| Title: | ARCHIVE-- Topics of Interest to Women, Volume 1 --ARCHIVE |
| Notice: | V1 is closed. TURRIS::WOMANNOTES-V5 is open. |
| Moderator: | REGENT::BROOMHEAD |
| Created: | Thu Jan 30 1986 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 30 1995 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 873 |
| Total number of notes: | 22329 |
I was always going to write a book...but as the years went by the
hurt feelings, the guilt became more distant and the idea was not
as necessary.
He was nice to me...I was having difficulty raising the children
as a single parent...he was separated from his wife. He took me
shopping, to the laundromat, and we shared drinks at the neighborhood
pub. We did our Christmas shopping in town. There were stores
not far from the neighborhood pub. We drank...wrapped presents.
During the summer we took our children to local activities..we
drank...played softball.
His wife was sick...she could not handle the children...he said
I must go home...I cried...we said goodbye...he went home.
The neighborhood pub was a friendly place. I drank...everyone
felt sorry for me...what a good man he was to take care of his
family...
Six weeks later he came into the pub...told the bartender to give
Joyce a drink....and after a few moments joined me...the wife only
had six months to live...he missed me.
The rest is a bunch of excuses and justifications. The wife is
still alive. She told a friend of mine that I was the nicest
girlfriend he had ever had because I did'nt call the house or
infringe on her time.
For every married man that cheats on his wife there is a valid excuse
for that behavior.
For each one of us that messes up a sister there is years of guilt
to live with..
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| 141.1 | It's all so confusing | APEHUB::STHILAIRE | Fri Dec 19 1986 11:12 | 9 | |
So maybe monogamy is an unrealistic approach to life?
Sometimes people do what they have to do to get by, and
other people accidentally get hurt. I'm not sure if situations
like this can always be avoided.
Lorna
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| 141.2 | Woman scorned? | AKOV04::WILLIAMS | Tue Dec 30 1986 14:16 | 11 | |
I support .1 and take exception to .0 suggesting that men cheat
on their wives but women don't cheat on their husbands. Not very
realistic!
To continue, it appears the majority of contributors to this file
believe 'all' relationships have monogamy as one of their roots.
This is not realistic, either. There is no 'all.' There are many
married men and women who are seeking companionship, love and sex
outside their marriages. It is not my place to pass judgement on
these people, nor is it anyone elses, save the people with whom
they have emotional contracts.
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| 141.3 | The reason why... | MARCIE::JLAMOTTE | It is a time to remember | Wed Dec 31 1986 15:59 | 8 |
re. .2
The original note was written by a woman to women condensing years
of experience into a few short paragraphs.
I did not have a relationship with a woman so I did not comment
on married women cheating.
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