Conference turris::womannotes-v1

    I'm surprised that no answered this topic.  I think it's very
    interesting to see that a friendship can last 32 years.....such
    a true friend and they are the hardest to find.  All my childhood
    buddies have gone there separate ways and I never hear from them
    anymore.....so it's good to see long relationships do exist!
    
    Any more stories like that one?  I'm just curious.
    
    BS
    

    
    
    I enjoy the "close" friendship of several people I went to high
    school with.  We, too, can go for months without being in touch.
    But when we do get together it is even better, because we just have
    more to catch up on.  Our relationships have grown over the 26 or
    so years, and the conversations consist of both old and new topics.
    It is to these people that I can show any and all of my sides -
    my bold side, my cowardly side, my smart or stupid side.  They know
    me to be all of these and more, and I love them dearly.  They are
    not, however, all women.  In fact I would find it strange if they
    all were all of one sex or the other.  If they were it would mean
    that I was overlooking the good qualities of some potential good
    friends because I had a problem getting close to  one or the other
    sex.  Sisterhood best???  I don't think so.

    
    	re: .1  
    
    	> Any more stories like that one? 
        
        My story would have to be just the opposite.  I have found it
    	very difficult to maintain long-lasting friendships with other
    	women, but have several men friends who have been friends for
    	years. 
    
    	I haven't taken the time to try to analyze this because I'm
    	happy with things the way they are. 
    	
    	re: .2
    
    	> Sisterhood best?  I don't think so! 
    	
    	I agree!  I wouldn't trade one of my men friends for a female
    	friend!  I've been "stabbed in the back" too many times by
    	so-called friends!  (One who had an affair with my ex behind
    	my back.  Another who called an SO with "stories" about my
    	behavior that were not true.  Was this just jealousy on her
    	part that I had an SO and she didn't?) 
    
    	I've found my male friends to be more "reliable" and just as
    	understanding as any female friend.  I have some female friends
    	but nothing long lasting or as deep as the friendship I share
    	with some male friends. 
    
    	Myra	

    
    
    RE:  .3
    
    Come to think of it, you are right in a way.  The people who have
    been the biggest pains in my "side" both in business and in my personal
    life have been women.  Petty stuff like gossip, backstabing and
    envy.  Ya know, sometimes I think we have identified our worst enemies
    and they are US!

..... well  ....  I  wouldn't  say our worst enemies are ourselves (but then
there are a lot of things I wouldn't say!)

I have  found  men  in  general to be easier for me to get along with, often
because I can relate better to them, interest-wise.

However, I've had problems with the relationship going the wrong way -- it's
terrible  to  lose a friend because you want to "date" someone else. (Was he
really  a  friend? I think so, we got over it after about a year of avoiding
each other and it seems to have fixed itself, sortof.)

Anyway, a male friend of mine was explaining why he was looking forward to a
weekend  with  "the  boys"  (not  something he does often at all) -- he said
things  were  very  relaxed because none of them had ever been involved with
each  other,  or  were  going  after  each other. I wouldn't want to go on a
weekend with just women because that's my good friends aren't limited to one
sex, I don't normally do things by sex, etc.

BUT ...  I  think  I  can understand what my friend is looking for. (Just as
long as he doesn't do it all the time!)

re .4
I  am  my own best friend --- I know that I am the one person who will never
leave me [or maybe, "until death do I part"!  ;-)  ]

    I have to retract that statement that I only have one women friend
    that I keep close contact with.....I should also mentioned thta
    I met someone through women notes that I correspond with but haven't
    meet yet! :-)  I really meant to say that the one woman friend I
    have been friends with ten years is the longest woman friendship
    I have.....not the only one!   I think it's harder for woman to
    stay friends over a long period of time because my high school friends
    are gone and other friends I made working at different companies
    have gone their separate ways.  
    
    Now that I confused myself......:-)
    
    bs