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250.1 | | CSC32::WOLBACH | | Fri Oct 21 1988 14:36 | 19 |
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Pat, I just had a base line mammogram done a couple of months
ago. I was very nervous about the procedure. But it's really
VERY easy and painless. The technician helped me feel comfor-
table...and it was over in just about 20 minutes. Really nothing
to it at all...except is was sort of 'weird' when she had me
'position' my breast..almost as if it was not a part of me....
Ask if you can see the xrays-they are really quite interesting
(my husband embarrassed me by asking for wallet sized copies!)
Most important, I am relieved that I have had the xrays and nothing
was found...
Deb
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250.2 | You'll feel better... | LAGUNA::RACINE_CH | | Fri Oct 21 1988 14:43 | 53 |
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Hi Pat,
Oh boy, did your note ever hit home! I'm 26 and for about a year
and a half I've noticed a lump in one of my breasts. As soon as
I felt it, I thought the worst and even though I knew I should do
something about it, the thought of what it could possibly be scared
me to death. After letting it eat me apart inside for quite a while,
about 9 months after I originally found it I contacted my gyn and
went in and got examined. Yes, there is a lump there, so she get
me an appointment for a mammogram. The mammogram itself was not
what scared me, it was what they might find as a result of it.
But I went. The mammogram was not pleasant, but it didn't really
hurt. It was more uncomfortable than anything, and the relief I
felt when they said the lump didn't look cancerous was overwhelming.
I did have a needle aspiration done on the cyst (they extracted
the cyst fluid and sent it to be biopsied) and it came back negative.
The cyst will be removed next Tuesday, but I'm so much more relieved
since I've taken action. What kept running through my head was
what I've read in so many magazines....people who have found and
treated their breast cancer early on have fantastic survival and
cure rates. If I had let this go for years and found out down the
road that I did have something that could have been treatable way
back when, I don't know if I could have lived with myself.
What happened when I went for the mammogram? Well, they had me
strip from the waist up and gave me a short smock. I went into
this room with this large machine in it and the medical person (I've
been told that all the people who do the mammograms are female...that's
very comforting). She had me take off the smock and "belly up"
to this machine. What they do is (this may sound wierd but I don't
know how else to describe it) take your breast and put it on a table
type thing. You have to stand in a very awkward position with your
arm up and over the machine, then they bring a plate of glass down
over yoru breast so it's sandwiched between the "table" and the
"plate of glass". This is the very uncomfortable part because the
medical person has to get every bit of your breast on that table,
so there is alot of "stretching" and replacing, then when the piece
of glass is slowly brought down on your breast there is alot of
pressure from it being "sandwiched". It doesn't really hurt, just
uncomfortable. You dont' have to stand there very long, but it
seems like forever!
The mammogram isn't awful, you should have it done for your own
peace of mind.
If I can help clarify anything, let me know either here in notes
or via mail (LAGUNA::RACINE_CH).
Regards,
Cherie
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250.3 | A couple questions | APEHUB::STHILAIRE | Food, Shelter & Diamonds | Fri Oct 21 1988 15:09 | 19 |
| re .2, the way you describe having a mamogram done makes it very
difficult to imagine how they do this to someone who is very small
breasted. The only way I could "put" my breast on a table is if
I put my entire torso on the table? This sounds like it could be
very weird for somebody who is both short and small breasted!
I've never had one before either, and when I went to the doctor
for a check-up last week he made an appointment to have one done
next month. He said that everybody should have had at least one
by the time they're my age (39). He also warned me that it is going
to hurt, "so be prepared". Yuck! It doesn't sound like much fun.
Have any women with about a size 32A cup had one done before???
Also, does anybody know if John Hancock pays for this, or is considered
part of the deductible?
Lorna
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250.4 | It shouldn't be painful. | VAXWRK::GOLDENBERG | Ruth Goldenberg | Fri Oct 21 1988 16:02 | 45 |
| .3> by the time they're my age (39). He also warned me that it is going
.3> to hurt, "so be prepared". Yuck! It doesn't sound like much fun.
Lorna,
I had one done about 8 months ago at Emerson Hospital (Concord, Ma.). It
was NOT painful. Mildly uncomfortably is about the worst it was, and I
don't have a high threshold for pain. My experience was pretty similar to
the ones described in earlier replies. (I'm not small breasted so
can't speak to that question.)
There were newspaper clippings posted on the walls of the waiting room
about mammography. Some of them had horror stories from women who had
had very painful mammographies. My impression after reading
them and talking to the technician who performed mine is that a
mammogram performed by a competent (and not sadistic) technician
should NOT be painful. (For whatever it's worth, the technician who
performed mine was female.)
Furthermore, with that background experience and knowledge, if I had
a subsequent one done that started to be painful, I would raise
ENORMOUS hell *immediately*.
I hope this is somewhat reassuring anyway.
re .0,
Pat,
I saw a tv show about two weeks ago about surviving breast cancer.
It had interviews with lots of women who'd gone through it, talking
about their feelings and their treatment choices. Jill Eikenberry from
LA Law was on it, Gloria Steinem, Nancy Reagen (who for once was
speaking from her heart), and many other women. I was really
moved by listening to them and very enheartened about the
chances for surviving it.
I would guess the odds are certainly in your favor that you don't
have anything and that you would be very relieved once you had a
mammogram with negative results. However, _if_ the worst were true,
the sooner and smaller you catch it the better.
Womannote 224 and its replies has some very moving stories.
reg
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250.5 | Such fun... | LAGUNA::RACINE_CH | | Fri Oct 21 1988 16:44 | 29 |
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RE: .3
Lorna,
I guess I described the machine a little poorly. It's actually
a shelf, not "table", that you put your breast on. If I remember
correctly, that shelf is adjustable up or down so if you're short
I think it can accomodate. It's been almost a year since I had
it done so I may not remember it correctly.
And I'm not overly well-endowed either, thus the "stretching" and
moving of your breast on the table. The technician did that for
you, it took a little while to get everything on the shelf, she'd
arrange me, bring that plate of glass down, bring the glass back
up, pull and rearrange once again, bring the glass down, until she
got it right. As I said before, it didn't hurt me (and I'm a complete
wimp when it comes to pain!) but it was wierd and uncomfortable
because of a) the position you have to stand in when they're doing
this and b) having someone tugging at your chest and c) when they
finally have you in the right position and sandwich your breast,
you CANNOT move, even if you wanted to.
John Hancock did pay for the mammogram, probably because with all
the doctors visits I had prior to it my deductible was taken care of.
Regards,
Cherie
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250.6 | | VINO::EVANS | Chihuahuas and Leather | Fri Oct 21 1988 17:09 | 4 |
| I've had 3 mammograms (all at Emerson Hosp) and none hurt.
There was some discomfort (well, heck that ain't a normal position!)
but no pain.
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250.7 | Nothing to worry about | WMOIS::S_LECLAIR | | Mon Oct 24 1988 09:46 | 14 |
| I, too, had one done about a year ago. My doctor suggested that
I have it done right after my period because I always have sore
breasts before due to PMS. As stated previously, it is a little
uncomfortable but it really wasn't all that bad. I was very
nervous until I got the results but I think that's a natural way
for anyone to feel. The 'ol fear of the unknown syndrom. The
technician explained to me that a lot of women get fibro-cystic
disease in their breasts but that these cysts are benign (not cancer).
So even if a lump is found, it isn't necessarily anything to worry
about. The best thing to do is have the mammogram NOW. Don't wait
until it's too late.
Sue
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250.8 | gyn needed? | NEBVAX::PEDERSON | Keep watching the SKIES! | Mon Oct 24 1988 10:19 | 9 |
| a question.....Do you have to have the xrays sent to
your gyn or can the technicians (?) discuss the results with
you? I ask because I moved 2 yrs ago and have not had a check-up
since then. Would I have to find a gyn before I have a mammogram?
I might be moving again this spring ('cross country) so I'd rather
not get too involved with a gyn close to home now....but I'm 33
and would like to get a mammogram done.
thanx
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250.9 | re: .8 | LAGUNA::RACINE_CH | | Mon Oct 24 1988 11:59 | 17 |
| Re: .8
The technicians at the place I went to let me look at the x-rays
and showed me what they found, etc. She assured me that the cyst
didn't look cancerous, and the reasons why, but that I should go
to a surgeon to have it looked at more extensively. So, while she
did make me a little more at ease, she did tell me that the x-rays
cannot be conclusive either way if there is a lump.
From my experience, if they do find something in the x-rays they
can give you an idea of what to expect, but you'll probably be referred
to someone else. I was sent to a surgeon, not my gyn or someone
I had seen before.
Regards,
Cherie
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250.10 | .9 | NEBVAX::PEDERSON | Keep watching the SKIES! | Mon Oct 24 1988 12:34 | 4 |
| Thanks .9!
Looks like I'll be making an appointment real soon, then.
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250.11 | for a gentle time, call 481-2500.... | SCOMAN::GARDNER | | Mon Oct 24 1988 12:45 | 32 |
|
Hi,
To all who asked about pain....since I considered myself to be
the greatest chicken of all times, the following is my recommendation
where to go for the mammogram in the Greater Marlboro area. Even
travel if you have to. ;*)
Call 508 481-2500; ask for Debbie between the hours of 9 - 2 Monday
through Friday. She is located at the Regional Emergency Medical
Center on Route 20 in Marlboro, MA. Quick appointments are scheduled;
I had my baseline done and had to have a follow-up picture done -
she scheduled me for two hours after I talked with her. There is
absolutely no pain, she is careful about explaining things and what
she is doing. The reading is done by the Radiology Department at
UMASS Medical Center with the results sent back to the Regional
Center and copies of the report sent to your choice of doctors.
Since I had made an appointment with my doctor, the Radiologist
read the follow-up xrays from a Tuesday and talked with my doctor
on Thursday BEFORE my appointment telling the doctor I would be
coming in that day for my gyn exam! My doctor was quite impressed
with the way it was all handled.
I had no problems but need to be re-xrayed at 6 months because I
am well over THE baseline age!!! I will naturally go back to the
Regional Center to be done because of the ease of it all....run
over at lunchtime!!!! The 5 minute tape on self exam is one I
would suggest viewing tooo.....All in all, GO GO GO......
justme....jacqui (no longer el chicken)
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250.12 | More info | PRYDE::ERVIN | My Karma Ran Over My Dogma | Mon Oct 24 1988 14:19 | 7 |
| re: .8
A baseline mammogram isn't really needed until one is 35 years of
age, or is there some specific problem that you're worried about.
If not, you may be better off waiting until you've made your x-country
trek and are able to establish with a gyn.
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250.13 | re: .12 | NEBVAX::PEDERSON | Keep watching the SKIES! | Mon Oct 24 1988 14:44 | 12 |
| re: .12
No, there's no particular problem. I just saw all the
hype on TV lately about mammograms and thought I might
get one done. Thanks for your concern, tho. After thinking
about it, I think I WILL wait till spring (since it's almost
the end of the year, and I haven't paid diddly-squat toward
my deductible).
pat (the same person who calls John Hancock to find out about
after-retirement insurance)
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250.14 | | BOSHOG::STRIFE | but for.....i wouldn't be me. | Mon Oct 24 1988 22:54 | 19 |
| re: .2
I'm glad that the lump turned out to be nonmalignant. Had it not
been, 9 mos. could have been too long to let it go. I urge anyone
who finds a lump to get attention IMMEDIATELY. The probability
is that it won't be malignant and you'll save yourself months
of needless worry. If it is malignant the sooner it is taken
care of the less invasive the procedure and the better chance
of a cure. And if you're told not to worry about a lump without
a mamogram and preferably a biopsy, get a second opinion.
My 32 year old sister-in-law died last March from breast cancer.
She was 30 when she found the lump and her doctor told her not
to worry about it. Three months later when they finally decided
to check it out, the cancer had spread too far. She left 4 very
young children when she died.
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250.15 | Mobile Mammography Unit | ZAMMY::NANCYZ | | Tue Oct 25 1988 13:36 | 16 |
| If you work in a facility that sponsors a Mobile Mammography Unit
(Stow is offering one on November 2) I would recommend taking advantage
of it. I guess what appeals to me is the convenience and the fact
that it's not in a hospital like setting, which always makes me
queasy to begin with.
I think to say that mammograms are painless is misleading. Large
chested women probably have an easier time than we less endowed
types. My first experience was very uncomfortable and I had to
really sell myself on having another (my mom had a mastectomy so
I'm in a "high risk" category) 3 years later. This time, though,
it was a breeze, probably because I was better prepared and the
technician was more experienced. In any event, the peace of mind
that you will have after it's all over will be worth it.
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250.16 | oops, they shouldn't say | NOETIC::KOLBE | The dilettante debutante | Tue Oct 25 1988 20:58 | 7 |
|
Just a word about a note (I don't remember the number)
Technicians can usually tell a lot about the x-rays they take.
They see them everyday and also see what the doctors point out.
However, it is a breech of ethics (and possibly, a legal
infraction, like practicing medicine without a licence?) For the
tech to tell you what they see on the film. liesl
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250.17 | go ahead | IPG::HUNT | these golden days... | Wed Oct 26 1988 08:18 | 5 |
| I found the only problem was that it was COLD! It didn't
hurt and I was so interested in what was happening that it was all
over before I knew it...
diana
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250.18 | Do it now! Please! | ODIXIE::CFLETCHER | Is it time to go home yet? | Sun Oct 30 1988 22:03 | 51 |
|
Please don't take the 35 year old "rule" totally to heart! If you
have a family history of breast cancer, or have fybrocystic disease,
you should start having mammograms earlier. I am 25, and have a
complete series, not just the baseline (complete is 4 x-rays, baseline
is 2), every year. I also go to a breast specialist every 6 months for
a check up.
This is because my family history for breast cancer is terrible
- my maternal grandmother died of cancer, which started as breast
cancer, and my mom had breast cancer (before menopause, which increases
her risk for re-occurance, and my risk). I also have very bad
fybrocystic disease, in both breasts. I don't smoke, have a low
salt diet, and do not east/drink anything with caffiene.
Actually, I feel pretty lucky that this type of cancer is what I
am up against. It can be caught fairly easily, and it can be "cured".
My mom has been cancer free, since her mastectomy - about 16 years.
Trust your insticts and feelings! It doesn't matter what age you
are! If you find a lump, GO, GO, GO to a doctor immediately! If
they don't seem concerned enought go to another doctor!
As it is, if the fybrocystic disease doesn't get better in the next
few years, I may go ahead and have a double mastectomy, and
reconstruction, so I don't have to worry about all the doctor visits,
and constantly checking myself. (My doctor jokes about the "red
star" he has on my folder, cause my cancer risk is so bad (-:)
It may sound kind of paranoid, but I'd rather go for the surgery
now, and get it over with, rather than worry about cancer for the
rest of my life, or til I finally get it. (From what my doctors
have told me, I have an 80% chance of Not getting breast cancer
if they just take out "insides" and put an implant in, and 100%
change of Not getting breast cancer if I have total mastectomy,
and a reconstruction.)
Maybe I'm just "different", but a breast (or two (-:) seems a pretty
insignificant loss, compared to losing my sight, or a hand, or
something like that. Heck, a a breast does is fill out your shirt!
Any the sure can get be pain in the rear sometimes! My are extremely
tender around my period, because of the fybrocystic masses. I can't
even give or get a good hug then )-:!
Please! Don't put off that exam! DO IT NOW!
Good luck to all of you!
Corinne
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250.19 | Horrible | APEHUB::STHILAIRE | a simple twist of fate | Thu Dec 01 1988 13:27 | 26 |
| OK. I had a mammogram done last night. It was almost unbearably
painful. I'm not kidding. I don't know *why* so many women were
able to write in this topic that it didn't hurt. Is it that you
don't remember the pain? Is it that people's bodies are different
and that different people feel pain differently? I don't get it.
Are all just being John Wayne macho - what me, hurt to get my breast
squished? Nah, nothin to it!
*I* was in agony. Thank goodness it only lasts for a minute because
while it did last it was excrutiatingly painful. I thought for
a minute I had been transported to a South American torture chamber
or something!
Then, she had to do it again because the first ones didn't come
out good enough. I had tears in my eyes by the time it was over
and if it had lasted any longer I would have started screaming.
I couldn't handle pain like that for long and keep sane.
I think it's wonderful that they can cure breast cancer if found
early, but I really think that they should find some way to make
mammograms less painful. I'd rather be put unconsious for God's sake than
go through that! It's cruel!
Lorna
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250.20 | Unnecessary pain | DECSIM::HALL | Dale | Thu Dec 01 1988 14:11 | 15 |
| Lorna,
It shouldn't hurt.
It shouldn't hurt.
It shouldn't hurt.
I'm a "veteran" of several mammograms and not one was painful.
Uncomfortable? Yes. Awkward? Yes. But painful? No.
It's very troubling to me that a potentially life-saving procedure
has been made excrutiatingly painful for you; I'm convinced that
this is due to poor training or clumsiness on the part of the
technician. I think you should go elsewhere next time.
Dale
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250.21 | retakes don't need to hurt! | SCOMAN::GARDNER | justme....jacqui | Thu Dec 01 1988 14:58 | 18 |
|
Lorna,
I, too, had to have a retake but the next week. I, again,
experienced the same high degree of comfort I felt through
the original series. Check where you are going and as
Dale suggests, find somewhere that takes YOU into consideration.
It was pointed out to me that it might sometimes hurt but
for specific reasons. It seems to me that the technician
didn't explain anything to you if this was the case.
Check back through this topic for the name and address of
where I went and give them a call next time you need to go.
I know I will go back.
justme....jacqui
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250.22 | | DLOACT::RESENDEP | following the yellow brick road... | Thu Dec 01 1988 16:27 | 13 |
| I've had a bunch of them, with different X-ray technicians, and never
felt anything more than minor discomfort. However, I've read that some
women find the procedure extremely painful; perhaps there are just
naturally different degrees of tenderness in that area of the body. I
don't know how much of it is due to the lab technician and how much is
determined by the patient's body. But either way, Lorna, you certainly
aren't the only woman who has experienced a great deal of pain with the
procedure.
I would certainly second what was said in the last two notes, and try a
different lab if you ever need to have another one.
Pat
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250.23 | It was Painful! | SRFSUP::LABBEE | Los Angeles Native | Mon Dec 05 1988 17:10 | 6 |
| I, too, had a very painful mammogram. My breasts were extremely
tender at the time of the x-rays, which did not help matters any.
If I never had another, it would be too soon for me!
Colleen
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250.24 | If it was painful, was it done correctly? | PIGGY::MCCALLION | | Sun Dec 18 1988 20:51 | 11 |
| The first one I had, I had large breasts 44D and nothing was found
(age 40 , never pregnant and smoked= risk of cancer moderate).
Went in February (age 41) nothing found, went in June for scheduled
breast reduction and lump was found! I had the reduction done, lump
removed, results negative. Went for follow up (age 42) breasts smaller.
the procedure for the mammogram didn't seem any different to me
other than the breast were more sensitive when they were smaller.
I am scheduled to have yearly mammograms from now on. I am not taking
any risks with lumps or changes just because of a little pressure..
marie
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250.28 | | 2EASY::PIKET | | Mon Mar 06 1989 15:17 | 5 |
|
I've noticed lately that another Defender of the Oppressed White Male
has joined WN.
Roberta
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250.29 | | 32291::CHELSEA | Mostly harmless. | Mon Mar 06 1989 15:55 | 1 |
| I've noticed that this seems to be escalating into an insult war.
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250.30 | update | WMOIS::B_REINKE | If you are a dreamer, come in.. | Mon Mar 06 1989 16:45 | 3 |
| Pat is going to reenter the poem with out the last verse.
Bonnie
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250.31 | | SA1794::CHARBONND | This ain't like dustin' crops, boy! | Tue Mar 07 1989 06:55 | 4 |
| Just out of curiosity, who *did* design the machine ?
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250.32 | Offending stanza removed | DLOACT::RESENDEP | nevertoolatetohaveahappychildhood | Tue Mar 07 1989 11:02 | 56 |
| ODE TO A MAMMOGRAM
For years 'n years they told me
"Be careful of your breast.
Don't ever squeeze or bruise them,
And give them monthly tests."
So I heeded all their warnings
And protected them by law...
Guarded them very carefully,
And always wore a bra.
After 30 years of careful care
The doctor found a lump.
He ordered up a MAMMOGRAM
To look inside that clump.
"Stand up very close," the nurse said,
As she got my tit in line,
"And tell me when it hurts," she said.
"Ah yes! There! That's just fine."
She stepped upon a pedal.
I could not believe my eyes!
A plastic plate was pressing down;
My boob was in a vice!
My skin was stretched 'n stretched
From way up by my chin.
And my poor tit was being squashed
To Swedish pancake thin!!!
Excruciating pain I felt,
Within its vice-like grip.
A prisoner in this vicious thing.
My poor defenseless tit!!!
"Take a deep breath," she asid to me.
Who does she think she's kidding?
My chest is smashed in her machine.
I can't breathe and woozy I am getting.
"There, that was good," I heard her say
As the room was slowly swaying.
"Now let's get the other one."
"Lord, have mercy," I was praying.
It squeezed me up and down.
It squeezed me from both sides.
I'll bet she's never had this done
To her tender little hide!
If I had no problem when I came in,
I surely have one now.
If there had been a cyst in there,
It would have popped...KER-POW!!!
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250.33 | | SUPER::HENDRICKS | The only way out is through | Sat Mar 11 1989 14:00 | 17 |
| Someone found offense with the last verse of this poem?!
I am so glad I got a copy before it was censored.
(The missing verse echoed my thoughts exactly.)
I am so glad I am no longer a moderator of this conference -- I
could never have taken seriously a complaint about a poem which
humorously described a less-than-comfortable medical procedure
for women, and then suggested that men might have a bit more empathy
about the procedure if they could share the experience of having
a tender part of one's anatomy in a vise. What is offensive about
using your imagination to generate a little equality and get yourself
through a stressful situation?
Holly
( who has either recovered her sense of humor, or has become totally
unqualified to moderate any notesfiles at Digital )
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250.36 | Unbelievable but true... | DLOACT::RESENDEP | nevertoolatetohaveahappychildhood | Mon Mar 13 1989 11:19 | 12 |
| Yes, someone was offended at the last stanza of the poem, hard as it
may be to believe. I was asked by one of the moderators to re-enter
the poem with the last stanza omitted, which I did. I agree that the
objections are ludicrous; there was even a comment that the poem
was "advocating sexual violence."
Glad I'm not that sensitive -- it must be miserable to live your
life being offended by things as innocuous as that little poem!
Pat_who_lived_to_be_sorry_she
ever_SAW_the_poem_much_less
entered_it_here
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250.37 | | MOSAIC::TARBET | I'm the ERA | Mon Mar 13 1989 11:25 | 6 |
| Pat, I'd be grateful if you'd send me a copy of the *uncut* original.
I for one am very glad you posted it, and distressed that it suffered
the fate it did.
=maggie
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250.38 | awareness is power | PHAROS::SULLIVAN | Singing for our lives | Mon Mar 13 1989 11:47 | 34 |
|
Pat,
I'm really glad you saw and entered the poem, and I, too, am glad
I saw it before the last stanza was deleted. I think it's clear
that when women take a little power for themselves or express
some humor that is not inclusive of males, there is backlash. Although
I am often angry enough to fight back, I'm learning (the hard way,
I fear!) that we have to pick our battles carefully. It seems
that those who fear women (and probably hate women, too, though
they probably wouldn't admit to that) seem to have an endless supply
of snipers. I'm beginning to feel that if we stop and respond to
each attack, we won't have enough energy left for the battles we
need to fight to survive.
Even though it might seem like a small thing to some, I felt bad
that the last stanza got deleted. I tried to think of some superb
argument that would convince the requestor of the deletion that
he didn't need to be afraid of women's humor, that our claiming
some power did not directly threaten him, that a woman fantasizing
that men might be able to empathize about the fear of losing a breast
and the discomfort of the diagnostic procedure really isn't the same
thing as a man imagining that a pin-up (an object that represents
a falsified image of what some consider to be female beauty) might
be available to him sexually. But I wasn't able to think of
the right words, and I decided (though it was small consolation)
that the altered poem and the debate that both caused and responded
to the deletion of the last stanza would provide a monument to the
real resentment that some men have toward women... even in this
more enlightened culture. The knowledge that this resentment really
exists, that we're not imagining it, is sometimes our most valuable
tool because it helps us find each other.
Justine
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250.39 | Sounds like a big to-do about nothing... | PARITY::STACIE | Don't start w/me-you know how I get! | Mon Mar 13 1989 11:58 | 0 |
250.42 | Can I get a copy? | CURIE::ROCCO | | Mon Mar 13 1989 13:53 | 14 |
| Pat,
I also saw the poem before the last stanza was deleted, and it gave me a
good laugh. I am glad you entered it originally in it's entirety.
I am also sorry that you had to delete the last stanza, because I would like
to print off a copy to send to my mom. She is about to go in for another
mammogram and I am sure would appreciate the poem (in full).
Could you send me a copy of the whole thing?
Muggsie
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250.43 | | BOLT::MINOW | I'm the ERA | Mon Mar 13 1989 14:28 | 37 |
| re: .38:
> I'm beginning to feel that if we stop and respond to
> each attack, we won't have enough energy left for the battles we
> need to fight to survive.
I can certainly agree to that.
[from a private mail message, posted at the suggestion of the recipient]
As I've already said in the discussion, the issue is, to me, identical
to the issues raised in previous discussions about wolf whistles and
Cheryl Tiegs posters and other similar cases where women objected to
demeaning attitudes towards them.
I'm also concerned about any humor, "women's" or "men's" that condones
sexual violence -- or is there some other way you can explain "balls
in a vise?" Is this humor acceptable in Digital?
Do you think the women would support a man who wrote about a prostrate
exam, stating that "it must have been invented by a woman" and "I'd sure
like to put her tits in a wringer. (Ha Ha)" We (men and women) don't tolerate
such "humor" and I find it demoralizing that people who want respect for
their views won't extend that respect to others and, for that matter,
don't even notice that others might be offended before someone has to
point it out.
Why do you (plural) expect me to support you (plural) in your wish for
equality and freedom from demeaning sexual references when you (plural)
won't grant me the same equality and freedom?
The issue, to me, was never one of resentment towards women, or a wish
to put women in their place, but grew out of a belief that equality
cuts both ways and that violence doesn't become humorous when its
directed towards some other group.
Martin.
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250.44 | If the situation were reversed... | DLOACT::RESENDEP | nevertoolatetohaveahappychildhood | Mon Mar 13 1989 15:03 | 9 |
| > Do you think the women would support a man who wrote about a prostrate
> exam, stating that "it must have been invented by a woman" and "I'd
> sure like to put her tits in a wringer. (Ha Ha)"
I'd laugh (sincerely) and forget about it.
Really.
Pat
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250.45 | | 2EASY::PIKET | I'm Handgun Control, Inc. | Mon Mar 13 1989 15:17 | 14 |
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re: .43
Martin,
Do you have anything new to say on this issue? This is exactly what
you said in the processing topic. Is there any reason to go over
old ground again? If we are going to continue on in this discussion,
why not bring it back to the processing topic where it started?
The title of this topic suggests that is a place for women to go for info
on mammograms, not to read about your hurt feelings.
Roberta
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250.46 | | ACESMK::CHELSEA | Mostly harmless. | Mon Mar 13 1989 15:29 | 15 |
| Re: .45
>The title of this topic suggests that is a place for women to go
>for info on mammograms, not to read about your hurt feelings.
Somehow I find this rather odd....
Re: .43
I suppose, if we're being absolutely 100% across-the-board consistent,
then you're right. However, I don't think it's possible to have
100% across-the-board consistency. I just don't think anyone is
capable of it. This is not to say that we should just give up on
consistency as a goal, but it might suggest a less dogmatic approach
on both sides.
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250.47 | Hidden by =m | 2EASY::PIKET | I'm Handgun Control, Inc. | Mon Mar 13 1989 16:23 | 7 |
250.51 | | VLNVAX::OSTIGUY | | Tue Mar 14 1989 12:18 | 13 |
| I can't believe that the topic, MAMMOGRAMS has turned into
a battle ground. I didn't get to see the orginal poem, and I
would have loved to see it. Anybody anticipating a MAMMOGRAM
or the results of one could use a chuckle. If the tables were
turned around, I'd find it humorous; but then again, I wouldn't
get into a topic stating PROSTRATE .
Some people should have their "notes priviledges" grounded.
Anna
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250.52 | | AQUA::WAGMAN | QQSV | Tue Mar 14 1989 12:27 | 15 |
| Re: .51 (and others, similarly)
> I wouldn't get into a topic stating PROSTRATE.
Medical/English nit: the male gland being referred to here is the "prostate".
"Prostrate" is a description of a person lying face down.
(Maybe I should have dropped this in "Hot Buttons"...)
> I can't believe that the topic, MAMMOGRAMS has turned into a battle
> ground.
Depressing, isn't it. You have my sympathy.
--Q
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250.53 | | SLSTRN::DONAHUE | | Tue Mar 14 1989 16:33 | 8 |
| Well, go away for a week and look what happens!
I would love to have a copy of the unedited version of the poem
if anyone has the time to forward me a copy. I'm on SALES::DONAHUE.
I just feel so sorry for people who have no concept of humor.
Susan
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250.54 | | ACESMK::CHELSEA | Mostly harmless. | Tue Mar 14 1989 23:36 | 10 |
| Re: .53
>I just feel so sorry for people who have no concept of humor.
The reason comments like this bother me (and why I'm so tired of
seeing them) is that they come perilously close to that dangerous
and politically incorrect error of invalidating feelings. The implied
message: "You shouldn't be upset, you're just being a party-pooper."
If someone could explain to me how this differs significantly from
invalidating someone's feelings, I'm certainly curious.
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250.55 | | ULTRA::ZURKO | Words like winter snowflakes | Wed Mar 15 1989 08:07 | 11 |
| Rescued from the net.
Mez
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Good point Chelsea
BJ
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250.56 | | SLSTRN::DONAHUE | in perpetual overdrive | Wed Mar 15 1989 12:59 | 20 |
| Not to make any waves -- I didn't mean to imply that I was invalidating
other people's feelings. Everyone has a right to their own opinions,
feelings, thoughts, way of life, etc. That's what makes us all
different. I can respect that.
My outlet is humor. Instead of building stress, I can find humor
in *almost* every situation. I just can't understand why people
make such big deals over jokes. No one said you HAD to like the
joke.
But, I have a feeling that no matter what type of joke is told,
there will always be someone who is offended. Even if it's an elephant
joke. Someone won't like it because their favorite animal is an
elephant and that particular joke makes the elephant appear stupid.
I don't think that warrants hiding the joke from the rest of us,
though. We should be able to decide for ourselves.
Sorry if I implied otherwise ....
Susan
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250.57 | The poem still lives! | CASV02::LUST | You want WHAT by WHEN? | Wed Mar 22 1989 13:00 | 10 |
| First thing this morning, 6:30 am, my radio came on, and I heard
Dave Maynard on WBZ Boston *reading the mammogram poem* - including
the infamous last verse!!! And actually, it was even funnier (to
me!), partially because a trained individual was reading it, partially
because (after all our uproar) it was a man reading it, but mostly
because they bleeped out the actual body-part in the final verse,
leaving it to your imagination!!!
still chuckling,
Linda
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250.58 | | 2EASY::PIKET | F C A B flat D flat E :|| | Wed Mar 22 1989 13:16 | 8 |
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How funny! I wonder if anyone will call in to complain.
Oh I forgot. It was a man reading it, so, not being a symbol
of feminine resistance, it is no longer a threat.
Roberta
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250.59 | | VLNVAX::OSTIGUY | | Wed Mar 22 1989 14:09 | 7 |
| re -1
hehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
Anna
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250.60 | I wonder? | TUT::SMITH | Passionate commitment to reasoned faith | Thu Mar 23 1989 09:05 | 1 |
| How come "balls" gets bleeped and "boobs" don't?
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250.61 | | GEMVAX::KOTTLER | | Mon Apr 03 1989 13:59 | 3 |
| re .60
It's their way of keeping us abreast of what's afoot.
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250.62 | caffeine | USEM::DCHASE | | Wed Jul 12 1989 16:16 | 6 |
| Has anyone ever heard on not having caffeine 2 weeks before? I
just made an appointment with my doctor. She said it will just make
it easier on me. I was in such a state on not being able to have
coffee that I didn't think to ask why.
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250.63 | Soreness | MSDOA::MCMULLIN | | Wed Jul 12 1989 16:26 | 3 |
| Caffeine is suppose to contribute to breast tenderness and soreness
in many women. My GYN told me to limit my caffeine and chocolate
intake and to take a vitamin E tablet daily because of soreness.
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250.65 | This surprised me | SUPER::HENDRICKS | The only way out is through | Wed Jul 12 1989 18:08 | 3 |
| Don't use baby powder the day of the mammogram, either. It has
something in it that can affect the picture. If you use powder
on that part of your body, use only cornstarch.
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250.66 | deodorant | MSDOA::MCMULLIN | | Wed Jul 12 1989 18:53 | 2 |
| That reminds me, the day a nurse talked to our group at work, she
said not to wear deodorant, because it could also affect the mammogram.
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250.67 | mom's mammogram | MARLIN::RYAN | | Mon Nov 20 1989 13:05 | 11 |
| After 3 years of having "abnormal" mammograms, my mother informed
me that her most recent one came back "normal". Not that I don't
trust her doctor, but how could this be ? Do cysts and "dark spots"
really just go away ? I have never heard of this happening before.
Her doctor has been watching these dark spots closely as there is
a history of breast cancer in that side of our family, but there
really hasn't been anything to treat.
Has anyone else had abnormal mammograms turn normal ?
Dee
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