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| 61.1 | | CSSE::MARGE | Eat dessert first;life is uncertain. | Mon Jun 15 1987 10:11 | 7 |
| Sharon
Explain to him that you would accept alternate forms of reward!
;^)
Grins
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| 61.2 | At DEC we prefer to say "Challenge"! | OVDVAX::WIEGMANN | | Mon Jun 15 1987 11:43 | 19 |
| Congratulations on what you've done so far! Is he impressed by
your accomplishment? Is he overweight? If so, maybe he can't handle
the guilt of indulging when you're being stronger and wants you
to get a hot fudge sundae so that it will be O.K. if he does.
Maybe he is afraid that you will get healthy and gorgeous and dump
him. Or that you will starts getting lots of attention from other
men and he won't be able to compete with them. Maybe he thinks
that by trying to keep you at a higher weight than you want to be,
he will be the only one to find you attractive and you'll have to
stick with him then.
Not to pry, but to think about - is weight (yours or his) a reason
your relationship is boy/girl friend stage? Is there a
hidden-agenda-item like that you'll get married when you get down
to 125? Maybe there is fear involved there, too.
Just some ideas from someone who's been there!
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| 61.3 | BANK YOUR EXCHANGES | FXADM::COOPER | | Mon Jun 15 1987 11:43 | 18 |
| I know how you feel. My husband always decides to have Chinese
food when I'm dieting.
What you could do is, plan to bank some of your exchanges before
that nite, like the day before don't use up all your bread exchanges
or fat exchanges - save them to use when you go out to eat. Plan
ahead what you might like to order, eat a salad at lunch. Then
you can have a drink (best drink to have is a Wine Spritzer (white
wine w/club soda) has less calaroies. (A wine = 1 bread, 1 fat)
For desert have half of his desert that he ordered. Don't order a
separate desert for yourself. Share one dessert.
Good Luck!
Nancy
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| 61.4 | Tack 20 pounds on his weight! | WILVAX::WHITMAN | THE IS 'SUN' IS OUT AND CALLING ME | Tue Jun 16 1987 06:02 | 21 |
| Yes!! Congratulations on what you have loss so far.
My brother and I share an apartment together and I can understand
what you are going thru. He does not get home until after midnight
and on my 3 nights off I usually am still up when he gets home with
a pizza, large sub or whatever and always ask me if I want some.
It was always difficult to say no.
Well, he took a nice little vacation and came back 20 pounds heavier.
He went out the next day shopping and bought all the diet products that he
could never understand why I eat them. Now its no more late night
pizza's or subs but instead a salad with low-cal dressing for him.
My point is, if he could put himself in your place and understand
your feelings about lossing weight, it might help some and he could
give you a little more support.
Good luck,
Jude
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