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| 624.1 | Don't fret. | REGENT::BROOMHEAD | I'll pick a white rose with Plantagenet. | Wed May 31 1989 18:27 | 5 |
| It's probably only what he said. It's most likely that your egg
was not perfectly fresh when it was fertilized, and a bit of rot
had started. Nudge your mate to a higher rate of activity. ;-)
Ann B.
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| 624.2 | It happens, try again | ULTRA::WITTENBERG | Secure Systems for Insecure People | Wed May 31 1989 18:56 | 9 |
| Early miscarriage is unfortunately quite common. I know that
doesn't ease the pain, but it does mean that you shouldn't worry
about your ability to bear children. Get pregnant again (perhaps
following Ann's advice), and don't spend too much time worrying
about what went wrong.
Good luck.
--David
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| 624.3 | Could be the sperm | CURIE::ROCCO | | Thu Jun 01 1989 11:15 | 19 |
| This happened to my sister-in-law a few years ago. My brother (who is a
doctor) mentioned that it meant there was something wrong with the egg.
She felt bad and somehow then wondered about the quality of her eggs etc.
etc. (She was about 35 at the time). She really got depressed about it.
Finally in a conversation with my brother he said that he was referring to
the fertilized egg - not the unfertilized egg. This meant the problem
could of been with either the sperm or the egg - but somehow there was
a problem with the fertilized egg. My sister-in-law felt much better
after that.
So I believe that miscarriages are nature's way of taking care of problem
"eggs" but I don't think the doctor's can tell what caused that problem.
It may have nothing to do with you but could be that particular sperm.
Good Luck in the future.
Muggsie
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| 624.4 | thx | BRAT::SHELDON | | Thu Jun 01 1989 14:03 | 5 |
| Thx for all your support. I do feel a little better. I do plan
on trying again, and hopefully the egg and sperm will have a healthy
union this time...
ems
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| 624.5 | | SARAH::MELBIN | | Thu Jun 01 1989 16:55 | 13 |
| just one more comment for you - 25% is the 'normal' loss rate - many doctors
have told me this, as well as I have seen figures quite close in various
publications. blighted ovum is a kind of blanket term for something is just
not quite right with this embryo and/or its attachment in the uterus.
more important, it is not unusual nor does it mean that this is your destiny.
I myself have had a few problems, including a tubal pregnancy (which is quite
different, I realize) but the point is I didn;t give up and with continued luck
and gods help, they'll be another in our family in Nov.
keep the faith and make sure the baby making stays fun! :)
julie
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| 624.6 | me too.. | WMOIS::B_REINKE | If you are a dreamer, come in.. | Thu Jun 01 1989 19:52 | 20 |
| in re .0 and .4
I've seen all kinds of figures about the failure rate of fertilized
eggs. Anywhere from 25% to 33% to the nearly 90% that Ann Broomhead
quoted in another note in this file. Most of these go unnoticed
by the woman. If anything, her period is a day or so late, but then
it comes. Humans are not very reproductively efficient.
It is when a woman *wants* to be pregnant and the fertilized egg
implants before failure that the failure is more apt to be noticed.
My first conception failed, and six months later we conceived our
son who has now finished his sophomore year in college. The major
effect that first failure had on us was that we met a couple who
had adopted 7 kids that same weekend. This was the event that
most served to put us on the road to adopting the kids we have.
My feeling is, after that experience, that many of lifes experiences
have unexpected results that we could not have foreseen at the time.
Bonnie
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| 624.7 | I heard same statistics as Bonnie | USEM::DONOVAN | | Fri Jun 02 1989 09:56 | 8 |
| I've had 2 blighted ovums. I cried both times for days. I now
have a beautiful 4 year old boy and he has a lovely 1 year old
sister.
I think everything will turn out fine. Keep us posted.
Kate
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| 624.8 | will keep you posted... | BRAT::SHELDON | | Fri Jun 02 1989 10:25 | 13 |
| Julie, Kate, and Bonnie...you've all made me feel much better.
Julie good luck in November. Hopefully I will be in the same position
next spring.
I will keep you all posted, but probably won't mention any future
pregnancy until after the first trimester, as you all know its
difficult once you've told people you're pregnant, to have to tell
them all you've miscarried...I've learned my lesson and will wait
next time.
Thx again for your support!!
ems
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| 624.9 | my sister also had a blighted ovum recently | HANNAH::OSMAN | see HANNAH::IGLOO$:[OSMAN]ERIC.VT240 | Fri Jun 02 1989 11:33 | 28 |
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Just weeks ago, my sister had the exact same type of miscarriage (blighted
ovum).
Here's what I remember her telling me:
o This type of miscarriage is fairly common (one in five ?)
o It has to do with the cells dividing. As the egg divides in
those earliest stages, half of the cells develop into the placenta,
and the other half into the fetus.
In her case, the fetus half was never developing. Only weeks
later did her body realize that, and then the miscarriage occurred.
o The doctor suggested waiting 2 months for complete healing before
attempting to get pregnant again.
This above is what I remember her saying. For more accurate info, perhaps
speak with her.
She lives in Brookline, Ma., so if
you'd like to talk with her, send me mail, and I'll check with her. However,
I'm almost sure she'd be happy to talk with you, to give you support, and
also to get some support from you. She was quite sad about it too and I'm
sure she'd gladly confer with someone else that has gone through it.
/Eric
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