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| 378.1 | Our family is like that | QUOKKA::2524::MENARD | new kid on the COMMON block | Tue Jan 23 1996 07:56 | 13 |
| My husband has two daughters from his first marriage, and one of them
came to live us two and a half years ago. She was 15 and her sister 13
at the time.
It's worked out just fine for the girls - they were of an age where they
would fight a lot (gotta love them teenagers ...) and now they get
along much better. Relations between the older girl and her mother
have also improved.
We make sure that everyone gets to see everyone else, and I think that
that has helped a lot.
- Lorri
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| 378.2 | | CSC32::HADDOCK | Saddle Rozinante | Tue Jan 23 1996 08:31 | 4 |
| My son also had "behavioral" problems. I had to make a choice of the
lesser of evils. It is not always a benefit to the other children
that they be together.
fred();
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| 378.3 | I have that experience | TEXAS1::SOBECKY | | Wed Jan 24 1996 07:56 | 24 |
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My 16 year old son is living with me; his 12 year old sister is
living with his mother. His mother took the easy way out of her
responsibility as a parent by throwing him out when they argued
over her never being home in the evenings when the kids needed
them.
The kids *do* miss being together, even though they have their
moments. Especially my daughter..she misses having big brother
around. I make sure they are together as much as possible. I would
take my daughter to live with me in a heartbeat, but her mother
doesn't want that...it would mean she would have to get a real
job, and she refuses to do that. So, we're in a custody battle
right now.
Divorce is very tough on kids. Too many times one of the parents
gives up custody for the wrong reasons...to make their own lives
easier. Too many times the wrong parent gets custody..because of
societal norms that gender naturally dictates which parent is the
better nurturer.
John
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| 378.4 | | MKOTS3::RAUH | I survived the Cruel Spa | Wed Jan 24 1996 08:25 | 7 |
| Very soon your daughter will be able to make that decision. In Mass I
am not certain of the age. I would check with your attorney on what is
the age they can make that decision, and put the seed in your daughters
head. If she says yes, then you have a shot at having both son and
daugter under same roof.
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