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Title: Weight Loss and Maintenance
Notice:**PLEASE** enter notes in mixed case (CAPS ARE SHOUTING)!
Moderator:ASICS::LESLIE
Created:Mon Jul 09 1990
Last Modified:Tue Jun 03 1997
Last Successful Update:Fri Jun 06 1997
Number of topics:933
Total number of notes:9931

468.0. "Losing Control" by HOTAIR::SIMON (Hugs Welcome Anytime!) Tue Jun 13 1989 18:08

    Maybe some of you can help with this.
    
    Last night I had a total loss of control.  This is the first time
    in quite sometime.  For about 4 days, I had felt like eating.  I
    wasn't hungry;  I wasn't depressed although several small things
    had bothered me over the last few days; I was pre-menstual.  Anyway,
    I felt like eating but I knew it was emotional and I decided to
    ignore the problem.  Friday night, I went to a friend's house and
    had vegetable lasagna (238 calories a serving) and salad and a little
    champagne (mandatory with the hot tub).  No problem, I was ignoring
    the desire to eat.  Saturday, I hiked at the Indian Ruins at Chaco
    Canyon for several hours (these are great! come visit New Mexico)
    and then had company for dinner - Fresh baked salmon, fresh steamed
    broccoli, pasta with a little fresh spinach, fresh parmesan and
    a splash of cream.  I also had some wine throughout the evening
    (I don't drink a lot but do relax in that respect on weekends).
    This was fine - I still ignored that desire.  Sunday, I went to
    the mountains near here and hiked for awhile around suppertime because
    I wanted to fight that urge to overdo.  I had some company for dinner
    later and had an extra lean hamburger patty and some brocolli. 
    No problem - still ignoring the urge.
    
    Yesterday, it kept building (the urge) and finally last night, I
    went and cleaned out the refrigerator.  What I ate was not so bad.
    I had a sliced tomato with a small amount of lite mayo, the one
    serving of vegetable lasagna that was left and a gross of steamed
    zucchini (I had a small amount of butter and fresh parmesan cheese
    on this).  I had declined an invitation to eat out earlier because
    I was afraid of losing all discipline.  I knew I had limited foodstuffs
    at home.  The total caloric intake was not that bad but I am so
    upset that I just totally gave in.  If something big had set me
    off emotionally, I might have understood but I just don't understand
    why I got hit by this.
    
    Can anyone else identify with this?  Does anyone have a special
    way of dealing with it?
    
    Thanks
    
    Denise
    

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468.1I don't see the problemCSC32::S_PROCTORsmiles are returnedTue Jun 13 1989 20:317
    I understand your note in a way, but I don't think you have a problem
    if all you ate were vegetables.  My out of control eats are definitely
    not vegetables.  I thought you did very well by limiting it to only
    those, sometimes you just have those cycles of wanting more than you
    need.  Some people find if they do exactly what you do, at least they
    can control it.  AT least that's what they tell me in Weight Watchers.

468.2All we have is todaySUPER::HENDRICKSThe only way out is throughWed Jun 14 1989 08:3917
    It's obviously painful for you that your desire to eat overruled
    your decision not to overeat.  I hear how much that is hurting you.
    
    I don't know what your binge foods are, but I think you deserve
    some credit for stopping where you did and not saying, "Oh well,
    I screwed up, let's hit the bakery and the ice cream place and...".
                                           
    But today is a new day.  Today is really all you ever have.  Today
    (not tomorrow!!) you can follow your food plan, even though you
    may be a little uncomfortable from overeating.  You cannot go back
    and change yesterday...so make today a day where you are at peace
    with what you eat.

    Holly                                       
    
    

468.3Eat IT, not around it.COOKIE::WILCOXDatabase Systems/WestWed Jun 14 1989 11:1911
The way I usually deal with the urge to eat is to figure out what it
is I REALLY want and to eat that one thing.  If I don't do that, I
find I eat all around it and FINALLY eat what ever it was I wanted
in the first place.  I have to be pretty certain that I'm in fairly
good control of things else I'll eat far too much of "it", but this
usually works for me.

IMHO, you handled it BEAUTIFULLY!  But, we all beat ourselves up now and then.

Liz

468.4Don't punish yourself for being humanATSE::BLOCKRemember what the doormouse said...Wed Jun 14 1989 12:1035
	I've been learning some lessons about out-of-control eating lately.
	I was feeling like I was on the edge of control for months, and
	finally stopped fighting it.  For the past 2 weeks, I've been 
	eating whatever I felt like; this has included a lot of ice cream, 
	a bunch of fudge, and unmeasured portions of all sorts of things.

	The process that has accompanied this has been the realization that
	the world hasn't ended, and while I've put a couple of pounds back 
	on, I'm still a lot better off than I was even 4 months ago (not to 
	mentin a year or two ago).  In the last year and a half, even when 
	I was off program, I was still avoiding sugar like the plague.  I
	finally reached the point where I couldn't stand that any more; by
	facing it now, I'm analyzing what I'm feeling deprived of, and I'm
	about ready to go back on program.

	It sounds like your feelings of deprivation were portion related,
	rather than being tied to specific foods.  What you craved was to
	eat until you couldn't eat any more, something which you probably
	haven't done in quite a while.  That's not such a horrible thing
	to do every once in a while; if it satisfies a need, continued 
	deprivation might have made things much worse in the long run. 
	You can decide one day to eat a lot of something without having 
	it mean that you're out of control.  The decision to eat that food 
	was yours; the decision to stop when you did was also yours.  The
	frustration of feeling deprived got to you; fine.  Accept that as
	a reasonable way to respond to stress that built up over time, be
	glad that you were able to handle it as well as you did, that you
	pulled out of it quickly, and that your ability to handle the
	temptations has improved.

	Take care,
	Beverly


468.5ImprovingHOTAIR::SIMONHugs Welcome Anytime!Fri Jun 16 1989 11:1521
    Thanks all for the responses.  I'm doing much better and I was able
    to lose some weight this week.  I was not feeling deprived - it
    was purely emotional.  Little things had been building up over several
    days and I had been fighting the urge but gave in Monday.  I had
    been invited to a dinner buffet Monday and was smart to pass and
    go home where I knew the harm would be minimal.

    It was not WHAT I ate that was causing the problem, but the heading
    to the refrigerator to handle some emotional stress.  It scared
    me because this is the one thing I must overcome if I am to succeed
    at getting/keeping my weight off.  I'm doing much better now but
    I really did hate that loss of control.
    
    At least after a pound of zucchini, no matter what the motivation
    for eating, food loses it's appeal :-).
    
    Thanks again for the support
    
    Denise