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Name | Date | Lines |
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| 971.1 | Might not have been Jewish | CPDW::SEIDMAN | Aaron Seidman | Thu Aug 23 1990 07:30 | 11 |
| I think that it is a strange situation; one normally wears the ribbon
(or a torn piece of clothing, depending on how one does the kriah)
during shiva, when one does not go out. During shiva it is customary
to wait for the bereaved to initiate conversation.
There *is* a custom among some non-Jewish groups to wear something
black for an extended period of time (I think a year) after a loss.
(Did your wife happen to notice if the ribbon was torn? If not, the
woman probably was not Jewish.
Aaron
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| 971.2 | Was torn | DECSIM::GROSS | The bug stops here | Thu Aug 23 1990 23:54 | 10 |
| Yes, it was torn.
Out in the "greater-Maynard" suburbs we meet all types.
Five years ago, my wife lost both parents at virtually the
same time. She was in such a state that she didn't feel like
taking the ribbons off for a month. I think she wanted to
share her story with this woman.
Dave
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| 971.3 | I went ahead and asked... | SYSTMX::HACHE | Life is like an analogy | Fri Aug 24 1990 01:00 | 14 |
|
I recently saw a woman wearing a torn ribbon too. I knew
that it was a sign of mourning (I'm not jewish...just an
observer) but thought it was odd that she wore it after
shiva.
I've known her since I moved to Newton last year, (she
owns/runs a Hallmark shop in my neighborhood... I'm a sucker
for greeting cards!) and so I asked her about it, just as
I would ask a Christian that I knew was in mourning.
I hope it wasn't a faux pas...
dm
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| 971.4 | Not a faux pas | CASP::SEIDMAN | Aaron Seidman | Fri Aug 24 1990 02:47 | 7 |
| re: .3
If someone wears a sign of mourning in public, they have to be aware
that others will notice. I would think that in that case, normal rules
of common sense and sensitivity would apply.
Aaron
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