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Conference taveng::bagels

Title:BAGELS and other things of Jewish interest
Notice:1.0 policy, 280.0 directory, 32.0 registration
Moderator:SMURF::FENSTER
Created:Mon Feb 03 1986
Last Modified:Thu Jun 05 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:1524
Total number of notes:18709

726.0. "How about a Matchmaker's note?" by CIMNET::FREEMAN (Sam Freeman, DTN 291-7448, MET-1/K2) Wed Jun 28 1989 13:45

Like many other readers of this notes file, I also saw Crossing
Delancy.  Keeping with the vein of the movie, I'd like to propose
this note as the official matchmaker's note.  I envision this
note as operating differently than the Jewish Singles note already
in existance.  This note would essentially rely on third parties
to bring two singles together.  Ideally, the two singles being
matched would not know anything about the other, other than a
description provided by the "matchmaker".

Why? You might ask.  How about two thoughts to start.

1.	Many Jewish (and nonjewish) singles probably pass up
	good opportunities because they're preoccupied with meeting
	Mr. or Miss exactly, positively, absolutely right.  I think
	we all have a vision in our mind's eye of Mr. or Miss right.

	Have you ever been to a single's function, stood back
	and observed what's going on?   Clumps of men and women
	checking out each new arrival at the door, observing
	from the balcony, etc...

2.	Many of the best couples I know were introduced by a third
	party - relative, friend, etc...  How about you?

This note could be used to introduce singles together who might
not normally have the opportunity to meet.  I.E. my cousin and
your brother, my friend and your friend, etc...  I realize that there
is quite bit of risk involved, but I hope (perhaps naively) that
the "matchmakers" who participate will be responsible people.

Mr. moderator, noters, what do you think?

/Sam
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726.1Good IdeaCSCMA::GILDERThu Jun 29 1989 13:3119
    Sam, 
    
    What a nice idea; not only nice, but a good one.
    
    Since I'm in a position to only have 3 other friends now available,
    who are by coincidence Non-Jewish and female and two of them Non-
    Deccies, the third about to move to Colorado, I don't have much
    to offer other than myself.  And, that's not much.
    
    Hopefully, we'll hear how others feel.  I would like to suggest
    if this doesn't insult you that we make things really clear that
    whomever is "in the pool" is or is not Jewish as well as about the
    person and type of person who would be a suitable match.
    
    Otherwise you've got my help in any way possible.
    
    Adriane Gilder
    dtn 292-2565
    CSCMA::Gilder
726.2CIMNET::FREEMANSam Freeman, DTN 291-7448, MET-1/K2Thu Jun 29 1989 14:5819
    Hi Adrienne,
    
    I was beginning to get worried.  Glad someone responded....
    
    I posted this in the Bagels notes file because it just so happened
    that the two people I was thinking of submitting for this were
    Jewish themselves and I figured it ran in the tradition.
    
    I see no reason to limit it to Jews alone but I think we should
    respect the wishes of the person(s) being matched.  If they're
    specifically looking for a Jewish mate or companion, we should
    endeavor to match them with one.
    
    Like you, one of the two people I'm thinking of is a non Deccie
    and lives in NYC.  For that reason I don't want to limit this
    to region or to Deccies.  The whole idea is to expand the available
    base of elegible candidates.
    
    /Sam
726.3how would this matchmaking note work please ?HANNAH::OSMANsee HANNAH::IGLOO$:[OSMAN]ERIC.VT240Thu Jun 29 1989 15:3415
    
    Sam, you certainly get worried easily !  (does that happen on dates
    too? :-)  I mean, Adrianne only took one day to respond, yet you
    were already worried.
    
    Anyway, could someone please explain how this note would work ?  I'm
    confused.  Great.  You're worried and I'm confused.  What else is new.
    
    What I'm confused about is, does a matchmaker write to this note,
    offering someone ?  Or does a lonely heart write to this note asking
    to be matched with someone ?
    
    Thanks.
    
    /Eric
726.4Worry - My middle nameCIMNET::FREEMANSam Freeman, DTN 291-7448, MET-1/K2Thu Jun 29 1989 16:2626
    Worry easy, me?  Nah...
    
    Let's keep it open to all - lonely hearts and people being offered
    included.  Jeesh, next thing we'll have a note named Bintel Brief.
    
    I haven't given enough thought to how this thing should work.
    Off the cuff, I guess the best way that I can think of is the
    following:
    
    1.	Someone enters a reply for a person they wish to match.
    	Could be someone they know or themselves.  Sort of like
    	a singles advert.  Should include description of person
    	being matched and person being searched for - likes,
    	dislikes, etc.
    
    2.	I guess if I have a potential match for someone I would
    	contact them via mail, not directly via a reply.  It
    	really resembles a singles notes file, except that we're
    	encouraging the participation of third parties.
    
    So why not use the existing singles notes entry for this?
    I don't have a good answer.
    
    Any other thoughts?
    
    \Sam
726.5How about my daughter?USEM::ROSENZWEIGThu Jun 29 1989 16:599
    How about my daughter? 29 artistic but in computer graphics,
    lives in arlington. Studied photography as an undergraduate.
    Her name is Elizabeth
    
    Her mother
    
    (I know this is a typical Jewish mother response but it's real
    because of course, my motive is selfish and quite ethnic and belongs
    in a comic skit)
726.6My cousin in NYCCIMNET::FREEMANSam Freeman, DTN 291-7448, MET-1/K2Fri Jun 30 1989 09:1311
    My cousin, Leslie,
    
    Lives in NYC, 32, BS from Northeastern in Journalism, studying
    for the theater.  Likes contemporary art, theater, and music.
    
    A real nice kid - brings her aged aunt groceries and takes her
    out for walks.
    
    Not religious but consciously Jewish.  About 5'4, pleasantly plump.
    
    /Her_cousin_who_doesn't_want_to_see_her_end_up_a_spinster_like_her_aunt.
726.7My sister...LDYBUG::PINCKAmy Pinck, Long Live the DuckMon Jul 03 1989 10:5220
    
    I would like to put my twin sister in this note.  She is
    now 23 years old and a grad student at North Eastern.
    She is studying for her Masters in Speach Pathology
    and should be finished next summer.
    
    She is interested in athletics (both as a fan and 
    as a participant) and plays in a local softball fan.
    Even though we grew up as Met fans, being able
    to see the diamond vision at fenway park from her
    apartment has had an effect on her :(/.   Anyway, she
    enjoys getting out and doing things as well as relaxing
    on the beach.  
    
    You can get in touch with me at ldybug::pinck or DTN: 223-4334
    if you want more information.
    Amy
    
    (oh yea, do not come down to look at me to see what she looks
    like, we are fraternal (sp) twins.:)
726.8How about MY sister?CURIE::DONCHINFri Jul 21 1989 11:0914
    
    Lynn is 28, Jewish, and lives in a great but expensive apartment in
    Manhattan (what apartment in Manhattan ISN'T expensive)?  A graduate of
    Syracuse University, Lynn worked in retail management for five years
    (Macy's) before embarking on a career in entertainment management.  She is
    around 5'5'' tall, medium build (not, thin, not fat), with
    reddish-brown hair.  She enjoys swimming, movies, traveling, and
    visiting new restaurants.
    
    If you're interested in meeting a great woman, please send me mail at
    CURIE::Donchin or call DTN 297-3495 for more
    information.
    
    Nancy-
726.9Is it working?CIMNET::FREEMANSam Freeman, DTN 291-7448, MET-1/K2Fri Jul 21 1989 12:516
    Is this note working?
    
    Have any people who entered replies received responses to
    their entries?
    
    /Sam
726.10DEFINITION OF A MATCHMAKERSTEREO::LEVINEThu Jul 27 1989 13:2011
    Don't mean to be a gadfly BUT......................
    
    If you REALLY want a matchmaker, you need  ONE MORE person:  the
    Shadchen.  Do as you have been doing in these notes, BUT these entries
    are then submitted to another person.  This person gets to know
    the candidates, and THEN attempts to MATCH up the ones this person
    believes will be compatible.  Right now, it seems that the notesfile
    is the matchmaker!
    
    Carry on mates!
    
726.11SOJU::FRANCUSMets in '89Thu Jul 27 1989 13:244
    Ok call it a setup note.
    
    yoseff
    
726.12It Works!USEM::ROSENZWEIGFri Sep 15 1989 17:412
    I got plenty of responses. This is working. 
    
726.13Heeeere's Jerry!SUBWAY::STEINBERGWed Nov 15 1989 18:179
    Jerry is 39 years old (for real - not like Jack Benny :-)  ), never
    been married. He is a teacher and lives in the N.Y. area. He's got
    a good sense of humor, he's well educated, and very presentable. He's
    recently become a regular shul-goer and is interested in learning more
    about his Jewish roots... in short a good, sincere person and a real
    mensch. He's looking for a woman of like interests in her early 30's.
    
    Jem
    
726.14Single Jewish femaleTOOK::JACOBSMon Jan 22 1990 09:1011

I am placing this for my sister-in-law. 

Single Jewish female professional, attractive, 5' 2", petite, blondish hair,
blue eyes, early 30's, interested in meeting professional single Jewish 
male, 31-42, for serious relationship.

Contact me in order to reach her. David Jacobs DTN 226-7363  TOOK::JACOBS


726.15Introducing Karen...IOSG::THOMPSONRwith an IQ of a demented grape.....Mon Jan 22 1990 11:3614
    I don't know if there are many UK jewish readers out there but just in
    case, I thought I'd introduce my sister:
    
    Karen is an attractive and terrifically slim, petite female, about 5'2''.  
    Dark complection with dark brown wavy hair, brown eyes, 28 years old.  Her 
    career is in computing (runs in the family!) she has a maths/comp degree 
    and she is looking for an educated, professional jewish male, 28 - 35 years 
    old with 'a bit of life' and who likes travel etc. She has a lot of
    life and is great fun to have around, I think it's a great waste that
    she's not with anyone at the moment, but she doesn't get to meet any
    jewish people where she works in London.
    
    Karen lives in central London.  If any 'nice jewish males' are out
    there who are interested, please contact me on IOSG::THOMPSONR.
726.16Single Jewish female, please excuse 2nd postingTOOK::JACOBSTue Jan 23 1990 11:0514
I forgot to mention geography when I posted this. She is in the greater Boston
area. 

I am placing this for my sister-in-law. 

Single Jewish female professional, attractive, 5' 2", petite, blondish hair,
blue eyes, early 30's, interested in meeting professional single Jewish 
male, 31-42, for serious relationship.

Contact me in order to reach her. David Jacobs DTN 226-7363  TOOK::JACOBS


    
726.17SHADCHANIMSUBWAY::RSMITHWed Oct 24 1990 18:398
    I am looking for shidduchs for several frum, "older" yungermen. (30's). 
    Midos important.
    
    I can give you the names and phone numbers of shadchanim located in the
    U.S.
    
    
     Rozanne Smith  DTN 352-2370   BITTE::SMITH