| T.R | Title | User | Personal
Name | Date | Lines |
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| 176.1 | Is your friend looking for help? | STAR::YANKOWSKAS | Be vewy quiet I'm hunting wabbits | Mon Dec 21 1987 07:29 | 24 |
| Good topic Ann!
My answer would depend on if the person you're asking about is actively
seeking to lose weight.
If this person is attempting to lose weight and is seeking help,
telling that person about Weight Watchers and asking them if they'd
like to go would be helpful.
If, despite the fact that this person is overweight, he/she has
no desire to undertake a weight loss program at this time, than
he/she might perceive your advice as being pushy.
As you yourself have said in a few notes, a person has to want to
lose the weight for themselves...no one can do it for them or make
them want to do it.
To sum it up, I'd say think about whether or not your friend is
indeed seeking help, and take it from there.
py
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| 176.2 | I go through this file agreeing w/ Paul! | ARGUS::CORWIN | I don't care if I AM a lemming | Mon Dec 21 1987 08:08 | 20 |
| Hi Ann,
As usual, I agree wholeheartedly with everything Paul said in .1 :-)
If your friend brings it up, you are not being pushy to suggest WW, especially
if you're going to do it with her. But she has to be the first to bring up
the subject. We all know how much good it does for someone else to tell us
what we should do to lose weight when we're not "in the mood".
A friend of mine was telling me how her father (who also needs to lose weight)
said to her that she needed to lose some weight. She had done well, and then
through some horrible work stress and business trips she gained it back. He
was aware of this, too!! Obviously, she was aware of the situation; he didn't
need to bring it up. And she said "That's my business". And he shut up. I
was so glad she said that.
Support your friends when they "ask for" support, but don't force it on them.
Jill
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| 176.3 | Sad but true | NHL::ARNO | | Mon Dec 21 1987 08:11 | 18 |
|
I thank you Paul for the advise. This person hasn't talked to
me about but to others. They said that he was losing and stopped
and keeps gaining and he gets upset about gaining and eats more.
I can tell by the way he breaths that he's going to be heading for
big problems .. It sounds like he's suffering pretty bad...
It's hard being over weight but being Obese I mean people
weighting in the 200's, 300's and more.
It is very hard...
Ann
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| 176.4 | Bring it up Carefully | RSTS32::KASPER | Calm Down! It's Only 1's and 0's! | Mon Dec 21 1987 11:02 | 14 |
| I think I'd ask the person if he'd like to go to WW with you,
especially if it's at work. Bring up the subject of weight loss
in regards to yourself, not him, though. Mention a bit of your
history, how WW has worked for you, etc. Make it "I've had this
good experience, would you like to share it?" rather than "I think
you should do this."
Overweight people often avoid talking about the problem even though
they may want to. Just be careful to watch for reactions, and drop
it if the topic seems to be getting a bad reception.
Beverly
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