, and not all that long ago, either.  Hell,
    for all I know, we may *still* do occasionally and I just don't read
    the publications it appears in.  I really wish one or more of our
    german members (Pony?  Christine?) would help us evaluate its meaning
    in Germany.
    
    Newspapers...even tabloids :-)...are considered by most people to be a
    source of Truth, even though we know they're imperfect and that a lot
    of error both innocent and willful creeps in.  It just takes too much
    mental energy...and I'm not being snide, I really mean "too much" in a
    psychoeconomic sense...to always be on the alert and "suspect the
    worst" about the motivations of the reporters, editors, and publisher.
    
    So what do we have here, considered in that light?
    
    It's an *important* problem because it takes up a lot of space in a
    national newspaper.
    
    It's a *general* problem because it cuts across age and occupational
    boundaries.
    
    It's a *real* problem because it's studied by qualified, *male*
    psychologists. (And yes, I didn't include their academic affiliations
    but they do have them).
    
    It's a *natural* problem because the psychologists say it is. 
    
    It's a *universal* problem of *women*:  there are no countervailing
    examples and there are no men involved except the psychologists.
    
    
    Then, less overtly, we have the messages that                     
    
    - "real women" (the kind who are interviewed for newspapers) have
    rather traditional, non-managerial jobs.
    
    - men are the appropriate ones to pass judgement on women
    
    - anyone whose experience is different to what's being reported must be
    aberrant.
    
    - women's inadequacy is hardwired.
    
    
    What have I missed?  I'm sure some important ones have got past me.
    
    						=maggie
972.9divide and conquer?GEMVAX::KOTTLERTue Feb 06 1990 12:303
    
    Sounds like a classic attempt to pit women against each other, to
    weaken their cause.
972.10WAHOO::LEVESQUEI've got the fireTue Feb 06 1990 12:4233
>    It's a *real* problem because it's studied by qualified, *male*
>    psychologists. 

 I don't know any German, so I couldn't tell if the psychologists were male or
female, but it doesn't surprise me that they were all male. I could only
label such a study as self-serving propaganda.

>    It's a *universal* problem of *women*:  there are no countervailing
>    examples and there are no men involved except the psychologists.

 That was one of the things that bothered me right off the bat. Rarely is
there such complete consensus in the field of psychology, yet there was no
evidence of contradictory opinion anywhere in the field. At least most
pseudo-respectable newspapers will at least pay lip service to opposing points
of view. Yet this article makes it sound so conclusive.

>    - women's inadequacy is hardwired.
 
 Yeah, "because they are women, they cannot...." What a crock!

>    - men are the appropriate ones to pass judgement on women

 I didn't notice this at first, but it's definitely in there. Like who do these
guys think they are? Members of the pompous-ass club?

 Another favorite was that women actually prefer to work for men. Or should I
say "real" women prefer to work for men? The classic case of women's 
subservience reinforced.

 I thought it was a pretty gross misrepresentation of the facts (as I know
them).

 The Doctah
972.11milieuPANIC::COXRomani ite domumWed Feb 07 1990 12:1513
    
    There are differences in the way people approach work... more men
    tend to be agressive and competitive and play politics. more women
    tend to be co-operative.
    
    When one joins a working environment one will ape the working attitudes
    of that environment ... so a woman becoming a
    manager/director/executive may copy the traditional attitudes of
    that mileu and become 'cold' ...
    
    What can we DO about this (i.e. outside this discussion). Be aware.
    Fight it. Refuse to be intimidated into behaving in an unnatural
    way. 
972.12CSC32::CONLONLet the dreamers wake the nation...Thu Feb 08 1990 04:1625
    	The message that struck me in the article was:  "Even *women* know
    	how inferior women are, so it must be true!  Believe it!"
    
    	It's sickening.
    
    	Unfortunately, it's still considered trendy in some circles for a woman
    	to go on and on about how little she regards other women (as a group.)
    	
    	In the case of this article, such behavior was sought out (and nicely
    	reinforced by quoting the women by name in the paper.)  
    
    	.0> The article is a virtually full-page spread in a regular section
    	.0> called "Extra for the Woman".  Apart from this article, there is
    	.0> about 9 column-inches of Household Tips at the bottom of the page.
    
    	The fact that this article was featured in a section set aside FOR
    	WOMEN makes it especially worse, in my eyes.
    
    	The message here is, "In case you were starting to feel good about
    	yourself out in the workplace, here's something that ought to bring
    	you down nicely - for your own good!  However - as a service, we've 
    	also provided you with a good bunch of household tips with which you 
    	can try to redeem yourself!  This is what real women care more about 
    	anyway."
    
972.13horizontal hostilityGEMVAX::KOTTLERThu Feb 08 1990 08:3216
 
Re .12 -
   
>    	Unfortunately, it's still considered trendy in some circles for a woman
>    	to go on and on about how little she regards other women (as a group.)
    	
    
Unfortunately is right. This reminds me of one of Adrienne Rich's points 
about how women can destroy themselves (topic 977) - through "horizontal 
hostility" or contempt for other women. Judging from the article in the 
base note here, it seems that some men have figured out that fostering such 
contempt can be an effective tactic to keep women "in their place."

But if women refuse to buy into it, it won't work!

Dorian
972.14RAINBO::TARBETThu Feb 08 1990 08:5312
    Nice shot, Suzanne...I didn't catch the juxtaposition of the Tips.  Or
    more particularly, I thought it was accidental, and it wasn't until you
    picked up on it that I realised that no, they could have filled the
    space some other way had they chosen to do.
    
    I'm breaking my head trying to think of what the corresponding stuff is
    here in the US...I *know* it exists because women still have too hard a
    time professionally, but it's so taken-for-granted that I just can't
    see most of it.
    
    						=maggie
                   
972.15Bild is not a serious paperNBOIS2::BORKOVECMon Mar 12 1990 11:2839
    Bit late, but WIW:                            
    
    Bild, or 'Bild am Sonntag' (Sundays edition) is not a serious paper.
    It is the man-o-war of the Springer empire; basically it is very
    conservative and rather nationalistic, fights everything that might
    (seem) to come from the left. As a nice touch, this newspaper was
    always supporting the official U.S. policy; also clandestine
    rassistic, though actively promoting better relationship with
    Israel and Jews.
    As far as womens are concerned, Bild tends to suggest that they
    belong barefoot and pregnant into the kitchen.
    This newspaper has very wide circulation and hence influences
    'the commoners'.
    
    Quotations of psychologists: know only few books from Mr. Mueller-
    -Thurgau(sp), funny reading. Please remember that a quote that
    is out of the context can be used to prove opposite to the
    original article. The Bild has been already sued couple of times
    for false quotes.
    
    The article is something to get upset about, but in almost every issue
    of Bild there is something sickening there.
    
    Josef.
    
    P.S.:
    Where woman psychologists work: the absolutely worst example of
    a psychologists (happens to be a female) I ever met or heard about used
    to work for the digital personnel in Munich. She left few years ago but
    I have heard rumours that she rejoined DEC somewhere else. I have not
    heard anybody (whose opinion I care for) to generalise that women
    in personnel are <insert pejorative/negative substantives here>.
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
972.16Bild = National Enquirer qualityCASEE::MCDONALDThu Apr 05 1990 04:545
    I lived in Germany for 4 years, I agree with Josef. Bild is not a
    serious newspaper. Heinrich Boell critizised this newspaper 
    (under different name) in the novel "The lost honor of Katharina Blum"
    which was made into an American Movie (with Marlo Thomas I think).
    Unfortunately  this paper sells well.
972.17Pedantic rathole alert! :-)RUBY::BOYAJIANSecretary of the StratosphereThu Apr 05 1990 06:1210
    re:.16
    
    THE LOST HONOR OF KATHARINA BLUM was filmed twice. The first time
    under the same title by German filmmaker Volker Schlondorff (the
    director of the current A HANDMAID'S TALE) in the mid-70's. An
    Americanized made-for-tv version was filmed about 10 years later
    as THE LOST HONOR OF KATHRYN BECK (later retitled ACT OF PASSION),
    starring, as you said, Marlo Thomas.
    
    --- jerry
972.18RANGER::TARBETHaud awa fae me, WullyThu Apr 05 1990 08:1411
    <--(.16)
    
    I'm not sure that to dismiss it as being like the "Enquirer" is a fair
    assessment; I've never seen too many "Twelve Famous Psychics Bring Back
    40 000-Calorie Diet and Cancer Cure to Jackie and Ghost of Elvis". 
    Have you?  To me it's much closer to the Boston Herald, NY Post, etc.
    ...it's a Rupert Murdoch type of paper, big on expos� emotionalism,
    plays to and reinforces many prejudices.  And, as you say, it's very
    very popular, which is what makes it dangerous.
    
    						=maggie