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Conference turris::womannotes-v2

Title:ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 2 --ARCHIVE
Notice:V2 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open.
Moderator:REGENT::BROOMHEAD
Created:Thu Jan 30 1986
Last Modified:Fri Jun 30 1995
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1105
Total number of notes:36379

591.0. "Child Support through the probation court!" by FOOZLE::LUSSIER () Thu May 11 1989 14:59

    
    	Hello,
    
    	I did a dir/title=   but found no note pointing child support
    	payments and dealing with the family probation courts. Where
    	do I start....Right now I am so mad I almost went to note
    	5. but then I decided to ask for some help.
    	Now, I recieve my child support check through the family probation
    	court in New Jersey, that's where I am from.  Over the past
    	5 count'em 5 years I have not once recieved the cheks on time.
    	I chose not to change my address when I moved to New Hampshire
    	Because I had so much trouble getting my check through one office
    	let alone two, so I changed my address to my mother's and she
    	sends it up to me when she gets it. 
        Now, because I always have so much trouble wiht getting my check
    	I had made sure that my husband's EX always recieved her check
    	on time, but through choosing of her own she asked the court
    	for a wage attachment and it is now going through the probation
    	court in Cambridge. Ready here's the problem........
    
    	My husband works in the construction buisness and did not get
    	a paycheck last week due to no work.  I asked him what were
    	we going to do about the support payment and he said he would
    	talk to his employer. ( BTW he had work this week ) His employer
    	told him to call the probation office and they would tell him
    	what to do. ( When we recieved the notification of wage attachment
    	it told us to NEVER send a personal check! )  I have tried all
        day yesterday and all day today to get through to the case worker
    	and have been told he is not available!!!! I explained to the
    	girl I was not inquiring about a check but that we were the
    	payee, she could not care less.  She told me that I could leave
    	a message but that the man would probably not call me back!
    	Needless to say I am furious. I told her that I see a potiential
    	problem here and that I am trying to resolve it. Again she could
    	not have cared less!  I asked for a supervisor and was told
    	no one was there, they were in a meeting.  I asked when I could
    	get in touch with this case worker and she said he was out to
    	lunch ( that was 1:00 ) and that he would not be back before
    	3!!!!!!!!!! No wonder the case load is heavy.
    
    	Any suggestions???
    
    	Cathy
    	                   
    	
    
    
    
    
    
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591.1PointersLEZAH::BOBBITTinvictus maneoThu May 11 1989 15:2919
    FYI, there are several discussions of child support around the
    notesfiles.  They can be found at:
    
    Womannotes-v1
    topic 24 - Child Support
    topic 793 - Woman With Child Support Problems
    
    Mennotes
    topic 292 - Child Support = No Mortgage
    
    Human_Relations
    topic 555 - Child Support Quiz
    
    Parenting
    topic 572 - Child Support....help!
    
    now, on with the discussion....
    
    -Jody
591.2Not much helpHICKRY::HOPKINSPeace, Love, & UnderstandingFri May 12 1989 15:5312
    I wish I could offer something positive but...in all of my dealings
    with the Cambridge family probate, I have found them to be toatally
    useless.  I've been trying to get them to help me straighten out
    a debt from 4 years ago.  One thing I can tell you is to make sure
    you get the name of the person you are speaking to on the phone
    just incase the computer flags that your husband missed a payment.
    That way you can say you talked to Ms./Mr. so & so to try and 
    straighten it out.  The last time I called them I asked for the 
    probation officer handling our case and he was long gone.  No one 
    seemed to know who took over for him.  And the woman on the phone 
    was correct, they probably will never call you back. 
    
591.3send registered mail?WMOIS::B_REINKEIf you are a dreamer, come in..Fri May 12 1989 17:148
    A suggestion, you can send a registered letter, return
    receipt requested both to the court and to your husband's
    ex informing them of the problem.
    
    Then you have proof that you tried to contact the people
    and explain what happened.
    
    Bonnie
591.4Finally an answer!!!!!FOOZLE::LUSSIERMon May 15 1989 14:4732
    
    
    	Well,
    
    	Just to update you.  I finally got in touch with the man who
    	was handeling my husbands case. He was extremely rude and told
    	me he does not deal with "Third parties!" I explained that my
    	husband was on a construction job and was unable to call.
    	He was not even listening to what I had to say and very 
    	unprofessionally and rudely said , after my explaination of
    	our problem,to me " If he didn't work you can't get blood 
    	out of a stone lady!"
    	With the patients of a saint I calmly told him that I was NOT
    	inquiring about a payment, I was the NEW wife and what should
    	my husband do.  (Total change of tone ) Oh well he has to send
    	a certified check with his social security # the week of payment
    	and who the payment goes to.  I said " how come when you thought
    	I was asking for a payment, you just about told me too bad and
    	when you found out I was the payee I now HAVE to send a payment?"
        He ignored the question and said to put my complaints in writing
    	the next time, and hung up.
    
        	I love State offices! 
    
    	I was approximatley 18 months behind on recieving my own payments
    	about two years ago, so I know how it feels.  I was only trying
    	to stop a problem before it started.  So much for being the
    	nice "guy".  Thanks for all the suggestions, and I have the
    	record of the certified check, so hopefully there won't be a
    	problem.
    
        Cathy
591.5happy mother's day...EDUHCI::WARRENMon May 15 1989 16:1310
    grrrrrrr
    
    What a bunch of jerks.  Nice that they feel free to be rude if they
    think you're inquiring about money coming to you--money that's
    rightfully yours!
    
    Good for you for doing the right thing despite all the jerks.
    
    -Tracy
    
591.6Did I miss something?ASABET::K_HAMILTONKaren Hamilton - Activist!Tue May 16 1989 14:258
    Why is the EX pulling this now?  Have there been problems in the
    past?  Is she perhaps leading up to a request for more money?  Does
    she have a new friend/husband who is giving her ideas?  If she is
    the kind of person who can be reasoned with, perhaps you or your
    husband should try to explain to her that by going through the courts
    she's just cutting her nose to spite her face.  FYI, the District
    Court in Waltham is no better.  My Ex's probation officer told me
    to go on Welfare!
591.7Thanks for the information!FOOZLE::LUSSIERWed May 17 1989 10:5418
    
    
    
    	RE: 5
        	Thanks!
    
    	RE: 6
    
    		I tried to tell his Ex that the probation office is
    		a big hassle , that I had so much trouble with my
    		probation office, and she said ( she is always so nice ;')
    		" This isn't New Jersey you know!"
                So I'll just do what I am supposed to do and let her
    		worry about getting her money. It's her problem now!
    
    	Cathy
    
    	
591.8Probate is useless!HICKRY::HOPKINSPeace, Love, & UnderstandingWed May 17 1989 12:2612
    The sad part about going through the courts is that you do so because
    someone along the line tells you your support payments will be 
    guaranteed.  Not so... I went through the courts because my EX wasn't
    paying on time or sometimes not at all.  They still wouldn't help
    me collect what was due my daughter.  She died of Cystic Fibrosis
    four years ago and two years after her death, the probate sent me
    a letter asking if I wanted help collecting back support.  I replied
    yes and told them what I was actually owed (less than what they
    thought)... Two years since then and I still haven't heard anything.
    And I just LOVE those snappy little answers like, "go on welfare".
    GGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
    
591.9ASABET::K_HAMILTONKaren Hamilton - Activist!Wed May 17 1989 13:476
    re .7.  At least you've tried.  When she phones (and she will..
    it will get messed up royally) tell her sweetly "It's out of our
    hands."
    
    re .8.  You have my sympathy.