| Title: | Welcome to the Non-Custodial Parents Conference |
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| Moderator: | MIASYS::HETRICK |
| Created: | Sun Feb 25 1990 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
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Has anyone had this situation occur to them?
My husband and I are in the middle of a child support/custody battle.
Our daughter (my step-) is 3 years old. We have reasons to believe
that she has been touched unproperly by her mothers boyfriend. The
reason is that, this is what she told us. There was an investigation
and because the examination did not occur until three weeks after the
incident, nothing was found. Because we asked our Daycare not to allow
the boyfriend to pickup our daughter and to advise us of when he
dropped her off and not her mother, the mother went and acquired an
injunction prohibiting my husband from seeing his daughter or from
having any contact with her until court date. We have managed to get
the court dated moved from Dec. 10 to Nov. 25 and we are still trying
to get an emergency hearing on the matter. The mother flatly lied to
get this injunction by saying that my husband has in the past acted
violently towards her and that she was now afraid for her life and her
daughter's. We have several witnesses on our side who are willing to
testify to her constant lying and apparent mental unstability.
WE are at our wits end and the system does not seem to want to hear
both sides.
Juanita
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| 239.1 | need Evidence, not openion. | CSC32::HADDOCK | Don't Tell My Achy-Breaky Back | Tue Nov 17 1992 13:13 | 22 |
What counts in Court is not the _truth_ but what you can _prove_.
EVIDENCE. Unless there is hard evicece to her lying. Unless there
is _expert_ openion as to her mental condition, IT DOESN'T MATTER.
Other peoples _openion_ of her will likely not count. Anything that
happened that is not directly related to the case _doesn't matter_
(in court anyway).
What you need is EVIDENCE and TESTIMONY. Personal logs and journals
are evidence, so DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT. Write down _everything_
that happens. What, when, where, etc. You need WITNESSES that can go
into court and state FACTS, not OPENION. Witnesses that can and will
state "on this date at this time tis happened". Especially witnesses
that your daughter stated that she had been touched. Witnesses that
can state that they've _never_ seen your husband violent, especially
with his daughter, and he _never_ treated her in an inappropritate manner.
I'm not trying to be nasty here, although what I've written up until
now may seem so. I want you to be workiing on things that _will_
help. Not on things that may well be tossed right out of court.
fred();
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| 239.2 | AIMHI::RAUH | I survived the Cruel Spa | Wed Nov 18 1992 10:50 | 3 | |
Get an injunction against the boyfriend. Esp if you have reason to
believe. And try to have someone help you watch to see if the beau
picks up the daughter.
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