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OK, here goes.
BIG G******** FLAME!!!!
It really p***** me off to pay $237 a week support to my ex,
provide all the need insurance for her and the kiddos, pay her
$100 a month alimony, pay %75 of the cost of my son's braces,
see her buy a brandy-spanking-new VW Golf last week when I'm
driving a '78 Ford, AND have my daughter call me two nights back
asking about taking lessons on the saxophone rooting around for
some money to pay for it! It isn't my daughter that I'm angry
with. She's only ten and being placed in the middle, and I think
taking up an instrument is a good thing for her to do.
WHEN IS THIS WOMAN GOING TO START TAKING SOME RESPONSIBILITY!!! SHE
THINKS THAT JUST BECAUSE SHE WAS MARRIED TO ME THAT I SOMEHOW OWE HER
FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE!!!!! WHEN I MET HER SHE WAS A BANK TELLER
LIVING WITH MOM AND DAD, HAD NOTHING TO HER NAME BUT A FIVE YEAR OLD
FORD PINTO AND NOW SHE OWNS THE HOUSE VALUED AT $115K WITH ONLY A $42K
MORTGAGE, ONLY OWES ME $2OK FROM THAT, AND HAS PART OF MY SAVE
PLAN AS WELL AS THE MONTHLY TAX-FREE SUPPORT AND ALIMONY FROM ME!!!
FLAME off....
When does it end?
Steve
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| I know a lot of you have horror stories much more severe than my own..
and i hope this topic doesn't turn into a "can you top this" string.
I think there is a lot of theraputic value in stating (or as -.1 did,
in YELLING) our gripe out loud... and I appriciate the chance, so here
goes:
Just last night my ex (in Texas) called and told me that my son,
Nicholas, who will be 12 in December, was having a real tough time.
Seems he is "failing" several classes (he's always been A/B student)
and the day before yesterday threw a fit (fit=tantrum) and started
yelling "I want my daddy!" over and over again. Then she told me she
felt the problem that kicked the tantrum off was a letter he'd received
from me the same day, wherein I mentioned that my wife and I had spent
the summer building on our home and building a cabin in Vt. She
further stated that in his eyes, this meant that I had lots of money
and why couldn't I visit more often, and why couldn't I send more down
to help when they needed it... (why does everything have to revolve
around money?)
Then, I talked to Nicky and he sobbed and sniffled and finally started
venting it all.
I *know* he needs a dad. I *know* he misses me and doesn't really
understand (in spite of all my efforts to explain) why I left. I
*know* that. But, what I *don't* know is why his mom undermines all
that and doesn't seem to try at all to help Nicky throug this time by
seeing to it he gets counselling (which I am once again trying to
arrange for him, now) and why she continually *uses* her influence on
the children to get to me.
I know it sounds paranoid... and perhaps by now there is some of that
in me... but, dammit, she *does* do it, and the real victims of it are
the kids... not me!
She is, without a doubt, one of the worlds best manipulators... and
whether she is consciously doing it or not doesn't matter... she
continues to do it.
Right now, because it suits her, we have a "somewhat" amicable
relationship. That means we can talk without resorting to swear words
and shouting... but, historically, that's been like a yo-yo...
constantly swinging back and forth, up and down... I never know from
one call to the next what her mood will be.
IT'S DRIVING ME BONKERS!!!
tony
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