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Title:ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 2 --ARCHIVE
Notice:V2 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open.
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Created:Thu Jan 30 1986
Last Modified:Fri Jun 30 1995
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1105
Total number of notes:36379

330.0. "but where do we draw the line" by NOETIC::KOLBE (The dilettante debutante) Wed Dec 07 1988 17:26

       I have decided to start a new topic discussing a tangent of the
       abortion topic and Bill's topic about the woman who had had 5
       abortions and 2 children.

       At issue here is just how much can we legislate morality and what
       good it does. The dilemma is this, is it wrong to allow an
       activity because some very small subset of humanity will misuse
       this freedom? The woman using abortion for birth control is to
       the pro-choice person what Larry Flint and Hustler are to the
       first ammendment. While I dislike having to defend their actions
       I see no alternative. Where can the line be drawn? How far can
       the state step into my body for body fluid samples? When will
       they claim such control over my body that they may force me to
       donate body parts for the good of the state? liesl

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330.2Good questions, liesl, somewhat unsavory replySKYLRK::OLSONgreen chile crusader!Thu Dec 08 1988 02:5659
    "...just how much we can legislate morality..."
                                                                    
    The crux.  Define morality.  I observe that morality is an individual
    choice; individuals draw their moral precepts (conduct their lives)
    according to myriad bizarre influences; some rooted in churches,
    some in philosophies, belief systems, call them what you will. 
    When our society, in defining individualism as the highest virtue, 
    accepted tolerance as a necessary component thereof, Pandora's Box
    was opened.  Persecution still occurs when behavior exceeds norms
    by too great a distance, but in general the maxim is that behavior
    harmful to none is tolerated, and behavior harmful only to the self 
    is tolerated unto the point of self-destruction.
    
    them's the general observations I start from. now...
       
       > The dilemma is this, is it wrong to allow an activity because 
       > some very small subset of humanity will misuse this freedom?
                                                        
    That part is pretty clear, the answer is yup, its wrong to disallow
    such activities merely because abusers exist.  We can be pragmatic
    and say that prohibition does more damage than tolerance (and cite
    prohibition with a capital "P" for the example); we can be philosophic
    and observe (as per Madison in Federalist No. 51):
    
       "It is of great interest in a republic...to guard one part of the
        society against the injustice of the other part.  Different interests
        necessarily exist...If a majority be united by a common interest,
        the rights of the minority will be insecure.  ...providing against
        this evil...[:] ..whilst all authority...will be derived from and
        dependent on the society, the society itself will be broken into
        so many parts, interests and classes of citizens, that the rights
        of individuals, or of the minority, will be in little danger from
        interested combinations of the majority.  In a free government the
        security for civil rights must be the same as that for religious
        rights.  It consists in the one case in the multiplicity of interests,
        and in the other in the multiplicity of sects." *
                                                    
    Madison went so far as to associate civil tolerance for distasteful
    behavior with the same protected position (philosophically) as
    religions enjoy, in the eye of the state.  So liesl, I have to answer
    you that we cannot legislate morality with any pure philosophic
    justification either.
    
    Having disposed of the venues of pragmatics and philosophical
    approaches, what remains?  The fact that abusers are distasteful
    and offend our own appreciation for the moral niceties of our
    positions...Flint (Flynt?) being the perfect example.  I have to
    accept the abusers however.  Nothing yet gives me the right to impose
    my standards upon them (with oppressive legislation).  If I buy
    into the philosophic thought that defined the constitution (and
    I do), I have to accept the consequences.
    
    DougO
    
    *[in extracting from long winded philosophers one must necessarily
    abridge the points.  If anyone believes I've distorted by the omissions
    in the above (marked by ellipses...) I'm open to other viewpoints.
    I've tried to be faithful to Madison's intent while dropping the
    verbage irrelevent to this discussion.]
330.3Why does multiple use constitute abuse?HSSWS1::GREGMalice AforethoughtThu Dec 08 1988 09:4032
    re: .1
    
    	   I honestly don't see the conflict here.  If abortions are
    	legal, then the only contraining factor on when and how they
    	should be used ought to be left in the hands of the women 
    	that use it.  If some have no moral problem with using 
    	abortion as birth control, then why should I (or anyone else)
    	have any say in the matter?
    
    	   Certainly one could point to the health risks involved
    	and caution the woman in question about them.  But to set 
    	some arbitrary limit on the number of abortions anyone can
    	have seems to me to be as absurd as banning them in the first
    	place, and will create exactly the same problems (albeit at some 
    	lesser scale).  If they want a third or fifth or twentieth
    	abortion, then they will have it, one way or another.
    
    	   If the argument is that abortions are only acceptable in
    	cases of 'emergency', then again I must say I don't buy it.
    	Who can decide what constitutes and emergency except the one
    	who is in the emergency?  How can you state with any degree
    	of certainty that the first abortion is acceptable, and all
    	subsequent abortions constitute abuse?  It makes no sense
    	at all, and seems to me to be a veiled damnation of abortions
    	in the first place.
    
    	   If abortion is accepted, then it is accepted and multiple
    	use does not constitute abuse.  If it is not accepted, then
    	any single use constitutes abuse.  I really can't see the
    	logic in allowing one abortion but disallowing a second.
    
    	- Greg
330.425691::STHILAIREa simple twist of fateThu Dec 08 1988 12:0721
    I think there will always be people who manage to completely botch
    up their lives no matter what laws exist.  The laws should be made
    for the good of the majority regardless of how the minority misuses
    them.  I think that having abortion be legal *is* for the good of
    the majority of women.
    
    As far as having our taxes go to help this woman and her kids, I'd
    rather have my taxes go to help them than to have them starve to
    death in a gutter somewhere.  I think we have to care about what
    happens to *all* other people, not just the other people who live
    according to our own morals.
    
    I can't really *understand* why this paricular woman would allow
    herself to get pregnant 7 times!  I'm older than her and I've only
    gotten pregnant once.  But, so what?  We're two different people?
     I don't know all the events and feelings that have shaped her life.
     It isn't for me to judge.  There are no doubt things I've done
    that she wouldn't be able to understand either.
    
    Lorna
    
330.5Let them follow their conscienceVINO::EVANSThe Few. The Proud. The Fourteens.Thu Dec 08 1988 12:2424
    I agree with .0 - I may not "approve" (and who am *I* to approve
    or disapprove, you may well ask) of someone using abortion as birth
    control, but I believe at some point, issues are between people
    and their karma. (Or whatever you choose to call it.)
    
    Society can make rules to protect the members of the society. That
    is not the same as legislating morality. You can't legislate morality,
    nor can you impress your morality on another. When someone becomes
    a member of society, they can be protected by those rules.
    
    This is why, BTW, I don't see capital punishment as "teaching
    killers that killing is wrong". I see it as a way to remove individuals
    from the society. (Induviduals who threaten the members of the
    society.) I am not saying whether I approve of it or not, just how
    I see it vis-a-vis the "rules" of society.
    
    Before becoming a member of society, an entity is controlled by
    something else, and that something else makes the rules for that
    entity. What the rules are and how they work are between the
    *controlling* entity and its conscience. The society cannot control
    "conscience" (or whatever you choose to call it).
    
    --DE
    
330.7Tolerance is necessary in a democracy.LDYBUG::PAREWhat a long, strange trip its beenThu Dec 08 1988 13:1555
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Interesting outlook Marge.  Point well taken.

    
>    I think a lot of concerns regarding the behavior of individuals
>    other than oneself arise from the fact that we taxpayers all end
>    up paying for the indiscretions of irresponsible individuals.  

Remember that we, as taxpayers, subsidize religious attitudes in the form
of tax exemptions also.  Should religious attitudes adapt to my philosophies
because I am expected to provide tax exempt services for them?   Is the 
majority once more subsidizing the minority in this different way?


>    get angry with poor drivers as much for the fact that they're driving
>    up my insurance rates as for the fact that they are a menace on
>    the road.  

Automobile insurance is not required New Hampshire, perhaps it should not
be required here.  Then those who are paying for protection will receive it
and those who are not will not receive it.  Careless drivers will not be
able to afford to continue in such carelessness.

>    I get angry with women who use their feminine wiles on
>    their male bosses because it devalues the work I do.  

I don't believe that anyone can devalue the work that an individual does.  
Using "feminine wiles" is a separate issue (but I understand how you
feel).

> I get angry when I flip over a record album and see displayed there 
> dissolute behavior because it drags down the median worth of all human 
> beings.
    
Ah, but once again, this is a judgement call Marge.  Behavior that one
person considers to be dissolute or lacking in moral restraint, may be 
    perfectly acceptable to someone else.  In Iran dissolute behavior 
    for a woman can range from appearing in public unveiled to appearing 
    in public unchaperoned.  Most Americans would not view such behavior
    as anything but normal.

As much as I respect your opinions (and I do), I do not necessarily agree 
    with all of them.  I would not be willing to alter my behavior to
    adhere to anyone else's philosophical beliefs but my own.  I think
    most people feel that way.

I too care about my moral environment.  And we all have a right to determine
what that environment shall be.
    
Mary                                              


330.10I'll take my chances...CLT::BROWNupcountry frolicsThu Dec 08 1988 17:2331
    
    Re: .0
    
    I feel that one of the inherent dangers in legislating morality is the
    potential for abuse and discriminatory enforcement.  It's so difficult
    to pin down morality in writing - it's all in relation to abstract
    ideas of right and wrong.  And it's so easy to manipulate people's
    frustration and fear on moral issues.  Look at some of the absurd
    proposals surfacing around the subject of AIDS.  It's not a moral
    issue, it's a public health issue!  But legislators are using people's
    beliefs to pervert the intent of legislation.  
    
    When morality is legislated, those groups who either have differing
    moral opinions or less power than the legislating body tend to lose.
    Laws concerning prostitution have traditionally been subject to
    selective enforcement based on class, race, and gender.
    
    Can an action be shown to cause direct threat or harm to another 
    person (and I use person in the current legal sense), such as 
    illegal disposal of toxic waste, yelling fire in a crowded theatre,
    or shooting someone?  Legislate against the act.  But where imminent
    threat or harm can only be speculated upon, or where there is a
    conflict in beliefs, leave it alone.  
    
    Legislation of morality leaves the door open to invasion of privacy
    and the suppression of minority groups or opinions.  I'll take my
    chances with "moral decay" (a running theme since Og added naughty
    bits to his cave painting of an antelope) if I can be assured of the
    continuation of basic freedoms.
    
    Ron 
330.11harmTFH::MARSHALLhunting the snarkThu Dec 08 1988 18:2030
    re .8:
    
    >Some people worry about clean streams while others worry about visual
    >assaults on their sensibilities on public thoroughfares and in public
    >transportation. 
    >
    >We're spending (too little) money to clean up the former; I wonder what
    >we're doing to clean up the latter?  So the question comes back,
    >"What's dirty?"  If I look in a stream and see fish bobbing belly up,
    >then the stream is too dirty; there's no question.  If I look at
    >teenagers who are singing the songs and living out the fantasies of
    >"Blood and Roses", songs that they've learned on FCC-regulated
    >stations, then what is my recourse?               
    
    Pollution is not a crime because it is ugly, but because it is
    physically harmful.
    
    Songs and magazines are not physically harmful, no matter how
    disgusting one may think they are.
    
    If some one decides to "live the fantasy" (I assume you mean "act
    out") of violent behavior advocated by songs or magazines, then
    it is the _act_ that is illegal, not the advocation of it.
    
                                                   
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330.13Not trying to argue with you -- just questioning...NEXUS::CONLONFri Dec 09 1988 09:5346
	RE:  .1
    
    	> I think a lot of concerns regarding the behavior of individuals
    	> other than oneself arise from the fact that we taxpayers all end
    	> up paying for the indiscretions of irresponsible individuals.
    
    	Would you, perhaps, be more accepting of the behavior of others
    	if they paid for their own indiscretions (either directly or
    	by paying more taxes than the average person?)  Is it really
    	a question of having to pay for it (or having to live in the
    	same world where these indiscretions are taking place?)  
    
      	> I get angry with poor drivers as much for the fact that they're 
    	> driving up my insurance rates as for the fact that they are a 
    	> menace on the road.  
    
    	Ok.  You have the right to set your own priorities.
    
    	> I get angry with women who use their feminine wiles on
    	> their male bosses because it devalues the work I do.  
    
    	How does their behavior devalue the work that *you* do as an
    	individual?  Is it because you feel sensitized to the precarious
    	position that minority workers are in (or do you think that
    	any one man can devalue the work of ALL other men, too?)
    
    	I'm not trying to challenge you here, Marge.  I'm just trying
    	to understand the concept.
    	
    	> I get angry when I flip over a record album and see displayed 
    	> there dissolute behavior because it drags down the median worth 
    	> of all human beings.
    
    	How does it do that (and in whose EYES is the median worth of
    	all human beings dragged down?)  In your eyes?  Is that particular
    	system of valuing the entire human race something that the rest
    	of us should be concerned about?
    
    	I'm having a really difficult time understanding how the back
    	of an album cover can make the whole human race worth less.
    	
    	> I care about my moral environment.  I have a right to care.
    
    	Yes, you have a right to care.  However, if we all measure the
    	moral environment differently, then who is to say that your
    	particular moral standard is better than, say, anyone else's?
330.15NEXUS::CONLONFri Dec 09 1988 11:1381
    	RE:  .14
    
    	Well, Marge, I guess that there are a number of ways that one
    	can look at the changes that are taking place in the moral
    	environment (and I do agree that we are in the process of change.)
    
    	I can remember (as a small child) when it was considered just
    	FINE to throw 'car garbage' out of the window while driving
    	on a highway where there were no houses or businesses nearby.
    	I mean, it was so common -- nearly everyone seemed to be doing
    	it.
    
    	When I saw the messages about littering on TV, I remember thinking
    	how ridiculous it was to throw garbage on the ground (and wondered
    	why it took anti-litter campaigns to bring that realization
    	to the public consciousness.)  We all should have KNOWN that
    	throwing garbage on the ground was going to make the land look
    	trashey (and that it wouldn't just sort of 'dissolve' by itself
    	overnight.)
    
    	In the past 20 years, our public consciousness has been raised
    	about SO many other things -- not the least of which has been
    	Civil Rights and Women's Rights.  We're still screwing up the
    	environment and endangering species, granted, but there are groups 
    	trying like crazy to slow that process down (and there are more
    	people every day who are aware and CARE DEEPLY about such things.)
    
    	When I was a teenager in the late 60's, the one thing that
    	really bothered me about the way I perceived society was that
    	people seemed so hung-up on the way they appeared to others.
    	If a daughter got pregnant out of wedlock and "had to" get
    	married, the main concern seemed to be, "What will the neighbors
    	say?"  It seemed to me that appearances counted for almost
    	everything, and there was almost no such thing as a "second
    	chance."  Once you made a mistake, you were branded for life.
    
    	That doesn't happen as much now.  Most people seem more tolerant
    	of other people's personal lives and mistakes (and 'appearances'
    	aren't as threatening as they used to be.)
    
    	I can remember hearing that there was no way we would ever have
    	a divorced President (because divorce was considered an insur-
    	mountable liability in politics.)  Ronald Reagan was divorced,
    	and no one seemed to care by the time he was elected.

    	Sure, album covers and movies have more sex & violence than
    	people from the 40's and 50's ever would have BELIEVED our
    	culture would permit!  But sex and violence isn't new.  Our
    	culture has had some incredibly violent eras (not the least
    	of which occurred in the 1920's and 1930's, around the time
    	of Prohibition.)
    
    	It may seem as if morals have gone down the tubes in the last
    	20 years or so, but to my way of thinking, the only thing that
    	has really changed is that people are more honest about it
    	now.  There was sex/violence/substance_abuse/etc. all along
    	-- we've just become more open about the existence of such
    	things now.
    
    	I don't happen to believe that the 'old moral values' were
    	better.  I think that the idealism about the past is mostly
    	a fantasy.
    
    	At any rate, we couldn't recapture the past even if we wanted
    	to (although there seems to be a movement afoot from people
    	who believe we can do exactly that.)
    
    	If the past were as ideal as some people have convinced themselves
    	that it was, I could understand the desire to go back to it.
    	In my opinion, the movement towards 'old values' is just the
    	response to a sort of 'future shock' about all the things that
    	have happened in the past 20 years.  
    
    	It's fine for you to care about our moral environment, Marge,
    	as do many of us (in our own ways.)  I just think that there
    	is more than one way to see the changes that have happened,
    	so some folks are bound to resist the notion that we should
    	be concerned about some of the things that you seem to be
    	concerned about.
    
    	It's just a matter of perspective, I guess.
330.17TFH::MARSHALLhunting the snarkFri Dec 09 1988 14:1414
    re .12:
    
    > re .11:
    > What is more important, physically harmful or emotionally harmful?
      
    It is not a question of which is more important but which of them
    is it proper for government to legislate. 
    
                                                   
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330.18gray,gray it's all grayNOETIC::KOLBEThe dilettante debutanteFri Dec 09 1988 18:5116
       Steve's remarks are what I was getting at. It seems to me that
       the new conservatives are out to legislate my life away on any
       issue they disagree with me on. (what a sentence!)

       To me the difference between a conservative and a liberal is that
       the liberal says "I don't agree with you but as long as you don't
       force me to do what you want it's OK". The conservative (here
       meaning the moral majority and new right) say "If you don't agree
       with me I'll have you arrested because if I don't like it, it
       must be wrong".

       I will defend the right of a woman to have 5 abortions even
       though I don't agree with her methods just as I must defend
       "Hustler" magazine. To do otherwise begins the erosion of my
       rights. liesl
330.19FACVAX::BOYAJIANMillrat in trainingFri Dec 09 1988 19:2042
    � > I get angry with women who use their feminine wiles on
      > their male bosses because it devalues the work I do.  
    
	How does their behavior devalue the work that *you* do as an
	individual?  �
    
    Well, I can't speak for Marge, but I'd agree with her that it does
    devalue the work she does, though only in an indirect sense. The
    value of her work is still the same, but it can be obscured by a
    false set of expectations or biases.
    
    It's much like a discussion I had with my nephew a couple of weeks
    ago. We happened to catch the infamous Sam Kinnison "Wild Thing"
    video, and Eric (my nephew) started talking about how he couldn't
    understand why women thought it was sexist. I explained to him that
    the problem with the video (and most music videos) is that it
    presented and reinforced an image of women in general that paints
    them as nothing but sex objects. One can say that Jessica Hahn in
    that video devalues only herself, but it can also be said that she
    devalues all women by reinforcing the negative image.
    
    Then Eric used that as a springboard to talk about what he thought
    was a hypocrisy in women that it was okay for women to "assess"
    men as sex objects but not vice versa. So, I explained the differences
    were (1) that men can be seen as sex objects, but not *only* and
    *always* seen as such, whereas women often *are* seen *only* and
    *always* as such, and (2) -- a corollary to (1) -- that men, unlike
    women, don't have to worry whether or not, for example, they're going
    to get a job or a raise depending on how cute their buns are.
    
    I think he got the idea.
    
    re:.15
    
    � It may seem as if morals have gone down the tubes in the last
    20 years or so, but to my way of thinking, the only thing that
    has really changed is that people are more honest about it now. �
    
    Yeah. It's like the old saw: "Do you remember the Good Old Days
    when air was clean and sex was dirty?"
    
    --- jerry
330.20An old conservative speaksHSSWS1::GREGMalice AforethoughtFri Dec 09 1988 23:3036
    re: .18 (Liesl)
    
>       Steve's remarks are what I was getting at. It seems to me that
>       the new conservatives are out to legislate my life away on any
>       issue they disagree with me on. (what a sentence!)
    
    	   I wonder if that makes me an 'old conservative' at
    	the ripe old age of 28.  Any who know me know that I
    	preech the gospel of freedom of choice, which is one of
    	the reasons I'm a conservative.  I also see a trend toward
    	trading freedom for security, and I fight against it.
    
>       To me the difference between a conservative and a liberal is that
>       the liberal says "I don't agree with you but as long as you don't
>       force me to do what you want it's OK". The conservative (here
>       meaning the moral majority and new right) say "If you don't agree
>       with me I'll have you arrested because if I don't like it, it
>       must be wrong".
    
    	   I have not noticed the tendency for liberals to
    	listen and allow any more than you have noted such a
    	tendency among conservatives.  From where I sit, they
    	are both using similar tactics, both trying to wrest
    	the freedom from the people and invest it in the
    	bureaucracy... the only difference is in which 
    	freedoms they want.
    
>       I will defend the right of a woman to have 5 abortions even
>       though I don't agree with her methods just as I must defend
>       "Hustler" magazine. To do otherwise begins the erosion of my
>       rights.
    
    	   I defend these things too.  What I don't defend are
    	liberal spending policies.
    
    	- Greg
330.22though I'm not real clear on what they areNOETIC::KOLBEThe dilettante debutanteMon Dec 12 1988 14:533
       To Greg and Mike, it's begining to look like we're all leaning
       towards being libertarians! liesl
330.23This is not - by LawELESYS::JASNIEWSKIThis is the story so far!Tue Dec 13 1988 08:0816
        
    	The legislation of morality is absurd, because this "consensus
    reality rule set" can go into specifics about showing feelings,
    "Showing feelings of an almost Human nature" as a lyric from one
    popular album goes. Surely one can recognise that showing feelings
    was considered generally "immoral" in the Old World traditions -
    These emotions are appropriate; 1, 2, 3,...these arent; 1, 2, 3,...
    And if one can recognise that, then one can conclude that at least 
    *some* part of morality is an attempt to deny the reality that Human 
    nature actually presents. Therefore, if morality defines our
    expectations to be considered *Human*, through a set of explicit 
    "criteria",...and this is based on the "current consensus reality's"
    denial of what actually is...and you turn that into law...
                                       
    	Joe Jas                             
330.24The Libertarian motto...be preparedPRYDE::ERVINRoots & Wings...Tue Dec 13 1988 14:1710
    re: .22
    
    Liesl,
    
    Three cheers for libertarianism...that's why I always carry my caffeine
    pills in case someone tries to force decaffeinated coffee or soda
    on me!
    
    Laura