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| 838.1 | The answer is... | BAGELS::SREBNICK | Bad pblm now? Wait 'til we solve it! | Thu Dec 07 1989 09:33 | 8 |
| >>> After attending a funeral, is it permissible to visit other
>>> relatives' gravesites at the same cemetery?
No, it's not. It is considered disrespectful to do so. I can't quote chapter
and verse on this one, but I do remember being told about this by our Rabbi.
Also several family members (each of whom claims to be the greatest expert on
Jewish observance and law since Rashi 8-} ) have admonished me in my youth not
to visit other gravesites.
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| 838.2 | I don't see why not ..... | TAVENG::CHAIM | Semper ubi Sub ubi ..... | Sun Dec 10 1989 02:15 | 8 |
| Re: -1
I beg to differ but I have been unable to find any source that would prohibit
visiting other graves after a funeral, and I cannot think of any reason why
this would be so. In fact I have attended many funerals and have observed many
very very religious Jews take the opportunity to visit other grave sites.
Cb.
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| 838.3 | Sorry about that! | BAGELS::SREBNICK | Bad pblm now? Wait 'til we solve it! | Tue Dec 19 1989 07:09 | 7 |
| I stand corrected. I've checked three sources: Maurice Lamm's book "The Jewish
Way in Death and Mourning," The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, and Donin's "To Be a
Jew." None of those books even mentioned in passing visitation of graves
during funerals.
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| 838.4 | Disrespectful, it's not! | USEM::ROSENZWEIG | | Fri Feb 09 1990 22:32 | 25 |
| We just buried my mother next to my father in Detroit Machpelah
Cemetery. We were only allowed the strictest Orthodox Rabbi. We
went to see my father and my sister (may they rest in peace) and
the Rabbi said the customery blessings over their grave. If not
then? when?
Most ceremonies for the departed have good psychological reasoning
behind them. The first seven days allows us the immediate shock
of the death and the courtesies and caring to the mourners. It is
permitted to be absolutely depressed...(no preparing of meals, no
bathing etc.) It's okay. The next thirty days ease us into
the world of living. and yes it takes about a year...so the
dedication of the tombstone is natural after a year.
....now in this vein, isn't it natural to visit other members of
the family who are departed and pay respects. After all one
grieving reminds us of another. .....and to whom would this
be disrespectful - the dead. Wouldn't my mother want me to
visit my sister!....and my father?
Every funeral I've ever attended, and they are usually orthodox
events has some attendee staying on to pay respects to other departed
friends or family members.
There is nothing that I know that prohibits visiting other graves.
Rosie
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