| Title: | ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 2 --ARCHIVE |
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| Created: | Thu Jan 30 1986 |
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At the suggestion of one of the noters, I am copying this note I
entered onto the Human_Relations conference. If this is not
appropriate in this conference, I will be happy to withdraw it.
Thanks,
Jack
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Note 545.0 Help for the Newly Divorced?? 4 replies
SALEM::JWILSON 28 lines 21-JUL-1988 14:31
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Please help me with the following personal project:
(I am new to this notes file, so if the answers to some of my questions
may be found elsewhere, please bear with me.)
Do any of you know of any Wholistic advisory services for newly
divorced or separated men and (especially) women? By this, I'm
not just talking about the emotional aspects, but those as well
as the very real life-adjustment aspects (Financial changes, entering
or reentering the job market, "Will I have to sell the house," etc.).
From what I've seen, there is a real need for this kind of service,
and I have not seen it offered (at least in the Nashua, NH area).
Most women I've talked to have been completely unprepared to go
off on their own. They have typically lived in a male-dominated
environment where all major decisions were made by their father
or their husband. They then find themselves on their own, not quite
knowing how to piece everything back together. Hopefully, the younger
generations may be better prepared than the older, but ???
Any information you could give me in this regard would be appreciated,
especially regarding the types of services/contacts that would be
most helpful. (Anything you do not wish to share you may send me
via VAXmail.)
Thanks in advance for your help!
Jack
| T.R | Title | User | Personal Name | Date | Lines |
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| 68.1 | the Y | DOODAH::RANDALL | Bonnie Randall Schutzman | Fri Jul 22 1988 11:52 | 4 |
The Nashua YWCA offers support groups for divorced women; they
cover most of the issues you mention.
--bonnie
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| 68.2 | PLAYIN::LEE | There are no rules | Fri Jul 22 1988 15:57 | 23 | |
1. EAP - Employee's Assistance Program. I work in ZKO and there are 3
(I think) social workers here. They will interview you and recommend a
counselor or counseling group. I don't know if there are EAP "workers"
at your site, check with Health Services.
2. If you are cover under HMO, I suggest giving them a call, they may be
able to recommend someone.
3. Bedford Counseling Associates
Bedford Square
25 South River Road (down the street from Jordan Marsh, Caldors)
Bedford N.H.
623-1916
Approximately half an hour driving time from Nashua. If you are cover
under John Hancock, they will pick up 80% of the cost.
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| 68.3 | I de Counselor, Not de Counselee! | SALEM::JWILSON | Fri Jul 22 1988 16:19 | 26 | |
RE: .2, Thanks for the advice. But I am looking to PROVIDE such
a service, not to USE it. (I have been divorced for 3 years, and
am very well-adjusted.)
I also know that some organizations (many of who are religion -
affiliated) provide SOME of the help. I am looking to see if any
one agency, available to the masses, provides the wholistic help
to people who are really in need of getting their lives back in
order. (I may be misusing the term "wholistic," by which I mean
looking at the individual as a whole - emotions, personality, physical
being, parent, sexual being, etc. etc.)
There are needs that have to be addressed in every aspect of their
lives. And too frequently, the victims of a divorce are too much
in a state of shock to know who to turn to, and are sometimes further
victimized (perhaps inadvertantly) by those who should be helping
them (attorney, cleric, well-meaning friend, etc.). Some organizations
who provide some support expect a certain quid pro quo (religious
dependency, political support, etc.).
I am by no means saying that ALL support organizations are attempting
to take advantage of the users of their services. I am just suggesting
that there is a need for independant counseling services from someone
who has nothing personal to gain.
Jack
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| 68.4 | a bit of advice... | YODA::BARANSKI | The far end of the bell curve | Sat Jul 23 1988 04:22 | 4 |
Support groups may be good for a shoulder to cry on, but they are not very good for changing the reality of the situation... JMB | |||||