| T.R | Title | User | Personal
Name | Date | Lines |
|---|
| 140.1 | Eyin Hara (The Evil Eye) | TAV02::CHAIM | Le'Chaim | Wed Jun 11 1986 10:33 | 13 |
| The problem is one of custom (minhag)as opposed to law (Halacha).
It is based on Eyin Hara (Evil Eye).
As to your friend, it is really up to how she feels. If she has
mixed emotions I personally would say wait until after. If she were
to go ahead, and if G-d forbid something did happen she would always
feel it was her fault. If on the other hand she isn't concerned
with Eyin Hara then from a legal standpoint there is nothing wrong.
Good Luck,
Cb.
|
| 140.2 | | COOKIE::ZANE | Warehouse Designer | Fri Jul 31 1987 12:23 | 23 |
|
I will relate here a personal experience. You can judge whether its
origins are Jewish, Russian, or just family superstition.
Both times when I was pregnant, my ex-husband forbade any preparation
for the baby. This included preparing a room or space in the house,
buying or receiving furniture as gifts, thinking of names for the baby,
buying clothes, etc. We did not discuss names until after the baby
was born. His reasoning was that such preparations smacked of arrogance
and excessive pride, and this would cause harm or death to the unborn
child.
I was very frustrated with this, as I'd felt blessed with the pregnancy
and felt only like rejoicing, and imagining him or her, and where I
might place the crib, and holding the baby -- simply rejoicing.
I don't know whether this has anything to do with the custom, so I thought
I'd share it.
Terza
|
| 140.3 | Twilight time in the nursery? | SWATT::POLIKOFF | He's not heavy. He's my lawn mower. | Fri Jul 31 1987 13:07 | 4 |
| re .2 This seems like something one might find in very
superstitious societies like the Voodoo of Haiti. This is the kind
of ignorant prejudice that many people equate with religion. I can
see why he is your ex-husband.
|
| 140.4 | Us Too | DARTH::SCHORR | | Sun Aug 02 1987 23:02 | 9 |
| My wife wouldn't have a Baby shower before the baby was born. She
is admitedly superstitious. She wouldn't even have the furniture
delivered before my son was born. It come from East European culture.
My grandparent's would always say Pooh-Pooh over a Baby. I thought
it was a form of endearment. later I learned it was to keep the
evil-eye away.
WS
|
| 140.5 | sounds customary to wait | DELNI::GOLDSTEIN | All Hail Marx and Lennon (Bros. & Sisters) | Mon Aug 03 1987 18:35 | 10 |
| re:.2,.3
I'm afraid .2 sounds closer to the mark. My fiancee has pointed
out that Jewish baby showers take place _after_ the birth. (One
of my co-workers had one here in the plant last week. Non-Jewish,
before birth.) This isn't superstition, just common sense that
in case something doesn't go right, you're not loaded with painful
reminders.
But we are willing to talk about names at any time.
fred
|
| 140.6 | There is common sense in some superstition | REGENT::WOLF | | Mon Oct 05 1987 14:02 | 12 |
| I am sorry to .1,.2,.3 and .4 by I wholeheartedly agree with
.5. The way I was raised you do not prepare the room (completely),
or bring furniture into the house until baby-time. Again to reiterate
.5, g_d forbid if something goes wrong, it would be much worse
emptying a room of baby stuff for a baby that wasn't.
When our daughter was born I had all the furniture
at my folks house in Brookline. Elissa was born at Emerson in
Concord adn we live in Marlboro. A lot of driving YES. Worth the
driving, again YES. Superstition, yes probably, good idea Definitely.
jzw
|