| Title: | Welcome to the Non-Custodial Parents Conference |
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I am entering the following note on behalf of a noter who wishes to remain anonymous at this time. Please reply here or send me mail and I will forward it to the noter. Terza -comoderator- -------------------------------------------------------------------------- Given that a wife and mother of two small children, 4 & 6, is so very depressed that she is practicing self-destructive behavior. And given that at least part of this depression is based not only on the husbands emotionless treatment of the wife by the husband, but on the observance of shame and guilt being used to control the children by the husband. If the wife were to allow herself to be hospitalized to bring the depression and self-abuse under control, and if the wife were at a latter date were to file for divorce. Would the hospitalization be held against the wife and would custody then be granted to the husband? (btw: this is in NH) It is understood that none of the readers of this file are not lawyers, nor judges, therefore anything said here is purely opinion. Also, be assured that the wife is under treatment by a therapist, but since the only light in her life at the moment is her children, she is determined not to jeopardize their continued, daily role in her life.
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| 254.1 | AIMHI::RAUH | I survived the Cruel Spa | Mon Mar 08 1993 15:16 | 7 | |
It would depend upon the fact that there is drug and achocol abuse
associated with the hospitalization. It would depend upon, if the
husband wants custody and wants to show that the wife is unstable for
the nurturing and rearing of the children. But sounds like there is
fault finding tour already in progress. :)
Peace
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| 254.2 | No guarantee | CTHQ::GRAY | Follow the hawk, and enjoy the view ... | Tue Mar 09 1993 07:24 | 36 |
.0> Given that a wife and mother of two small children [...] is so
.0> very depressed [...] If the wife were [...] hospitalized [...]
.0> Would the hospitalization be held against the wife and
.0> would custody then be granted to the husband? (btw: this is in NH)
.0> [...]
.0> It is understood that none of the readers of this file are not
.0> lawyers, nor judges, therefore anything said here is purely opinion.
.0>
.0> the wife is under treatment by a therapist ...
.0>
When I filed for a 'no-fault' divorce in NH, I asked for custody.
I noted in my statement that my soon-to-be-ex was under treatment
for depression. I gave the list of medications, doctors and
therapist names. I even listed the 'problem behaviors'.
I thought that considering that I was a good father (my opinion),
and she was, by her own admission, having behavior problems (she
admitted that if I had done those things to her, she would have
left me), that I would get custody. WRONG! With a wave of her
hand the Guardian Ad Litem dismissed the problems as not relevant
and the ex was awarded custody.
Maybe if I had documented more and gone for the jugular it might
have been different, but after a 1� year battle, and $nn,nnnn in
legal bills, I wanted to get out alive.
So I guess my experience is to say that there's no guarantee of
custody either way, only of an expensive battle.
I hope you can each work towards a resolution that does minimum
damage to ALL concerned.
Richard
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