Conference quokka::non_custodial_parents

    If he has been arrested for being late by a day, then you better look 
    up the default days, and I am sure its more than a day and file
    a civil suit against the arresting office, town, and file a civil
    suit of "Intentional Eflection of Emotional Destress" agaist the
    opposing camp. 
    
    The other good thing to do, every time you get a letter from the
    lawyers, opposing camp, court, or you generate one yourself. Take
    it and file it in a three ring loose leaf binder. This will give
    you a great history and paper trail of whats the what. So if your
    civil rights are being violated. Vola! You got em by the shortest
    hairs known to man kind!:)
    
    Second, becare full of your attorney, some of them are giving great
    lip service for your cause as they pocket money that you give them.
    And if you got one, watch out! Ditch em and find someone better thru
    that mens suport group. 
    
    Good Luck

    
    I cannot really speak for nom, but NOM will probably not be able to 
    help with your particular problem.  Most mens groups tend to work
    more in a generall direction.  This is the big problem in getting
    support for such groups, as people are usually mostly interested
    in help for their particlar problem.
    
    You can file a complaint against your lawyer and ex-lawyers in
    reguards to whether or not they are looking out for _your_ interests
    as you paid them to do.  I warn you, however, that "service performed"
    is usually pretty loosly interpreted by the watchdog groups.  Many
    lawyers, however, will try to work with you to resolve the issue
    withoug having to put up with an investigation into their actions. 
    
    I agree with George.  You may want to go look up the laws yourself
    and file civil suit against the opposing camp for "intentional
    infliction of emotional distress" depending on what the laws say.
    May want to include the judge in your suit.  If notheing else, it
    will get this particular judge off your case.  The next judge will
    not be so anxious to play fast and loose with the law.
    
    fred();

I don't know where you live, but it'd also be good to contact your state
rep and senator. Many of these guys don't have any idea what's really
happening. I've been hung up on (Barbara Gray, Framingham) and ignored
(Lois Pines) when I've called to ask about their support of the probate
guidelines. Ask them what you should do and don't let them off the hook
easily. What speaks to these clowns is lots of phone calls and letters
from irate voters. It may not solve your immediate problem but it will
let the legislators know there's a problem and that's where it ultimately
needs to be solved.

I just spoke to Rob Gill, representative of Sen Lois Pines. He basically
said that it's an issue that's not important to her because she does not
hear from any constituents on this issue. He claims that she's interested
in fairness. Might be good if those folks that have been having problems
in Mass would let her know directly of their personal horror stories so that
she can no longer claim that she never hears about any problems. Who
knows? Maybe she would do something.
Her phone is 617-722-1639.