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| Title: | Welcome to the Non-Custodial Parents Conference |
| Notice: | Please read 1.* before writing anything |
| Moderator: | MIASYS::HETRICK |
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| Created: | Sun Feb 25 1990 |
| Last Modified: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Last Successful Update: | Fri Jun 06 1997 |
| Number of topics: | 420 |
| Total number of notes: | 4370 |
71.0. "FREE WHEELIN' MOMMA" by POCUS::NORDELL () Tue Jun 19 1990 11:48
Well, it's almost here and do I have mixed feelings!!!!.
Jane is leaving on Thurs. evening with her dad for the summer and
ostensibly to stay for school in the fall. However, if August comes
and she is real "homesick" we will make a "final" decision at that
time.
I haven't done anything formal with the attorney except to talk
to one of the partners on the phone who knows both my ex and me.
I feel 95% confident that he would not do anything to jeopardize
our relationship, but I will be seeing my attorney in July to put
something in writing regarding the new arrangement. What this will
be, exactly, I'm not sure.
She has been "making me crazy" lately because she is anxious for
school to be over (tomorrow is the last day), and apprehensive about
leaving. She has been to her dad's for the whole summer before
but has the very real prospect of staying for at least a year.
She is leaving on Fri. AM. flight to Canada and then Sat. AM flight
to California for vacation to visit gramps, Disneyland, Hollywood,
San Fran, etc. I took her to see Les Miserable on Broadway two
weeks ago as her "going away" treat and she loved it. At 9 1/2
she has frequent flyer miles and has been to 3 Broadway shows.
Not exactly deprived! I could never afford to take her to Calif.
for two weeks like her dad.
I have lots of plans for my "free" time. I have started dating
(1 month) a really nice guy and it will be nice to have some "alone"
time. The beach is 1 hr. away - watch out oil-slicks - here I come.
If I clean the bathroom, it will stay clean. I have already blown
the dust off my tennis racquet.
How do I sound, like I'm handling this real well! Good, always
put up a brave front.
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| 71.1 | on cooperation | CSC32::HADDOCK | All Irk and No Pay | Tue Jun 19 1990 12:08 | 4 |
| Good luck. It's a shame that more divorced parents can't cooperate
in the raising of the children. It would give both parents more "free
time" and we would probably have much healthier kids.
fred();
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| 71.2 | We're with 'ya. | DYO780::EERENBERG | Charlotte, NC bound July 16th | Tue Jun 19 1990 12:29 | 17 |
| Sue,
I can't say how much I feel for you at this time. It must be just
short of nerve racking at one moment and utter relief the next.
Keep us posted and enjoy the time to yourself. Have fun with your new
relationship and do something for yourself; plan a "getaway" weekend
or something (sounds like you are with the beach).
Prayers will continue and don't worry about the "brave front" stuff.
We've all done it; a lot of times just to get through the day until
we crash at home. But being real isn't bad either amongst the right
people. I'm glad you can let go here and you sound fine!
Take care,
John Eerenberg
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| 71.3 | you put it so well | POCUS::NORDELL | | Tue Jun 19 1990 13:04 | 11 |
| John, thanks for the encouraging words. You put it so perfectly,
"never racking one minute, utter relief the next".
Her hair wasn't "just perfect " (too many bumps in the ponytail)
this morning and all I could think was "let her father worry about
the bumpy ponytail in TWO days".
Thanks for the prayers - we're on the same wave length on that.
Susan
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| 71.4 | Enjoy yourself!! | WILLEE::SKOWRONEK | | Tue Jun 19 1990 16:20 | 19 |
| Hi Susan,
Wow, I can relate to how you are feeling. One minute you want to
jump for joy because of this new "freedom" and the other minute
you are sad that your "baby" is going away for a while.
My mother and sister are going to be taking my daughter to Walt
Disney World in Florida in August for one week, and I really cannot
wait!! I can't wait for a week of "freedom", although I know I
will miss my daughter deeply.
I don't have an ex who is willing to take my daughter overnight
or just for a few hours . . . so just 7 days is going to be heaven.
It is really tough being a mother 7 day a week, 24 hours a day without
a break, so I can understand your anticipation.
Enjoy your "vacation"!!
Debby
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