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Conference turris::womannotes-v1

Title:ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 1 --ARCHIVE
Notice:V1 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open.
Moderator:REGENT::BROOMHEAD
Created:Thu Jan 30 1986
Last Modified:Fri Jun 30 1995
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:873
Total number of notes:22329

539.0. "Success, what does it mean to you?" by ULTRA::GUGEL (Don't read this.) Wed Nov 04 1987 14:41

    We have note #28 (women's success stories at DEC), but few women
    have entered a reply there.  I entered a reply there a little while
    back, even though I'm not what one *might* consider "successful"
    (i.e. I'm no where near being a consulting engineer or mangager).
    
    So, here's the question.  What does success mean to you?  Define
    it in your own terms.
    
    Here's mine in a nutshell:  Success is doing what I like and liking
    what I do.
    
    Of course, there's much more to it than that.  It takes a balance
    between between career, money, relationships, family, friendships,
    community, hobbies, activities, life-long learning, and spirituality
    to make me feel successful, fulfilled, and happy.
    
    Maybe this topic will help a few more of us to realize that we really
    are *successful*!
    
    	-Ellen
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539.1where would I be without ME?JUNIOR::TASSONENov. 9, Cruise timeWed Nov 04 1987 16:538
    Success, to me means achievements, tiny as they may be, to a better
    and fulfilled ME.  Any small step towards "total" and gratifying
    happiness is what being successful is to me.
    
    Being good at what you do and feeling great about who you are is
    also successful.   To me.
    
    Cathy
539.2Success = HappinessMARCIE::JLAMOTTEAAY-UHThu Nov 05 1987 12:583
    Success stories bore me.
    
    Happy people fascinate me.
539.3CSTVAX::MPOWELLFri Nov 06 1987 13:114
    Success to me means accomplishing the goals in my life that I have
    set for myself.  Eventhough those goals change daily!
    
    Tanya
539.5A real simple definition...DPDMAI::RESENDEPTopeka is in TexasMon Nov 09 1987 11:363
    Success is accomplishing anything that makes me or my husband happy.
    
    							Pat
539.6I think I'll keep themKLAATU::THIBAULTCapture the moment, carry the dayMon Nov 09 1987 12:3715
My folks are a success. They raised 3 boys and one black sheep (yours
truly), all to be successful. They have 3 grand-kids and 2 on the way.
They own their house, a car, an old truck and a spiffy hippie van. They're
retired, have their health and their minds are intact (okay, so ma did
get a little crazy at the Mardi Gras that one time, but hey, she coulda
won that wet t-shirt contest ;-)). They can do what they want when they want,
and they're having a wonderful time doing it. They've been to all 48 
contiguous states and much of Canada. As far as I'm concerned they have 
the world by the balls. But the best part about my folks is...well...


they're mine.

Jenna

539.7GCANYN::TATISTCHEFFLee TMon Nov 16 1987 14:4317
    I think one of the signs of my youth/stupidity/inexperience/immaturity
    is that I haven't yet found a good workable definition of success.
    I HAVE found a couple definitions of what it isn't though:
    
    I DON'T have to be the best at anything to be successful.  There
    is ALWAYS someone better at it (no matter what "it" is).
    
    I DON'T have to make others happy to be successful.  I am responsible
    for my own happiness, as is everyone.  No one can make me happy
    but me, and I cannot make any person happy if they do not want to
    be.

    I guess being sick brings out the negative in me.  I have a feeling,
    though, that I won't be able to attain that elusive state of success
    until I come up with POSITIVE definitions of it for myself.
    
    Lee
539.8you're not always an islandCADSYS::SULLIVANKaren - 225-4096Mon Nov 16 1987 15:5323
	Very simply, success is when you reach a goal that you have
	been striving for.  So if I have a goal to be promoted, than
	my manager's opinion of me is very important.  But if I change
	my goal to be having the knowledge or capability to do some
	task, than that goal can be reached without outside opinions.
	What I'm trying to say is that ideally, you are successful on
	your own opinions of your actions, but sometimes goals can
	depend on what others think of you.  Then you might actually
	have more work to do to reach that goal (some politics to do?).

	So in some ways I consider myself successful.  I think I know
	a lot about my job and I'm very good at it.  However my manager
	disagrees with me about how good I am.  So I have to work at
	reaching my goal of promotion by finding out what things my
	manager thinks I need to learn and either showing that I already
	know that or learning it.  And maybe some work to make myself
	more "visible" as a capable person.

	I also have a goal to get my addition ready for sheetrock.  I've
	been very succesful (with a LOT of work) at that.  They're going
	to come and do it this friday.

	...Karen