| Title: | ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 1 --ARCHIVE |
| Notice: | V1 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open. |
| Moderator: | REGENT::BROOMHEAD |
| Created: | Thu Jan 30 1986 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 30 1995 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 873 |
| Total number of notes: | 22329 |
I am proposing this as a topic of discussion because it appears from note 234 that there are various opinions on the definition of compassion and of its use in our lives. What are your feelings on compassion? To whom do you show compassion? Who do you think is deserving of compassion? And also, what do you believe about showing compasssion compared with what you actually end up actualizing on a day to day basis? Do you remember any times when someone else's compassion or lack of it has made a big difference in your life? Do you remember times when your compassion or lack of it has made a big difference in a relationship you were in, or for someone else? This note is jointly entered by Alison Nylander and Alicia Foden
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| 259.1 | ULTRA::ZURKO | UI:Where the rubber meets the road | Thu Apr 02 1987 09:53 | 14 | |
I've found I work better under someone who will be truthful about my failings, and yet understanding about them (compassionate). It's like a safe space, or the snail syndrome that Spence pointed out in another note. If I feel support, I feel safer acknowledging my short-comings, and working on them (less defensive). I find myself equating compassion with empathy and support. In a work environment. I have trouble feeling compassion for people who are judging me. This often deteriorates into a no-win situation (at work, and outside). How do you get around that one? Particularly with people you have to work with, or people you love? Mez | |||||
| 259.2 | compassion | MANTIS::PARE | Thu Apr 02 1987 16:50 | 4 | |
To me compassion means treating people the way I would like to
be treated. I tend to feel compassion towards most living things
but especially the young, weak, or vulnerable. The line is drawn
when compassion is used as a tool to manipulate.
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| 259.3 | what makes it work | RETORT::HARMON | Thu Apr 09 1987 12:29 | 8 | |
Compassion, I believe, is a function of experience. When you've
"been there" you can empathize. It's also a function of being able
to identify the commonality of experiences. I was going to say
that it is also related to self-confidence, but in rethinking that
point, I would say compassion is a tool of the wise, be they
leader or lover.
Wendy
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